divineappo:
Am dating this girl, I love her honestly, we began dating about 3 months Ago. I live in a single room self contain, and she asked me to get a two bedroom flat. I told her I can only afford room and parlor self contain, which am already sourcing for, because money is ready. She is a student, not working yet.

But she still insist I go for a big apartment, two bedroom flat. And that she isn't comfortably in a room and parlor self contain

We are dating, and working towards getting married by the end of this year, or next year January

Pls someone should advise me. Am confused

what kind of apartment does she herself live in
is she planning to move with you⚫

divineappo:
Am dating this girl, I love her honestly, we began dating about 3 months Ago. I live in a single room self contain, and she asked me to get a two bedroom flat. I told her I can only afford room and parlor self contain, which am already sourcing for, because money is ready. She is a student, not working yet.

But she still insist I go for a big apartment, two bedroom flat. And that she isn't comfortably in a room and parlor self contain

We are dating, and working towards getting married by the end of this year, or next year January

Pls someone should advise me. Am confused

Valkan:

what kind of apartment does she herself live in
is she planning to move with you⚫

divineappo:
she is a student, she lives in her school hostel room with two other students (shared hostel room), we are in same city

She never said she will move in with me, she would just be visiting, or staying with me during her holiday period, if she doesn't travel home

Then she is entitled if she can
share one room with two People
but expects you to buy a bigger
apartment.Also if she is not willing
to contribute To paying rent in the 
new house then she has no right to tell
you where to live⚫

pozehnani:
Shes not a reasonable woman. The earlier you port from her the better. If you eventually settle with this type, she'll drain you and render you a nonentity in the end.

Now, how can someone who is not yet working or doing any form of biz to support or contribute to getting the apartment be putting pressure on you to get her a two bedroom flat all for her own comfort and to your discomfort? What a selfish fellow. So it means if you don't do it her way, no marriage? Be shaking like jelly fish there.

You're not married she's already calling the shots unreasonably. Imagine when you marry her. Bp raise to power 500. If you love your life, retract your steps. She's so unreasonable.

Everyone knows the challenge about accommodation in major cities and God help you if you're pressured into what you'll not be able to sustain In the long run. The same lady will abuse you if you're ejected out of the house.

Tell her, madam come, this is what I'm going for because that is what I can afford for now. Case closed. I mean... It's just the two of you for starters and as time goes on, God can open empower you to go for a mansion or even build your own.

Marry a woman who'll reason with you.
Marriage is not fantasy or fairytale land. It is reality.

divineappo:
she is a student, she lives in her school hostel room with two other students (shared hostel room), we are in same city

She never said she will move in with me, she would just be visiting, or staying with me during her holiday period, if she doesn't travel home

DaddyRochie1642:




You're Wise

DaddyRochie1642:
This is how some of you men make horrible mistakes of your Lives and start Weeping and gnashing your teeth later in life claiming that you made a "Horrible Mistake by Marrying her" meanwhile the "Red Flags" were right there from the beginning when una yeye Love and the Kpekus you were receiving that time was blinding your eyes and your Logic and your ability to think.

How can someone that's still a student, that's contributing little or nothing tell you what to go for and what you should not go for,

Oga are you blind?,... Don't you know that Marriage involves "Compatibility" from both parties involved, Marriage will never work if one person is thinking forward and the other person is thinking backwards... It's very obvious you guys are not compatible.

From your story up there, you are trying to "Cut your Coat according to your Size" inorder to avoid Weeping and gnashing of Teeth in the future and the girl is there prompting you to go and do pass yourself.

Oga if you like don't cut your Coat according to your size, dey there let her continue using yeye Love and Kpekus to blind you,.... It's very obvious the girl is IMMATURE and I say this without Remorse.

pozehnani:
Shes not a reasonable woman. The earlier you port from her the better. If you eventually settle with this type, she'll drain you and render you a nonentity in the end.

Now, how can someone who is not yet working or doing any form of biz to support or contribute to getting the apartment be putting pressure on you to get her a two bedroom flat all for her own comfort and to your discomfort? What a selfish fellow. So it means if you don't do it her way, no marriage? Be shaking like jelly fish there.

You're not married she's already calling the shots unreasonably. Imagine when you marry her. Bp raise to power 500. If you love your life, retract your steps. She's so unreasonable.

Everyone knows the challenge of accommodation in major cities and God help you if you're pressured into what you'll not be able to sustain In the long run. The same lady will abuse you if you're ejected out of the house.

Tell her, madam come, this is what I'm going for because that is what I can afford for now. Case closed. I mean... It's just the two of you for starters and as time goes on, God can empower you to go for a mansion or even build your own.

Marry a woman who'll reason with you.
Marriage is not fantasy or fairytale land. It is reality.

prince2pac:
Better oil de your head biko....

carry this two calm down first

LadySarah:
As long as she will complete the money.why not?

You want to cry later.Better hang your bag where your hand go fit reach.

divineappo:
Am dating this girl, I love her honestly, we began dating about 3 months Ago. I live in a single room self contain, and she asked me to get a two bedroom flat. I told her I can only afford room and parlor self contain, which am already sourcing for, because money is ready. She is a student, not working yet.

But she still insist I go for a big apartment, two bedroom flat. And that she isn't comfortably in a room and parlor self contain

We are dating, and working towards getting married by the end of this year, or next year January

Pls someone should advise me. Am confused

NB: I forgot to add, I already have a plot of land, am working on getting CofO, before I begin to raise some funds to begin building this year. I planned not to tell her, until after we get married