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Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by mountmoriah(m): 4:37pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
SchoolPedia: the social media |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Adeplus: 4:37pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
lilmax: I won't entirely agree with you ( choice ) but I'd say it's the environment you found yourself in. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Faithfulness88: 4:39pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
The truth is that do in our fathers time they provide for the home.Nowadaus some men will just be targeting a rich or hardworking babe to marry do that he will be surving on her . 5 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Pochettino(f): 4:40pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Ofemmanu1: Serial wife beater spotted here 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by dreaizy(m): 4:41pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Pochettino:Thank you for saying this. Marriage is hard. Our mothers didn't have much choice than to stay in their marriages. No matter how bad the circumstances. Now, women have goals and options which they are ready to exercise. However, that's not to say that the husband or wife is to blame. It just means it is harder to sustain a union of compromise (like marriage) when both parties are actual human beings with rights, ambition, weaknesses and different personalities. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by bukatyne(f): 4:41pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
patani: @Bold: Not true. Some men want to continue enjoying the privilege to misbehave because they are the 'head'/provider. Any society that is 'succeeding' because of the oppression of a gender would not last long. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nobody: 4:41pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
AgainstIslam: Is it your quoting? You are the only one who is indifferent here, check yourself and stop being boring to guys around you.
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Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by staga: 4:41pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Primary reason is a failure to adapt to the changing roles of the woman in a home. That's number one. Yes, women now work, but everyone should remember and perform their primary roles at home. Men are the breadwinners, women are the homemakers. Anything done outside these primary roles is supposed to be in an assistance/secondary role. Women should not be the ones bearing the burden of providing for the family. They can only assist where necessary to complement the man who should be pulling his own weight. Likewise, a man can assist with shopping and cooking once in a while, but it is not his primary duty. Number two: pressure from the world to conform to the world's standards. Number three: abandonment of Godly principles for marriage. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Adeplus: 4:42pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Uyi168: The physical things can't happen unless it's manifested in the spiritual. I know you may not understand or you might say you choose not to see it this way but it's the truth. We can't just do anything in the physical or do you think you do things at your will? Lol what you do now has been seen in the spiritual sphere. So no reason. You can't just phantom it. 1 Like |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by ChangedMan1999(m): 4:43pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
tradepunter: Bro, that's human nature. Sometimes we say reasonable things and sometimes we say stupid things.. No man is perfect. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by womenareapes: 4:44pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Pochettino:just because your father always beat your mother to pulp doesn't mean other men are like that |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Uyi168: 4:45pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Adeplus:. K |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nobody: 4:45pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Because people in today's marriages are selfish, impatience, rude, obnoxious, golddigging, anoying, greedy and overweight. Who da hell wanna get married nowadays anyway? I have had sex with atleast 160 women already.. from prostitutes, married women and single women, fat, short, tall, beautiful, ugly you name it. most of them i cannot even remember their names or faces. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by abbey621(m): 4:45pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
The truth is simple, back then our mothers suffered lots of injustices. Back then our women had no say and many had to abndon anything called career or goals just for the family. Back then as a girl, you only hope for two things, marriage and children. Nowadays women want more! Civilization has shown them that they too can be presidents, CEOs and so on. Women have also seen the calamity that comes from depending on men for their continued existence. Gone are the days of of the king regins supreme, nowadays it is all hail the king as long as the queen is pleased! In conclusion, adapting is key! Men who do not adapt will end up divorcing more than once same goes for women, true wisdom comes when you realize marriage is very similar to a business contract, everyone must play their part or the contract is null and void! 9 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by whykaylee: 4:46pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Marriage do not tends to last these days the main reason is *eye opener to money* Let me sight an instance I work in a cold room , at my place of work there was this woman who came to patronize us along with her beautiful girl , I noticed this sudden change while attending to this woman unlike when she comes alone without her girl ,we play jokes a lot ,there is this customer relationship , at this particular day while attending to her What she could speak out was Pls face your work ooo she won’t marry you if you are broke I was like wow !!! Of which I wasn’t even looking at the girl An eye opener to wealth is the cause of sudden marriage breakage |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by deeva2: 4:46pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
SchoolPedia: CORRECT GUY |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by sisisioge: 4:46pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
salt1: Lol @ the bolded 1 Like |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Shokoloko(f): 4:47pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
sisisioge: Great points! 4. A second wife was not really acceptable- you can see that from the distrust among the children. They had to tolerate the other woman. 5. Men didnt provide the support system: they came home to sleep, have sex and eat (some added "to flog kids after the mum had already punished the child". The women did ALL the grooming The women and their children also bore severe domestic violence in silence: a trend that is no longer acceptable today. 5 Likes |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by ProtectMyMoney: 4:47pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
SchoolPedia: Marriages nowadays do not last because of Social media distractions, ease of contact by many men willing to send money to sample the kpekus of both single and married women, and easy access to feminist rhetorics. Back in the days, 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by abnot: 4:48pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
The world has changed but some people have decided that things must remain the same . Peoples needs, wants and desires have also changed . The way we live has also changed. Many can live without partners and still be alright in today’s world. People can do well without partners who stress or frustrate them 3 Likes |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Pochettino(f): 4:48pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
womenareapes: At least I knew my father unlike you 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Godbless3(m): 4:50pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
HRHQueenPhil: The devil is innocent. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nobody: 4:51pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
SchoolPedia: social media and lack of submission |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by MadamExcellency: 4:51pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Marriage then was an extended family affairs rather than this nuclear nonsense. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Faithfulness88: 4:53pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
During our parents time you will hear that they quarrelled and settled easily. Now some men use to beat women that leads to serious injury or death..Na person wey dey alive get husband o. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Otiv: 4:53pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
One factor is seriously missing , Jesus. This generation is "too know" generation. They want everythingto have intellectual meaning and sense . We have followed the western way and want to rationalize everything forgetting that God'sways are not our way! We want to do marriage our own way of which it is an institution founded by God!! SchoolPedia: |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Ofemmanu1: 4:54pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Pochettino:I for beat all the nonsense and ingredients cheap food away for your head. |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by cbi24: 4:54pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Reading |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by mkoabiola: 4:54pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Social media. Feminism Slay queen. Etc |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Liposure: 4:55pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
gypsey:you ve seen it all |
Re: Why Aren't Today's Marriages Lasting Like Those Of Our Parents And Forefathers? by Nobody: 4:57pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Cutehector: I guess you are not married. Please don't ever fall for that claim. Rather, marry a God-fearing lady that you are well older than, financially better than (i.e. she should be working - busy), of the same tribe with you, same faith (not just same religion) with you, and most-importantly, is HAPPY SUBMITTING to you. Make such a lady happy and you would experience bliss non-stop in your marriage. Meanwhile, while making her happy, please know when to say "NO" to her desire/request and stand on your ground till "eternity", at least, until you are convinced (as the head of the home) that the road is clear for the request to be granted. That is, if it ever deserves to be granted. Even Eve would have wished Adam (being her head) denied her "fruit-eating" request and cautioned her from having further conversation with the serpent that convinced her to eat the forbidden fruit. Though, it would make her unhappy at that moment but that would be better than Adam granting her request out of stupid love/affection, which eventually brought misery to both of them and the entire mankind. Bonus Tip: If you are favoured enough to get the lady described above that is not from a broken home but raised for at least two decades by both parents (not aunties, etc.) with good family history, and she has no child or womb issues from any previous relationship; don't bother negotiating her bride price because you are taking "peace of mind", "long life" and "increased prosperity" back home as a wife. Your responsibility is just to take good care of your Jewel. Despite these, pray concerning "your finding", and involve those that can help you attain spiritual guidance on it because marriage is not an eatery/shopping event, but a very serious lineage's activity that can either make or mar the lineage, and not just the son involved. All the best. 5 Likes 1 Share |
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