He said he wanted 4 boys and no girl. I asked him why the emphasis on "no girl". He said girls are expensive to train.

Then later said, he can allow his wife have one girl that will be helping her out.

My spirit, soul and body left. Even though he'd even come with his people. I told my mum, she was shocked and said maybe he didn't mean it.

That mindset was too dangerous for me to manage.

The problem I see here is that you didn't honour your wife, so it was easy to manipulate you into another relationship. If you had given the kids time to grieve and get over their Mum's death, and you grieve too, this won't be happening. I mean, you haven't even done the traditional 1 year mourning of the dead.

The woman is desperate, she won't leave that easily. You have to be tougher to send her out. Allow your children adjust and seek a new experience on their own. This woman is trying to force something else on them and it might affect their psyche badly. They are not ready for such drastic changes. They need stability now, change should come gradually and not 3 months after they lost their Mum.

You should be the Mother and Father for them now. Don't allow things get out of hand. If you continue, your kids will lose respect for you and the relationship may turn sour.

Please gather your family, protect them and stay strong for them.

I like that guy. I like his confidence. I like his response.
He wasn't begging for a job and knew what he wanted from the first instance, so I understand he must have felt slighted when the HR said that. The HR too should have used a better language.

Kaii, Seeing Constance in the news breaks my heart. We served together in Enugu and after everything she went through, losing her parents in that year, losing her life too is the most terrible thing I have heard this month. May their soul rest in peace

Don't be discouraged. Everything will always get better. I suggest you learn a skill or get a professional certification.

On my part, I got a project management certificate and another one on IT project management. Not just that, I am also a Content creator.

Why did I go to this part? I recognised it might be hard to get a proper job as a Political science graduate and I didn't want to take that chance. Please don't give up. Learn any tech skill you can, God will bless that effort and make it bear fruits.

Give him back the money. But give it back in batches, like 500k this month, 300k the next month.

Be sure that your actions don't look suspicious.

You sound like an honest person but please don't take the money

If your boyfriend has being caring and considerate as you say. Giving him money won't be an issue.

Man fell on hard times. It's not as if he does that regularly.

Love thrives well when there are two selfless givers.
I don't think you should punish him because of what others have done to you.

You didn't add Okorosha, From Imo state. Don't have the picture. They always warn us not to snap it or go by the left hand. Quite a fearful masquerade.

Beautiful list. Our culture is really beautiful

That wasn't a Snub, he didn't shake the first person and wasn't expecting to shake the second person too. I bet he didn't want to shake because if he wanted to, He will first bring out his hand not her.

And he had almost turned before she brought out her hand.

It is a redbellied black snake. That's the name.

Quite a shy snake. Only attacks when provoken. And the venom doesn't kill.

Try to be more vigilant. And check out anti-snake substances you can spray around your house.

Nb.

A black mamba doesn't even have a black skin. It is named so because of the inside of the mouth.

I think I can understand your situation. There is always a time in a man's life when he craves a committed company.

Try building a friendship first with one of the good females around you. You'd need the stability of a good friendship to be stronger.

You can also start any small business.

And grow it from there. Things can change in a year or even less than.

Don't worry. Your heart will find what it seeks.

So sorry about your home situation.

Here's the truth, you guys started on a wrong foundation.
And you both didn't do anything to make it right.
No marriage preparations
No marriage counseling, not even a proper marriage.

If the foundation is destroyed, what can the righteous do?


Secondly, not completing the marriage rites is enough to spook any woman. If you had the means, why didn't you finish what you started.

Then, leaving the marriage and getting married to another is never an option. Cancel it from your mind.
It rains and thunders everywhere. So the next one may not be your safe haven.

Here's what I would tell you: Sit down, talk with your wife.

Change your attitude towards her, be more loving and caring.

Show her the love you both shared when you first started.

Show your commitment to making things work out between you two.

Let her know you are with her because of her not because of the child.

Cut off all communication with your crush.

Get a counsellor. Get a counsellor. Get a counselor.

Pray. Pray. Pray.


Just give it sometime. You will be fine

I don't know why I feel angry about the girl. You sound like a good man. The girl will certainly regret losing you.

Come off it. You will be fine. You will find faithful love again.

But I pray it doesn't affect how you view other women.

You are strong. Keep being the best man you can.

Love is coming your way.

Yes, she is good, her name is Stella Owala not Owaha


quote author=taiwoawoniyi post=84345358]I like your story. I'm not a career consultant but I know one, Stella Owaha on Facebook. She knows her onions.
You might think this is a scam but I'd advice you to just search for her on Facebook. She's a travel/career consultant. She should be able to help you.
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Very close to Eke Awka. Very busy market. Why do I feel this is a coordinated terrorist attack?

My nieces got hair lice from School and I got it too.

Mine was so serious that I could Mother and Father Lice falling down from my hair.

First, I relaxed the hair. I left the relaxer on for a long time. Make sure the relaxer is applied from scalp to tip.

Then I washed with Tea tree shampoo and conditioner.

I combed it and generously applied Vaseline. Then i covered it with plastic bag and wig cap for it to steam.

The next day, I applied cream too and allowed it steam very well.

Then I blewdry it. The heat was high, to kill all remaining lice and weaken the nit.

I'll wash and blow dry the hair next week again to get rid of any stray nit that may hatch.

Also buy a nit comb, apply conditioner and comb her hair section by section. Buy tea tree oil too.

It may take a long time to get it all over.

And it may be take a month to win this battle.

Then wash everything that touched her hair with hot water. You don't need to fumigate your house. Lice dies when it is not on human head.

Keep her away from school for some days.

But if it will prove to be a long process, barb her and start all over.

The process of getting rid of the lice can frustrate your daughter.

Even me, I cried on Sunday oo. Just the discomfort alone was enough to make me cry.

She may also lose a lot of hair if you decide to get rid of it.

Good luck.

First of all, you write very well. Shows you are a meticulous person.

This situation looks like 'a devil and deep blue sea' kind of thing.

If I were a man and I am in your situation, what would I do?

I'd go ahead with my plans.
As far as my Mum's concerns are not life threatening.
As far as they are not spiritual.
If the issues she is raising is just borne out of her own interests.

I will go ahead with what I am doing.

You cannot spend forever with your mum. Whatever choice you make now is what will stay with you forever.

If your heart is with Hauwa, go with her and make up your mind to stand with her against all odds.
If you know you can't protect her, let her go.

And tell your Mum, she has lived her life, she should allow you live yours, make your mistakes and survive.

I hope you are happy at the end of the day.

Lagos has more opportunities than Abuja. I have been to the two places. It is easier to grow a hustle in Lagos too.

My point: intensify your efforts. Better still, learn a digital skill, it can pay you more than you think.

Reason with her, talk things over with her and present your points and concerns. If she still insists....

Pray and follow your heart.

You can still reassure of your commitment to making it work.


Do not put yourself under unnecessary pressure. Nothing gets better in a day. As far as your mindset is positive enough, you can make it anywhere.

Check if he has bipolar disorder, since he is not always that way all the time. It might just be a simple disorder which can be managed.