Politics / Re: Throwback Video Of Lateef Jakande On Queue To Cast His Vote In July 1979 by Ruq: 5:42am On Feb 21, 2021 |
madridguy: Subhanalah, see orderliness, no tout, no signs of vote buying or stealing ballot box.
Nigeria of yesterday. Yinmu, E don dey since. Surely Agbero no go dey where dem kind dey vote. 1 Like |
Health / Re: Where Can I Get ADHD MEDICATION In Lagos. by Ruq: 4:07am On Feb 21, 2021 |
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Religion / Re: Magic Mushrooms Or Magic Plants by Ruq: 8:24am On Feb 19, 2021 |
Basiljoe:
Haven't gotten it yet, that's why I am hesitant to reply. Oh okay. |
Religion / Re: Magic Mushrooms Or Magic Plants by Ruq: 8:23am On Feb 19, 2021 |
Basiljoe:
What's your number, I'm going to the market today. GIVEN |
Religion / Re: Magic Mushrooms Or Magic Plants by Ruq: 12:27pm On Feb 18, 2021 |
Basiljoe:
About to get some today. Bruh i keep dropping messages, no reply, can i just know if you got it or not? |
Religion / Re: Magic Mushrooms Or Magic Plants by Ruq: 4:29pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Basiljoe:
About to get some today. I sent you a message already on WHatsapp. I even called, but a lady picked up. |
Religion / Re: Magic Mushrooms Or Magic Plants by Ruq: 4:24pm On Feb 16, 2021 |
Basiljoe:
About to get some today. Bruh! Please can i reach out to you? Did you get? |
Religion / Re: Magic Mushrooms Or Magic Plants by Ruq: 9:44pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Basiljoe:
Haven't been able, best recommendation I got was somewhere close to unilag, would commence search later in the month. Tyler durden is a legend. Please let me know when you find, i wish we could exchange numbers. |
Religion / Re: Magic Mushrooms Or Magic Plants by Ruq: 4:28pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Basiljoe:
I see you're a fan of Fight club, one of my favourite movies of all time. Any where else one can get these mushrooms? I don't know, i am asking also. I really would like to get one, have you been able to get any? Fight club tops my favourite Movie of all time. The lines stick with me so much in my head. |
Religion / Re: Magic Mushrooms Or Magic Plants by Ruq: 3:37pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
Basiljoe: Any show for those in Lagos Please we asking also. |
Nairaland / General / Re: Can Shrooms Online Deliver Magic Mushrooms At Any Time? by Ruq: 3:29pm On Jan 15, 2021 |
charleybam:
I need someone that can sell me the substrate so i can grow magic mushrooms myself Please did you find? Did you get Magic Mushrooms? I really need to get too. |
Health / Re: Has Anybody Experienced Schizophrenia by Ruq: 9:14pm On Jan 10, 2021 |
komonibo: Thank you very much for your reply. I am in the shoes of schizophrenia, though I am currently on drugs, will like to know how you managed it, how long it took you to overcome it and with which type of drugs, it is actually depressing \ Hmm... luckily for me i didn't use any medication for it at the time, you can see it's an old thread. But later on, i went and still battled with depression. I just hope i get back to 100%. I'm sure you'll do okay since you're on meds and have access to a psychiatrist. |
Health / Re: Has Anybody Experienced Schizophrenia by Ruq: 1:44am On Jan 10, 2021 |
komonibo: sorry this is coming late, I will like to talk to you personally please Yeah, what's the issue? |
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Health / Re: Trevo Africa Company by Ruq: 11:58am On Sep 07, 2020 |
How much is trevor now? |
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Family / Re: Am Gradually Loosing It by Ruq: 9:12am On Sep 05, 2020 |
valgbo: not really just wanted to know, if you've ADHD, any thing with calculations becomes so difficult, I know because I am studying industrial chemistry right now, and it is the worst decision of my life, I tried to read but I can't concentrate, I can remember a lot of times I go for night class, and I will be stuck in one page till morning, because every little thing is a distraction, but when it comes to things that you enjoy reading or things that you are interested in, you won't lose concentration (hyperfocus). Well, true i have issue reading too even though i studied a course not that had. I think reading generally is difficult even though i like what i am reading. Back in school, i always needed a place filled with graveyard silence before i could read. Still, i would struggle to focus. |
Travel / Re: Social Distancing In Vehicles: How Are You Coping With Transportation Fare?? by Ruq: 1:35pm On Sep 03, 2020 |
Alimat40: Lagos to Agbor, i spent#6500. How much was it previously? |
Family / Re: Am Gradually Loosing It by Ruq: 5:00pm On Sep 02, 2020 |
valgbo:
Do you have the disorder? To an extent id say yes. Does that affect the question? |
Family / Re: I Still Steal From My Parents At The Age Of 35 by Ruq: 6:40pm On Sep 01, 2020 |
henryokafor0: same here bro, I don't feel connected to him at all, recently he's been trying to get intimate with me by discussing how close he was with his old man and how envious he's colleague was of his closeness to his dad and blah blah blah, he even put it in our morning prayer on different occasions ( let our kids come closer to us and realize their parents are not there enemies) but that didn't move me.. I don't hate him but tbh with ya bro, the parental cord / tie don cut like bet9ja ticket.. still feel him tho but he's too rigid for my liking They don't understand that the bond is best built when the kids are still little. There's a duration for the channel. 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Still Steal From My Parents At The Age Of 35 by Ruq: 6:15pm On Sep 01, 2020 |
Evolutionlove:
Generally 70% of Nigerian Parents are Sadistic, Narcissist, Educated & Uneducated illiterates, Tyrants, Egoistic Fools and Unrepentant Evil People. Most of them keep on turning over how their parent treated them to their offsprings, foolish people. I'do envy those people whom their parents showed them love and stood by them In all season. Some of these peeps doesn't even know the huge favour God did for them. See let me tell you, You are not alone, Even most of the bast,ards condemning you on here are having It worst than you. Most of them are from extremely damaged and broken homes. There are too many frustrated and broken people In Shiithole these days. I will just advise you keep your heads up and focus and take charge of your life. As brutal as this sounds. It's the truth. |
Family / Re: I Still Steal From My Parents At The Age Of 35 by Ruq: 5:16pm On Sep 01, 2020 |
WoundedLamb:
He probably meant "didn't". Maybe he also didn't learn how to write. More things to blame mummy and daddy for. Lmao...
I believe the guy is just trolling. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) Seeing his other replies, I feel he's actually trolling. Got me pissed a little cuz I thought he really needed to be fixed right in the head. 1 Like |
Family / Re: I Still Steal From My Parents At The Age Of 35 by Ruq: 5:10pm On Sep 01, 2020 |
Blessingisrael: Dear OP, I do hope you find and read this, I also do hope this will help someone else. you said your parent did care much for you when you were a child. They probably are protective parents who do everything for a child, but protective parent never teach their children self love. They believe all the type of love the child needs come from them. they are great providers, too. but do not teach their kids how to stand on their own. one effect of protective parenting is that their kids are vulnerable to being bullied by outsiders. you have every right to be crossed with them, but then, that's probably the only way they understand parenting. I could call you names like others who probably doesn't understand where you are coming from , but I won't, because I know the danger of wrong childhood foundation, and the extent this damage could go even in adulthood. your act of stealing is a way to rebel, for you feel your parents didn't do much for you in helping you discover who you are and what you can do. so you blame them for the wasted years. you have right to be annoyed. guess what, if you must heal, you must forgive , forgive , forgive , accept their errors and yours, and move on to achieving. be willing to start another end for your self. for if you continue on this stealing lane, you won't end well. you won't even aspire. cut the stealing , talk to a therapist , get a trusted friend to talk to. if you are willing to talk to someone who understands childhood trauma and it's effect in latter life, you can send me a mail. you need healing of the soul and spirit which will transcend to your body and allow you to aspire again and live your life May God bless your soul for this gem you've dropped. Reading it was so calming and connecting. Indeed you know how deep the effects of childhood trauma can be. I always say that parents are the architects of a child's future. People underestimate the effect of one supporting adult, just one. Growing up wasn't perfect but I know in the hands of the right parents, I'd have been a super genius. Even though I don't hate myself like that like that. I can't say I love myself either. The idea of self-love just feels wrong, even though I understand why it's necessary. I get scared to love myself because I erroneously think it is wrong. Even, I struggle to accept being loved despite being likeable. Those signs of self hatred are deep rooted. The self sabotage too. This man here is really pained and I can see I connect to why he feels that way, but most people will never understand. I thought the OP intended to say his parents did not care for him. I'm surprised,because i feel it's those who weren't card for who usually struggle with self love. Feral kids come to mind. The pattern of never feeling cared for stings. The feeling of being cherished is an unusual one. You continue to self sabotage even in the face of real comfort. Even though I am no longer pissed I still have the rebellious spirit. I have pushed away hundreds of beautiful people and souls who show me kindness. I just really struggle to accept being loved. And God has blessed me in everyway too, but I still have that rebellious nature. The good thing about never feeling cared for is that you rarely take life serious, I know people who are worried people may not cry after they die. I have nursed that pain so well I have an obsession of leaving life at anytime. ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) I hope I heal fully to realise how stupid my thoughts are. Childhood trauma crosses into issues depression and other mental illness, intelligence, PTSD, anxiety. A person's overall happiness, their insecurities, their view of life. Too too many that I can't list. I hope those who went through horrors growing up are able to heal and find someone that changes their narrative, most importantly I hope they'll be able to believe in God and his love and find life worthy of living. There are several cases of feral kids that leave me speechless at how heartbreaking it is to have your parents break your own soul. And I still hate the term "self love" I don't care how much self love you possess, the warmth of knowing someone loves you will always beat it. While it's important to love yourself. You'll still feel like shit when it dawns on you that you can't even boast that someone loves you. I even believe most of the people who think they love themselves do because they had someone who loved them and subconsciously they imbibed it. The fact that one has to consciously practice "self love" means something went wrong somewhere. Everyone is supposed to love themselves subconsciously and kids can't do this by themselves that's why they need someone to show them how till it's imbibed. Ends rant. ![angry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/angry.png) Anyways it was refreshing to read your comment. God bless you immensely. |
Family / Re: Am Gradually Loosing It by Ruq: 10:39am On Sep 01, 2020 |
Maduawuchukwu:
Just try see a psychiatrist. Where do you live? Lagos. Gbagada. |
Family / Re: Am Gradually Loosing It by Ruq: 6:59am On Sep 01, 2020 |
valgbo: bro I know this is probably late and I hope you didn't do it, but computer science is not for people like us, reply my pm pls I want us to talk I'm curious though, why do you say computer science is not for people like us? What specific reason? |
Romance / Re: Have You Got Adhd? Well, Come On In! by Ruq: 10:17pm On Aug 31, 2020 |
Right now, I just need where I can get medication. I know people will say not to self medicate because of side effects and possible addiction. But no one will understand the pain of having many of years wasted and miserable because of an issue that seems so easy to fix and yet years go by without any progress.
For me time is never enough. I feel 24 hours is too short to make a day. I need like 78hours to make a day. It sick looking at other people and wondering how they are able to cope with life and juggle everything easily. I have attempted to resign from work,I've just been blessed by good employers. I can't muster the will to start and complete a task. The strength is there,I know my body is capable but my mind won't let. I've been depressed, suffer some form of anxiety and I have turned out reclusive. I don't even know who I am anymore.
I get easily overwhelmed with just about anything. I can barely sit through a 90 mins movie after pausing and contnuing it about 10 times in two months. At my age I have not read up to 10 books, barely done 5, only two novels and other short books. Room has been disorganized for months now,each time I start to arrange it,I can barely follow through, I just make little space by the bed side where I can sleep. It's torture paying attention. School was hell for me, I thought of dropping out because the grades weren't it t all, and the sad thing is I know I'm smart as in, I know I am better than what I put out. Then it has gotten to a stage where I lack a sense of urgency after suffering from panic attacks of whatever is urgent. Now I have a degree in nonchalance because I know even if I care, I can't meet whatever deadline. I don't even mind being fired.
I'm tired and I will self medicate if I get my hands on any of the ADHD medications even though I am not medically diagnosed. It's sad when it rubs of your self esteem, productivity and overall mental health. Suicidal ideation on a regular. I don't even care much about anything. So please help out, I need medication just to hold focus. I barely give a Bleep about life already because I wake up overwhelmed already. I always felt something was of when I always needed graveyard silence to avoid distraction in order to be able to read. I never finish exams on it will always time lapse into dying minutes. I'm tired mehn. |
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Family / Re: Am Gradually Loosing It by Ruq: 9:37pm On Aug 31, 2020 |
megaphantom: now trust me, living with a mental illness is tricky, especially in this part of the world, there's loads of them, like someone said, schizophrenia and the like, chronic depression and anxiety disorder, PTSD, now the stigma is using drugs, the fact is its the only option...just have the discipline to not get addicted to it, how can you partition one part of your mind to focus on repress those symptoms and another part to focus on your goals in life, trust me, your brain was not designed to multi-task consecutive cerebral activities...truly, pop a pill, SSRI'S, Adderall, Xanax if u must... Getting high is not the point, it's being functional....an unexamined life isn't worth living, are you going to call me a junkie cos I pop a xan to deliver a lecture because of my chronic anxiety? Well that's your problem... come on now.... Always look beyond what you see...its your life, No one else feels your pain, have you ever been so depressed you constantly have suicidal thoughts? not cos some stupid girl broke your heart, I'm talking chronic depression... I'd rather be a junkie... Good thing is you have meds, and most people think inevitably using would make you an addict... WRONG!.... addiction is the uncontrolled use of a substance(drug) dependence on the other hand...damn...God help us all.. Please helpmwhere can I get the drugs. Many years of my life has water ,finished school with a bad grade without being able to on point what has been the issue all this while. The depression is o relatable along with suicidal ideation. |
Family / Re: Am Gradually Loosing It by Ruq: 9:25pm On Aug 31, 2020 |
themonk: Winnermentality Arondizuogu maduawuchukwu Oweniwe
Thank you guys for this thread. Honestly I have most of the symtops mentioned here. Mine are inattentiveness, lack of focus, very socially reclusive and low working memory. To be fair enough I'm still a very smart guy but I find it difficult to get things done. In fact my former employer told me that if I was focused and attentive I'll be the smartest person ever. And to be honest I would be smarter if I was, I made a good second-class upper in the university but I was sure I would have made a first class if I had enough focus to actually read instead of watching boxing videos on YouTube all night. I cannot sit down and read!!! It's difficult.
I'm a very hard working Guy but I find it difficult to read stuffs that are boring, listen to conversations for an extendeded period of time, I have a very short attention span.
I've done quit an extensive research on these issues and I have found two ways out of it.
1) The hard and slow method: These includes but are not limited to A) Meditation B)Playing Dual N-Back (a game that helps improve. working memory)
If you chose to follow this method I'll recommend you
download "The power of now" by Eckhart Tolle. This is a very powerful book that helps you be in the present moment instead of living in the fantasy world of the past or future.
Download a meditation App. I use 'insight timer' but there are other ones like 'calm' and 'head space'
Download the dual N-back game for working memory. You should read about working memory and know how it helps cognitive functions.
2) The fast and risky method: This includes taking prescription drugs like adderall and ritalin. To be fair, these drugs work infact adderall is rated 8.3/10 by user reviews in the drugs.com website. But the honest truth is that it doesn't work well for everyone.
I would advice you for a start to listen to the audio book of the power of now. That book told me everything that was wrong with me. You can download it for free online. Then commence with your chosen method.
Please do you know where I can get the drug. 3 decades of my life is gone because I can't figure out my ADD isues . it's sad really. |
Health / Re: Where Can I Get ADHD MEDICATION In Lagos. by Ruq: 9:07pm On Aug 31, 2020 |
WINNERMENTALITY: I did not.. can t access the email Have you been able to get? I understand your frustration. Mine is accompanied with no motivation and a lag of time. I feel like I need 72hrs to make a day for me. 24hrs is too short, I can't complete tasks. It's tiring. Please let me know if you were able to get. 1 Like |