folake4u:


Don't worry, I won't corrupt you.

Yayyyyyyy!!! You're getting closer to your dream man. The Universe always align to our plans.

God dey work wonders .

The comments on the live though . Make I lock up, I no wan give Nl guys talk butttttttttt....... Hmmmmm

folake4u:


It needs to be injected for revival.

I'm fasting this evening ooo . You wan break my fast?


Lemme gist you...

I found Tunde ooo. Dude was on live yesterday for the first time.lol it was so funny! As if he knew someone was looking for him

Why can't he get it up

pansophist:


See, my post is clear enough. You're inferring what I didn't say or didn't mean. I'm responsible for what I say, not how it is understood.

Lol I'm not surprised.

Do have a good day ahead.

UnconventionalT:
Just to digress from the topic pls. Is it the place of my mum to serve my husband his food if I am not around and my mum is on a visit? Considering I have made the meal and put it in a cooler or smth.
Should my husband expect my mum to serve him?

Your mum can serve if she wills and you permit it.

No your husband shouldn't expect your mum to serve him. He's not married to her but you.

To avoid second question, perhaps your mom should leave serving alone.

Jman06:
But that is what it is nau.

The man is made to:

*Work his butt off to pay bills and take care of the wife and kids

* After working hard in the daytime to make money, he is also expected to work hard at night to satisfy madam in bed otherwise, madam will not be happy with him and you know when madam is unhappy, the whole house is not at peace

* He's not expected to enjoy himself by going out with friends to the bar to drink one or two bottles of beer like he did when he was single, otherwise, he is termed irresponsible man.

* He's not only carrying the financial burdens of his nuclear family, but also those of in-laws (in most cases). His own side of extended family only benefits to the extent madam allows

* He works and works to train the children in school and make sure they stand on their feet financially, and when the children are financially stable, their mom becomes their priority. She's the one who is placed on monthly allowance, who gets flown abroad for healthcare and vacations. She is the one who goes to omugwo during which she's well taken care of.

*If the man defies death from struggling to cater for family, all he gets are occasional bottles of kaikai or some few clothes if the children want to be generous.

* But what usually happens in most cases is that after all the hustling to take care of his family, just about the time the children are done with education and settle down, their father dies from ill health he must have developed during years of hustling with little rest or healthcare , leaving only the mother to enjoy the children's care.

Lol

But He has the choice not to do all of these, nobody made him. He can choose not to do any of your list, live alone enjoy his proceeds alone and die without leaving an offspring. The choice of a man not to live like this is what makes him take up those responsibilities. There is always a choice.

essentialone:


Share instances of ladies financially assisting fellow ladies.

I didn't create this thread, you did.

You should be able to back up your hypothesis.

I hope she's aware she can be sued for this?

folake4u:


The guy nor normal at all.

See as he say I be school dropout and dey do hook up. Format wey don cast tey tey.

One thing I've come to realize about people who make up the worst stories about others is they don't have things working out for them.

Life can not be good for you and the only thing you can imagine about others is the worst. If you dig deep drop outs and hook ups dey within his circle or family hence the projection

Your environment plays a huge role on your imaginations

Namaster:
You shouldn't blame them. The post on FP left out a CRITICAL detail. Your original post did the same thing.

Both created a plot hole that needed to be filled. Given that it happened in Nigeria, the principle of Occam's Razor dictates that the hookup-gone-wrong explanation is not so far-fetched.

That said, RIP to the lady. Depression is as DEADLY as any physiological disease out there.

Her friends and families should have advised her to stay put wherever she was before coming back to Nigeria. They are more likely to be equipped to treat her than Nigerian institutions.

The bolded please don't make this sound like the standard but rather an excuse for insecurity, lack of forensic search, a malicious method to dismiss female deaths/kidnap, an effective method for evil perpetrators to get away with evil and continue evil a strategic way to keep women checked and controlled and finally a lazy excuse for unwilling security authorities to do due diligence. It is not a standard just a lazy way to ignore and let real problems continue to exist.

It's a pity such a pretty woman ended it that way, she's lucky someone is her to defend her dignity others didn't get that and it's bad.

essentialone:


Is it my fault that you dropped out of school, and find it difficult to read clearly?

Uncle give us cases of where women refused to help each other and stop sounding like a broken record.

Six people slept in a studio with generator on?

Please choose your circle wisely.

folake4u:


You nor quick talk am na.😂😂

I don't even understand the purpose of his thread. This is how they pit women against each other on Nairaland.

True. No vex he deserved the response Sha


Likeeee! I don't understand why they do that. They will be alright.

Jman06:
Men are enslaved and made to serve the female gender after marriage!

Is this all you got from that gender neutral post?

You can't have the bed to yourself alone anymore

folake4u:


I don answer am already.

He nor even need citations and reference.

It is big MENT to say Women don't support women financially.

I saw your response... I said respond to his query not bury him 10 feet deep

You dey mind him, he's just being mischievous.

Funny story!!!

But you see that habit of church people visit without prior notice like they are looking to catch you in sin ehn it's not funny at all I don't like it at all.

lavylilly:

Sorry biko

I don't just like reading those stuff

Y'all won't hear the end of this on this section

If only ladies had quietly moved on, there will be no permutations and combinations like this .

Folake4u come and answer Op in not less than 30,000 words with graphical and pictorial illustrations. Citations and References not older than 10 years is a crucial requirement.

Your time start now.

Zonefree:

The person that introduced this nonsense "words of affirmation" to Nigerian girls will find it difficult to make Heaven.

That thing dey annoy me I won't lie

Say it to yourself in your quiet time and move on, you see these ladies posting it everywhere.

Sugarson dey celebrate him catch .

So now 40plus and above are the hot cake . Nlanders ehn

This is beautiful 😍

kakaaa77:
it's not by force if it doesn't work it doesn't work, just move on there's so many fish in the River keep on casting your net

A very good motivational drive to end up lonely and sad.

Instead of you to tell op to tame his mouth you are here giving "motigbetional" speech

pansophist:


What I wrote was a twist to the saying that "you should know the truth, and the truth shall set you free". If the op didn't insult her, then if she breaks up, the reason for the breakup will be revealed. There is a chance that this insult is just an excuse.

Anyone can break up with anyone, but the best you can do is not to operate and believe in a lie, thinking they left because of your mistake when in reality, they wanted to leave long ago, and just waiting for a justification.

Nope. I didn't made her to be anything, and I didn't blame for leaving. All I am saying is that one shouldn't be architect of their own problems.

If you'll shoot me, the least I can do is to not make you shoot me with my gun and bullet. I won't contribute to anything that will not be in my interest.

And if you will leave due to maybe you find another man, then leave, so I don't disturb myself thinking you left because I insulted you.

Anybody can leave and break up with you, but your actions should not conceal their true intentions for leaving. If she wanted to make it work for example, she might forgive, because people go hard for who they love.

Are you saying "being verbally abusive" isn't enough reason for anyone man or woman to leave? There is also a chance the insults are the only reason for the break up . Your first post suggested that " insults are not reason enough for break up" your second post solidifies that notion. I suspect you haven't met real verbally abusive people you'd ask yourself over and over again what you are doing with them. It's obvious from the narrative, Op does it regularly and I believe that alone is more than enough to leave. Although you may be leaning on the idea that it isn't enough for a woman to leave. Am I right?

You are right on second paragraph nevertheless that shouldn't absorb one of true reflections on what went wrong and how one can be better. I'm also an advocate of clearing terms when you end things. Leave no one in that dark place uncertainty and unwarranted guilt.

Taken. And being an architect can be something "as minor as being insulting to a partner"

Again you invalidate her reason for leaving because somewhere deep down, you believe that's not a valid reason. Pan am I right?

Okay let me reason with you here. There could be more than one reasons why the lady left with the major being constant verbal abuse. I mean what if there's someone who makes her feel better of herself than Op does and she decided to give the person a chance after several failed attempts to make the relationship work with op. Are you saying the fact that she chose that person overrides the major flaw that led to her decision of going for the other man? Does walking out of a relationship due to constant verbal abuse conceal the decision to be with another man who is better?

Point is there is a deal breaker for everyone, (verbal abuse should be for all but eh some people survive). There will always be a reason for people to walk out. You can be a perfect gift that ends up in the wrong hands. You don't have to be at yourself up over it. True reflections is fine but trying to be vindictive and all clean isn't a nice thing, nobody is that perfect. You don't have to prove yourself to anyone.
BTW you invalidate her reason with your last phrase. You can love someone and not be with them if they will be your end. That doesn't mean you love them less.

A one time thing or a regular thing?

pansophist:
You don't insult or curse who you love. It's like telling me you love me but give me poison to drink when I said I am thirsty. Your words are useless, it's your actions that matters.

Next time, make sure it's not your fault when things go bad. Control yourself and your mouth. Maybe she has set trap to leave and dump the blame on you, and you've given her the vehicle, fuel, and keys to zoom off.

You've absorb her of any guilt she may have if she was secretly looking for an exit route. And also soften the chance for her to retune, if her next relationship may not work.

You've missed the chance for her to possibly miss you after seeing the trash in the dating world. You've also legitimize the lies she may tell others, after all, you insult her and can be guilty of the rest.

No matter the nonsense out there, she will convince herself that she can't go back because you're abusive, and emotionally traumatised her, and more fancy words.

When smart people want to punish you, they will wait for you to give them the rope to crucify you with. The rope you gave her what's the insult, and she used it perfectly.

And your conscience will always tell you that she left because it's your fault. In your next relationship, try get small sense before you enter. It is important.

This is a bittersweet post as you somehow make it seem like she's evil, manipulative and dubious for leaving a glaring toxic relationship.

A relationship isn't a do or die affair that one has to be sneaky about ending it especially a bad one. If I read right, according to you a relationship is something you have to play smart about so you don't end looking bad even when you know it's not right for you. Like you have to play hide and seek so people won't think you are bad because you end something that doesn't favour you. 😂 abi did I read wrongly?

A lady walked out of a relationship with a tongue ripper but you made it seem like that's a very bad thing to do and Op gave her chances. What if verbal abuse is the only reason she ended the relationship?

You think it's only men that wants peace of mind? Lol You can't have a caustic tongue and expect the world to adjust to it. Honestly I don't know how partners "insult" each other during arguments. I have never experienced that! Like you argue, say your mind in harsh tones but "insults"? Naaaah.

That was how one too called his girlfriend " a prostitute" on another thread. Like who are these people? 😄

CrownOfClay724:


Apt!🥱

Reason a man has to expand his harem as much as possible when he have a job aresources to do so.

As a man you don't have a business being loyal to people who are only loyal to what you can provide for them.

Whatever makes you sleep well dude!

If you want to be fed, sheltered and clothed by a woman, knock yourself out. Don't come here to cry wolf when she demands submission or goes masculine on you.

As for your last paragraph, you don't need a woman who feeds you to be loyal, loyalty isn't the average Nigerian man's forte! So next time you want to ruffle feathers , do it right.

idahme:



I don't blame women who have this notion, I blame men for making life easy and allowing women enjoy without commiserate interest with knowing behind the scenes of how the money is made.

For an adult to have zero accountability and responsibilities for herself another must have made her to believe this rubbish mindset by throwing money at her thereby making her life easier. When you meet someone that allows you take responsibility for yourself you will start gnashing your teeth.

Roll this and shove it into the darkest part of your body!

I stated my opinion (a basic fact) if you are not good with it go twerk on a cactus plant!