Kestolove:
My brother go ND marry and have kids,stop consoling urself if u don't have d means to..

SILENTandSMART2:
Ask your mom and dad dat question

BrainBucksNG:

Yea, it's probably better to stay silent and be assumed to be smart.

ibechris:
Marriage is beautiful.

Being single is wow and without stress.

But in all,being married to that good woman or man is fulfilling.

SILENTandSMART2:


i don't read the shit you wrote but i saw your topic,

aswear dats the best way , if you ask them they will give you the best answer,

I'm sorry if you no like the way i talk about ham sha

DAramis:


In summary, being single is good but being married to the right or even good woman is better. If it is not, God would never have taught it wise to give Adam Eve as a companion in the garden of Eden.

May people be able to find the right person without being clouded with superficial things. NB: The right person could be that semi-illiterate, came from poor home, not beautiful (or handsome), etc.

Kestolove:
My brother go ND marry and have kids,stop consoling urself if u don't have d means to..

BrainBucksNG:

Gratitude for your reasoned and reasonable input.

BrainBucksNG:
Divorce everywhere!
Two lovebirds today can turn to two mortal enemies the very next day.
Even here on Nairaland, besides the FCMB Oga scandal, only yesterday I remember seeing almost the spinal cord of a wife whose husband opened a window into her body with a machete, supposedly because of food. Food ooo...
Pre-wedding photo shoots everywhere. Down on one knee proposals competing for most romantic cos they all want to copy what they watch on Telemundo.
Give 99% of these couples only one year and you'll see them carrying face like dog poop inside the car cos the man is incensed that the woman takes forever to wear makeup.
The world just seems to continue running in an endless cycle of GIGO (Garbage In Garbage Out). Just like our jungle Nigeria, where the ancient men of the 70s and 80s, who were promising to pave way for the "leaders of tomorrow" but yet somehow continue to lead their papa until thy kingdom come, marriage continues to be built and be collapsed on the same promises of forever when initial love be shacking everybody. I can't even point too far. I will judge myself first. My own parents families, on both sides, with at least 12 marriages I can count now, have maybe 2 or 3 still standing. Even my very self, after dating a girl for only months, the thing dey tire me. Even seeing her naked after some time doesn't arouse konji anymore.
I just wonder how married couples do it and cope for years upon years. See, my observation is that most couples now, especially due to our tradition in this post of the world, ENDURE, not ENJOY, their marriages.
The stigma of a failed marriage makes people just endure a loveless marriage where romance is dead and buried.
But, go to other more advanced countries, wey no holy reach our holy holy Nigerians, the millennials are starting to avoid marriage altogether.
I concur. Rather than lose the love I have for someone's daughter and start treating her like trash, or vice versa, where I end up like the FCMB saga victim, e better make I just dey my own. If I want to born, I find one whitey giv am belle, get halfcast pikin, and life goes on.

DISCLAIMER: This is my own personal experience and opinion. I am not asking anyone to buy into it. Go ahead. Marry. Live long. Best wishes.

Ryan03:
@ DAramis my guy, in his life eh, what you want and what you need is always different. You might want that cute girl with big backside and heavy chest, it is not bad I, but problem will start when you ignore every other aspect because she have those physical features that you like. The most lucky man is the one who finds his needs in the body of his wants. Buy las las sha, marriage is not by force o

DAramis:


I know marriage is not by force but it is still a good thing. Wants and needs has always been 2 different things and would never join together when it comes to women.

That is why in my culture, our people used to say some women are good for friendship only but never for marriage. I don't know for you bro, but where I come from marriage is compulsory so is children (Except you are to become a Roman Catholic priest).

Even if you give all the excuses on this earth why could not get married, they will find woman for you at all cost and foist on you. The exception is if that person has other hidden thing in his or her cupboard which is preventing it. (Like personal choice of being attracted to same sex, medical condition with his special key for unlocking the door in woman's body, etc)

BrainBucksNG:


Yea, it's probably better to stay silent and be assumed to be smart.

Boxer007:


Bros. Gay marriage is way out: the solution. Preach!

DAramis:

Bro, try and put the write-up in good format, maybe it will attract wider viewership and more comments form those already in the Union.

Lastly, I have noticed that, Nairaland promotes marriage violence incidents (always on front page) which is having an effect on how people view marriage with the exception of where the former married banker allegedly cheated. This increases the perception that, things are bad and evil always in marriage unions.

I will try and reduce the amount of news I view in this regard from this year. Need a healthy perspective rather than the gloomy news people read always online.

BrainBucksNG:

Even that one has "marriage" involved, which is what we're trying to avoid

Boxer007:


Bros just date a guy & avoid women. Females are evil sir

Ryan03:
of cause I want to get married and I respect the institution of marriage but not enough to want to force it on anyone. Even having kids is not by force, the earth will not disappear because some people refuse to marry or give birth, I believe in respecting the choices of others as long as it's not causing harm to theirself, others or the environment and I don't see how not marrying is doing any of these

ZIINI:
Wahala

BrainBucksNG:


Where

BrainBucksNG:

1. Females Are Evil... Dat 1 dey

2. Avoid Women... Cure konji how naa?

3. Date a Guy... Chai bros e better make I just manage evil women

Fvckyouall:


1) true

2) there are many other ways, .........try meditation

3) you never know until you try

BrainBucksNG:


#3 hell nawww

Fvckyouall:


Lol well meditation is still an option or you can chop it off