Another thief have assumed office, he just doesn't want the militants to eat alone anymore when the payment is actually coming through him. He wants to partake of the already existing avenue of siphoning government money, as there are no longer new channels to create for siphoning funds, and also a new administration is taking over soon.
Joke of a country this is.

First of all, you missed one vital ingredient which is Periwinkle. Every Afang soup is incomplete without it. It would have covered some areas in your rivers of soup

sdbaba:
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Thanks

Hello Nairalanders,

It's a long story, but I'll try to keep it short and to the vital points. Please endure the length.

There's a girl i met at a theological college in where I was studying to become a clergyman and also learning a skill under the civil engineering department of the college. She was my junior in the course, as I was a year away from graduating from my first course, while she was just a fresher. She was always having issues getting through her courses and projects and would always ask for my assistance since I was the course rep in that department. It was forbidden to have any intimate relationship with your course mate or anyone in the college for that matter, the penalty would be expulsion. But unfortunately for me, out of sheer lust and seduction on her part, and gross indiscipline and lack of self control on my part, I got intimate with her and we ended up committing fornication during one of our semester vacations. And it just happened once, of which out of deep regret and remorse I confessed the matter to the college Admin when the next semester resumed. We were panelled, after which I was suspended, while she was expelled.

During this time I was learning a skill sponsored by the college, of which I use to get paid some weekly stipend. After I was suspended I was also stopped from continuing my apprenticeship, because I was not to associate with any of the students or lecturers in the school while my suspension lasted. So I was without a job and without a source of income since I wasn't yet mastered on the skill. The condition that was given to me to resume my studies and apprenticeship was that I should go and get married before I could come back to college, so as not to be tempted to repeat my error. But I wasn't ready for marriage whether financially or any other wise for that matter. So while I was contemplating my next move, this girl came to me that she was pregnant, that she needed us to go and see her parents. I told her I had no money neither was I ready to father a child at this point in my life. I pleaded she should give me time to think about what next to do. Two weeks passed, and I called her to enquire about her welfare but her number wasn't reachable, I decided to go to her place, but I was told she had travelled a week ago to go see her family. A week later, I received a call from a woman telling me she was the girl's mother, that her daughter came home with a pregnancy, and she asked me if I was responsible for the pregnancy, I answered her in the affirmative. She then asked when I was coming to see her family. I told her I wasn't sure about coming to see them that I needed to speak to the girl first. She said okay, then later that day the girl called me, and I told her to come back for us to talk deliberate on the way forward. When she came she told me her parents (who are by the way divorced) will not accept her nor the pregnancy without me coming to see them for marriage arrangements.

I explained to her I wasn't ready for any such thing, that I have a calling to answer and a course to finish, that what happened between us was just a stupid and careless mistake that has been as a setback for me to achieve my goal, and that I was ready to overcome the trials and get back on track, and I explained to her that before then I had neither dated nor been intimate with anyone for over seven years, and so any kind of relationship or marriage was not even in my nearest future plans, and besides, I didn't even have a job, not to mention having enough money to embark on a marriage plan. She said she would never accept such excuse, that I should look for whatever means to make sure I come see her parents before her pregnancy becomes obvious. She also said that she needed money to move her belongings back to Imo state where her family resides. I agreed to raise some money for her. I went to do some menial jobs and raised some money, about ₦20k, which I gave to her and she traveled back to Owerri. From then on her parents kept calling and pressuring me to come and see them for marriage arrangements. I told them I was going to come, but just to introduce myself to them as the person responsible for their daughter's pregnancy not for any marriage arrangements. But they disagreed, that if I wasn't ready to come for marriage that I shouldn't bother coming. I pleaded with them to give me enough time to look for money to come and see them, but they instead started threatening me with court cases and arrests, at one time they brought the girl and some soldiers to my family house and harassed my family members including my mother.

So I later traveled to Benin city to go look for money. After one week of my arrival in Benin, I lost my phone and I couldn't retrieve my number. I lost connection with them until I got back to Uyo where I got her phone number from a friend of hers. At this time, I was told that they came to my house several times with police officers claiming I raped their daughter and impregnated her then absconded. At this, I established contact with the girl again and she told me that I should not bother her that she wasn't in the mood to talk to me, I kept calling her but she often ended up abusing me or we often times ended up in quarrels, so I left her alone for sometime.

Two weeks ago I related the matter to one of my distant uncles, who advised me to gather some money and go see her, I called her and told her I wanted to come and see her before she puts to bed, which is expected to be sometime next month (August). But she told me that she still stands by what her parents had said, if it's not for the marriage issue that I should not come, that I should rather send her the money I would use in coming so she can use it to buy the baby clothing and buy some hospital requirements before she puts to bed. I called her parents and they told me the same thing, and said if I don't come for the marriage agreement before she puts to bed, that after she's delivered of the baby I should forget ever coming, and should never mention that I have a child anywhere not to mention coming to claim it ever in the future. And that I should just forget about her and the child.

The issue now is this, I am a bit frustrated because I seem to have lost everything at the moment because of this issue; my calling, the skill I was learning is gone, I have no job aside the menial jobs I do at construction sites which isn't available regularly. Now the little I have saved so far, I am contemplating on whether to use the money to pay for my skills training and continue with it and start my life afresh and forget about her, the child, and her parents, or use the money to support her in her hospital requirements for her delivery. Because I don't want to be seen as abandoning her when she is in this condition, and I also don't want to give up on the child, though I'm not capable of taking care of the girl and the baby right now, and probably, I might end up getting married but not under my present circumstances. I know I've made a grave mistake and this is the consequences for not being true to myself and my calling, and I deeply regret it, and I've suffered for it in any way I can possibly imagine, but I also need to put my life back in order, because right now I'm so devastated that I'm contemplating terrible alternatives to survive the storm, I'm at a very critical moment of my life and I just feel like giving up on life altogether. Please I need your help and advice on this issue. Thanks.

PS. Please if anyone is willing to teach me any skill, I would be very grateful and willing to learn.

I think they've introduced something of this kind before, and after a while it went off radar... Guineas extra smooth was the name I think.

Apparently these two have crossed path before. BTW everyone now wants to be an activist/feminist.
Lalasticlala come and see.

The lady just looking for cheap attention by tribalizing the ish, would have still been the same fate to anyone caught stealing in the east irrespective of tribe.

Hello disciples of Christ and believers in the Truth and Grace. Please help me out as I am drifting away from Christ to my destruction rapidly by the day. I am a believer in Christ and I used to be a fervent and devoted Christian. But things began changing when I got a job. I began indulging in all kinds of worldly life and sin. Both in my workplace and outside, I yield to diverse sin of the flesh from time to time. Though each time I do these things my conscience drives me into depression. I always have this premonition in my spirit about the imminent consequences of my sins just before I fall into it. I have a habit of studying the bible , as I have a gift of understanding what the bible truly teaches (despite the fact that I commit sins as frequently as I study the bible). And moments after I might have yield to this temptation of the flesh, guilt overwhelms me and I suffer terribly both physically and spiritually until I get depressed from guilt, and I'll cry and pray for forgiveness for sometime and then the gloomy state leaves me. This trend has continued like this for a long time now, despite the fact that I beg God everyday in my life to save me once and for all from this evil bondage of sin. And at this point the guilt and suffering has become too great that I am losing hope in God's ability to reach out to me and help. As I feel deeply lost and discouraged at the moment and on the verge of a terrible decision that the consequence could be disastrous. Though I still have belief that God can save me through the right channel. And I know that there are believers out there who have been through what I'm experiencing now, or those that have witnessed someone who came out of this victorious and are testimonies of God's saving grace and divine turnaround, either through a group of God-fearing believers or individuals. Please I need you to reach out to me and save me from destruction. As what I just wrote here is nothing close to describing the battle I'm going through right now. I need believers to give and share their thoughts and prayers with me please. I will be glad to reach you too please.
NB: Please I'll welcome only well meaning thoughts and encouragement from Christian brethren. Thank you and God bless.

Wendy80:
U are quite level headed. I think u shd talk to Ur boss and make him understand u need to go out and do somethn for yourself. Look for a menial job, (some banks are even using ssce holders as BVN officers now)
If u don't move ur Azz now, u MAY end up having issues with the Wife. Its difficult for some women to accommodate pple in their house how much more an 'Idle' one who stays @ home all day.
Look for something pls to reduce ur hanging around the house just explain nicely to ur boss. All d best Dear.

Thanks a lot. But the problem now seem to be the limited period of time in a day that's available for me like I stated in the earlier posts above. If I was on my own, I would make out enough time for job ideas. But being under his command I have to take care of some things and chores at home when they leave for school and work respectively, and have to be available when the children should be home from school.
So even if I would be allowed to do something it must have had to be something that wouldn't interfere with the little help I render him on daily basis. Else I might turn out to be a total liability to him.

emilyone:
Op, where are your parents, you did not mention them in your post

My dad is late, and my mum lives in some area of PH with my siblings, they aren't too buoyant financially, they've been living Ok though, so I just thought it wise to relieve them of some stress by moving out... The time is overdue already.

Thanks ya'll for your contributions and ideas, though I haven't really gotten the precise solutions yet, but I've been able to create a line of thought and a picture of what my next steps should be from your ideas so far.
More thoughts and ideas are welcomed though, more precise ones too . Thanks again

Thank you all for your thoughts and suggestions so far, I'll really appreciate more thoughts as I shed more lights on the current situation.
@Enoquin, I appreciate your thought, but the thing is, I am not basically at home doing nothing, If you read through my post, I stated the limited time I have, 10am to maybe 4pm. And often times, in between those hours he calls from the office and sends me on errands that might gulp up almost all that time, and some days I have to always be at home from 2:30 so as to look after the kids when they get back from school up until 5pm or so before the maid comes home from school.
@Jaybee3, I would really love to work, in fact I'm not the lazy type of guy and I used to work before now. But the thing is, what I'm considering now is the long term and future effect of leaving him to start working on my own again or staying put.
@thesonofmark, I get your point, and I'm guessing your situation was not as mine, considering whom you were living with. Thanks for your thoughts though.
@goodmorning40, thanks for the advice, I'm not such a type though, besides she's a minor.
I'll welcome and appreciate more thoughts and advice though.

Hi Nairalanders please take a little bit of your time to read this and offer me your advice on it. My name is Kevin, I'm 23 and currently living with someone I would call my boss and who equally is like an elder brother to me, he lives with his wife and 2kids and his wife is currently pregnant for their 3rd child, they also have a maid who is a jss3 student. Before now I was living with a friend in a one room apartment which we share the rent payment together. We've known each other for a long time and i used to visit him frequently on weekends and I'll help him with some house chores after which we'll watch European football leagues together for the weekend then I'll leave on Monday morning to my house and then leave for my daily menial jobs. I've been asking him to help me look for a job that will be able to raise me enough money for my rent and save some for my academics because the menial jobs I was doing wasn't raising enough money for both. So he promised to look for one for me since he knows a lot of business men via where he works. So last September on one of my occasional visits I asked him about the job since I was getting tired of doing the one I was doing, he told me he couldn't get me any better job considering the fact that I only have SSCE certificate so he suggested I should move in with him promising to sponsor my education but that it means i would have to give up the job I used to do and concentrate on my studies so I can pass my exams. So I accepted and moved in with him. I have a good waec result and I was suppose to sit for the just concluded Jamb examination but I missed my exam date because of late reprinting of my e-slip. So when I went on the initial examination day and found out I just went home, mad at myself for blowing that opportunity because if my carelessness. So I jus told him I wrote the exam but didn't pass. Now I'm always always at home alone during the day when everyone has gone to work or school respectively, and I feel depressed during this period and I think I'm just sitting all day wasting away my time and recently his wife has started exhibiting attitudes that makes both of us uncomfortable with each other, though I think it might be one of the symptoms of pregnancy stress or so. And I have this habit of gambling or sports betting (depending on what you want to call it) which I'm yet to give up though I think its bad, but haven't been fully convinced that it is (for lack of evidence, whether morally or religiously). And I make some money from it which also disappears as fast as it comes and I do this from the little pocket money he gives me sometimes. And right now I just feel so depressed staying at home doing practically nothing, and I'm torn between the thought of staying here and waiting till next year for another opportunity to try and get into the university, and moving out to get something doing, but the thing is, I don't think I can be living with him and be going out to find something to do. I only have between 10 am and 4pm every weekday. And I'm looking for a way to get myself back on track and make something out of my time, even if it means leaving my boss' house. But currently i have no where in mind to move to and no job to look forward to, though I have a few friends of mine who might want to take me in. So I'm asking for your advice on what next to do since this year is gone already (academic-wise that is). Being alone and idle is so depressing to me, since I'm not the sitting around type of guy. Any suggestion will be gratefully welcomed and you might ask a few questions to assist your contributions too. Forgive my typos and any writing error there might be. Thank you in advance.
(I hope I posted this in the right section, if not RoyalRoy or whoever is in charge here should help me forward it to the right section, thanks)

"Education is the most powerful tool you can use to change the world"

hahaha, i love d girl wit d dana airplane, sorry hairstyle.

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since last nite der hav been no Mtn network on my phone. @ francheezy, wich area are u at?

hahaha,i hope say her pastor don remind her to bring tithe money.

Looks like they are out 4 a village square meeting.