I'm insecure, lonely and depressed . I've had my hopes all raised . She was my best friend and only friend. I always thought for 2 and did for 2.
I did everything to make her stay, I was convinced she loved me to a fault. She would do anything for me.

But my insecurity was my biggest flaw. I didn't want to lose her Cuz I was scared and unknowingly pushing her away. In my previous thread, I stated that 'everyone I've loved ended up leaving eventually', and I almost never let anyone in, but In Her case, I did . I have always felt alone all my life till I met her.

All of a sudden she said she was busy with life , she was stressed and tired of my insecurity and she wanted to leave me in the relationship. This came after we had a slight misunderstanding and we didn't communicate for a week Cuz she wouldn't talk to me. It came as a shock. I'm broken and I'm still wondering where I went wrong. I need someone to talk to . I just wanna make money and work on myself. I'm about to round off school, in my final year... With all the pressure and depression I might misplace my priorities.


Someone help me. I need therapy. I want to move on but I dunno how to start.

rule 1- Fear woman

4 months? Are you okay, better stand up and go live your life before i sound you.

Congratulations, you just remove wahala from you life like dis so....

Brother what you are passing through is common in today's society. But you should not let that weigh you down ; rather you should see it as a stepping stone to move yourself.

A wise man once said "success is the best revenge ". So my dear brother, focus on graduating and become successful. Sooner or later someone who values you will come by, and the ones that left you(thinking you will be nothing) will be regretting.

Peace.

Carry out this three Rs of self first.

RE-EVALUATE,
RE-ASSES and
RE-EXAMINED your self.

Don't be in a hurry for another relationship..

Ask your self what exactly you want in a relationship....is it
Sex,
Companion, or
Benefits?
Then be plain with whoever you intend to start the new relationship and stay focused.....

It's part of development.... The only problem is when you don't learn from it... Let me help you with some words that will be useful to you in the future... Read the below diary

https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need

You're insecure, that isnt the reason she left....


Anybody that have doubts about it's partner is totally working on instincts....


OP, you have a whole lot of good days ahead of you...You are barely done with your schooling....The labor market is waiting for you and all you're worried about is a woman that you can't sincerely tell if she loved you...

I had kept a relationship for 7years and I fought to keep it and tried to have things work for good but I had to let go as you don't have to keep people who don't want to be in your life, because they'll always leave when the have the chance.....

Everrich96:
I'm insecure, lonely and depressed . I've had my hopes all raised . She was my best friend and only friend. I always thought for 2 and did for 2.
I did everything to make her stay, I was convinced she loved me to a fault. She would do anything for me.

But my insecurity was my biggest flaw. I didn't want to lose her Cuz I was scared and unknowingly pushing her away. In my previous thread, I stated that 'everyone I've loved ended up leaving eventually', and I almost never let anyone in, but In Her case, I did . I have always felt alone all my life till I met her.

All of a sudden she said she was busy with life , she was stressed and tired of my insecurity and she wanted to leave me in the relationship. This came after we had a slight misunderstanding and we didn't communicate for a week Cuz she wouldn't talk to me. It came as a shock. I'm broken and I'm still wondering where I went wrong. I need someone to talk to . I just wanna make money and work on myself. I'm about to round off school, in my final year... With all the pressure and depression I might misplace my priorities.


Someone help me. I need therapy. I want to move on but I dunno how to start.

what do you mean by insecurity

what is exactly this misunderstanding

I understand how you feel bro
Right now you feel scared and so so sad,it is like you have lost a part of your soul and you can't be happy again,you loose appetite and you will wish you can just see her.
I'm sorry man but she's gone forever
You have to know and tell yourself that and it's not your fault she's just making it look like it's your fault.
Just try to heal,it won't be easy and can take months but just try to get busy,learn new things,meet new people and always avoiding thinking about her.
Soon your heart and mind will stop playing tricks and will stop hurting you over her and before you know it, you will start feeling better.

Keep your heads up and forget those half brain morons abusing you, most of them don't know love or raised to love.

Jackyz:
rule 1- Fear woman

since you are in school and still a student don't bug your head about it

Congratulations bro, you don't know what just left you!

Everrich96:
I'm insecure, lonely and depressed . I've had my hopes all raised . She was my best friend and only friend. I always thought for 2 and did for 2.
I did everything to make her stay, I was convinced she loved me to a fault. She would do anything for me.

But my insecurity was my biggest flaw. I didn't want to lose her Cuz I was scared and unknowingly pushing her away. In my previous thread, I stated that 'everyone I've loved ended up leaving eventually', and I almost never let anyone in, but In Her case, I did . I have always felt alone all my life till I met her.

All of a sudden she said she was busy with life , she was stressed and tired of my insecurity and she wanted to leave me in the relationship. This came after we had a slight misunderstanding and we didn't communicate for a week Cuz she wouldn't talk to me. It came as a shock. I'm broken and I'm still wondering where I went wrong. I need someone to talk to . I just wanna make money and work on myself. I'm about to round off school, in my final year... With all the pressure and depression I might misplace my priorities.


Someone help me. I need therapy. I want to move on but I dunno how to start.

premium tears activated.

how old are you sef ?

You have mouth odor








E shock you abi?
Treat mouth odor and your next relationship go last.

intresting...very intresting indeed..but I'm js waiting 4 mosdii 2 show up wit dt his GRAIL MESSAGE...mosdii nigga ti take over...

@Everrich96
Your fear is real and that is the way men are being designed by the modern society. You are ideally supposed to be vetting your partner or atleast her reassuring you of her commitment.

Sadly, your babe left you long time ago, you just figured out.


Take the redpill bro, you will have your sanity with women.

No one likes an insecure man braa. I hope say you collect break-up knacks shaa

SmellingAnus:
It's part of development.... The only problem is when you don't learn from it... Let me help you with some words that will be useful to you in the future... Read the below diary

https://www.nairaland.com/4189254/words-wisdom-experience-surely-need

Thanks Boss, will go through them right about now .

yanabasee1:
You're insecure, that isnt the reason she left....


Anybody that have doubts about it's partner is totally working on instincts....


OP, you have a whole lot of good days ahead of you...You are barely done with your schooling....The labor market is waiting for you and all you're worried about is a woman that you can't sincerely tell if she loved you...

I had kept a relationship for 7years and I fought to keep it and tried to have things work for good but I had to let go as you don't have to keep people who don't want to be in your life, because they'll always leave when the have the chance.....

You're right ...

Secondly, 7years is a whole lot , I wouldn't stand a chance... You must be very strong.

Someone is already in line for Valentine

RedChiefPriest:
I understand how you feel bro
Right now you feel scared and so so sad,it is like you have lost a part of your soul and you can't be happy again,you loose appetite and you will wish you can just see her.
I'm sorry man but she's gone forever
You have to know and tell yourself that and it's not your fault she's just making it look like it's your fault.
Just try to heal,it won't be easy and can take months but just try to get busy,learn new things,meet new people and always avoiding thinking about her.
Soon your heart and mind will stop playing tricks and will stop hurting you over her and before you know it, you will start feeling better.

Keep your heads up and forget those half brain morons abusing you, most of them don't know love or raised to love.

Thanks alot man. I truly appreciate . I believe I will be better soon.

Everrich96:
I'm insecure, lonely and depressed . I've had my hopes all raised . She was my best friend and only friend. I always thought for 2 and did for 2.
I did everything to make her stay, I was convinced she loved me to a fault. She would do anything for me.

But my insecurity was my biggest flaw. I didn't want to lose her Cuz I was scared and unknowingly pushing her away. In my previous thread, I stated that 'everyone I've loved ended up leaving eventually', and I almost never let anyone in, but In Her case, I did . I have always felt alone all my life till I met her.

All of a sudden she said she was busy with life , she was stressed and tired of my insecurity and she wanted to leave me in the relationship. This came after we had a slight misunderstanding and we didn't communicate for a week Cuz she wouldn't talk to me. It came as a shock. I'm broken and I'm still wondering where I went wrong. I need someone to talk to . I just wanna make money and work on myself. I'm about to round off school, in my final year... With all the pressure and depression I might misplace my priorities.


Someone help me. I need therapy. I want to move on but I dunno how to start.

Focus on your schooling. Try to take your mind off the problem.

Richard!!! Come on man... Man up

The moment you are scared of loosing a girl,you have already lost her....
Girls are like cat,you just have to leave them to do what they want...they come and go as they please and if you try to force them towards you,they will bite.
Be a man and accept your loss..it might be hard but within 3 weeks you would be fine..your heart just needs to accept the fact that she has left you..
Nobody is permanent in life and the only person who will always be there for you(whether you are insecure or not) is YOU..
My tips to get you back on track:

-delete anything that reminds you of her like pics and contact
-start exercising or lifting weights
-do things you love doing(your hobbies)
-Hang out with friends
-engage in one or two sports like football
-talk to other girls (even flirt with most of them)
-DONT STALK HER

If you do this,you will be fine and back to your feet in less than two months..work on yourself for a better future relationship

yanabasee1:
You're insecure, that isnt the reason she left....


Anybody that have doubts about it's partner is totally working on instincts....


OP, you have a whole lot of good days ahead of you...You are barely done with your schooling....The labor market is waiting for you and all you're worried about is a woman that you can't sincerely tell if she loved you...

I had kept a relationship for 7years and I fought to keep it and tried to have things work for good but I had to let go as you don't have to keep people who don't want to be in your life, because they'll always leave when the have the chance.....

How did it end I will like to hear more about this

if the world could have my kind of man, women will die as a single.
back to op, I feel like giving a resounding slap, so you are depressed because of a man. shame on me

Insecurity eh.

guy man up and move ahead..

You have low self worth.


You need some form of redpill lesson to be a strong man.

Never allow any relationship or even marriage control your sanity and peace of mind!

Mosdii over to you

Asekhamid:
The moment you are scared of loosing a girl,you have already lost her....
Girls are like cat,you just have to leave them to do what they want...they come and go as they please and if you try to force them towards you,they will bite.
Be a man and accept your loss..it might be hard but within 3 weeks you would be fine..your heart just needs to accept the fact that she has left you..
Nobody is permanent in life and the only person who will always be there for you(whether you are insecure or not) is YOU..
My tips to get you back on track:

-delete anything that reminds you of her like pics and contact
-start exercising or lifting weights
-do things you love doing(your hobbies)
-Hang out with friends
-engage in one or two sports like football
-talk to other girls (even flirt with most of them)
-DONT STALK HER

If you do this,you will be fine and back to your feet in less than two months..work on yourself for a better future relationship

Thanks sir. I had tears in my eyes after reading the emboldened.. Its the truth and I will heed.