AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Shebi you have seen what you were searching for in his phone?!

Nothing concern me in dix post, I don't even know why I commented

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

99% men cheat...it's unfortunate ur guy ain't among d 1%....if he satisfies u spiritually.. morally... financially... sexually....den never leave....dey buy condom give am sef so he doesn't dash u any std....but if u can't really can't....use soldiers arrest him n lock him in guardroom for 7 gud days n on d 7th day he will sign undertaking never to cum near u n if anything happens to u...he will b held culpable....no use police ooo....e go cost u 50k to use soljo....EOD

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

Hahahaha

Look at this one.

So you want people to give you a reason to stay?

Well, I think you are in the wrong place if you came to Nairaland of all places.

But all the same, I wish you luck in whatever you decide to do with your life from henceforth...

Ciao

Kriss216:





I like this your boyfriend oo.


If actually you know what it takes to ask a Nigerian girl out


Your boyfriend suppose win Time's Man of the Year.

Exactly

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,vI met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

you are selfish and narcissistic .
no judgement

99thEnemy:






He is showing you the characteristics of the 5%.




95, 5, 59, 10 ... Pls which number did I miss?

Thunder fire u

PrettyBunny:
I'm reading so many disgusting replies but I would rather not comment on them..

Cheating is not a shortcoming of anyone and should never be accepted in a relationship. It's not a mistake and neither is it part of ups and downs of any relationship.

Any man that believes every man must, should be castrated. Only a man that lacks priority in life and has no intention of treating any woman right, believes every man must cheat. It's a disgusting way of life.

I am sure you know that this man isn't your rightful partner. Whatever truly belongs you won't embarrass you.

My advise? End every pending relationship with him, take your time and heal up. Then look for what truly belongs to you. This current man is a dirty scumbag and shouldn't taint your beautiful life.

I wish you good luck in all your endeavors.

if you like hit your head on the wall , it doesn't change the fact that men re born cheaters.nature didnt give men a raging testetereone to be with one woman. Have you ever wonder why men testetereone is 20times bigger than women?
Nature created women with low sex drive while men have raging libido. If you woke ladies think you can change status quo you re on a long thing you will end up moving from one cheat to another. 90% men out there re fucking cheaters including me, even though i have never been caught and I dont hide my phone Goodluck to you looking for men that doesnt cheat on earth

Come and marry me. I have a gun. He dares not come close

If you were financially independent, he wouldn't have had the guts to talk that way to you. He is not just a cheat, he is a very proud empty brain. leave him, and please, try and start earning your own money.

Angelacruz:
manage him like that..[img]

Haha wickedness

ITbomb:
Audition for Man of the Year 2021 has just been closed

Amma buy dat niqqa a beer every fvrkin day till the end of the year

So you Don pity daughter of jazabel again ni

Remijuice:
I can't cheat on my partner that's why I don't fancy being in any relationship..

Imagine one girl asking me 'this thing we are doing is it serious at all'? Person wey I never ask out o.

I stopped seeing her, she started threatening me..

Did date her or what?

walter11590:
He is showing you the characteristics of the 5%. 95, 5, 59, 10 ... Pls which number did I miss?

Just look at how nairaland guys are defending him,shame on you all. if it was the other way round, the story would have been different. Please leave that man, he will always cheat.

AdesewaAde.
Please, Kindly report him to the police because of his threat.
it may sound funny but men like him can destroy your upcoming boyfriend or finace life.
abeg help the innocent person that will come to your life

The guy is a bastard.. leave his sorry arse


Kai people wicked oo..

Apreecauts:
Lol, immediately I finished reading OP's story, I already knew how the comment section would be. To anyone here trying to defend the fiance even in the slightest bit, shame on you. If it were to be a girl telling her bf "all girls cheat so you just have to deal with it", I'm very sure everyone single person here would rain insults and curses on her but because it's a guy, everyone wants to turn a blind eye smh. Anyways, I'm not even surprised, why would they condemn him, when they all act in the same manner.

To the OP, my advice for you is to record any threatening messages or words he says to you and take it to the police now, rather than waiting for him to fulfill his threats. You also have to call off the engagement, though it would be painful. Please do not listen to what his parents have to tell you, there might be some people who don't mind being with a cheating husband but if you know you're not one of them, please leave him unless you want to have an unhappy marriage. Have you even considered that fact that you are likely to contact any STDs he might have.

Well, that's the advice I have to give you, take it if you like.

This is the best advice I have read so far.

Oluromantic:
Hmmm I'm afraid I have both of you to blame. I do not support what he did but you too are just beginning to understand the life of a man. Most men do it but your man was wrong in that he didn't place you high enough over others. You are probably one of the kind of women who get deeply pained over cheating. For you at this level of getting close to marriage and still have the inkling that there's no tendency for him to cheat is being unrealistic. I'm not saying he has d right to cheat but for a woman who's ready to stay in marriage, you shd have learnt before now to take your mind off his cheating tendency. I guess that wasn't included in your upbringing or self training. That's what your mom-in-law was trying to figure out for you..like a woman who wants to last in husband house must close her eyes off her husband's cheating tendency blabla.

For him not to groom you from the onset that he's a free man sexually so as to prepare your mind for what you're coming into is also wrong. For him to tell his side chicks that you're in his life is good, it shows he values you despite their sexual service...some men will deny their wives. But for them to call you names like witch and he's comfortable with it is wrong. Strangely, there are some ladies who even work out chicks for their fiance when they're not around. But it's d man who shd be careful not to misbehave.


This is true for many men. They'll see other girls they like but won't place them above you.

But from your description of him, he seem not to care about your respect. When some men will frown at side chicks for abusing their wives both in her presence and absence, he was too flexible that they have no regard for you. Then also, you need to ignore the number of girls you saw on his phone, it's not always like that. Before a man gets a girl to sleep with, he has to toast about 3-5 before one succumbs, shakara won't let others. So it doesn't mean he's sleeping with 10 girls at the moment.

Stupid bad advice. Nigerians accept rubbish in all ramifications of life.
Cheating men are dangerous men. High risk. They bring in diseases, they have other families outside that spring up trouble inthe future and some have girls that plan and execute evil against the main girlfriend + finance is always stretched.
Everyone has the tendency to cheat-male and female, but no one should EVER GET COMFORTABLE OR RESIGNED with a cheat. Always demand and expect change.
If he wouldn't discipline himself or sacrifice (which is what love is about really) some of his cravings, then a lady should move on

Please leave that relationship. That guy will infect you with HIV. If you marry him you wont see him at home again. He know you know about his cheating so what. You will marry yourself

Leave for your sanity or you will cry for life. Not all men cheat and forget that figure that 90% cheat na lie.

Na some dogs who lay with every female you should blame. There are still good men out there

If you end up marrying that Man,You are in for an enternal journey ride of Cheating with so many unknown STD's.

Congrats Dear.

Don't be surprised when he boldly starts bringing the side chicks home to warm your matrimonial bed daily with you present to join in.

The day I visited a married friend and the wife entered, looked at me and smiled then faced the husband and said..."Is He My Package"?
That was the day I knew party in marriage is a thing. Not to talk of an Open Marriage

Married people, I hail una biko.

Hassanmaye:

Thunder fire u

Na OP boyfriend need the thunder oh! no be me

btw

AdesewaAde:

These days that the new trend is setting boyfriend or girlfriend Ablaze.

OP, you should always check and make sure that there is no Jerrycan of Petrol close by..

You should also stop using gas. Abacha stove (charcoal) is the best alternative to use for cooking





OP this advice is as a result of my Philia love for you.

You mean, you can't let yourself go. Mugu

I support this as well. Best comments so far. Op, I hope you have left him right now. Concerning his threats, whenever he calls you, make sure you have other gadget to record his call or something. Take it to police station and let them(police) tell him that he will be held responsible if anything happens to you. He can't do nothing to you. The guy just want to be scaring you and that's one of the reasons you should flee. He is full of sh.its

If you have been financially dependent on him, it's time to double your hussles.

You will surely regret it if you marry that guy. Flee and block all avenues for him to reach you

Apreecauts:
Lol, immediately I finished reading OP's story, I already knew how the comment section would be. To anyone here trying to defend the fiance even in the slightest bit, shame on you. If it were to be a girl telling her bf "all girls cheat so you just have to deal with it", I'm very sure everyone single person here would rain insults and curses on her but because it's a guy, everyone wants to turn a blind eye smh. Anyways, I'm not even surprised, why would they condemn him, when they all act in the same manner.

To the OP, my advice for you is to record any threatening messages or words he says to you and take it to the police now, rather than waiting for him to fulfill his threats. You also have to call off the engagement, though it would be painful. Please do not listen to what his parents have to tell you, there might be some people who don't mind being with a cheating husband but if you know you're not one of them, please leave him unless you want to have an unhappy marriage. Have you even considered that fact that you are likely to contact any STDs he might have.

Well, that's the advice I have to give you, take it if you like.

brightfuture24:
You are a disgusting, patriarchal and illiterate fool. How dare you try to justify cheating What a big fool. Men in this part of the world are not only shameless, but they expect women to accept their irrational shame.


OP and other ladies here, don't you ever in your lives condone cheating. You do not only invite evil spirits into your bodies, but also STDs. Don't listen to this bloody fool here telling you that a man will always cheat. They are rare, but there are good men out there who do NOT.


How could someone sit down and type this bullshit, and no moderator on here deleted it? Bloody bastard fool.

Malu

chinonyinye:
Somebody that has told her that he will always cheat. It's suprising that no one is slamming the man compared to if it was a woman. Op, the only thing i will tell you is to go ahead if you're not afraid of STDs, him having children outside or him bringing the women home or even threat afterall he has justified his cheating and isnt remorseful. As for those advising her to stay, can you take a cheating partner or advise your sister to stay in such a r/ship? Afterall, whats good for the gander is good for the goose.

My brother (or sister) I gave the same three points as u have done to counter one stupid advice like that.
-STDs
-Bastards that forkents trouble in the future
-Rivals that plan evil
+ -overstretched finance.
Many cheat. But one good side to look for is remorse and respect.
And please, dont just try to ask those low lives if they will allow their sisters or themselves to be in such relationships, because, they will. Many in Nigeria sadly accord themselves little value

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social ife with a man who doesn’t have taste.

You shouldn't be playing wife with someone you are not married to. Nearly there is not there. Wake up!

If you had refused sex and waited for marriage, only to engage in it with your husband, you'd have greatly increased your chances of being with ' The Right One'

Now unfortunately, someone unworthy has scarred you and in truth doesn't regard you as any different from the girls he's 'cheating' with

Realise your value and stop degrading yourself.

AdesewaAde:
So recently, I’ve been having this feeling that my fiancé is a cheat, I’m not a type of woman who do choke my partner or check his phones cause I respect his privacy, even though he has always been checking my phone, going through my social media accounts and all other things, sometimes he will use my fingers to unlock my phone while sleeping just to go through it.

We’ve been dating since 2018, we became best of friends and our families are cool together, he is caring and jovial, he doesn’t hide things from me most especially financial issues, our social lives are almost the same, in short we are good together. We planned to do our engagement last year December but due to the way things were last year we postponed it and decided to pick another date, though I now spend half of my days at his place.

Fast forward to January this year, I started seeing some red signs that he is a cheat, many times I took his phone to unlock and go through since I know his passwords but I will drop it again cause there is no way I will check his phone without seeing things that will tamper with my peace of mind, since then, I’ve decided to open my eyes and ears more wider.

Later on , I discovered that anytime I am around, his phones were always on airplane mode, he only works on system, my heart started asking me different questions but I kept calm and I continued with my quest to catch him red handed, though I confronted him that he is cheating but he laughed at me and said 95% of men do cheat but he is among the remaining 5% that doesn’t.

Last month, we both decided to go on vacation, it was then I saw that I was actually in a relationship with a dog like person. There was a particular number that kept calling him, maybe he forgot to put the phone on airplane mode, at first I overlooked it but the number kept on calling about 59 times, it was then that I decided to pick it up and I heard a female voice, she said “you asshole, so you decided not to pick my calls because she is around, come online, I left you a message there” my heart skipped, who was she referring to as “she”? It was then I decided to unlock his phone for the first time and I just wish I didn’t do that, my eyes were heavy with tears as I was reading all sorts of conversations between him and different girls, not one, not two, not three, about ten of them, some even sent him nude pictures, he already bleeped some, some are still under format, two of them are new preys. I cried, many of them even know me, one even referred to me as his witch, I wept bitterly, I was on this weeping when he entered the room and saw me crying, all he could say was that how will I touch his phone in the first place.

He later apologised, after the much argument, I started parking my things to come back to out state, I told him I am done with the relationship, he started laughing at me and started shouting at the top of his voice “ babe you must be crazy, you are definitely out of your mind, how on earth must you think you can leave the relationship that I summoned up so much courage to ask you out? Listen woman, even if I cheat everyday, I can’t leave you, the truth is I will always cheat, I will apologise if been caught but I can’t ever place any woman above you,v I met our pastor in the hotel with another babe the last time I went to hotel for quickie with one chick, if pastors do cheat, who am I not to. At least you have the key to everything I have, if my parents can’t reach me, they will deliver the message to you, are you hungry? Are you looking rough? Do you want sex and I denied you? So what else should be your problem with me cheating “

I was short of words, he wasn’t even remorseful, I left there angrily and he kept calling, later he called his parents to explain the issues to them and they called me and pleaded, to make the situation worse his mom also said all men cheat. He has been threatening me that he won’t allow me to marry any other person, guys I’m really confused, please what can I do now, I don’t want to spend the rest of my life with a man who doesn’t have taste.

A perfect definition of 'Community Penis'. This is just the teaser, the main show starts when you guys final gets married.

How do you love another woman in your matrimonial bed and you can't do shit about it because you knew exactly what you were signing up for?

Or what about you being scared to have maids or female visitors, related and unrelated because your hubby always follows the direction of his erection? I fear for your daughters too (God forbids).

What about him hitting on young girls in your estate or area where you'll live? Sis, the scenarios are endless.
If you don't mind, you can tie the nupital knot with him.

And his parents that have come to beg you today may also come to beg you tomorrow to accept pregnant side chick. A time will come, they will tell you your wahala is too much if you begin to complain about his cheating. As you have been told already by the mum, 'all men cheat'.

He is selfish, thinking of himself alone. Ask him if he wouldn't mind you playing some away games too, as no gender has the monopoly of cheating.

How does his cheating benefit you? Or you are ready to sacrifice your joy and peace to maintain relationships with him?

Remember, you are not just going to have him as your husband, he'll also be the father of your children.

Think am well o.


And to the many morally weak men on this thread justifying cheating men, I hope you don't mind your daughters and sisters ending up with men like you. I pray you all receive the taste of your own medicine

Pure red flag

After reading some comments, I can only deduce that not many people take the advice they give to others.. Imagine normalizing cheating, omooo na wa o, It sure tells alot about y'all.. If gender roles were reversed, hell would be let loose but it's fine, yeah a woman shouldn't bother her pretty head cos a man's got to cheat either way right, he can't help it, all men are built that way with their raging testosterone & high libido and women should readily embrace this and not make any fuss about it cos yeah nature.. Afterall he isn't starving her of food, sex, monetary benefits or whatever, she should be cool with it lmfaoooo.. Y'all are delusional, you can comfortably sit behind your phone typing such balderdash but can't give same advice to your sisters, daughters, nieces & female cousins.. Fgs, she's not even married to him yet.. It'll be a different story if she is.. He's even threatening her? And her soon-to-be in-laws ofcourse what would you have them say, "iyawo wa mabinu, aa ma wa nnkan se si, mabinu shogbo.. Mase ironu tori pe iwo lawa mo gege bi iyawo omo wa, ko de ni si omobinrin kankan to ma wa gba oko e"

OP, my advice is for you to use your tongue to count your teeth