BoboYekini:
I beg your pardon.

I'd go as far as declaring that Nigerian women love their husbands the most if I was being ridiculous, but we love our husbands so so much. We don't dream of getting married just to have a wedding.

BoboYekini:
That's when the love is true. How many Nigerian women truly love their husbands? Very few, I'dl wager.

You can't be serious.

Just to reiterate what others have said, are you sure she enjoys it? It's not enough to think that because you do it, it's good. Me and my husband have a young marriage and we have tried different things. Sometimes it's hard for women to get in touch with themselves sexually because we are discouraged from being sexual. Especially after having a child, the fear of being pregnant again, if she is not ready for another child, or the effects of birth trauma can make intercourse daunting. After I had my baby I was so scared to do it, but my husband was patient with me & he took time to do pre-intimacy so I could relax.
Try and rekindle the spark not just in the bed, but in general. Women need a bit more warming up prior ro the act and it starts with building up the anticipation. Text her and tell her you're thinking about her; see where it goes. A little naughty texting can heat things up. Getting a text during the day from my hubby when he's at work to tell me he misses me *wink wink* makes me feel wanted. Maybe when she's cooking or taking care of the kids tell her how attractive/sexy she still is so she doesn't feel self conscious. Knowing my hubby sees me as his wife and not just mommy makes me feel sexy & want to look good for him. Make a habit of kissing goodbye and hello when you are back home. Just a simple kiss goodbye before he leaves for work can set the tone for the evening. Sow the seeds of true intimacy. Sex especially in marriage is less about the act and about intimacy. The more me and my husband are communicating and on the same page, the more sex we have because where there is understanding there is no room for anything else but love and expressing that love regularly. Sex is a way for us to connect, relieve stress, not just something to get over with. As a husband you have to genuinely want to get to the root of what has made her build up the wall and patiently break it down. As your wife she should try to work with you. Lastly I say pray. Ask God to soften her heart to you emotionally and physically.

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I just had an uber driver who told me that after 13 years his sister conceived triplets, 2 boys and one girl and she is pregnant again praying for a boy. I'm a woman of faith so I would say that that faith and prayer coupled with a doctor's advising is all you need. Despite her MIL accusing her of being a witch and asking her son to remarry so she could have grandchildren he vowed that marriage is for better or worse and he waited. So it will happen.

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Juzzybabe:

I am fine o. Thanks so much for checking up.

We are literally going through the same situation. Married for less than 7 months, newborn baby, a husband who went from worshipping me to now only wanting to talk about the baby, demanding that his mother is able to take our daughter to care for her while i sit around and do nothing i guess, and so much more drama. All i do is pray and fast because this pain is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. All my family is saying i married into the wrong family, my marriage was built on a faulty foundation based on lies & deceit & that I should divorce. As much as I can agreex i love my husband so much I can't bear to think of divorcing him, but he hasn't tried to reconcile with me for almost 2 months now not one time. I now see that the hold his mother has on his family & him is stronger than our love.

I can't believe what I'm reading. I'm literally going through a same situation with my own husband and my MIL who just wants to take my baby and kick me out. It's crazy. May God help us!

I hear what you're saying, that's what I'm doing now. Thinking with my head. Thanks

I honestly can't really stand them because I feel that if they can treat my parents the way they did by not being forthcoming and true friends and they've known them since before I was born then they can do anything to me. But this is about my child, not their relationship with me.

I love my husband even though things are difficult right now so I want to try and give our marriage a genuine effort despite my parents bleak forecast of our future. If he wants to prove to me that despite the faulty foundation that he wants to build on a solid foundation to show me that he has a plan for iur family that is strictly legal I am willing to give him a chance. I have to have more faith in him than that because I married him, but he needs to compromise. He is in jail so I want him to respect that although I do not want to take my child to their house, that we can agree on a neutral place to meet where they can spend time with her and see her.

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My grandfather is alive, but I can understand why my parents are so hurt so I cannot tell them how to feel. They have decided that they want nothing to do with their old friends for what they believe is a total betrayal of their trust. They would have never given their blessing if they had known what my husband had been into.

Our parents do not like each other because my husband made some mistakes and ended up in jail.