Ralvy:

I recommend your 4th option,

That's if your sure of getting another Job as good as your present that's if your present is good.

@ralvy: nothing is guaranteed, i definitely can get another job, how soon i don't know. i love my current job but i this guy is making me hate it.

@guys:thanks for your advice on this. i just got a new nokia phone that record calls, i tried it and it works well but there's a little issue, it gives this sound that mite let the other party know the call is being recorded, i want to get my life and peace back asap, do u think he'll notice this when am recording his conversation? any advice from a nokia phone guru wil be helpful.

once this done, i can take it up with my boss as evidence.

@salsera: yup, persistence can be a strong thing especially since i dont know the legion driving this man.

the solid proof like u said is what i need the i will nail him in his coffin finally. funny thing is he keeps saying that he knows i won't tell a soul.

@2dye4- i have not cracked nor have i broken

@salsera- thanks for the tips. if am not gay by orientation, i cannot become gay by persuassion. worst case, i'll quit the job and move on. i know there's nothing wrong with me (though have thot about it lately). its not a bad thing having good looks but when it gets the wrong attention?

like i said, guys have made passes at me before via phone, but once i tell them am not down, they step.

but this one has been chasing me ceaselessly.

i have not been to work for a week now as i have been ill for a while now, but once am back i intend to tell my boss.

i thot of telling some senior folks in church but am skeptical as i don't want them telling me to come for deliverance when the problem is not with me.

onome02:

soul mate is one u connect with, it's unexplainable, something deep down, a life partner is who u're married to (lol)

i definitely agree

ladies, cut the fight. funny thing is ur both ur 66th posts, how coincidental?

@hazel_eyed: ur right about that moment we all ask ourselves silently whether we can go thru such a journey but the fact is some people are courageous than others and can live & love beyond that fear.

for me i can if the lady is truly worth it.

this is actually worse than jamb

@poster: i wish my shame was a enouf for both of us. ur life must be very sad.

@ima1:
i don't tink it has anything to do with hunger, he justed wanted the chance to talk to me alone and sort of created a distraction. my colleague was not aware of the reason why i asked her to accompany me otherwise she would have declined.

@mishoo: That idea is too great a risk to take, me and him alone in a hotel? No way. can't even conceive of it.

@drrionelli: Legal advice, it mite help but i don't have no one to offer that. no one on this forum seems to have any tip on that. Still pondering on the option of telling by boss but its so messy. Am tryin my best to endure his games and trash but i feel i mite explode soon!

@aproko:
bad advice! he requested to see me today and i went with your idea of taking a colleague along to his office. yeah, he was shocked that i came with someone and i guess he cautioned himself at that moment but to my surprise he asked the chick to help herself to a lite snack downstairs and she agreed, immediately she left, he said i was stupid and that he knows what am playin at. i am tired.

@aproko:
i also tot things like this were only in US and other western countries, but that line of thot changed like a year ago. this is not the first time some bum has called me to say he likes me 

- the first time i cursed the guy on phone and warned him never to try that sh*t with me again

- the second was on Hi5, when this guy who viewed my profile and started mailin me to say he wants us to meet.

i don't have anything against gays (its their life for all i care) but when they start hittin on u, it becomes annoyin.

staying calm and jokin with him is very hard especially when he starts his perverse talk.

am thinking of installing a call-blocking software on my phone that would blacklist his number when calls, but what if he uses another?

guys, tthanks for your suggestions on this

@drrionelli: it is embarrassing. imagine being with your friends and someone calls you to talk trash and your are trying to be calm in their presence, its upsetting. like u said giving my job up is a bad idea, i still need to work and earn a living but this man is using his position as a client to frustrate me.

@2dye4: bashing him? he's filthy rich u know,

@Ess: in all fairness, his investment his the largest i have from one single client and my boss expects me to treat him like a god. the recorder thing mite work if i have a fone that can record calls.

@adeboo: lai lai, i can neva do anything wit any man. God forbid. but i really don't know if he's goin to stop this harassment.

Hi pple, am about to share a one month old nightmare that i never told anyone and truely need ur opinion as it mite help in tackling this.

I got a job at an investment company on the Island Dec last year after youthservice as a marketer and it been quite challenging but interesting. i hav met different folks thru dis process but any real trouble began when i went to sell our product to a prospect (lady) in an hospitality org in Ikeja. during our talk, her boss (a manager) walked in joined our discussion.me feelin like a sharp marketer, introduced myself and encouraged him on the benefits of our product. he gave me his card and told me to meet him over the weekend to talk it thru and he mite sign on.

as agreed i met wit him over the wknd and we discussed but along the way he kept on staring at me and changed d topic and asked if i had a girlfriend and i said not at the moment. then he asked what my wildest sexual fantasy was, at this point i was curious and i asked him if he was "bent" and he said yes. i told him i wasnt down with that and that i had to leave as i wasnt comfortable with his questions which i did.

a week, later he comes 2 my office and says he decided to make d investment (8.5 million) and that i must be his account manager. i declined but my boss would not accept my stand and i didnt want to tell him the reason why. when my boss left me to tidy d documentations with him, he grinned stupidly and said "am goin 2 break u".

this guy as seized this opportunity to tormented my life wit all sorts of dirty text messages and calls at odd & ungodly hours of the day, ask for unecessary meetings just to get the chance to see me and i am sick of his crap. from my findings about him (from the lady) he's in his late 30's, married & has 2 kids. what does he want from me, why can't he find pple u are also bent like himself? i av said No with my mouth, eyes and ears but this bastard wnt let it rest.

i find this hard to discuss with my colleagues & friends as i find it embarrasing that i am the object of this man's fantasy.

things am thinkin of doin to get him off my back:

- tell my boss the truth and transfer his acc to someone else
- threaten contact his wife & tell her about his lifestyle
- threaten to go to the police
- leave the company, change my fone no.

i dnt knw if this can work, so please what do u think i can do ?

a car first 4now.

three boys @ once.