Since they said that roles shouldn't be assigned according to gender, I was wondering if it's still the duty of the man to pay the bills. So, is it

Who do you expect to pay your bills for you?

helinues:
Who do you expect to pay your bills for you?

I mean between man and wife.

Aflix:
I mean between man and wife.

According to black man, it is the sole responsibility of the man while according to white man, it should be shared between the husband and wife

Put your money where your mouth is....

It means that if you don't drop money no food for u

Foot your bills, a wife is part of your bill because she is your liability already


A galfriend is a different thing tho because she is actually a friend, I don't buy things for my 'boyfriends' all the time

illicit:
Put your money where your mouth is....

It means that if you don't drop money no food for u

Foot your bills, a wife is part of your bill because she is your liability already


A galfriend is a different thing tho because she is actually a friend, I don't buy things for my 'boyfriends' all the time

Well, women are coming up with the mindset that they shouldn't be doing things that are considered duties of a wife. It cos of this reason I'm asking this question.
@helinues

helinues:


According to black man, it is the sole responsibility of the man while according to white man, it should be shared between the husband and wife

Ha ha ha

In as much as a man should pay the bills,a woman should assist financially too.Make una no go kill person pikin all in the name of the head of the house.

Men...if the task is too much, speak up Biko, don't die in silence....


Modified: please all of una wey dey quote me, don't worry,frustrate the man and send him to an early grave,then you will know that being a man is not easy!

Please, make una turn these likes to cash, thank you

With the mentality that men should foot all bills, it means men should always marry below themselves. Really?

If one's wife earns, let's say more than half of what the man earn; what is the woman to do with her money?

She keeps all her money while the man diminished his wealth; it will not be long before the woman is more wealthy than the man...

Given that the so-called minimum wage for civil servants in Nja is about #30,000 or less, many many men should date talkless of marrying if they have to pay for everything including in-laws...

Joke! Right??

helinues:


According to black man, it is the sole responsibility of the man while according to white man, it should be shared between the husband and wife

Baba don't say according to whites oo... That ideology was simply fought for by feminists. Before white women no dey work, they groom them to take care of their families.

Go to Italy, they still have that deep rooted culture of men being the head. Naso una go dey say whites whites

chrisj2:
With the mentality that men should foot all bills, it means men should always marry below themselves. Really?

If one's wife earns, let's say more than half of what the man earn; what is the woman to do with her money?

She keeps all her money while the man diminished his wealth; it will not be long before the woman is more wealthy than the man...

Given that the so-called minimum wage for civil servants in Nja is about #30,000 or less, many many men should date talkless of marrying if they have to pay for everything including in-laws...

Joke! Right??

She should support her home. It's common sense.

From your previous reply, we are on the same track...

All these people including many many men that says the man is the head and has to pay all bills and much more are in a way sexist but they will dispute that.

What is wrong about 2 middle class people being married and sharing all responsibilities?

In this day and age, very few men can pay for everything and live at a high standard unless the person is already made and loaded and perhaps even older than the woman

No it's not compulsory, be the househusband let your wife be the head and breadwinner of the family, simple.

chrisj2:
From your previous reply, we are on the same track...

All these people including many many men that says the man is the head and has to pay all bills and much more are in a way sexist but they will dispute that.

What is wrong about 2 middle class people being married and sharing all responsibilities?

In this day and age, very few men can pay for everything and live at a high standard unless the person is already made and loaded and perhaps even older than the woman

Does the bolded include equally sharing of house chores, cooking, bathing, changing diapers for the kids, running little errands round the neighborhood and going to the market?

Naturally, its the man's duty to take care of the bills however there is nothing bad in lending an helping hand when he's broke. Don't just be a liability, be an asset.

This issue has been overflogged already.

That depends. Do you expect your wife to respect and defer to you as the head of the family? Or do you want her to be dragging decisions with you as full partner and co-head of the family? With authority comes responsibility. Also prepare to cook, wash plates, breastfeed, carry pregnancy and wash baby shit.

Btw, in case you think to play a fast one and make her minority shareholder (by making her pay less) in order to retain control, know that women don't calculate share value. If she puts one naira one time into the home expenses upon your request, in her mind she's as equal a partner as if she put ten million for twenty years. Be warned.

Also don't believe if she says she's giving it freely.

Since they said that roles shouldn't be assigned according to gender, I was wondering if it's still the duty of the man to pay the bills. So, is it

Counter thread

Let me sit and read comments, this Toxicland is entertaining.

JovialJune:



Does the bolded include equally sharing of house chores, cooking, bathing, changing diapers for the kids, running little errands round the neighborhood and going to the market?

Have you heard about division of labour? Yes, it does include all those things in bold except for breastfeeding bthatv be joining her mentioned previously...

I don't expect proper middle class wife to be running errands like house girl. However, if things have to be done, either of them can do it; including errands.

Like I said, it all depends on who the man wants to marry and whether he wanted a partner or a domestic.

Are you saying cleaning, cooking, bathing and reading to young ones, feeding them and clothing them is exclusively a woman's job.

The clue is in middle class and sharing! It does es not have to be all equal or not specialised...

A man marries a busy business woman, scientist, lecturer, engineer, doctor, lawyer and so on and then expect her to behave like a village girl. Come on!

loveymom:
Counter thread

Let me sit and read comments, this Toxicland is entertaining.

This is a bit of a nothing thread but you can still see the sexist, misogynist and backward arguments from both sexes.

Successful women no get joy for Nja o! I don't wish any of those sexists on my daughter

chrisj2:


This is a bit of a nothing thread but you can still see the sexist, misogynist and backward arguments from both sexes.

Successful women no get joy for Nja o! I don't wish any of those sexists on my daughter

Just train both your female and male kids rightly.

Most people learn through mistakes (I am one).

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

No, it's not compulsory for a man to pay the bills and take care of his family.


Making money is a basic survival skill that both a man and woman must have.

There a no gender roles and making money and paying bills is no exception.

illicit:
Put your money where your mouth is....

It means that if you don't drop money no food for u

Foot your bills, a wife is part of your bill because she is your liability already


A galfriend is a different thing tho because she is actually a friend, I don't buy things for my 'boyfriends' all the time

Paying bills is not gender specific, therefore it's not compulsory for a man to pay the bills in the house.

LutanFyah:



Paying bills is not gender specific, therefore it's not compulsory for a man to pay the bills in the house.

You are right, it's just our culture....

Just here for the comments.
It sure is gonna get nasty pretty pretty soon

It is, 100%. That role has not shifted. so tie your belt very tight and get ready to take it up when the time comes.

Ajuju 21st century.

illicit:



You are right, it's just our culture....

The conferring of bills on men/husbands is not an 'African' thing.