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Re: I Disowned My Mother by JONSYN7154: 4:34pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
MISSCONGENIALITY:the question Here is the mother might not be the mother. |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by Osedagal(f): 4:35pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
papiforreal: Oga shut the hell up.. Did you read the post it you just want to fool yourself.. Miseducation kill you there 5 Likes |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by Sterope(f): 4:35pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
Exactly. Two people made some hard and difficult decisions. I doubt it was easy for the brother to record his mother or the op to disown their mother. Their mother's hatred is on another new level I can't fathom. One can wish the mother comes to her senses and the issue is resolved. aroundtheearth: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by AwesomeStormy00(m): 4:40pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
What you need is to keep your friends close and keep your enemy closer. I believe your wife's mother won't like shit that somebody wants her daughter death. Please apply wisdom Francis609: |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by xavuv: 4:40pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
bptc10: How old r u big baby Why r u ppl sentimental in reasoning What if somebody wants ur daughter dead 3 Likes |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by BluntTheApostle(m): 4:41pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
Francis609: First of all, never make decisions when you are angry. As it is, with the loss of your child, you are in a lot of pain and are obviously not thinking straight. I know it is wrong to wish death on a human being, but disowning your mother for showing preferences towards a baby at the expense of your wife is not enough reason to disown her. Give it sometime. When you have finished mourning your child, have a chat with your mother. There must be a reason why she doesn't like your wife. I am not seeing she is justified for wishing death on your wife. But disowning your mother without knowing her reasons may be an injustice that you may end up regretting for the rest of your life. |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by AfonjaConehead: 4:43pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
ceeceeuwa: Guy chill ooo... nobody says what she said is kool but don't forget she lost a grand child too and some women who aren't too friendly with their daughters in law can become unguarded.. peeps tends to regret certain actions later |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by mutter(f): 4:43pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
nyerovwo4me: Someone forgot their medication Please don't get aggressive... |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by plot697: 4:43pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
Francis609, your write up tells me you are still young and inexperience. You disown your own mother because of your wife? Listen to this, a man was sentenced to 10 yrs in prison for killing his landlord whom he caught him with his wife. Before he served out the sentence, the wife had three children for another man. This happened in the East. A second one happened in Ogun state late 2019. This man returned unexpectedly to meet his wife with another man in his bedroom. In that anger he killed the man instantly. The next day, police arrested the man and he is still in detention till date. |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by RMoneyInTheBank: 4:44pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
Francis609:..gentlemen hustle ooooooo.... There is a kind of money one will have, even if he or she gets married to a goat, the mother has no choice but to like the goat |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by 8BowlofFlour: 4:45pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
id4sho: Lol funny you |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by BluntTheApostle(m): 4:47pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
xavuv: You can't blame him for being sentimental. Issues like this make people sentimental. Supposing your brother disowns your mother for preferring that his wife's life be sacrificed for their baby's, would you just support his decision? Matters like this are better solved using diplomacy, not anger. |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by ceeceeuwa: 4:48pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
AfonjaConehead:The grandchild she lost didn't pain her o! If it did, she would not be in a position to be making unguarded utterances. Death is a wicked thing to wish someone. For her not to show remorse afterwards shows that she can kill that lady if she gets the opportunity. 5 Likes |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 4:50pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
JONSYN7154:I don't understand |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by larryking540: 4:52pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
so ur mama wan turn you to widower na waooo 1 Like |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by VULCAN(m): 4:52pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
It's fascinating how almost all those who are advising you not to disown your mother are women. Most Nigerian women have a very mean streak inside them. That's why they are easily initiated into witchcraft and are the dominant clients of medicine men 1 Like |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by larryking540: 4:53pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
ceeceeuwa:even if it means turning the son to a widower .... |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by larryking540: 4:55pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
VULCAN:na na u know bro wen I see a lady treat her house made in a harsh manner and the pic is posted ,and people rain insult on the house wife ,I tell them to keep quite becu most ladies on this forum are also capable of such ,only few are exempted |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by JONSYN7154: 4:55pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
MISSCONGENIALITY:No any genuine mother will wish his son bad. 1 Like |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by larryking540: 4:57pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
plot697: yeah u are right but if ur person no wish person better na death u con wish the person,abeg run from that person ,shae the mother no be woman like e wife 3 Likes |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by heniford2: 4:58pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
Francis609:something must have made your lovely mother to hate your wife like this disowning is useless remember she's your mother,your first wife try to know why she hate her and bring peace ,mothers are golden bro |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 4:58pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
grammarnazi12:LOL. Just tell me say you want run comot from our darling shithole before. Everyone can't think alike even where you are running to. The are stupid People everywhere and sometimes situations make people stupid. The guy might not be stupid ordinarily but if he grew up seeing his mother as a perfect human, there's nothing a mother will do that he won't look for excuses to justify the act. His reasoning truely appauling as you said. He expects the man to treat his mother better with such statement she made about his wife who's going through the pains of losing a child after a whole nige months and labour pains. It's really bad coming from a woman. 1 Like |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by Alwaysachick: 5:01pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
I know a lady who just died from traumas resulting from mother in law's hate to in-laws. Some mothers and in-laws can be terrible. If the wife isn't what they want, they frustrate her till she dies. Op this isn't an issue to take likely, although you didn't give us full details like the tribe and when the hatred she has for your wife start and if this is a new behavior or she has been like that. I will advice you keep both mother and step mother away from your family. Can't tell who the devil might be using. Keep all of them far away 2 Likes |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by BluntTheApostle(m): 5:01pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
kense88: Some of you forget that you will be parents one day. There are better ways to handle problems like this rather than disowning the mother. Many of us will witness rebellion one day as parents. The day when our children who we watched grow up will disagree with us on something. For some people, they will not be able to bear it. It would seem like all their efforts had gone to waste and that their children had abandoned them. Men may not really feel this very much. But women tend to feel it more, especially with regards to their male children getting married. I am not making excuses for her. But no one should make excuses for OP disowning his mother. Matters like this can still be resolved amicably. It is very obvious that OP's mother is a stubborn woman. But OP is stubborn too, and must have inherited his stubbornness from his mother. One day, OP too may have clashes with his own child too. How would he feel if his own child disowns him? |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by shaklisco(m): 5:02pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
mutter:it is only few people can understand and think the way you think, even for the guy to say he disown her own mother over what he heard is even worse than the offense her mother committed. if they both disown them self, I mean if the mother also disown her own son the way her son son claim he disown her mother who do you think is going to feel the heat? many people will say the mother, but the truth is that, the son will feel it most no matter how rich you are, am not supporting what the mother said, what the guy suppose do is to visit her mother and let her know how disappoint he feel to hear such a things and try find out why her mother don't want him to marry her wife, funny enough it may be for the safety of his own, because life play out like that, And never think your step mother love you than your mother even if it seems so, I pray your wife will not die untimely death, may Almighty Allah also give you children that will live long to take care of you and your wife till the old age Amin, my brother cool down visit your mama let her feel comfortable so that you can hear the truth, for your mumu brother time will tell how foolish he is. |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by ceeceeuwa: 5:03pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
papiforreal:It is apalling to call another man's wife a hoe! How old are you please 3 Likes |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by ceeceeuwa: 5:07pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
larryking540:She wouldn't mind! Is not what she just said? |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by BluntTheApostle(m): 5:08pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
plot697: The only problem I have with your post is the last paragraph. OP loves his wife so she must be worth dying for as far as OP is concerned. However, the rest of your post makes sense. There is an uncle of mine whose wife I don't like. Because I have proofs that she is (WAS, maybe) an adulterer. His mother knows this as well. She is someone who never wants her son's marriage to break up. But she had talked to the woman. So, I am hoping she has changed. But me, I don't like cheats. So, I can NEVER like her. OP should have a chat with his mother. Some hate are just malicious. But some have reasons behind them. And even if the hate is without reason, disowning should not surface yet. That is a rather rash decision. |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by AwesomeStormy00(m): 5:09pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
papiforreal: Bros this is somebody's wife o. It is wrong to say jack shit on people you barely know. #respect 2 Likes |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by ceeceeuwa: 5:13pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
plot697:So because there are adulterous women out there, does that make all women untrustworthy? The fact that there are Yahoo boys and armed robbers, touts and miscreant doesn't make all men evil! Think about the good some. In your family, that is enough reason for you to have hope in humanity! 2 Likes |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by BabaIbo: 5:13pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
xavuv: Swear that you have never wished any of your leaders death. When Abba Kyari died, some people said they wished it was the president... that died. Because they felt he's the cause of the happenings in the country. That is similar thing to what the OP posted, the mom out of her sentimental love wished the wife died instead of the kid who probably my be her first grandchild, maybe because OP is her son and she knows the kid will forever be hers irrespective of a divorce or not, and again the case will be different if OP is her daughter and not a son. The OP need to apply wisdom in this kind of issue. Decision on such delicate matters shouldn't be taken in a hurry because it may come back to hunt him. Again, the brother should have applied wisdom in handling this, it is not everything you hear that you must say. Your mom didn't deny it means something, and again she will now see your brother in another light. How you handle this will determine how you guys will live henceforth... If you disown her and cut off all contact with her, she won't relate with you, your brother(for carrying the info) and your family. If you apply wisdom and follow up the issue diligently, you may succeed in draining away the bad blood that has been flowing in your family and that will leave everyone happy after. Find out why she has such feeling towards her, women can be funny at times. On the other hand, OP don't even know if both of them are in two separate cults and they are using him to practise their power fight. |
Re: I Disowned My Mother by MISSCONGENIALITY(f): 5:15pm On Mar 05, 2021 |
JONSYN7154:Some women are too bitter and can wish their child anything and you begin to wonder if they really have birth to the child. Just like it's not every man who got a woman pregnant is a Father, not every woman who carries pregnancy is a mother. Women give birth and dump the babies in the dustbin, some in the pit toilet some even strangle the baby instead of just leaving them alive where someone can pick them. 5 Likes |
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