IyaTola:
People would be angry/bitter at uncles & aunties for not taking care of them but not with the parents who had them with no future plans. Your parents have 8 kids but your uncle with 4 kids is wicked because his children travel for summer when you haven't paid school fees. How

"A friend's elder sister was married off at a young age so he could go to Uni. He's working now & is burdened with raising his sister's children & the other kids his parents kept having while he was at Uni (the youngest is barely 6).

It's a very long, lonely road ahead for him."

That said, Black Tax is EVIL!
It's not older/richer child responsibility. It's not love or duty. It's not parental enjoyment of the fruits of labour. It's EVIL.

This thing, where parents heap their heavy burden of other children on the first child or the child who earns more.

Now that you're done with school, you must take care of the family. Now that you're a banker, you must start paying fees for your younger ones. Now that you're this, now that you're that.

A first daughter has been married for barely three months. Her husband happens to be quite well-off. She asked her siblings not to make any demands from the man, as it won't tell well of their family. But her younger sister believes she's wrong, and wants to go over her head and ask her brother-in-law for money. After all, the man is generous and will give if asked. Besides, he should be catering to his wife's family of five. Not to mention siblings who become entitled, lazy and oh-so-demanding.

A friend asked if a certain federal university in Nigeria charged 200k per session. That's what her younger brother asks for each year - minus books, practicals, exam fees, photosynthesis and parallelogram . She's working her butt off abroad, slaving for ungrateful, thieving, lying twats! .

On the rare occasions that she complains, her parents throw out one proverb about how the head of a first child is for the younger siblings to stand on. My heart breaks for the mostly oldest children in their forties and late thirties, who haven't had the chance to build investment portfolios, have reasonable savings, find love and marriage, buy themselves new things, build their dreams - because they're caring for younger ones.
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armyofone:
No matter how the head strong reach, if they stand on it, the head no go broke ? The head na rock ?

RisenPhoenix1:
It is somewhat crippling but it's part of what makes us Africans. However, we should draw strict lines in the sand. Budget before helping anyone. Make sure that you stay within budget and that every family member gets a share.

Liposure:
Spare the charity, spoil the dependants. Meanwhile, the future is united.

RisenPhoenix1:
It is somewhat crippling but it's part of what makes us Africans. However, we should draw strict lines in the sand. Budget before helping anyone. Make sure that you stay within budget and that every family member gets a share.

PrimadonnaO:
I actually believe responsibility to family is something that should come naturally to someone who genuinely loves his/her family. It shouldn't be imposed.

I don't see how I'll have money to spare and I won't see to it that my most immediate friends and family, at least, are getting on fine, too. What's the joy in doing well while the rest of your family struggle without help? That feels selfish and unloving.

Life is good when you're happy, but much better when others are happy because of you.

general111:
My parents gave birth to three boys.
My elder brother is doing fairly well for himself.
I am also doing well for myself.
My younger brother is just worrying us for money everytime, just because he is in the university.
University wey i don go oh..
Hahaha..
I thank God for my parents sha