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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Nobody: 9:06pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: Well .. where do I start? I think this isn't a Nigerian problem, first of all. I think this is a problem many women around the world have although Nigerian women seem to take the trophy when it comes to tolerating humiliation and disrespect. It seems many women love their men more than they love themselves. How do you teach people to love themselves enough? But I fully agree with you that actions speak louder than words. Words are nice but talk is cheap and must be in alignment with a person's actions. Women need to have standards and communicate them clearly. I don't want to sound like I am blaming the "victims" but it is a form of empowerment to understand what part they play in the abuse of trust and their dignity. How can anyone love someone who doesn't respect herself? You have always been very clear on and strict with infidelity issues. I applaud you for that. |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by hansomb: 9:21pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
I think it's better to marry a repented prostutute and not having knowledge of it than to marry a virgin and then having doubts of her cheating on you. 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by emsheddy(m): 9:54pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Omotaday: Lolzzzzzz no be only weakness. I do not regret forgiving her. Neither do I even make reference to it during lil quarrels. And yes, she knows she is gone for good if it happens again. My forgiving her isn't a sign of weakness. Bros I be person wey dey counsel folks on relationship matters. No be today |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by MrBrownJay1(m): 10:13pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
Mindfulness: you are right that it isnt a Nigerian problem, but i believe that due to how Nigerian/African women are desperate for marriage, they'd rather hate on one another than empower one another. many gladly overlook these men's infidelity (and blaming other women) while focusing on becoming Mrs at any cost, instead of understanding how insignificant they are in such man's life. this is why, even when married women catch their husband over and over again, they dont care and prefer to stay with that disrespectful/deceitful/unfaithful man. Nigerian/African parents are fully to be blamed here... and thanks to failed upbringing (your mothers telling you that Marriage is everything for a woman), a failed social environment (African women having little value in society) or a failed way of thinking (aka all African men cheat as a way of life), these women are desensitized about the respect they deserve as women., and take the humiliation as just a way of life. its like drug addicts who dont care about eating/drinking or taking care of themselves, they only think of getting high at ANY cost. therefore we as parents MUST A) love our kids, B) show them (by our actions) that we do love them C) teach our kids to love themselves, and D) make them understand the meaning of love, not just word of mouth... but unfortunately, many Nigerian/African parents dont know what love is. how can you show/teach your kids about something you are clueless about? these kids probably saw their mothers being treated like dirt, cheated on and verbally/emotionally abused, and just follow the trend in this vicious circle. the failed notion that all men cheat, keeps these women in bondage for life...because if all men did indeed cheat, then no wonder these women would gladly accept it as just a normal way of life (aka why dump a man for cheating if the other ones will also cheat?). i dont believe any of these women can be saved as you cant teach an adult to love themselves, as it is an emotional damage with roots in upbringing/family/love/men/sex and society ALL intertwined. 2 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by MrBrownJay1(m): 10:15pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
emsheddy: can you actually tell us why you forgave someone that is a confirmed deceitful/untrustworthy/unfaithful/dishonest/disrespectful person to you or your relationship then (if not because of weakness)?! |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Nobody: 11:44pm On Nov 25, 2019 |
one odd the rules of this life I follows is do good and expect good that's why I don't wrong others knowingly unless that person wronged me first if I poor it on a scale and see that it can be forgiven I acted the fools part and everything will be going smoothly but if I found out you're playing with my intelligence we won't break up I act like I forgive you triple my Care and affections once you're caught in my spell I show you that I'm truly the devils elder brother yet you still won't know what hit you until its too late if I don't tell you what you'll forever be the greatest fool that's what I know how to do best+ 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Nobody: 12:52am On Nov 26, 2019 |
Twoclans: My story does not relate to the topic. |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Omotaday(m): 3:20am On Nov 26, 2019 |
emsheddy:I was like you. You will understand later. If she is someone you are really into, she may hurt you badly later, it wont be “lol” matter anymore. |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by gorgeousfm: 1:41pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Hmmmmm. "Love na scam" A cheating partner will always cheat and will never change. It is very painful to forgive and forget especially when the person in question thinks he/she is smart and still continues. 2 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Biglittlelois(f): 3:35pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
MrBrownJay1: Really sad, I can only pray they don't marry those kind of guys. 2 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by monchazfarms: 4:05pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Youngearnny: You're so correct. |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by monchazfarms: 4:19pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Any man keeping a cheating wife is digging his grave. 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Henrypraise: 11:01pm On Nov 26, 2019 |
Birdeyeview: My dear, there is nothing wrong with your comment, when love is true from both end. mistakes do occur irrespective of the how or when it does, once repentance and contrition is true, forgiveness is expected. Most pple who try to reformat your good intention, are speaking from a myopic mind that have suffered lots of abuse. Most Nigerian unknowingly suffer abuse, their minds build up a defence that creates a safe heaven/ automatic alarm switch for them, they also try to sell this confusion to other pple. 2 Likes |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by EmekusTHEgreat(m): 4:34am On Dec 01, 2019 |
[quote author=Birdeyeview post=84335505][/quote] Your examples are misleading, you're calling past Head of States and leaders, for all we know the women stayed because of the power and position. talk about regular people like Mr Ndubueze who's wife left after a small disagreement or the mechanic (Friday) on my street whose wife left with their children after he cheated. |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Birdeyeview: 3:23pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
EmekusTHEgreat: If i tell you i understand a bit of what you typed i LIED |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by EmekusTHEgreat(m): 8:07pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
Birdeyeview: My point is this, no sensible woman who is married to a president would divorce him if he cheated, it wouldn't benefit her. 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Birdeyeview: 8:37pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
EmekusTHEgreat: whatever man! there's no sense in what you just typed |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Birdeyeview: 8:37pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
EmekusTHEgreat: Whatever man! there ain't no sense in what you typed. |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Birdeyeview: 10:22pm On Dec 01, 2019 |
Lalasticlala please we need to shed more light on this topic... kindly do the needful sir |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by okpalaAnambra: 6:34am On Dec 02, 2019 |
Twoclans:I'm a lion too, lol..where in Kaduna are you located |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by EmekusTHEgreat(m): 7:56am On Dec 02, 2019 |
Birdeyeview: As if what you typed is the poster child for enlightened.. |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by EmekusTHEgreat(m): 8:02am On Dec 02, 2019 |
Birdeyeview: As if what you typed is the poster child for enlightened.. Do you know the benefits Hillary Clinton and Nathanyahu's wive have gotten from their husband's positions.. no person with a single brain cell would give that up. Visit the pauper on the streets and see for yourself.. If a woman would benefit from a split, then she wouldnt hesitate to divorce (eg Tiger Woods, Jeff bezzus). A woman would only stay with a cheaping partner if she has something to benefit. Self-interest rule the world, and that is the f..k#ng truth. |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by lalasticlala(m): 10:52am On Dec 02, 2019 |
Birdeyeview: Really? How many times do you want it to appear on home page? |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by boninho: 6:44pm On Dec 04, 2019 |
Twoclans:Bello and Balewa, chai...chicks full, then Eyo-ita, Slessor, Okpara, sometimes But damn, Bello is the real deal back then 1 Like |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by FRANKOSKI(m): 9:10pm On Nov 02, 2020 |
IF YOU CAUGHT UR MOM CHEATING ON UR DAD, WOULD YOU TELL YOUR DAD OR KEEP MUTE ?? |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by UnBanEbenezer(f): 11:43pm On Dec 25, 2020 |
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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Burgerlomo: 5:12am On Dec 26, 2020 |
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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Tgifted(f): 2:17pm On Dec 26, 2020 |
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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by UnBanEbenezer(f): 10:41pm On Dec 29, 2020 |
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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Tgifted(f): 2:50pm On Dec 30, 2020 |
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Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Ayomi31071994(m): 2:58pm On Dec 30, 2020 |
yes I've forgiven her almost twice but believe me it's better to let a cheating partner go. one a cheater will always be a cheater but will act smarter the next time not to be caught |
Re: Have You Ever Forgiven A Cheating Partner Without Breaking Up? by Hisense4life(f): 11:39pm On Jan 01, 2021 |
Yes I have forgiving him, but am still scared dat he will still cheat on me.. d trust is know longer dere .. but right now am really trying my best to trust him back .. cause this guy really hurt me.. I pray I can trust him.. |
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