kazyhm:


Being daft is when someone have low logical reasoning.

His opinion appeared to be an order to you for mischievous reasons but then you added executive to it.........that says volume about your person.

There are many factors people considered before paying for an apartment, generator's location is the least of it ?

Even if they were told....I believe that in their own understand; never thought they will share apartment with a bunch of unreasonable human.......

In fact, your emphasis on how he got your fiancee's contact and your narrative perspective about the knocking on her apartment door and given little detail on the main issues.....make the whole talk childish...(you warned the gateman, warned a co-tenant).....just to preserve a pvssy.........the funny aspect is that; you are an absentee fiance....your fiancee will definitely need help here and there.........but your self-centeredness will eventually deprive her of the help she would need.

On a final note, I will like to encourage you to brave for impact....because she will definitely be fvcked........and she will always skip that yosh Yash in her gist with you.

Ogun go kill u throway!

kazyhm:
If not that this op is stupid.....even if you don't trust your fiancee and presumed that the unknown co-tenant act is fishy...........at least when you hear meeting and the agenda of the meeting....... supposed to have redirected your thought and the preconceived ideas about the whole issue......life is not about your inconsiderate self alone.


The generator noise is a very big issue.and a legitimate concern.....he is paying equal rent just like you......he deserves, privacy, sound sleeps, rest of mind and environment free of generator fume.

You are human and should have respect for other human......the meeting is supposed to be a fruitful one even without the involvement of the landlord/caretaker.


I believe none of the tenants will agree to be doing sleepless nights while other tenants are snoring, watching late night movies etc.........it a common sense.

They were informed about the location of the gen and the possibility of noise, they still went ahead to secure property. Fine you want tenants to work things out, but you ended up issuing executive orders instead of subtly reaching out and have a man to man talk which can lead to a mutual resolution. Is that you are daft or you lack comprehension to understand my write up, abi na naira wey nor dey ur hand dey frustate you?

Meandmycrew:
Hmmm you were supposed to be the chief tenants as the first person to occupy that house and he has taken that position from you and still dishing out rules. My pain is that he is now the chief tenants instead of you how do you feel?

Them nor born him papa well, caretaker dun put am for him place sey he nor get right to dey dish out rules to tenant. He dun calm now dey beg sey how we go take run am for am. I tell am sey i go get back when i can. However i never thought of having to be the chief tenant, wetin that one mean sef. u dey whine me?

so far, he sent me an sms apologizing, i replied with an apology also. The meeting took place, and what i suspected was what happened. He gave clear orders that generators will be put off by 1AM, he also talked about parking....saying the people at the front will take the right hand side, while people at the back will take the left hand side. What effrontery does a tenant have to give orders, telling my fiancé that she has no choice but to abide by the agreed rules amongst the rest of the 5 of them. Anyways i reached out to the care taker, she said she already heard d story, that first off, the wife was the one that came to inquire for the apt and claimed she was only going to be living there with her children due to the proximity of her work place, that though it doesn't deter the husband from staying there, but for him to be laying down rules is a no no, and what surprised me was that they were told when they came to check the property that since the only flat left is the one at the ground floor that the possibility of generator making things uncomfortable is likely high, asking if the wife still wanted it, she agreed, and now they paid and thereafter still complaining and making rules. If someone can go as far as this, I think yall should know that the dude is arrogant naturally and I never in no way sounded rash or harsh or spoke to him in a condescending tone.

esthel:
Yes you did, reasonable tenants do not need to wait for landlord to make where they live habitable. What if you were the one occupying his apartment and having the noise and health concerns.

You and your babe get small wahala for hand plus not be everyone wan toast your babe.

He said fantastic twice probably surprised then thought a man could be easier to talk to but you were laughing inside.......for what

Mind you, someone could say I love you, but the tone of their voice will easily translate to you that they meant the opposite. The tone he used, as a man, not being overthoughtful, I know wetin he mean and how he was trying to pass across the meaning to me.

mastermaestro:
You didn't overreact. However I think you spoke to the neighbour in a condescending manner which irritated him. Speaking to him was not the issue, it was how you did it. This does not in any excuse him going to get your fiancé's phone number just because he knocked once and she didn't open.

The stupid person in all of this was the gatekeeper who gave away another person's number without first asking for her permission. I would be furious too. Why would someone give out a number because of a meeting? The gatekeeper should have called your fiancé on the phone informing her about the issue on ground. Better still, wait until she is going out to do so.

If the said neighbour didn't want more than a meeting, why go about collecting people's phone numbers when you can easily bump into them? My guy, protect your fiancé o. Don't let a randy guy who has no idea how much you have invested into this relationship try his madness on your treasure o.

For those of you saying OP is jealous or insecure, I am sure you folks think great relationship is fluke.

Swears bro, based on experience, I didnt speak to the guy with a harsh tone, neither did i use a condescending manner to speak with him. I polityely introduced myself, even when I said this is her fiance, the tone of which he replied FANTASTIC FANTASTIC, i be guy na, i deduced that he was trying to tell me PELE, I DUN HEAR, EHN NA U DEY RUN AM kind of response. I know what am talking about, I trust my woman so i have no reason to be insecure or jealous, my move was to channel his aim towards another side which was the lanlady or care take, and for someone yet to be well known going to knock at my door, just didnt fly well with me. Funny enough, he does bump into her on several ocassions whether shes going out or going out to the gate to empty thrash, why not exercise that opportunity to bump into her and discuss the meeting plan. Me i know wetin i dey talk about, i know peeps just dont understand where am coming from.

LandMann:
Op is very insecure and I can assure you Op that that girl has someone she is frolicking with while you're away in the UK.

All these unwarranted reporting of little issue is to deflect your attention from her cheating ways and even make you trust her.

And I'm sure you didn't sound polite or cool while speaking with the dude, hence his reaction. In the UK where you are I'm sure there's serious regulation against noise pollution. But how you forget that easily and call someone in Nigeria to insinuate that the person should keep suffering from noise pollution in silence beats my imagination.

Again, you called out of jealousy. [b]Him don help your lousy fiancee park ca[/b]r.. . Next thing na to collect her number and schedule when he can come mark her register... Same register one or several other dudes are already marking steadily while you're in the UK.

I pity you bro.

This is the problem with majority of us Nigerians, generalizing promiscuity, disloyalty and unfaithfulness, who told you we dont have faithful and loyal ladies/girls/women in our society, na people like una nor dey make some of the loyal and faithful ones get hope as una don use mouth carry them join the bad eggs. FYI, i luckily fell into the carry of someone dating a loyal and faithful person so park well oga,.


Read well make u nor dey talk gbaugbau, he intended parking for her, but didnt...all am saying is the guy have been showing kindess from the onset.

Haba! Come on guys, the bashing is not necessary, me wen cme here know sey it aint like nobody is perfect, sometimes issues arise and u def would know that you may have done something wrong or not. The reason why I said my post is the truth and nothing but the truth is that I know fullyw ell that some people will start saying am insecure or I called the dude out of jealousy. Abeg whats the jealousy about? we dey drag babe together? No! Besides there isnt anything insecurity about this. Please I need someone to explain what's insecurity about being protective about whom I love. This is d reason behind it, the place is just weeks old moving in, she has not really familiarize with anybody that much at the property, how would any1 come and knock at your door when you aren't expecting any1, lets agree she heard the guys voice from the other end of the door, and she opened and the dude forced himself in and whatever happens? If that was the case and I came here to post about how a new neighbour that my fiance opened door for forced his way into and raped or attacked her, wont you guys say otherwise that why would she open her door to a total stranger or better still talk to him without opening the door etc, I know what people on here can say. You cant trust people you dont know well to give easy access to entertaining conversation from the door. I blv it takes time b4 one can get to know neighbor b4 u can have the confidence in opening the door for them. Thats me being protective judging from the fact that am not around.

My major reason why i prompted the phrase " did i overreact was based on my statement that he should never come to my door anymore, na something else i dey hear. Make una calm i know sey fuel and cash scarce,.

Hi guys,

So Im currently in the uk for a 1 year course, 3months after my stay here, had important things
to do in Nigeria so I came back, plus I had to move myself and my fiance to a new apartment from where
we currenly were staying at. A day b4 i travelled back to the uk, we both moved in, infact we were the only and first tenants to sleep
at the place so I was able to familiarize a bit with the security guy and the care-taker.

To cut long story short, my fiance is an info giver, she na my gist mate, briefs me on anything and all that. She's been mentioning about our neighbour downstairs A FEW TIMES,who I didnt meet prior my departure sey the guy dey greet am well, wan help her re-pack her car one day and so on and so forth. So it happened that this morning, this dude has gone upstairs to knock on our door, she didnt know who was there cos she wasnt expecting anyone,so she didnt go to the door to even check not to talk of opening. So this dude has gone to the security guy to ask for my fiancé number, which that arindin easily gave to him, so he called and she didnt pick cos she didnt know the number, next the guy sent a msg saying my name is bla bla, uur neighbour downstairs, i had come to knock but no answer, just wanted u to know
that I am arranging a tenant meeting on sunday between 6 and 8, you can call back for mor info. She was the one that woke me up from here saying I should check my whatsapp cos she had screenshot d text d guy sent. Though she was already complaining that why would the security guy give the dude her number and that she's also wondering why the guy is even calling a tenant meeting.

I told my fiance that I will call the security guy first to query him as to why he did that. So i called security guy, he said it was when the d went upstairs to knock and no answer na him make him come ask fro madam number, I told him its wrong, next time use ur own phone call madam, and give him the phone to talk, or ask madam if you can give him her number. He apologized, so I asked him what the meeting was all about if he had an idea, so he claimed all the generator for the tenants is situated directly at the back of the guys flat is what he came to complain about that he cant sleep, so he wants to call a meeting. In my head I was like, no be
tenant build generator house for him back, this kinda issue is meant to be handled and communicated directly with the care taker or the landlord. I called madam back and told her the reason for the meeting, she shared same thought as myself that calling for tenant meeting isnt what the solution or the preferred step should be. So I decided to call the dude myself. I called and introduced myself, while introducing myself, he was like is this (fiance's name) i was like no, this is her fiancé, the guy replied, oh yea
FANTASTIC FANTASTIC, said that twice, I laugh inside, then I was like my wife said u had come to our door to knock but she couldn't hear the knock, but then you proceeded to get her number from the security post, that the meeting hes trying to arrange regarding the generator noise would properly be handled if he refers the issue to the care taker of landlord, omo this guy never allow me finish, just begin dey blow grammar interrupt me, begin dey raise voice,lol...now i was like bro calm down and chill, I called u, and i havent even finished and ur raising your voice and not allowing me to pass my message across. Na so he blow grammer go oo sey him nor like my tone, sey why i dey call am dey tell am sey make him go complain to care taker bla bla bla, shey sey na crime to go knock for neighbour door
bla bla bla. B4 he finish since i see sey he nor want peace, I just tell am sey oga dont let me hear u come knocking at my door the next time. Na so he hang up on me. As my wife call me back to ask wetin we yarn, i gist am and she got furious sey which kind nonsense be that, sey she go call the dude and confront him, I just tell her sey make she bone, sey make she nor attend the meeting, and act like nothing happened. In which she still called me like 5 hours later sey she go dispose thrash outside, sey him hear the guy dey gist another tenant the matter, sey na so the guy dey sweat, dey para with voice sey she come dey wonder sey nor be matter wey don end for morning this one still carry go dey gist new tenant, sey the confusing part be sey, both of them never familiarize cos she heard when the dude was asking the other guy of his name. Abeg people did I do anything wrong? And seriously everything I said here is nothing but the truth.