Akinloye11:
please my fellow good citizen of nigeria...our naija no go spoil finish oh, i need a job ni any one even if its a cook or gateman...discipline:B.sc business administration

UnBanEbenezer:
you no see him moniker?
Falseprophet1

SmellySperm:
i no just wan talk wetin dey my mind now


Bros quit....I repeat quit!

instead of u to focus on ur business you're here talking love that doesn't even exist,love fire

EzegeNdiigbo:
Hmmm you're under a spell, go for a deliverance

how can a full grown man be thinking of settling down with a second-class-woman with a kids
Think twice.

Olunmercy56:
You know the best for you, having two kids is not a bad things, you have to love those kids as your own and be ready to be responsible financially and materially.

Hassanmaye:
Simp

elgandalf:
See Wetyn you talk. And 95people like am sef. Lol. People talk like they know the future. To the person wey bring topic. Think am well. Talk to God about it. Don’t come to a public forum to ask for help on such delicate issues. Do you love the kids? How old are they? Can you survive the financial burden. Etc. Woss. Talk to God. People wey get issues sef dey advice person.

vickydevoka:

I swear. Maybe he is not into women. Dats y knowing women very well b4 marrying is good. Woman way don born Sabi loyal die..

Trogge:
. Am sure you would prefer the one that had done abortion twice And still single

Olunmercy56:
You know the best for you, having two kids is not a bad things, you have to love those kids as your own and be ready to be responsible financially and materially.

BabaIbo:


My intentions are pure, as I am not the promiscuous type.
I'm only asking for advice from people.

Who start something without planning?

Bro, you are sounding like you a Pro or perfect human.

GOFRONT:
Inside Life......

This is coming at a time when DNA and paternity fraud is rife....

Maybe her two kids were not from her first husband ( paternity fraud); hence the separation......

EzegeNdiigbo:
Hmmm you're under a spell, go for a deliverance

how can a full grown man be thinking of settling down with a second-class-woman with a kids
Think twice.

Digmygold:


Your daughter will one day be in her shoes. I hope you will give her broke suitors the same advice.

FalseProphet1:
She has two children n the owner of the children did not marry her instead left her to fend for them by herself, that means she is not wife material, leave her alone, have fun with her but don't go beyond fun and start talkin about marriage because u will regret it

MoneyTrees:
Even in 2021 it still very easy to spot a pvssy ass niggar?
There ain't anything as a second class woman please, if it doesn't go well with you doesn't mean it isn't generally ok.
Besides the woman is a real niggar people... she's taking care of kids on her own? ... Damn she's a legend
Respects & Grace to her
@op you're not a real niggar to bring this here, so you're downsizing someone you say you love... You're so confident that she doesn't come online on Nairaland to chill after a stressful evening.

What if she decides to, sees this kind of thread... Her confidence is reduced ... Then you simply move your pvssy ass attitude to another woman?

If pommo is sweet, eat & don't tell tales
If you want japa, do that as a real niggar & not contribute to a future depression for someone in this current times

MyOpinion1:


But those kids in the orphanage are not his..
You mean if she had put them in the orphanage, you will go there and give to them but you cant give to them in your house

soundOsonic:

If at all she puts her kids in the orphanage she automatically becomes an illegitimate parents, hence, anyone can take up the responsibility by choice.
You don't understand my point do you?

My problem is not spending on another man's child No, my problem is giving or pressing the responsibility of spending on another man's child. If at all I marry a single mum, are children are not staying in my house. I would rather adopt kids than for her children to stay in my house. They can stay with their father or grand parents.
Later in the future the real father can come with court order and take the children away, worst thing is the children will be alternating between two fathers.
Adopted children will be yours forever.

MyOpinion1:


And you believe any court will give custody of a teenager to the man?
And you believe a grown up adult will just go with a man because he shows up to be his father??!
It can happen in the past but not in this generation or one to come...
My point is, be open minded to everyone and don't castigate anyone you never hear his/her story. We are all imperfect in one way or the other...
Being a single guy doesn't make you better than the single father
Being a single lady doesn't make you better than the single mum
Being a married man doesn't make you better than a bachelor..
Being a married woman doesn't make you better than a spinster...
Even if you are to judge, it should be individually and not collectively...

soundOsonic:


Oga I can't convince you, you can't convince maybe when your husband brings a child from another woman to your house to raise we will know whether you are open minded.

realoscar84:
Don't try it bro. I'm speaking from experience. A single mother of 2 who happened to be my first love when we were younger. She cheated on me by hooking up with another dude when I was preparing for admission into tertiary institution then. Fast forward to last 2years, the dude didn't marry her but left her with 2 kids who are in secondary schools but she was desperate to fulfil lifelong aspiration; marriage. She is financially independent, doing well as a business lady and taking care of her kids well. Me nko, after service, no tangible job barely surviving. Man too insecure economically to talk about serious relationship. The two condition makes for perfect match n she grab it both hands. She lived in distance city from mine but always flew in to give me free unlimited pekus with good foods. Taking me out n spending from her pockets without care. I began to wonder wether tbis isn't naija lady. I was enjoying it and out of excitement started proposing. U know what it feel like for a jobless broke guy getting hooked to financially independent lady who isn't complaining. Pregnancy showed with much doubt wether it was mine though but she swore, ready for DNA test after childbirth though. Unfortunately she lost the baby because she started disobeying my advice to be careful about hectic business trip. She was disrespecting me eh. Summary of it all is that till today she is still desperate to get hooked to me despite the fact that she knows I'm preparing for my wedding to my new lady now. Most of them are trouble. Watch well before you take the next step with her.