I vote Twaci all the way from Middle East. She reps.

The wages of sin is death. The Bible is so real and can never be broken. Many are just dying needless and avoidable death by refusing to go through the manual of life prescribed by the Manufacturer of life. What a foolish way to die a foolish death.

Interesting. Spyder880, I would advice you get proper PPE kits for your men. I am a safety professional based in UAE. Seeing your men on site without proper clothing is not professional. You need to re-brand and repackage your corporate image. Seeing some of your men on site without shirt and footwear is an eye sour to say the least. Am seeing too many hazards on site.

Sex outside marriage is the fastest rout to balcanizing your destiny. I am talking from experience. Recognising a problem is 50% solution to it. Quit fornication now and re-channel your life in the right direction. If you need to get married, do so asap and cage your quest for canal pleasure. You can't remain in sin and expect grace to abound. You were created for the pleasure of your creator, God. How much pleasure has God derived from you? The power to liberate yourself lies in you. Use it now or live in regrets.

Rochas is actually worse than Tinubu when it comes to treasury looting and converting state resources to his personal estate for the benefits of his family and sons-in-law. Why should you harass and intimidate people to show appreciation? Lagos state receives allocation from federation account which ought to be the common heritage of all Nigerians. Why should I show appreciation to a public servant for using the peoples' resources in working for them.

Can you see the mentality of these emperor rogues and power thirsty looters masquerading as "Agents of change". In actual facts, these are agents of Satan who have succeeded in grabbing power for personal agrandizment. Rochas is the greatest 419ner ever living. You don't employ naked force and threat to life in conversing for support or votes. People must be at liberty to choose who governs them.

giantstrides:


This is almost 50/50, who is going to counter the core northern votes, borno , yobe, adamawa not even out yet and some people are talking about south east, to hell with the east, let's see how much rigging they can do to meet up with the north.

Change is here

To hell with you and your entire generation. In fact, you're already burning in hell and you know it. Be guided. Disgruntled element.

Her IQ is abysmally low. She is completely bereaved of the sense of self respect and dignity. That singular conduct portrays her as a rampaging harlot. She needs education of the mind and deliverance too.

eluquenson: You don't need to tell her lies about your age, tell her the gospel truth & wait for her reaction, you can't set up your family on foundation of lies, I have once date a 17yrs old babe then I was 24, she told me that am too old for her, along the line we broke up. Age is just a number so say your real age

You definitely have a valid point. I don't intend telling her lies about the real age. As much as I am truly in love and almost obsessed about her, there are girls of her age who would scramble and fall on each other for me. This I know for sure. I plan telling her on my visit to Nigeria in the months ahead. Thanks for your input.

I am 33 now and sincerely in love with this girl still in university. I already made my intention very clear to her but she said she would have to graduate and finish service before getting married and also specifically mentioned that she would be ready to marry at 24. By my calculation, if all things remain constant, (ASUU inclusive) she would graduate and finish service at 23 which is almost same as 24 by which time I will be 36.

She has not asked me about my age for the first time. We get along very well and am comfortable with her reasoning and behavior at her age. My concern now is if I tell her my age, will she not see the gap as too wide? I am not resident in Nigeria and so not necessarily prepared for marriage at this time. The timing of her graduation and conclusion of service is perfect for me. My worry is what her reaction would be when she finds out my real age?

Your candid advice/opinions please. Only responsible, serious minded Nairalanders with descent upbringing and good education are allowed to comment. Jesters are BANISHED

here: How can you encourage a girl you intend to marry to double date?
She is young and alittle confused but you are really turning her to something else clouding her judgement by being all over her.Imagine even giving you green light to go see her parents though asked you to wait.
Hope you understand the seed you are sowing.
Not every wife material we saw that we got married to.
Yes we are inlove with one at a time but I think you are not being rational.You are not desperate then why not let her know you love her but can wait if she by the time she is ready can love you back and you move on.But no you must pressure her even asking her to part with him?
You are really hard to believe.
Is it that you were running away from working class and fully grown women or you think you are not up to.
Sorry but alittle pissed at how you are going about it and was she your first love?

She is not double dating as such because I have not slept with her. I only insisted on her accepting my request so as not to fall prey again because she really blamed me for not telling her my mind on time. I have my projections and she tallies well with them. I know fully grown working class women but approaching them mean I am ready to marry in the next 6 months to 1 year which does not suit me.

sweet-tease:
This is the problem of not making your intentions known and playing the friend, that's if there is really a guy and she didn't make up the story to create an easy way out wen d guy of her dreams finally shows up.



But if she does hav a boyfriend in sch.....
She is gone! I know its easier said dan done but you have to forget her. You are in a risky position, one dat is more likely to get your heart broken or/and make you her mugu(no offense). Sorry to tell you dis but there is over a 90% chance dat she won't love you later if she doesn't love you now. If you are sticking around to see if d other guy will mess up, chances are dat he will but another will come and she will make it seem lik its d same guy. Tell her you don't want to be second best even though you love her and dats why you have to let her go, if she wants you to stay, let her make you stay by her actions not words and be really careful but it will still be a difficult relationshp since she is a year 1 undergrad with no campus life experience, having a bf in sch in 1st semester year 1 means she already planned it.

My advice is to let her be even if she wants you to stay or not unless but d decision is yours to make.

I have careful read all shapes of opinions on this matter. But before I take my final decision, it would be necessary to provide additional clarifications on this matter.

1. I was also a school boy and had a girlfriend in school who got married to an already established working while I was still in youth service.

2. As for the girl not loving me, it may not be entirely true. She said she can't just love me overnight and she is not the pretentious type. She makes no demands from me. Whatever I have given or done for her so far was out of my free will and volition.

3. In one of our quarrels/, she once said rather than always complain about the other school boy, it would be better to concentrate effort at winning her over. (She asked, was I thinking it would be easy for me to come in and just win her over just like that? considering the fact that she may be skeptical that I might use and dump her). But that is far from my intention.

4. I sent her a mail asking her to be open, honest and sincere if I represent her ideal husband in the future and she confirmed in the positive with strong conviction.

5. Don't forget I said in my original post that I told her I want to be introduced to her parents but she said I should wait until she gets to 3rd year in school. Will she say this if she is not interested? Am not concluding, I want your opinion on this. She already mentioned to her Mum she has this friend that works with (The name of my organisation). Her Mum knows about me but I want to meet them in person.

6. It is not as if I am fully set to even get married in the next 1 year but I think by 2015, I would have met all the pre-conditions and targets and goals I set for myself to achieve before getting married. Ironically, that time coincides with when she said I could be introduced to her parents.

7. I think I have been somewhat too hard on her. I am very possessive and have this domineering spirit. It could be that my expectations are high and not well managed. I stand to be corrected.

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saemmanuel: is she white? #190 Fan

Bro you be mudun sowie oooo

She is not white. An Igbo girl. What do you mean by Mudun? If u have any meaningful contribution, go ahead. If not, remain silent.

I want To Marry Her But She Is In Love With Someone Else

Dear Nairalanders,

I am in a dilemma and would appreciate your genuine advice as the saying goes that a problem shared is a problem solved. I met a girl in January of this year. She got admission newly then and turned 18 in May of this year. I delayed asking her out immediately and thought it would be wise to do so after her first year in university. However, she went to school and by the time she finished first semester, I reconsidered my position and decided to ask her out. She was honest to tell me that she is already dating a boy in school but I insisted I wont take a no for an answer. She eventually accepted my request but insists that the boy would still remain her first priority.

It is obvious she loves him very much . Although she accepted my request, but she is not showing any sign of love towards me even though I work and almost prepared to settle down. The truth is that I love her so much and she represents everything I am looking for in a wife to be. I have made it clear to her that my intention is to marry her. Giving her age and level in school, I know that marriage is not her priority for now. I told her I want to come see her parents but she said I should wait until she gets to at least 3rd year which I accepted and willing to wait for her to get advanced in both age and studies.

My worry however is I am confused if it wise for me to be patient with her and wait while she continues in the relationship with the school boy. I am of age for marriage but it is not as if I am desperate to marry. She really aligns well with my future plans in all ramifications. She is the only girl in my life and she is a good person. I can afford to be patient and wait for her, but is it wise? especially knowing she is entangled like any other present day school girl with this school boy.

I tried convincing her to quit the relationship and it caused a lot of tension between us. She said it wont be easy for her as the boy hasn't done her any evil. She speaks in his favor and rises to his defense a lot. She accused me of being selfish. After all, the boy was already in the picture when I came even though I was the first to meet her but did not ask her first. I resolved not to pressure her anymore and allow nature to sort out these issues as time progresses. Is this a wise and healthy decision? Only serious and experienced peoples advise is needed. your reactions please!


SECOND STANZA

I have careful read all shapes of opinions on this matter. But before I take my final decision, it would be necessary to provide additional clarifications on this matter. The few points below will suffice.

1. I was also a school boy and had a girlfriend in school who got married to an already established working while I was still in youth service.

2. As for the girl not loving me, it may not be entirely true. She said she can't just love me overnight and she is not the pretentious type. She makes no demands from me. Whatever I have given or done for her so far was out of my free will and volition.

3. In one of our quarrels/, she once said rather than always complain about the other school boy, it would be better to concentrate effort at winning her over. (She asked, was I thinking it would be easy for me to come in and just win her over just like that? considering the fact that she may be skeptical that I might use and dump her). But that is far from my intention.

4. I sent her a mail asking her to be open, honest and sincere if I represent her ideal husband in the future and she confirmed in the positive with strong conviction.

5. Don't forget I said in my original post that I told her I want to be introduced to her parents but she said I should wait until she gets to 3rd year in school. Will she say this if she is not interested? Am not concluding, I want your opinion on this. She already mentioned to her Mum she has this friend that works with (The name of my organisation). Her Mum knows about me but I want to meet them in person.

6. It is not as if I am fully set to even get married in the next 1 year but I think by 2015, I would have met all the pre-conditions and targets and goals I set for myself to achieve before getting married. Ironically, that time coincides with when she said I could be introduced to her parents.

7. I think I have been somewhat too hard on her. I am very possessive and have this domineering spirit. It could be that my expectations are high and not well managed. I stand to be corrected.

React to these final submissions.