NoToPile:
https://www.nairaland.com/5727914/not-been-able-sex-yet


Diagonal read this thread above.


Its more of a mindset thing for her, this too shall pass away.

I am surprised you are talking about 'cheating' thinking you haveade a mistake etc because of her fear.

You are not the first neither will you be the last to experience this issue, it always gets sorted last last.

Be careful of advice you assmilate here, your wife will be accused, even insulted on this thread.

JumpByte:





Be careful of advice you assmilate here.... This is it here







Many psychopaths tend to give the worst possible counsel on this forum. I feel sorry for people who post thier issues here

Diagonal:
I initially had a long distance courtship with my wife while we dated. Later she came and stayed with me for some months bc she had accommodation issues. She was based in a different State. Altogether we dated for 4 years before our eventual marriage. All through those times we never had se.x. She never allowed us to, and since I'm a Christian, I willingly left her alone since it's even against my christianity teachings. Moreover she was a virgin and I felt there was no need putting undue pressure on something that was eventually going to be all mine.
Fast- forward to today, it's been two months after our wedding, no se.x. My wife is too scared of it. Each time I make an attempt, she gets so scared of penetration that my "thing" just collapses. Forcing her would make me feel like it's rape. I have bought all kinds of gel to apply and reduce pains, but it's not working with her. She is still saying I should give her time to get used to it.
Meanwhile she is the over-jealous type. She gets angry for as flimsy a thing as me viewing WhatsApp status of female contacts on my phone or Facebook photos of female friends!
I'm already feeling I've made a huge mistake in marrying her. I never thought I'd ever cheat after marriage, but it looks like I'm being pushed into it.
What can a brother do in this situation?

Freestainworld:
Try and touch her on the right places, take things easy with her, don't not ever talk of regrate, talk to her and see reason why you guys should do this, sweet-talk her nah.

Liposure:
Or was she circumcised as a child? because i don't understand.

Richy4:
I might be wrong but just maybe she's not what she claimed she is...I mean the Virgin card that she was playing....and she doesn't know how u might react if there were no traces of blood after...

But if she is, then Sit her down and talk to her... let her know that every girl married or not was scared the way she was but they overcame their fears.. tell her to let you in on what her fear was...then promise you will be gentle... get lots of pears baby oil for lubrication, u won't go wrong with that...

Denique:
You should try going down there and watch her beg you for it. It works, trust me!

Diagonal:

I've tried all these. I have even thought to myself if she lied about the virginity thing and is trying to hide. But then, I was never interested in the virgin or no virgin thing and I told her that from the onset; that I don't care if any woman is a virgin or not. I already told her my marriage intentions before she ever mentioned her status.
Again, I don't think she's hiding anything. She is just scared of penetration.
How I got to know she was a virgin then was one time when she had an infection from a hostel toilet. The pharmacist gave her a certain stuff to insert into her privates as part of the treatment, but she refused to do it. It was when I pressed to know why she wouldn't do it that she opened up that she was a virgin and nothing had ever entered there!

Diagonal:

She doesn't like "heading".

Denique:
You should try going down there and watch her beg you for it. It works, trust me!

Denique:
You should try going down there and watch her beg you for it. It works, trust me!

meobizy:
I have no time for made up stories today. Let ignorant Nairalanders waste their time instead.

BiggyB242:
I have noticed something about ladies who are virgin, they are extremely jealous and stubborn.