I want to use this opportunity to thank everyone that advised me when I needed it most.

For those who are new to this topic can visit the former tread here:

https://www.nairaland.com/5637320/2-women-life-which-should

A lot happened after this time but I’d summarize it.... God help me. Lols.


Ok....... I had to settle for Benita after all. Everything was going smooth until she started messing up. Usually when she goes back to school ( 100 level as at last year 2020). She calls, both WhatsApp call and video call. She never wanted to miss me for a second.


After a while I started realizing that for 2 to 3 days I won’t hear from her. I decided to allow her probably she’s busy with assignments and all that. The 4th day I decided to call her. No response. To cut it short I had to chat her up. Told her what’s going on. The usual “I’ve been very busy lately”. She continued like that for two weeks. This time I decided to man up and tell her that I’m not comfortable with her recent attitude. She got angry and stopped chatting with me.


I started begging. But it took her another one week to respond. Ever since then, if for example I say hi on Monday, she replies hello on Tuesday. This continued like that till the lockdown. She came back from school. Mind you she usually comes back once in a while for weekends and spend it at my house before going back to about 3 states away from where I stay. To tell you how the love was so strong then.


She usually visits but this time she went straight home. She refused coming home. Even when I wanted to take her to shop. She told me to send the money to her instead. Then I started having ill feelings that she’s seeing someone else. Ok I had to tell her to atleast come let’s see. She said we should meet somewhere. Immediately she said this I became very feverish. This babe was like an angel to me. I didn’t wrong her, I didn’t offend her, we never quarreled before she left my house back to school.

When I realized myself I told her we should meet anywhere. She obliged. I took her to a very expensive eatery and talked to her and told her there’s no need to behave that way. That she shouldn’t worry about me anymore. She’s free to live her life. Her countenance changed as I left her there and went back home.


She still didn’t call back but I wasn’t worried anymore. After sometime I got a better job and moved out of that environment. This time I had to take a break in everything. Susan is also living her life but I decided to let them be. Not quite long Benita started calling again. But trust me, I’m off her. The job I have now opened me to so many people and I’m happy now. I must tell you the truth. No feelings anymore for her. Now. She tells me hi on a Monday and I say “ hello” on a Friday.

You haven't learned,why will you reply her message on Friday

If she tells you "Hi" on Monday, reply her "hello" after 2weeks
That's how it's done

Modified: Just read your story, I think I remembered when you posted it then
But it got me wondering... let's keep simping and redpill aside

I believe in treating a Lady with dignity, love and respect
But why is that a lot of ladies like misbehaving whenever their guy is treating them with love and respect

Is it an in-born tendency or are they trying to prove something or what
And most times such ones will now come running, begging for the relationship fire to be reignited again

I'm just thinking out loud though
I for myself have learned never to take ladies seriously, and only giving out a quarter of my emotions in any relationship

Read her message and ignore

mtchew Benita doesn't have your time yet else she knows what to do.From your write up sef you are a vegetable man

SavageBoy:
You haven't learned,why will you reply her message on Friday

If she tells you "Hi" on Monday, reply her "hello" after 2weeks
That's how it's done

..I like u man, my ex did thesame I beged tired, sometime when i.called him heard lady voice, I stopped calling after a month he called I told him I'm busy.. I hate one sided love, if I stopped loving u, if u like buy me iphone � 12 i.wont even like u nd I might even reject it

SavageBoy:
You haven't learned,why will you reply her message on Friday

If she tells you "Hi" on Monday, reply her "hello" after 2weeks
That's how it's done

Lols. Guy your blood dey hot o!

Zzor:
mtchew Benita doesn't have your time yet else she knows what to do.From your write up sef you are a vegetable man

On a serious note. Trust me. Where I Dey operate. I don’t need to look back. You know what I mean.

debbydams:
..I like u man, my ex did thesame I beged tired, sometime when i.called him heard lady voice, I stopped calling after a month he called I told him I'm busy.. I hate one sided love, if I stopped loving u, if u like buy me iphone � 12 i.wont even like u nd I might even reject it

Exactly..... when love dies it has died simple!

Brosbeforehoes:
Read her message and ignore

Yeah that’s cool though.

Toh.

This one fine, this one is nice, this one is beautiful na so mad man dey carry load

Zzor:
mtchew Benita doesn't have your time yet else she knows what to do.From your write up sef you are a vegetable man

And she's back at it again.

SavageBoy:
You haven't learned,why will you reply her message on Friday

If she tells you "Hi" on Monday, reply her "hello" after 2weeks
That's how it's done

Modified: Just read your story, I think I remembered when you posted it then
But it got me wondering... let's keep simping and redpill aside

I believe in treating a Lady with dignity, love and respect
But why is that a lot of ladies like misbehaving whenever their guy is treating them with love and respect

Is it an in-born tendency or are they trying to prove something or what
And most times such ones will now come running, begging for the relationship fire to be reignited again

I'm just thinking out loud though
I for myself have learned never to take ladies seriously, and only giving out a quarter of my emotions in any relationship

And that’s what I’m doing right now. I resorted not to love women but rather show them care. Learnt the hard way. You’re correct

Let me tell you something I have learnt over the time... It's not a nice idea to always settle for a lady you met randomly for a serious relationship it can only pass for entanglement

Before you choose a partner the first thing to do is to pray so God can position you for the right person

Getting a girl by association ( church,office,school, any place of interaction)is far better than meeting randomly because this will enable you to know this person without pretence or prejudice on your part

Both Susan n Benita is not just ideal... Pls don't b a simp but it's necessary to love n care for your woman.

Being a simp is evil n mind you stop putting your confidence in a better job let ur confidence be in you, a more better job or not...

God will give u a decent woman (Amen)

Nigerian girls are useless and worthless piece of shiíit.

Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

That's life... she don go, she don go be that. No time for serere.

Girls take doesn't like nice guys

mrbenjame:
I want to use this opportunity to thank everyone that advised me when I needed it most.

For those who are new to this topic can visit the former tread here:

https://www.nairaland.com/5637320/2-women-life-which-should

A lot happened after this time but I’d summarize it.... God help me. Lols.


Ok....... I had to settle for Benita after all. Everything was going smooth until she started messing up. Usually when she goes back to school ( 100 level as at last year 2020). She calls, both WhatsApp call and video call. She never wanted to miss me for a second.


After a while I started realizing that for 2 to 3 days I won’t hear from her. I decided to allow her probably she’s busy with assignments and all that. The 4th day I decided to call her. No response. To cut it short I had to chat her up. Told her what’s going on. The usual “I’ve been very busy lately”. She continued like that for two weeks. This time I decided to man up and tell her that I’m not comfortable with her recent attitude. She got angry and stopped chatting with me.


I started begging. But it took her another one week to respond. Ever since then, if for example I say hi on Monday, she replies hello on Tuesday. This continued like that till the lockdown. She came back from school. Mind you she usually comes back once in a while for weekends and spend it at my house before going back to about 3 states away from where I stay. To tell you how the love was so strong then.


She usually visits but this time she went straight home. She refused coming home. Even when I wanted to take her to shop. She told me to send the money to her instead. Then I started having ill feelings that she’s seeing someone else. Ok I had to tell her to atleast come let’s see. She said we should meet somewhere. Immediately she said this I became very feverish. This babe was like an angel to me. I didn’t wrong her, I didn’t offend her, we never quarreled before she left my house back to school.

When I realized myself I told her we should meet anywhere. She obliged. I took her to a very expensive eatery and talked to her and told her there’s no need to behave that way. That she shouldn’t worry about me anymore. She’s free to live her life. Her countenance changed as I left her there and went back home.


She still didn’t call back but I wasn’t worried anymore. After sometime I got a better job and moved out of that environment. This time I had to take a break in everything. Susan is also living her life but I decided to let them be. Not quite long Benita started calling again. But trust me, I’m off her. The job I have now opened me to so many people and I’m happy now. I must tell you the truth. No feelings anymore for her. Now. She tells me hi on a Monday and I say “ hello” on a Friday.

Heey man, i told you to mention me but it like you forgot. anyway bitch are always like that and beside don't response to any of her chat again.
my advice for you is to focus on new job and i need job in case there is vacancy at your place of work.

debbydams:
..I like u man, my ex did thesame I beged tired, sometime when i.called him heard lady voice, I stopped calling after a month he called I told him I'm busy.. I hate one sided love, if I stopped loving u, if u like buy me iphone � 12 i.wont even like u nd I might even reject it

Lol u might reject the iPhone 12, which means there's 80% probability u might collect the phone and will not give him a second chance. U won kill d guy double hrt break

[quote author=nitoriolohun post=98952612]Let me tell you something I have learnt over the time... It's not a nice idea to always settle for a lady you met randomly for a serious relationship it can only pass for entanglement

Before you choose a partner the first thing to do is to pray so God can position you for the right person

Getting a girl by association ( church,office,school, any place of interaction)is far better than meeting randomly because this will enable you to know this person without pretence or prejudice on your part

Both Susan n Benita is not just ideal... Pls don't b a simp but it's necessary to love n care for your woman.

Being a simp is evil n mind you stop putting your confidence in a better job let ur confidence be in you, a more better job or not...

God will give u a decent woman (Amen)

[/quote...meeting a girl in church is a scam....no let them whine u

mosdii:
Nigerian Girls Are Useless...All Of Them

No exceptions

Zzor:
mtchew Benita doesn't have your time yet else she knows what to do.From your write up sef you are a vegetable man

aunty if you don't have sense, try n buy one no matter how cheap kk. come out plain on the fact that you a who're than masquerading as a saint... olosho oshi....

Keemsleek005:


Lol u might reject the iPhone 12, which means there's 80% probability u might collect the phone and will not give him a second chance. U won kill d guy double hrt break

lol

[quote author=drmikeadams post=98959309][/quote]

I think simp is now a new word to you unless you don’t know how to use it. I’m a man who has an open heart to life. I don’t worship women. I only try to be responsible so I don’t know where your simp is coming from. I got a better job and left the environment. Whether job or not I’ve made up my mind not to have anything to do with her again. Why is it a problem to you? My words stand. Don’t think I’m a little kid. I didn’t create this thread for you to advice me. I opened it for people who knew what has happened before now. Please mind your speech. What do you know by the word simp? My new job has nothing to do with my attitude towards her ok? If that’s where you’re going

[quote author=mrbenjame post=98969509]

I think simp is now a new word to you unless you don’t know how to use it. I’m a man who has an open heart to life. I don’t worship women. I only try to be responsible so I don’t know where your simp is coming from. I got a better job and left the environment. Whether job or not I’ve made up my mind not to have anything to do with her again. Why is it a problem to you? My words stand. Don’t think I’m a little kid. I didn’t create this thread for you to advice me. I opened it for people who knew what has happened before now. Please mind your speech. What do you know by the word simp? My new job has nothing to do with my attitude towards her ok? If that’s where you’re going [/quote

[quote author=drmikeadams post=98959309][/quote]


I let her out of my life for almost one year before I got another job. If I’m a simp atleast I would have been stalking on her then. But I didn’t. Like you said; confidence is in you whether new job or not. So that’s what I’ve displayed all along. Hope this helps you understand me better.

SavageBoy:
You haven't learned,why will you reply her message on Friday

If she tells you "Hi" on Monday, reply her "hello" after 2weeks
That's how it's done

Modified: Just read your story, I think I remembered when you posted it then
But it got me wondering... let's keep simping and redpill aside

I believe in treating a Lady with dignity, love and respect
But why is that a lot of ladies like misbehaving whenever their guy is treating them with love and respect

Is it an in-born tendency or are they trying to prove something or what
And most times such ones will now come running, begging for the relationship fire to be reignited again

I'm just thinking out loud though
I for myself have learned never to take ladies seriously, and only giving out a quarter of my emotions in any relationship

Lol. When you place anyone on a pedestal and elevates him/her above you, such tends to see you as unworthy of his/her attentions. This applies to women most times. The more available you are, the lesser her perceived value of u.

luminouz:


Lol. When you place anyone on a pedestal and elevates him/her above you, such tends to see you as unworthy of his/her attentions. This applies to women most times. The more available you are, the lesser her perceived value of u.

You deserve chilled bottle of Heineken

I'll pick and save the last sentence of your statement in my memory drive

SavageBoy:


You deserve chilled bottle of Heineken

I'll pick and save the last sentence of your statement in my memory drive

It happens to both sex but women have it most