placeofallure:
A relationship is not necessarily all about sex all the time. Those other activities outside sex will help you to know how well you will bond outside the bedroom. Compatibility in marriage matters a lot. Situations may even arise and you're both in your best interest advised to withhold sex while you are married, what then fills the gap?

My husband and I go out if need be to visit family or friends, or on a date, attend concerts etc. If we are indoors we play all these board games, watch movies together, I'm a season movie freak. At other times, we just stroll around the neighbourhood. We're both chatter-boxes, we gist a lot, or he plays his guitar or keyboard while I sing to it. There must not be a dull moment.

Uhmmmm. So romantic. In a relationship or marriage, romance is more important than sex. Romance here means doing simple things in a special way.

If you are in a relationship with someone currently or
before now, chances are that you may have wondered if
you can still cherish that relationship without sex. Well if
you have not wondered or asked yourself that question
then I think you should right now as it may help you
measure the dept of love you feel for your partner.
Well I can bet that only few people in this part of the world
(Africa) will be in a relationship without sex - not like the
whites don't do that too anyway.
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But if you ask my view I will tell you that frequent
premarital intercourse kills relationships. In essence, I'm
not saying you should not have it sometimes if you can't
hold it but be sure that doing it frequently may cause you
to lose respect and also,
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So if you are wondering what other fun things you can try
with your partner when both of you are together then read
on as this post will try to suggest some fun things you can
do with your partner aside sex.
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1. Dance to a music :
This works like a magic trust me. The next time your
woman visits you just try to find time to dance with her in
your room. The truth is most ladies find it romantic to
watch their man dance. The guys are also grateful when
their woman dances for them too.
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2. Play a horror movie :
This may seem crazy but it works mehn. If you love it
when your woman scream while you put it in, then you can
get that exact screams by playing something scary like a
horror movie. Trust me, she's going to be screaming and
holding you tight for fear all through the movie. Isn't it fun
to see that your woman feels secured in your arms?
The little warning here is : make sure your woman enjoys
such movies too.
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3. Do pillow fight :
When I do this it actually reminds me of those childhood
days. Well it's fun to throw a pillow at your girl and watch
her scream while throwing some at you also. It will bind
the both of you like kids' friendship but please don't hit her
hard to avoid 'plays gone bad.'
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4. Play Games together :
This is one of my favorite. If you have a game console like
the Playstation then you can play TV games with your
partner and see who wins. Playing card games like 'whot'
is also a great fun. If you are very good at any of these
games, try to let your woman win sometimes so it doesn't
get boring for her. She will be happy to win!
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5. Finger your woman
Well, if you are into a 'no sex'  relationship due to a
commitment then this will work for you. You could kiss
your woman,  caress her body and then take it to the
peak by fingerings. This will keep her satisfied as though
the main thing happened. You also get to save your fluid
for the better days. Hahaha....
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In conclusion, love making should not be the only fun thing
you do with your partner, pick out time to try other things.
Enough said, just find out what works best for your partner.
DO you have something you think should be added? Please
let me know in the comments.

SOURCE : http://www.romanceclinic.com/2016/07/5-fun-things-you-can-do-with-your.html

Bearing children is not as important as bringing them up.
This is because kids tend to rely on what they learned from
their parents as basis for formulating their own lifestyle.
That being said, things could get complicated when
parents forsake their parental responsibilities.
Aside forsaking parental responsibilities,, your children
could also go wayward if you don't know what to teach
them at the right moment
This post tries to highlight some of the ways parents corrupt or mislead their own children without having a clue about it. We will also examine some things you should do or teach your children before they grow up.
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1. Being too busy :
I have mentioned that children tend to rely on the ways of
their parents as basis for formulating their own lifestyle. By
implication , too busy parents will most definitely leave
their children with no option but to form their own lifestyle
either by themselves or based on what they copy from
other children as well as people in general.
Being too busy for the kids is mostly the case in a family
where both parents are working full time in a corporate
organisation. Some families tend to fill the vacuum by
employing babysitters and nannies but the fact is : this will
not resolve the issue as you may not be able to detect
what traits the kids will copy from such employees.
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2. Beating a child as major punishment.
Yes, spanking your kids is sometimes necessary because it
makes them fear to repeat whatever wrong they did that
warranted such. But on the flip side of it , beating your
children often as the only punishment measure you
administer may cause them to be stubborn in the long run.
That's where you hear children say things like 'if I do this
the highest thing my dad or mom will do is to flog me.'
This is because their body may become used to the cane
and then you know you have more trouble to deal with.
A common resolve for this is to be creative. Try to use what
they love most against them when they do wrong. For
instance, if your child enjoys playing TV game after school
then you should sometimes seize the game or stop the
child from playing the game. But don't forget to tell him/her
the reason(s) for your actions.
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3. Always Keeping your children indoors :
If you have a female child, for example, you may be
tempted to think that locking her up in the room and not
letting her go out is one cool way to keep her away from
bad friends.
While the above may sound like the truth, it is actually a
false believe. This is so in the sense that : aside denying
your child the opportunity to mingle with their peer group,
the day they eventually get out of your 'prison' They will do
worst than what you can imagine.
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4. Feeling uncomfortable with discussing love matters :
I personally grew up to find that my parents were the shy
ones. They never felt okay with discussing love or
relationship matters with us even though we were grown up
enough to know these things then.
Well I'm not saying you should push your kids into early
relationships but you need to talk about it, tell them how to
know a good partner, tell them what sex is and the dangers
of early sex before marriage, help them understand
everything they need to know. If you fail to do this, just be
sure they will still learn these from somewhere else. So
what if they learn it the wrong way?
My suggestion is that from age 14 you should start
teaching them and as time goes on, start asking about who
their boyfriend or girlfriend is. Don't assume they don't
have any especially from age 18.
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5. Quarrelling with your spouse while the kids are around :
Well this Is a common trend these days. I have mentioned
that your kids will copy whatever you do as parents. So
fighting or quarrelling in their presence will automatically
mean you are teaching them how to do same.
My recommendation is that you settle every issue in your
private bedroom and be sure both of you don't raise your
voice or resort to fighting so as to avoid drawing the
attention of the children. Do you understand?

SOURCE http://www.romanceclinic.com/2016/07/5-ways-parents-corrupt-their-children.html

It's either she's not your babe or you have a low self esteem. And having dated this one you feel we should know about it.

Valid facts but only kids among men do these.

Locking your phone is OK but using a password for Sim makes no sense.

TrapQueen77:
*sigh* the #5 ...I need to work on tat.

Ahahahaha! Dear, You like being on the controversial side I guess.

Falling in love with that special someone often comes with
much excitement that you tend to feel so willing to give your best to the person you love.
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On the flip side of it, the euphoria that comes with every new relationship has a huge tendency of sliding down with time especially if the parties in the relationship entered into such without knowledge of what it takes to love or should I say to truly love someone.
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In this post however I have put together some facts you
should know before entering into a relationship. In subsequent post, I hope to discuss facts you should know before getting married. If you will hate to miss that post I advise you subscribe to #RomanceClinic by email using to subscription form provided at the source link.

So here are five solid facts you should know about falling
in love and relationship in general.
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1. You can never get all you desire in ONE man or woman, but you can make them become or look like what you desire.
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2. If beauty and looks is your yardstick used in finding who
to marry, then you a most likely to fail and would likely end
up with the wrong person.
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3. I' trust you' is a better compliment than 'I love you' because you will always truly love that someone whom you trust but may not trust someone who you love.

4. Marriage is a covenant between two imperfect People who have chosen to love each other perfectly.
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5. Understanding, tolerance, patience, trust, ability to easily
forgive and forget when wronged by your spouse are
virtues that must never lack in any marriage/relationship
that would last the test of time.
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You have seen my list and I hope to update it with time. Do you have something you feel I should add? Any contrary opinion? Please drop your comments below and let's chat.

SOURCE http://www.romanceclinic.com/2016/07/5-solid-facts-you-should-know-about.html

thesuave10:
This is like saying we shouldn't date ladies

Hahahahaha. Nope bro. All ladies don't possess these negative qualities.

TeflonMe:


By that you mean there are lots of men queuing up for your hand in marriage ? The last time I checked you are still a spinster so why not just pick one to marry since you have them at your beck and call.

Ask all the so called single, single mother- feminists around , though they won't tell you the truth- they cry under their pillows every night praying for a man. You are here proud of being a feminist. Wise up girl, this is Nigeria in Africa not Europe and the Americas.

Let me tell you something I have understood over the years, feminism is as a result of bad relationship experience for ladies. For a fact, I don't know why a lady will want to be a feminist if she is always pampered by her man. It beats my imagination because ladies have an inherent want to be pampered.

Peace.

So true bro. I couldn't agree more.

As for the obvious argument on 'feminism'. I don't think being a feminist is actually wrong since we are not in the era of Abraham. Feminism only becomes bad when it translates to a lack of respect. But everyone has the right to think and act accordingly.

PeachyP:
Op a sadist isn't someone that's always sad o

Hello dear, I don't think any part of the post tried to define who a sadist is. But for your proper understanding, a sadist is someone who derives pleasure in offending others. So such kind of Ladies are difficult to please because they just want to make sure you are offended and then they label it as 'trying your patience. ' Don't always try the patience of someone you love because all humans are not perfect, hence you may lose them.

In our contemporary society divorce is no longer a scarce
word as a good number of marriages these days hardly last
without one party or the other contemplating getting a
divorce.

If you ask for my view, the too many divorce cases we
have today, as well as heartbreak, is consequent on the
sad fact that many people often try to 'manage' their
partner either for pity, necessity or want of money. There
could be other factors, hence this post tries to highlight the
kind of girl you should not date or marry. (Female version
coming soon). So guys, if you are ready, let's go.
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1. The liars.
I've once been in a relationship with a lady I knew was a
perpetual liar. My view was that with time I could change
her into an honest lady but I was wrong. No one likes to be
lied to. So if you try to manage a lady who doesn't mind
telling you she was just coming from a 'chemistry
rehearsal' probably because she doesn't know how to tell
you she went to see another man then I can assure you
that you will soon get tired of her.
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2. The Rule Makers.
Have you ever wooed a girl and she told you that she will
be interested in the relationship only if you will agree to
some certain rules? Some of such rules may include 'no
sex until wedding night, no frequent visitation, blah blah
blah.....' I just have one problem with this. That's nothing
more than the fact that such people will certainly bore you
one day because they will keep making rules for you.
Even if there will not be sex in the relationship or frequent
visits, I feel it's rude to say that to a man. But it's best to
be told before hopping in. So as a man you have a duty to
decide if you will be comfortable with that or not.
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3. The Hard Girls.
Seriously you may be wasting your time trying to build your
own philosophy into some ladies. If before asking a girl
out you have noticed she relies on her own decisions and
would hardly take advice from no one, going into a
relationship with such in the belief that she will change
with time is a great risk, though that may be the case.
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4. The Sadists.
Trust me, not every man can stand the troubles that come
with dating a sadist. You will hardly please them because
you will need plenty of time to understand them and what
makes them happy. For example, while every lady would
normally cherish gifts, a sadist may say you are stalking
her with your too much gifts. Lol.
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5. The 'Don't Explain' Ladies.
I personally have problems with these kind of ladies. When
you do or say something that got them angry and then try
to explain yourself they will simply walk out and won't
listen to reasons. For me, these kind of ladies will easily
walk out of a relationship or marriage and leave your heart
in shambles .
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6. The Double Daters.
Sometimes you may love a lady so much that you will be
willing to share her with other men provided she will be
giving you some attention too and in the belief that she will
soon be yours alone. Well this is a false feeling. You
should only permit that if your sole aim is to flirt with the
lady and dump her. But if you are in for true love, it should
be either you alone or never.
Funny enough, some ladies may have the nerve to tell you
they can't date only you because you alone can't meet all
their needs. In such situation don't try to force yourself
into her queue, just let it go.
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SOURCE : http://www.romanceclinic.com/2016/06/6-kind-of-ladies-you-should-not.html