Run oooo. Big scam. My sister is a victim. Runnnn

What are the opportunities available after this? Like where and where can one work?

ifytrik:
he is a e very good friend of mine, more like a brother to me, he has never lied while he was here in Enugu but like they always say, Lagos can turn a good guy to a bad guy
I will ask him about the companies name letter, just that I don't want him to think am suspecting him of trying to DUP me mi



Modified: he said the name of the company is Qnet, according to him they will also process an international passport for me and equally get me an apartment after paying the money, and my weekly payment will be 225 dollars.

you better run. A friend duped my sister in-law with this same q net. He was scammed and looking for who to scam too. Run, na frenemy be that one

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These are samples

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Please who has an idea of the light situation on this siluko road, the area close to upss? Again, which areas in Benin has good electricity supply?

Please any info?

Location please

Please how true are these guys? Who has tried them? Are they tested and trusted? Should I invest with them? Thanks..

Please how true are these guys? Who has tried them? Are they tested and trusted? Should I invest with them? Thanks..

[quote author=Ritateach post=105582082]Thanks black boy. This brekete own too cost. Any other option

Good morning beautiful people. Please I am a married woman in her 30s and I have been teaching in a private school with N23,000 salary. Times are getting harder and I can clearly see that this change can't take me anywhere.


I have almost decided on giving up on this teaching job but I haven't seen another job yet. I am a banking and finance graduate and can work perfectly in admin roles.

Please any job arround these axis, even airport, gwagwalada is fine. Please help.

If you have a child struggling with academics especially in the primary school or you are preparing your kids for external exams like common entrance, junior WAEC, please reach out. 0. Eight 1 two double 9 8 5ive I seven 8 is my contact.

Do you have a child who hates mathematics, please reach out, if you don't see results in three months, please don't pay me. Yes, I am that confident.

God bless you all.

placeofallure:


What!
I am a subject teacher, not a class teacher.
I teach grades 4, 5, and 6 English Studies.
It's a private school with not more than 20 or thereabout in a class.
I earn 6 figures.
I engage in private practice too.
If your bargaining power is strong, you could charge 30 or 40k per child per month. Then the number of your side hustle depends on how much clients you can accommodate.
Personally, I don't do more than 3 side hustles for efficiency sake. If I coach your child privately, you must get value for your money.

God bless our every hustle.

please what state are you?

Klass99:


The bolded made me smile, I feel you on that. If I am not mistaking, she said her brother in-law came and beat the boy up once for his incessant bad behaviour.I'm assuming brother in law is her husband's relative and the boy's uncle as well. So, the brother in law is not a complete stranger and it wasn't exactly out of place for him to discipline him, since hubby won't do it.

On your second paragraph I think this woman has tried and she shouldn't be doing the heavy lifting alone with this boy or while his own parents are alive. She said she tried to pull him close and befriend him but even that didn't work, it's like she can't win no matter what she does. If she disciplines hard they will say it's because it is not her child and she doesn't like him. If she looks away and does nothing, when a well deserved consequence befalls him, they will still say it is because it is not her child, so she didn't care about him or his future.

If I was the woman in this situation, I will not tolerate nor endure that boy under my roof for long. Because, first of all his parents are still alive, as an adult I don't push my responsibilities to others and I don't like others pushing theirs to me either, when they are not handicapped or incapacitated. Secondly, training (whether formal or informal) can be paid for while he stays with his own parents, let him burden the people who brought him into this world.

Women are expected to accept far too much bullshit in the name of marriage or for the sake of being a good wife, it is exhausting. My own mother experienced the same with my father's people, popsie was training his brothers and sisters children, some lived with us and some didn't. I can 100% relate to OP's situation.

One of the idiots who lived with us and was trained by popsie till he graduated from Uni, didn't even bother to show up at the hospital when my dad was critically ill in a life and death situation. The guy goes about telling people how biased and unfair my mom was to him, touting other nonsense as well.

Meanwhile the idiot was first brought to our house at a young age by his parents without prior notice or any discussion, his father came to visit and left him at our place with a bag of clothes, popsie returned from work and was mad @ his brother for pulling such a stunt he was also ready to return the boy the next day.

It was my mum who calmed popsie down and said they don't reject children like that, let him stay and let's help as best as we can. That's how he lived with us from age 5 or 6 until he graduated Uni, what thanks did my parents get at the end of the day? My uncle will still visit empty handed and be stealing food to take away, popsie got him a job but he couldn't keep it cos he stole from there and was sacked.........too many annoying stories with my father's people, just narrating this one has me feeling angry after all these years.

I won't advise any woman to be a martyr in marriage or on top of yeye people matter, in the name of being a good wife! Woh, I dey vex joor from some of my childhood memories.

klass 99. Thanks for talking like one who has a broad mind..First his father is no where to be found. No trace. Pregnanted the mum and ran away. No trace so he currently bears hubby's surname. No way to trace. The boy came damaged.... His grandma brought him to us knowing things were getting out of hand and if not properly managed would get worse as she is getting old and sick and the mum isn't that okay mentally and finance but more mentally.

He had stayed with a few relatives but none could keep him before my mum inlaw brought him to us. I Knew him since he was 6 and had seen the lot of allowance he was given and felt it was wrong. E.g, he can be allowed to watch TV till 2a.m at night. He was always playing when not in school and had everything he wanted as a child and the mum cos of her mental state couldn't see the consequences of some of he actions. Like when he stole from his grandma and bought sweets, she would cover for him and prevent grandma from hitting him. When I saw all these, I told hubby, let's get this child out now and bring him to our home cause last last na you go train this pikin but hubbu siad No that his mum won't agree. I kept pressing and told hubby that if this child continues and gets to age 10, I won't take him in cause by that time e go don hard small.

Hubby never thought his mum would release the child but when he began giving her so much headache, she began moving him and somehow if finally landed with us.

Even with my own kids, hubbu isn't strict and observant. I do most of the discipline and the kids would tell you they love daddy more then mummy. It doesn't bother me cause I know I am doing the right thing. If the child was my biological child, I for don call police or soilder to threaten am sef without involving hubby. But cos he is not, I am a bit careful.

So the option of going back to his parents doesn't even exist. It's more like going to stay with his mum a bit or some of his uncles or aunt who aren't even ready to keep him.

The said uncle that beat him up grew up with him. They are 13 years apart in age. The uncle use to be the last born and then this child came when everyone were adult and busy with their life and grandma don dey age so no much monitoring. So it's something the uncle use to do while they were together. This uncle had lived with us for about five years before getting his apartment and sometimes comes over for weekends or stays for a few days or week. So it's not like a stranger. It's more like an elder brother.

He will go to boarding school in same state and I have told him to password his phone and not allow the kids near it. I have also warmed the kids to stay away from the phone. He is almost an adult so I am freeing him 90% to do whatever he wants. That way my sanity is intact.

If he had parents, tey tey him for don commot and of course one can help from far..

Rubbiish:

Are we not saying the same thing??
We know u want that boy out of your house, u are no longer happy your husband is spending on him, that is what is driving all these things u are doing. I can imagine what that boy is already going through in your hands. What do u mean by struggling get levels?? Are u the one spending on the boy? No be your husband? Because your husband has made a promise to train that boy, that is what has been itching u!

Enjoy man.

Kimmo:
The source of the stranger is the most important.

. It's very risky. But I would still prefer a stranger than family. I have had helps from the North through people I know or got introduced to and luckily I haven't had any issue with any of them. When they get to your home, love them pieces, allow them call their family back home anytime they want to. Don't discriminate them from your kids and be extra vigilant the first few months. Set traps so you can see what they are up to. Be their friends big time. You can't bring a stranger to your home without proper monitoring till you are comfortable with them. It's risky but sometimes one doesn't have a choice.

Rubbiish:

Throwing that boy out of her house so he won't corrupt her kids is the end destination of this her post! We know her type!

Like post like moniker. That's how you know people who don't have a broad mind because they wouldn't read wide and watch mind boggling programmes or listen to intelligent conversations and learn and grow. Their small minds can't understand why someone should have a superior knowledge than them. I am a grown woman and if throwing him out was on my mind, tey tey e for don happen.

I actually wanted him to go stay with his mum a bit or his aunty whom I know they are struggling, maybe life would teach him some sense. I myself, I am equally struggling but struggling get levels. So when I say I wanted him to go, that's what I meant but you're free to choose whatever you believe.

Now "throwing' him out, does it solve any problem? If I want to throw him out, nothing anybody says here would work. I would have taken my decision, not coming here to rant. But anyways your type have problem comprehending so suit yourself..

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Kobojunkie:
If the boy's mother is still in the picture, then why is he living with you?

Also, does he read books? You can maybe find him manga books to help get his mind engaged in some other things. Even books for him to learn how to fix phones since he expressed interest in that, is not a bad way to go..

His mum was somewhat affected with measleas as a child. This affected her Brain. I don't know what the condition is called in medicine but her reasoning is way below her age. So academically she couldn't cope and inshort she is in the village struggling and alone. Keeping the child with her is what she herself won't want because she feels she is struggling too much to keep him and because of her mental state, she feels the boy won't do well with her. Manuals on how to repair phones would be boring for him. Practical is what would really be engaging. For books, he prefers like primary school novles. Those ones with perhaps 20 pages. Anything more, no way. Thanks for the advice. I appreciate

Thanks to everyone who commented. Truly appreciate. I have decided to give him back the phone and allow him enjoy it. I just told him to password it and not allow the kids get access to it. That way all man is happy. Thanks you all .

Rubbiish:

Your gain is to get views from like minds that will help reinforce & validate your plans of sending that boy out of your house! Are u trying to say u like that boy more than your husband? All these things u listed cannot be seen by u alone! Just know that anything u do to that boy wrongly today because u want him out of your house, tomorrow is pregnant & u have kids! U can't tell where u kids will be tomorrow!

You didn't read well. But it's okay. I asked for opinions and so anybody is free to talk. The final decision lies with me.. Thanks anyways

Dtruthspeaker:


Now you have changed your story because you see you have been caught in your evil.

E be like say you no get work. I am too old to prove a point to anybody. You don't know me, you can't get me arrested. Why should I impress you? I can't say everything that has happened in 5 years in just a post. Even his uncle notices them too. I guess you didn't do summary in school. Why would I want to prove shit? How many post do I make on nairaland that I will be seeking validation from strangers? You're just a joker.

thejourney200:


Your frustration is understandable however, besides your husband, is there another man figure in the family that could help since your husband is nonchallant about his character? This is not the time to beat as there are better ways to handle him.
One of such is a role model who would keep talking to him and perhaps an introduction of rewards and punishment that you could make him do for himself. I will suggest you seek the help of a therapist.

. Noted with thanks.

VTJN:
That boy needs beating to reset his head. Your hubby is not helping matter. If he knows his presence can't be felt in the house, especially for that 17years old boy stealing, then he should return him back to where he brought him from

That boy needs a manly figure that he'd always be scared of. Give him a marathon beating with punishment. I swear it does help. He'd always think twice before stealing, knowing fully well what the outcome would be.

Do everything within your reach to make the boy stealing get your hubby attention

Probably those he stole from should come arrest him when your hubby is around, or better still they should come to give him a resounding public disgrace when he's around. This will definitely get his attention and by then you can chip in one or two possible means to curb this act of his for your kids sanity

That boy needs real beating seriously. He'd change if i handle him.

Who born monkey

Beating no fit solve this one o..I doubt..

Ishilove:
Since the head of the house is handling the matter with kid gloves, leave him so that he will bring disgrace to your doorstep. Many that is when your husband will wake up.

. My decision now..Hubby comes from a background where they take discipline lightly mine is opposite. You Bleep up, your Bleep up is treated according to your size and I apply same thing to my kids.. The boy is a happy jovial soul whom anybody can love at first instance until you get to know him. He also gets over stuff easily. He keeps no record of wrong. This is to say he isn't a totally bad package. I don't hate him but can't use the word love for him, I like him and wish him well and want him better. But I think I should free it. That's the best

thejourney200:
This is a serious issue however, at this time, so that you do not keep sounding as a broken record, why not try get close to him and deal with him as your brother or child rather than your husband's nephew. That could help connect you to his soul and talk about how he could change. Take him for therapy if he needs it and most importantly, don't discipline him out of frustration as you are beginning to sound frustrated.

. Honestly I am beginning to get frustrated. Initially I kept asking him if he felt unloved in my home, I tried getting him close later when that Didn't work, I began to ask how he got addicted, he said he first saw it on his mum's phone and kept watching with her phone but the mum use to caution him each time. Again he had been used to games on phone cos his grandma and his mum allowed him as a child and allowed him access to sooooo much TV time. He got addicted to gadgets early cos of games and porn. He spends so much time in bathroom when he bathes that I fear he masturbates,I have asked him and he said No. So yes i have tried talking to him like my son and that's how I got the info. When I asked the mum, she refuted it. She said it wasn't from her phone but I believe the boy. I have asked how to help him stop, he would promise to stop ans then slip again. I have even given him phone and he would say he is no longer watching it that he has changed and honestly I would search and won't see anything but a tech person can decode where he hid them in files on same phone where my village woman brain can't get. So it's really hard for me. Addiction is bad. If he doesn't have data, he can wake up at night and get into our bedroom when we are asleep and on the wifi. It had to take hubby's cousin who stayed with us to catch him and report. He is really smart.

sisisioge:
I think you should be looking at a boarding school for the boy and talking your husband into acceptance. Stop complaining about his vices to your husband, rather be reminding him of how your daughter or son might be the boy's sexual experimental target as he grows older anf more daring.

Also, pray he steals something from someone who would break one of his arms as restitution soon.

As for your husband, change tactics with him, start giving complainers his number or letting him face anyone your ward steals from next time. You cant kill yourself biko, let oga start doing the cleanup after the young hooligan. It is well.

. I agree. This boarding house issa goal. And yes. I will give compaliners hubby's number. I have told him about the dangers with the kids. He asked him to sleep in the parlor while the kids sleep in the room but my guy would watch tv till the wee hours of the morning and reduce the volume so one won't know so when we found out,hubby sent him back to the room but separate beds. What I do is to ask them to leave the light on always and the door open.

Richy4:
Only one person get all those vices
wey u listed there?hhmm!!
I read between the lines.. make I just Waka pass before them talk say I dey support the boy..

Richy4:
Only one person get all those vices
wey u listed there?hhmm!!
I read between the lines.. make I just Waka pass before them talk say I dey support the boy..

Nairaland is a faceless platform, what is my gain? A child that stole a phone from the nurse treating his grandma(my mum inlaw). You never jam kids who weren't monitored and allowed lots of freedom all in the name of he is still a child? Even his mother suggested we get him arrested so fear would enter his body but I declined.

1F30M4:
Ohh dear, this is a very serious issue esp having him around your kids Gosh! How exactly have you been dealing with this for 5yrs, I dunno but what I do know is that I would've lost my sanity esp when nobody seems to understand..

Even though (most) schools are resuming on the 13th which is a little less than a week now, I still think arrangements can be made for the boy to engage in something productive & rewarding like Kobojunkie suggested.. He may not be interested in construction, farming and all that but then there should be something he'll like, maybe y'all could call for a family meeting and talk extensively about this.. There should be a follow-up and then let him know that there are consequences for every action..

I feel that the fact that your husband doesn't seem all that bothered is what has made this so difficult and then your inlaws have been less concerned, it shouldn't be like that fgs.. Y'all need to take drastic actions before things spiral out of control.. Annddd yes ofcourse mariahAngel touched on the very important part, your kids should know about sex education, they're not too young and it's never too late.

My dear I have lost my sanity and cool on some occasions but we move. And yes! Hubby's non chalant attitude has worsened and encouraged him more.

The guy wants to learn how to repair phone but hubby is a scared that he might steal a phone.. I have spoken to family but they do their part by talking to him, I guess they are tired too. Hubby makes it look like my own is too much that I should overlook. My kids are very aware of sex education and I haven't stopped talking. Thanks for your advice

Kobojunkie:
At 17? He should be out there learning a trade or something- barbing, construction, mechanics , farming etc.

Consider looking around for places that are looking to hire and get that boy out of the house doing something productive, even if for a couple of hours a day.

I have oh but he won't report for duty. Either goes to a friend's place or sleep at home or watch movies. I am not always at home so I can't monitor him. When I tire to talk, I freed him. I speak to my children always and I am extra alert..

1F30M4:
Ohh dear, this is a very serious issue esp having him around your kids Gosh! How exactly have you been dealing with this for 5yrs, I dunno but what I do know is that I would've lost my sanity esp when nobody seems to understand..

Even though (most) schools are resuming on the 13th which is a little less than a week now, I still think arrangements can be made for the boy to engage in something productive & rewarding like Kobojunkie suggested.. He may not be interested in construction, farming and all that but then there should be something he'll like, maybe y'all could call for a family meeting and talk extensively about this.. There should be a follow-up and then let him know that there are consequences for every action..

I feel that the fact that your husband doesn't seem all that bothered is what has made this so difficult and then your inlaws have been less concerned, it shouldn't be like that fgs.. Y'all need to take drastic actions before things spiral out of control.. Annddd yes ofcourse mariahAngel touched on the very important part, your kids should know about sex education, they're not too young and it's never too late.

. I have lost my sanity a few times dear but we moveee. And yes hubby's attitude is the major reason why he has continued this way. My in-laws seem tired too or stylishly drawing back. Even in school, he has stolen a teacher's memory card before.

He says he wants to learn how to repair phones. Hubby feels he might go there and steal phone and so is isn't keen on taking him. Na woman I be and being that he is not my biological son, I am slow on taking a decision all by myself.