Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion.

My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.

Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”.

Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................

Ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously?

Chill Bros. Assuming it's reversed and you were in such life and death situation and you have seen this criminals kill someone who resisted, will you resist too? I bet your answer is NO.
Stop being petty abeg. Go find better thing use your time do before your wife see you finish.

would you have preferred her dying

I'm interested in the documentary first.

Quote it for me.

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion. My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.
Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”. Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously??

shocked

She was right at the wrong time.

Arrrrrrrh

How do you want her to say it? If she dies, you marry another woman, and she leaving her kids behind. For God sake Sir, reason it!

An instance, ain't it the same marryin a non virgin girl?

MOLOTOVcockTAIL:

Chill Bros. Assuming it's reversed and you were in such life and death situation and you have seen this criminals kill someone who resisted, will you resist too? I bet your answer is NO.
Stop being petty abeg. Go find better thing use your time do before your wife see you finish.

Mr OP your wife is smart It's survival instincts, when she comes out alive and she will still go to police and forensics will take evidence of their DNA from her and they will be caught.
Stop thinking about it, she is a smart woman and pray nothing like that happens.

Put yourself in her position.
Some female robbers storm your home and demand that you sleep with them or get killed.
Your answer to this poser will determine whether you're sensible or just plain dumb.
So, because she's married to you, she should die senselessly abi?

Diligent Couples Don't Talk about Nonsense even if it eventually happens....You keep it to yourselves...How we won take Help you now?!

She is right and honest...she is a good wife who trusts you. Learn to trust her too

She is very wrong for saying that, and if you both eventually find yourselves in such situation and she agrees to the demand of the robbers just to stay alive and you can't bear it, just take your own life.. Case settled..

It's not right for her to make such a statement. It just goes to show how shallow some peoples' brains can be.


Does She think rape is pleasurable? For all she knows, the lady would have still died from being raped by those hefty men or worst still gotten infected with a deadly disease or ended with an unwanted pregnancy that will torment her for life.

The lady died a hero. And her death didn't go unavenged. so why is your wife saying she died for nothing?? She's narrow minded and cheap. You're not overreacting. In fact, if you can, show her my comment, let her learn how to reason and talk in matters like this.


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I see a lot of people have been attacking my comment without really understanding my point.

Now, i believe if you read at the bolded and processed it thoroughly in your brains, you won't come at me like you're doing cos all I've simply said there is, the woman has no regards for her husband and has no cause to spew the baldadash she did at that point in time. What she's supposed to say was, may God not let her experience such. Rather she wished it were her and how she would have rellished the act. Who says such at such grievous moment?


Try to understand my point before attacking me. I'm not about who died or could have lived but ops wife's indiscreet act before her husband.

Since you now know what she'll do and don't like it, you'll just have to make sure robbers don't get to her, don't you? If after defending with all your power they do go through you and get to her, it shouldn't worry you then because you'll be dead. Just make sure it happens over your dead body. That is a non negotiable duty that a husband has to his wife.

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion. My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.
Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”. Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously??

What are you saying? Would you have preferred your wife dead?

Na so una go just dey tink rubbish. Shior

you can stage a real one and watch her moan too.

Let her die as a matyr so you can be fulfilled then 3 mths later that church sister will start bringing you food, helping you take care of the kids and 9 mths later get married to her.

See my female tenant that died ,her husband is already disturbing the children about remarrying in less than 2 mths.

This is how couples invite and involve third parties and spoil their lives. Nonsense from both parties.

So you would want her to resist them and die? kwata kwata 6months you don marry another wife and soon we will be hearing "stepmother poured hot water on a child of 10yrs and the father joined in beating the child"

CalliDora1:
It's not right for her to make such a statement. It just goes to show how shallow some peoples' brains can be.

Does She think rape is pleasurable? For all she knows, the lady would have still died from being raped by those hefty men or worst still gotten infected with a deadly disease or ended with an unwanted pregnancy that will torment her for life.

The lady died a hero. And her death didn't go unavenged. so why is your wife saying she died for nothing?? She's narrow minded and cheap. You're not overreacting. In fact, if you can, show her my comment, let her learn how to reason and talk in matters like this.

..it is really easy to say she is a hero, can you do such.

Na me go help them hold her leg sef.

CalliDora1:
It's not right for her to make such a statement. It just goes to show how shallow some peoples' brains can be.

Does She think rape is pleasurable? For all she knows, the lady would have still died from being raped by those hefty men or worst still gotten infected with a deadly disease or ended with an unwanted pregnancy that will torment her for life.

The lady died a hero. And her death didn't go unavenged. so why is your wife saying she died for nothing?? She's narrow minded and cheap. You're not overreacting. In fact, if you can, show her my comment, let her learn how to reason and talk in matters like this.

You are myopic in your reasoning. You live to fight another day. A lady in my neighborhood was hacked to death for refusing to let go her iPhone in a robbery situation. She died and the phone was still taken, now how do you justify this.

Canadianelenu, I totally understand your wife. She is programmed to survive and would anything to ensure herself and family are safe. To ensure this does not happen, be a man and protect her!

I'm a man, but this time, I support the woman.
She should not have mentioned it sha, its good to be discreet.

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion. My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.
Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”. Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously??

most likely you have a poor sex life and your wife is just voicing her opinnion. just like pavlov theory, until sth. happens you wouldn't know how to react.

OP na your type their wife dey hide something from because of uncertainty, some women hide their past nightmares because dey don't want their boss to know what dey pass true

Canadianelenu:
Recently, the increase in armed robberies and banditry has become a disturbing trend in Nigeria. It is even more horrendous when the men of the underworld not only steal when they attack but will also rape any unfortunate female caught in the invasion. My wife and I were watching a real life crime documentary one evening and in the documentary, a lady was shot and killed after resisting rape advances from 6 men who invaded her residence.
Fortunately, the criminals were later caught using forensic evidence and paraded by law enforcement. These men were tough looking strongly built men who no doubts would have torn the lady apart if they had succeeded in raping her.

However, the shocker was when my wife of 4 years said, and I quote “she just died for nothing and has caused her family a lot of grief...if it were me, I would just let them have their way and live to see another day”. Although this sounded very right, it also sounded very wrong at the same time and has since been messing with my head as I cannot get the picture out of my mind. We could both see that they were 6 hefty men and yet she felt she should have................ladies, am I over reacting and men, what do you think? How can something feel so right and so wrong simultaneously??

You no well.. Your wife is correct... An unfortunate incidence of Rape is not the end of life...

If the incidence doesn't lead to a loss of life then why not... She has a reason to live. The question is do you?

That's nothing 2 worry about.But make sure u investigate whether she has a side boo.Maybe 1 day she wee ask him 2 come as a robber and then demand 4 that apple wey na only u suppose chop.she go pretend say na rape.shine ur eyes, be wise,be smart.