No mind am, let him be dragging kitchen in another woman's home

payloader:
He doesn't understand that his brother's wife is the madam of the house.

That's her house bro, you either respect her or you leave the house...

yes she does!

ibkayee:
So much missing from your story but even with the small details you’ve provided I’m seeing problems lol why are you in their matrimonial home abeg

See jamb question, abeg for what reason do people go n squat, if there is money to get her own place and setup will she be managing under them and be fighting over who cooks in the kitchen or who owns the pot, somethings are so downgrading and it all boils down to a poor mindset.

Question no 1 is asking is the food stuffs u cooked, did u buy it yourself or u used the general house foodstuffs for your guest without permission from madam of the house?

If u did, go and apologize to her n your brother. She doesn't hate u, she is prolly just tired of your disrespect...

She is not an enemy, she is supposed to be a friend.

My elder brothers wife, not like we r talking buddies but we have a very cordial relationship. Cos I respect myself n respect her when I visit their house. When she is cooking, I will go and ask her, how can I help out. She will now day ahn, brother no!...don't do anything it is fine.

As she serves my brother food, she also serves mine.

Plus I don't live in her house, I just go visiting. Pack to your own house bro for respect

Right now, I have 3 sister in-laws.
All have their unique boundaries. It only took little interaction with them to understand their boundaries.

My first in-law (wife of our most senior brother) is like my blood sister. I could enter her kitchen and literarily any part of the house with little to no constraint. I would go to the market, shop for her and when she’s too busy, I’d cook for her. In fact, you would think we’re siblings.

My 2 other in-laws are the exact opposite. I understand their boundaries and don’t have to interfere with them and everyone lives peacefully. I wouldn’t dare enter the kitchen, not necessarily because they’d object but more because I personally don’t feel free doing so.

Life is easy if you make an extra effort to study the people around you.

franchasng:
I have been wondering this don't enter a woman's kitchen and I have been laughing here, this kitchen must be powerful

I swear I can't relate to this kitchen palava. Kitchen naa shrine

BRATISLAVA:


What some females are still doing in their father or siblings homes.

You people act like life is Rosy for everyone and as if marriage means cutting off entirely from your families.

This is why widows suffer, because they were always staking claims on their husbands and acting like their in-laws are useless people to be living with them.

What is he still doing there? Waiting for his own life to happen.

Because men like you have refused to marry them.....

Not cutting of families, but respect your space and their space..... From the way he spoke, his sense of entitlement is massive........

Widows got no right to suffer, if their husband's put his house in order....... So blame the clueless husband's.....


He waits for his own life to happen, when his brother is not a bachelor.......... So if his life never happens, he becomes a lifetime pest and pet........

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

Before I comment I want to ask you a question first.
Are you the one that created a thread two days ago that you came back from travel and met your brother and his wife having sex in your room and you were angry because the wife didn't wash the bedsheets?
If yes, I am not surprised, your days in that house were numbered because you sounded too petty.
Back to the present matter, you said you and your brother laboured for everything he has, to me this is where your problem started from. You arrogated too much relevance to yourself in people's home . I think the wife is trying to cut you to size, before you also start claiming that you also laboured for her acquisition too.
However evicting you is your brother's role maybe she feels your brother is not Manning up enough on this matter.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

You self get small sense you dey stay with your brother, you come carry friend come house cook chop together for woman present, you no know say no be all women fit take that kind thing.
For the woman she over reacted, which is not good at all.
I see where you say you both struggled together, I don't argue that fact but, you see, now he is married, he is one flesh. I think you have to leave your brother to enjoy his marriage, so you too can enjoy your life.
I have stayed with couples, some husbands we give you rules if you are ok with the rules you stay but if it's the other way you go. There was this one that plainly told me, my brother you don't go to the kitchen yourself then after hearing will I still go there? No. if I do go then am only going to cause trouble for the couple.

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

All these home breakers quoting me, that he cooked the food by himself. In whose kitchen and with whose authority? Most problems in marriage is from husband's parents and relations mostly if the man is the family ATM. Marrying a family breadwinner makes one an automatic Bad Wife hearts of the husband's family.

Current or savings??
You hit the nail on the head!?

Katier00:
did you miss the part he was shouting at her. You said this because you are not married

marriage should never separate brothers

Before she got married to him he has always been his brother

Just imagine the audacity the lady has to send her husband's brother packing

That's a boundary you should never cross as a wife

Believe me only a simp would pat her on the back for that

To me that alone could lead to divorce

freetheking:
I'm so sorry that she throw your belongings out of the house of which I know it's not good. Secondly,you did not behave well by going to her pot without her concent. Let me tell you this and every other person reading thread, there are two things that women don't tolerate.

(1) Going to her pot without her concent.

(2) Interfering in the matter that concerns her and her husband.
You will be a good brother in-law or sister in-law.

They don't tolerate anything from the husbands family period. As for the op, just look for a new house. You can't stay with them

Please get out of the house ASAP

Twoclans:
This country is really getting harder by the day,alot of people are angry and frustrated.

When people fight because of food it breaks my heart because it just shows the level of poverty and poverty mentality that abounds in this country.

@OP no vex,if it is possible try and resolve issues with her even before your brother comes back. Women can sometimes be intoxicated with power. Be a man and resolve the issues at hand then work hard to have your own space.

The kind of things that trip some women sef
Kitchen food ? When okonjo iweala just broke new record.

getting worked up over food, while her mates are working hard to be the next okonjo iweala

If us story is true,u did nothing wrong jus dat she already had bitterness in her heart for u,who goes into d kitchen should nt b a problem for d fact u give her her maximum respect...i kip wondering y we ladies drag kitchen alot.

Lexusgs430:


Because men like you have refused to marry them.....

Not cutting of families, but respect your space and their space..... From the way he spoke, his sense of entitlement is massive........

Widows got no right to suffer, if their husband's put his house in order....... So blame the clueless husband's.....


He waits for his own life to happen, when his brother is not a bachelor.......... So if his life never happens, he becomes a lifetime pest and pet........

It is cutting off families. If you only see eat Christmas, you might as well be strangers. If they cannot live with you, they must be strangers.

He could be entitled because he says he owns what his brother owns, maybe he's the one who pushed his brother and helped him, so much that a woman got interested in marrying him.

You talk as if everyone is destined to become wealthy, if so, why are widows suffering and why are there poor people. Let's be realistic here. People aren't clueless because they couldn't get money in life.

Allow him to wait for his life to happen. He can't force things that don't come to him or do you think wheel barrow pushers don't fight for financial freedom, though it may never come? If they die and their widows suffer, they aren't clueless.

If his brother doesn't want him, he can leave for him. Everyone is a tenant in the life of another person while they wait for their lives to happen, not always physically. Not everyone is fortunate, no matter how much they struggle. Let's be realistic again.

cricifixo:
Tell that to your father

unfortunately my father would never choose a vagina over his own flesh and blood

Seeing your post alone makes my blood boils

It reminds me of what Joseph suffered in potiphars house

You are a disgrace to men worldwide

IN FACT

IF foolishness COULD BE MEASURED YOU WOULD BE USED AS it's SI UNIT

D she has the right

Toks2008:


She has every right so calm down and respect her cos if you disrespect her then you disrespect your brother.

She has no right to throw out her hubby lil sis .... lets stop been foolish because we want to have undenied access to pvssy @ night.
You return from work n see your lil sis luggages outside, does that show your wife respect you, does that depict you are in charge of your home.
Women will alway want to put a man in the middle, the best way to handle it is prove to both side you own yourself.

pocohantas:


One would think I am a jobless dumb orphan who can’t fight for what she contributed to. Too much Nigerian film is affecting you. You must be an EBSU student like the OP.

Do you also know that how you respect your brother’s wife would determine how you all live happily? Learn that first. You all keep yapping about respect when the OP has the effrontery to exchange words with his brother’s wife in her matrimonial home. Maybe that was how your uncles talked to your mothers while you were kids, hence the normalization.



Like they are dealing with the OP faaa!

was he supposed to build an altar to. Worship her

These control freakish maniacs called women

cricifixo:
Unfortunately she does and can equally shoot you for trespassing

would this guy accept his brother in his house when he get's married - why do people want to over-stay their welcome and think it is an entitlement

bros, no vex but its not your house ooo.


marriage is a union. your brother is someone's wife too

to answer your question, she can actually throw you out

its her house as much as it is her husbands

however the intricases of your beef with her is not something we can judge

we werent there when it started

Lexusgs430:



Yes she has a right..... What are you still doing in your brother's house?

If you both struggled for it, time to request your share and move on........

I am not surprised, you that met abuja gurl within two days we know as you they behave on NL .... i just hope your friends & family stay far away from you when you marry cos your mumu for women is on another level.

Your brother is the first person to be blamed, followed by you.

Your brother knows his wife very well and knows your character, yet he allowed you guys to live under the same roof - thats a mistake.

Also he failed to give you the share of your so-called "combined" hustle.

And you, you worked all your youth for him, you did not think he ll get married and have children?

You should leave their home and make something for yourself instead of fighting on meat and pepper

The question should be can she throw her brother bag out of the house if he did that?
Or would she be happy if her husband does the same.
I understand the point the op is coming from.
And I know the kind of ladies we have now,they don't want to see their husband families around. They cherish their own, and habour hatred against their husband families,Yes Its what am experiencing. She doesn't have the the right to do that only your brother can. Alots of ladies claim to love their husband, and show fake love to the husband families.

You are the world standard benchmark for stupidity.

ume1000:
unfortunately my father would never choose a vagina over his own flesh and blood

Seeing your post alone makes my blood boils

It reminds me of what Joseph suffered in potiphars house

You are a disgrace to men worldwide

IN FACT

IF foolishness COULD BE MEASURED YOU WOULD BE USED AS it's SI UNIT

NotFarFrom:
I feel that this story is half true. Secondly why shout at her and keep cam later? Why didn't you keep calm from the onset.

Well this is my answer to your question.

YES SHE CAN THROW YOU OUT BECAUSE ITS HER EFFING HOUSE.

her house because she open leg abi contribute financially to its errections

SAVAGEBETS:


Look at this outsider talking. If your brother get sense E go shock you. The moment a man married a woman everyone else automatically becomes third party.. It's people like you who destroy homes, better go and build your own home and leave her alone in peace.. You're an outsider, a third party in fact your being in that house in the first place is out of her own magnanimity. A husband is the Head of the home, the wife is the neck. Lukadiswan, dragging another woman's house with her, wait you even had the nerve to enter her kitchen to cook without her consent.. Oh wait you even received a first without her consent, my friend if you were my brother and tried it with my wife I'm kicking you out immediately, how you treat her now that I'm alive tells me how you'll treat her and my kids is I'm no more. Gadddemmm!!!

that's how brothers get separated because one of them is a simp whom can't call his wife to order

She dey craze be that ooo, tho am happy you did restrain from slapping sense into her dumb head, who does she think she is, na marry dem marry, she has not right to do that and since she could to that to a blood Brother how much the parents.

If I be that brother I go firsr beat craze commot for her body next na her Papa house she dey go

Once they marry they start to misbehave I don't blame men that are been strong handed to them.

Yeye certain Nigerian women.

aroundtheearth:
If she were here to defend her actions, OP would look worse than he already does, as I'm sure she would have lots to say.

No, it's not an unfair assumption on my part because by reason alone, nothing takes place without a cause (or causes). She certainly didn't wake up one day and decided to pack his things out without any cause(s), so there are things that have led to it.

He shouldn't even be living in their matrimonial home in the first place.

Are you going to kick your brother out of your house assuming he is still struggling to find his feat in life ? The same brother that has been there for you during your struggling days, just because your married ? Let me tell you something, that same woman would have felt insulted and humiliated, if the brother in law had asked her to serve his visitor. You women are just too difficult to leave with. I will never ever turn my back on my family, who has been there for me all my life, for any lady, whose love and affection is clearly conditional.