ChibuzoIkenna:
Thanks Guys, you all saved a lady's buck, time and emotional feelings. We should be proud of ourselves. I think she's smarter with this experience. @Redgal thanks for sharing your time with all of us. Hopefully we can still read from you. Lol

You're welcome ...I'm appreciative and Yes I plan to be checking in on this site from time to time.

KosiGee:


Check out what awaits you.

Choose one...

LOL you're a funny dude but no I don't look like that and I'm not old or white either. I can take a joke though LOL. Peace !

luminouz:
Redgal u still dey on top dis matter ni??
8 pages of advice never do u?
Just forget d guy then n grab ME!!!
Am not asking u for anything.....hope u can cook sha!!!
#justmessingwithu

Lol I'm done with him. I said before in my previous post I'm cutting him off. Trust me this forum has helped. You all can stop commenting now if you want, I get it Lol.

vcente:
redgal: its a scam alright,but that does not mean that you have to lose.by renewing his passport I believe he genuinely wants to come to America.so why don't you contact the agency he is using and make the payments yourself that way there are no doubts on side.p.s u will have to verify the agency yourself.but thats easy.

Your logic is a bit confusing how will I not lose if it's a scam? If he can be untruthful now what's to say he won't be untruthful in a relationship with me if he comes over here. Plus I don't have $2000 to throw away on a scammer even if he genuinely wants to come to the U.S. as you said.

SillyeRabbit:
How certain are you that OP is real of her claims ? How old is she ?

I'm real with my claims. I'm not lying. I too wondered about some of his claims but I guess by talking to me for a while this guy hit on some of my emotional buttons and compassionate buttons. I'm just thankful I was skeptical enough and didn't send the $2000. I am thankful for the advice given and I will cut off the guy.

connectpoint:
It's a scam..It has scam written all over it. Find another honest Nigerian please. This forum is flooding with responsible individuals not some dodgy fella begging money for food from cousin" ricky " ,lol...

Ok Lol.

obataokenwa:
Getting US visa without genuine reasons is not always easy. He will not pay a dime to the agent till the visa comes out which will be sent o the agent address and he can only collect it when he pays. US embassy will only require him to pay non refundable fee of 54,000naira($200) to Gtbank and they set the date of interview through email which he's suppose to copy you to be sure. Besides, why will the agent demand money before visa is processed and interview granted. The agent will charge only logistics money which can be $100 approximately. Please my sister, get a Nigerian over there and use their siblings here to be sure of what he's saying....If he doubt too much I can give u agent that will do it for him and you guys pay after it's out(not compulsory). The visa fee will be communicated to him and he pay that by himself which is affordable also by him. Don't send a dime till your witness here confirms it.... not

Ok good advice.

bravolyk:
Some of you are very funny here on nairaland.

Redgal please if you can afford to come down to Nigeria please do. The guy might not be a scammer. I feel he's genuine. As for the visa fee Redgal it's possible it might be up to 2000 usd as he requested, he's going through an agent. For him to tell you that his family can't afford the visa fee means he can't meet the basic visa requirements to visit America not withstanding the visa fee. Where will he get the his statement of account from, a good landed property that will serve as a strong financial home tie, he owns no business or a salary account. All these are just the expensive basic requirements thats why he is seeking the help of a visa agent which is very expensive.

I know of family members who paid 900k naira for American visa which is more than the 2000 usd he requested for.

But listen if at all you send him money for the visa and he ends up telling you story of how the money is not enough or how someone jilted him and went away the money just cut ties with immediately. You might think you've lost financially and emotionally but I'll tell you he's the biggest looser why? This opportunity will never come his way again.

But in all, I see a broke Nigerian who is fortunate to find love abroad and wants to also make a good life out of it too.

In all honesty my dilemma is I'm not sure if he's really broke. After I told him he would have to at least show that he can take care of half of the bill He said if I help him with $1000 for the visa he can sell the land he said he bought and spent most of his money on before he lost his job to pay for the remaining $1000. He also said his cousin and cousins fiancee could probably help me with the remaining $1000 when the cousin comes over to the U.S.

Sapiosexuality:
You better don't send him any money. Not even a cent. Don't try it.

He told me recently that he borrowed money for food from his cousin last week but the food ran out. Although he doesn't want to ask me he says he's asking me to help him with money for food sometimes. Says. Recently sometimes he goes to bed without eating. I feel some type of way about sending money for food but at same time I can feel for him if true.

obataokenwa:
To get visa to US is very hard... sincerely there are agents doing it for people by arranging the documents required for it and they charge 500,000naira which is about $1500. He may be willing to come over but how are you sure she loves you and will marry you when he comes over. They're many ways you can test his genuinty. There are many Nigerians over there... get a friend you know over there to connect you to any of their relations here they trust and hand over the money to the person and let the person follow the procedure up after they've confirmed this your friend as genuine by meeting him in person. Mind you also, the agents don't collect money till the visa comes out. so, if the visa comes out after the process I believe is the right time to pay the agent.... by then, you have genuinely confirmed the visa through your friends siblings over here...that should be the right time to send money. He's only required to pay visa fee which is about $200. I can brief u more Incase.

Had to reply to something you said here. He said the agent wants $1000 US first then will collect the remaining $1000 after the visa has been processed.

connectpoint:




Nigeria is acountry of good and bad people. While we strive to create a better image for ourselves and build a nation that is purposeful and one of liberty and lofty heights. Please do not come to Nigeria for now. This is not the best of times even if the circumstanceswere different. Nigeria will be a hub forpeople from all across the world in the future, but for now. On my knees, i'm pleading please stay away. The conomic strain is pushing people to do unusual things and your safety isn't guaranteed. Unless youre black and can blend in easily, stay away. There's nothing for you on this side of the world. The beauty of Nigeria is its people. If you have Nigerians around you there. Then you have all you need. Don't come here.... I told you hun...

I am black. I will heed your warning though Lol.

bencarson007:


We are tired of Nigerians always getting a bad name due to the ineptitude of just a few... I can help you check the dude out at NO COST if you let me because I don't want anyone to give my country a bad name like Nina4U was painting for you.
We are good people
Not minding some stupid few
Follow your heart but take your sense with you.
Let me know if you want me to find out about him for you
#Blessings lady

Thanks for offering your assistance and for your suggestion.

SirWere:


Nice.
The thing about folks like that is, they play on your soft part too often. How you were considering coming to a country where you have no one to stay with just to meet an online lover beats me honestly...

I hear you ..I would really love to visit Nigeria and Ghana one day though just not under these circumstances. Hopefully I can visit with a family member or something.

connectpoint:



Okay do this.

1. Ask for a voice call ..

2. Recognize the voice or make a recording

3. After two days ask for a webcam chat.. tell him by all means you need this..

4. The voice must match the face

5.Yes it costs $2,000 to secure an European visa. Most of the 17-20 year olds posting may not know or deny this

6. You are have him investigated before investing emotions...don't post the profile publicly, send it privately to about 2 Nigerians you feel are reliable.

7. Call the number with another number or chat with a different number than the one he knows you with

8. Ask to meet in third party country like Ghana

9. Ask for social media handle like Facebook etc..

10. Tell him your uncle has a vacancy in his firm, you are excited to meet and that he should send you his CV so that you can secure a job pending his arrival.I'm sure if he can meeet all this terms he's legit. If not, run baby. run

I already talk to him by what's app. I've done video and voice calls with him on What's App. Thanks for your other good suggestions though. My gut instincts is saying don't continue with a "relationship" with him. Its too much stress monetarily and otherwise unless he foots the cost.

connectpoint:


My dear it costs $2000 to process Visa to Europe.. This is without BTA, tickets and personal expenses..be careful taking counsel from anyone with dark color. A significant majority hate each other even without seeing one another, hence all counsel stems from this hatred...follow your heart..But most people on dating sites are 98% fraudsters... ask for a webcam chat for prolonged sessions ( this way he doesn't get someone to do it )

Does it really cost that much? I'm skeptical considering the cost I see online and what these people are saying here. I can't write off their opinions just because they are "dark color" as you put it. I feel he has to make up his mind to come up with the amount of money if he truly does want to be with me even if it cost that amount. As someone else on this forum says if some folks there can do it why can't he. Thanks for your comment though.

Kellibae:


Ok
But just be careful with him.. he is displaying some treats of a scammer.

But that doesnt make all nigerian men bad..there ar many good nigerian men over here who ar very loving and caring. And ready to sacrifice for u.
If u get that type of nigeian man the u a lucky woman..
My couisn just brough back hope a filipino last month and d lady said she aint going back, LOL
That she gonna stay here because of the loads of love she recieving from us.
What a lovely woman she is.

Lol Thanks for your input.

alexialin:




Benin?

He's scam o!

And most guys there are very good actors and great scammers . They are faithful and sincere to their own benin women . please just cut off the guy from your chats .
Orelse u wil have touching stories to talk about .

Peace .

Lol Thanks

Nina4u:
how do u know he is not working? Does he have kids? Is he divorsed?

He told me he lost his job. He has one child, a teenager. He says he's never been married. The child's mother is not alive according to him.

Kellibae:


Are u not the same redwoman on that topic?.

No I'm not the same person. I call myself "red" because I have light complexion. Had to come up with a username so I chose "Redgal".

monlawal:
Redgal you can do the following before coming to Nigeria (if you wish to come)
1. Book a hotel in Lagos and do that online all by yourself
2. Book an Uber ride too from Airport to the hotel
3. Upon arrival and lodging, ask the receptionist to get you to a police station. Give a report.
4. Inform him of your arrival and get him to come to Lagos.
5. Make sure the police is aware of your movements in case he requests you to meet his family.
6. It is easier for you to come to Nigeria than for him to process visa and come to America or any other European country.
7. Yes processing visa can be as costly as $2000

If processing the Visa can be as costly as $2000 as you said then why do some people on here seem shocked by that price and say it sounds like a scam ?

Yes he admitted he was a Nigerian. He has stated to me if he was a scammer he wouldn't be using video chat to talk to me. He's the one that contacted me first on the dating site saying I was beautiful etc. He started professing his love for me in the early stages of chatting on What's App. He's currently not working. I put that in my first post.

SirWere:

This, my dear lady, is a scam. Forget the fact that you have been chatting for months, I have people who maintain conversation for over a year just to "hit big".

I hear you. I will end it but extend friendship to him. I won't be sending no $2000 US or whatever amount that's for sure. I think it's time I move on from this "relationship". Thanks very much to everyone who has offered their advice. I took it into consideration.

fowlyansh181:
You guys are failing to ask the right questions to determine if he might be genuine or not? OP if you can answer these question then I think you should know if he is a scam or not, what dating site did you guys meet? How old is he and how old are you? This is to determine if he was indeed targeting for a victim or randomly ran into you and truly fell Inlove. How long have you guys been dating , what means do you guys use for communication?.. I won't lie if I tell you he hasn't considered scamming you, because in Nigeria even if he never had that thought of scamming you in mind, once he tells his friends about his genuine love relationship with you, they'd poison his mind and call him all sort of names for loving instead of asking for cash. Nigeria is a 3rd world country and things like this are expected, but like every relationship it has its ups and downs and you guys can talk about it. Tell him point blank you are aware of scams and you have got the feeling that he asking for such huge sum is some kind of scam.. many here have advised You going to Ghana and I advice that. But first you need to answer these questions before I can give my final verdict ..

We met on OKCupid and we have been communicating for about 9 months now mainly on WhatsApp. I'm 41 and he's 39.

Babacele:
lol @ Redgal ,you are a damn pretty troll. I have seen this post before but it is fun to get a lot of attention like you are enjoying now.

Honestly I'm not a troll. I really was seeking advice from people who might know better than me because they know about Nigeria and Nigerians. I don't seek attention. You got it wrong.

TarOrfeek:


You'll never forgive yourself if you let this man slip away.
My uncle has an Afro-American wife. works with the F. B. I they are the best couple ever. Visits Nigeria all the time. And gives me free health drugs and stuff always.
70% of people who posted here, had fragments of jealousy in their miserable hearts.
Like who wouldn't want an American citizen fall in love with them. How much so, if you're black, love fried chicken. And have terrific curves (there's a chance you do).
So I say, follow your heart, not misconceptions and preconceived notions.
And if you have a junior sister, or a widowed aunt, even your grandma. Link them up with some of these pretentious posters above.

I'm trying to give him a chance but the money part and visa procedures he's telling me about is what has me skeptical.

DeeTus:
And so what? Why would you open a thread just to finish this man? Look, you need to leave this site because there are lots of scammers here who behave like angels to gain your trust and hit you at the back.

If you really want to know if this guy is geniue or not, you have to do a background check on him. I am not going to lecture on that here. Like I told you earlier on, do not give him money but give him a chance.

Thanks

Nina4u:
who is she paying the money too?

I don't know

DeeTus:
You think I am an illiterate, right? Why should I be the man this lady is dating? Look, let me tell you, you think all white ladies are good you can worship them here? I pity you!

@Deetus
I'm not white. I'm black actually. Just to clear it up.

DeeTus:
You think I am an illiterate, right? Why should I be the man this lady is dating? Look, let me tell you, you think all white ladies are good you can worship them here? I pity you!

I'm not a white lady. I'm black. Just to clear this up

[quote author=Nina4u post=57845597][/quote]
I believe she's applying for fiancee visa for his cousin. For some reason he said it will cost her $2000. I don't know why though. Sounds fishy.

dingbang:
please don't go... Please.. Just save your money... Its better to give a beggar 2000dollars than to fall prey in the hands of a scam artist

Ok noted

@Ochinex
Lol Thanks for your input. I will take into consideration what everyone said. You've been helpful.