BukolaZ:
The medical profession is to be respected, not subjected to sarcasm...this niggas save lives!!

You're demanding respect for the medical profession, which is rightly so. But who are the niggas you're referring to? Niggas don't save my life! Doctors do!

Guys, just get a sense of humor. They dispense it at the Pharmacy too. This is funny!

nellytivities:
I like you.

Thanks a lot. I like your views too. You're so spot on.

moneyhungry:

Please can you send me money for waec fees?.
I'm from otueke and I have no shoes.
I however believe that I shall do my masters in France.

Hahahaha! I thought you were now the President. Your 'no shoes' days are gone. And the last time I checked, you finished your Master's and now hold a Ph.D Degree. By the way, what does it feel like being the President?

Srew404:


Spot on Bud. I kind of share into such school of thoughts....

Thanks buddy. I believe it's an interesting way to look at it.

I understand perfectly bro. If you convinced yourself that you did the right thing by going out of your way to help a lady, you're not a maga or mugu even when it turns out that she's a scam. She's the loser, frankly. But most of the stories here deal with the guys' expectation of something in return (whether in cash or in kind). When you expect something back and you don't get it, you feel like a maga. That's not the best way to give. Give without expecting anything back in return. Trust me, you'd never feel maga'ed. You'd just take it in your stride. And again, if you van't afford to give, why break your neck to? Most of these guys would go out of their way to 'help' a lady but never so with a relative or a friend. Now, you tell me who's to blame when they get 'scammed'.

fadjnr:


Nice write up bro. But the problem is most guys/girls being "magad" really have to go out of their way to provide what these scammers are looking for. That's just the painful part of it. Giving out money when u have it (scam or no scam) na small thing. But when u don't have it and u go out of your way to get it and find out you're being played is painful ooo.

If a girl requests money from me, the first thing I do is to assess the situation she painted to determine if she's credible or not. If I think she might really be in dire straits, I can oblige her whatever she requests if it is within my power. Once I make that decision, I don't care if she's a scam or not. I apply the same test too for males who ask for money. How many times have I had that feeling that this might be a scam? Plenty. But I go ahead anyway and do it as long as I've been able to whip up enough self-conviction. I'll tell you guys a story. It informed the reason for my present attitude regarding giving out money.

I met a friend during my NYSC program. We were great friends throughout the duration of our service year. She had a child at the time, though unmarried and she was always on the lookout for the fast buck. She was a great individual, nonetheless. Fast track to a couple of years later. I received a message from her that she needed money because her mother was in the hospital and they needed money to sort out the medical expenses. I summarily, without giving much thought to it, considered it to be one of the usual schemes put up by ladies as recounted in the different posts above. So, I decided not to assist. About a year later, she uploaded her mother's picture on her BBM and posted a message to this effect: 'One year after, I still miss you terribly mom'. I called her immediately and found out that her mother did, indeed, needed help at the time she requested money from me. She died because they were unable to meet up with the medical expenses. I was totally devastated.

Now, I'm not trying to say that the money I didn't give caused the woman's death. But there's no way I'd know if she could have been saved either. It's a guilt I'd live with for a long time to come. Bottom line is, if you can afford it, give. If she's a scam, that's her problem. If she isn't, you would have alleviated a distressed person's financial situation. Come to think of it, guys scam as much as ladies. I have male friends who concoct unimaginable tales about needing money. I still try to give anyway. That 'story' you consider so untrue might actually be a real life issue. Of course, if all the signs indicate an undeniably fraudulent plea, do not give. But if you cannot determine with accuracy whether it's true or otherwise, please, if you can, give.

The question of 'magaism' or being 'magarized' has been grossly overrated. It's nothing more serious as losing money when you can comfortably afford to lose it. My two cents.