Umar Sanda: Guys, i just receive my own invitation now exactly 05:06 pm, am 2 report on d 30th. Thank God o!

Congrats Bro

Nice to know some folks were called to confirm their state of origin, this may be as a result of your names and they may likely want to strike a correlation between your names and the state of origin you have on your CV ,or on the form we filled(just a hunch), all the same its a positive outcome, cos it clearly shows that the Human resource team are taking pains to do their work for this particular recruitment, my prayer for everyone is that for those of us that actually desire this job, God will not let us down, see you guys in Zaria soon.

Please Mods,take this thread to the front page we need more suggestions to this issue, I really need solutions for my best friend and his girl,thanks for your undastandin.

Okay

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The issue of trust, whether in a marriage relationship, fiance/fiancee relationship or in any other form of relationship has been over flogged, basically by individual experiences, group of people preferences, religiously and secular etc.

Trust can be defined simply as having or putting confidence in a particular person, group of persons or something. Note the keyword here "confidence", some school of thought believe that having "confidence" in someone or thing is totally wrong viewing it from only one perspective or approach which is biblical or religious, this brings to my attention the following questions, if you don't have "confidence" in someone or something how then can you have the will or willpower to progress with such an individual or thing, because "confidence" gives you the morale needed to take "risk"on the above assumption, I stand to be corrected.

"Risk" is another keyword we have to analyse in this article, we have heard various sayings that "life is all about risk" and again some school of thought will say its wrong to trust, and yet they are also of the opinion that "life is all about risk".

Trusting someone or a thing is basically a self determination to take risk, and with risk taking comes two outcomes, its either you benefit or you lose from taking that "risk".

Over my many years of awareness in life, I have closely observed and studied the trend of things and discovered that most things in life or issues in life that affects mankind has been given or viewed from different approaches, affected or influenced from personal experiences, social, family, educational and religious backgrounds. Viewpoints has led to various assumptions, biased and unbiased to be arrived at, and hence the need for constant research because of the divergent views of man, which is an inevitable nature of man, in my opinion, certain issues of life should be viewed and looked at from an open minded viewpoint, setting aside sentiments which applies to a particular person, or group of persons, but on a view that can accommodate a large number of people from both sides of the divide.

Please let it be noted here that I am not criticising the biblical viewpoint of trust or confidence in a person or thing as I have read in some books, but my stand is strictly advocating that people should be given the opportunity to be exposed to a vast amount of knowledge which most times could be attained through physical or personal life experiences, laws and probably doctrines are made to guide the nature and pattern of man's behaviour, but we should also note that "change is dynamic" and as mankind becomes continuously aware of better ways of doing things and living life, so also man's behavioural pattern to issues of life changes.

There are many viewpoints to the concept of "Trust", in my opinion the best view point to trust lies in the particular individual or group of person's wanting to exercise it, having full belief that the outcome of such exercise or risk taking is going to be nothing but positive.

My advice to other writers on the issue of trust should be that they should encourage people to trust but with reservations to certain aspects of the nature of man, knowing fully well that man is not above mistakes and is and will never be perfect.

Trust can be mathematically expressed, assuming that trust is let say 100 percent, it will be logical to apply the 20/80 rule;
"Which states that for any 20 percent put into something or a venture or in trusting you should get an 80 percent positive outcome" all things been equal.

If not for the nature of man, trust is a very important aspect of life and even relationships, its basically up to any individual or group of persons to trust someone or something.
Be Inspired.

Gudday Nairalanders, am already at the PHC venue for the interview to commence,arrived about 7am,ma serial number on the list is 23,guys are troopin in seriously for dis job ooo

Gud Evenin Nairalanders,

Got Same Text Msg,For Mine Its Sunday 7th, Hall Of Mercy FUTO time 1p.m, was also sent ma exam number, with wat I heard diamond bank test ranges from 45 to 50 questions,of three parts that is
Maths questions is 15
English questions is 15
Critical and logic reasoning is 15
Format of test is Gmat.
All the best folks see u at d venue.

Thumbs Up For Creating This Thread,Please Those For The Interview Today Should Update Us, Wishing Them All The Best...JUST CRUISING.

Gudday Nairalanders,
Hapi New Month And Independence Day.
Well For Those Contemplating Whether The Interview Will Run From 9th to 14th,For The Case Of PHC.

Its Very Clear That The Human Resource Team collated all The C.V's and Shortlisted, I Think That Of Yola Is s
Simply A Day Probably No Much Applicant From That Zone, And Other Zones Having More Applicants.

My advice for all shortlisted is that strive to be at your chosen venue the first day of call, and await other relevant instructions, cos the link sent did not suggest the liberty to chose when to appear for the interview, a date range was given.

Cos each particular day maybe scheduled for a particular process,e.g day one mite be for documentation and second day for credentials screening etc

Well Wishing all u guys all the best,do not be discouraged by dem job haters cos for me am JUST CRUISING

oheez: yeah i got it. i'll be at the PH zone.

Yea Am With U Bro,will also be at the PH zone,guess we will meet dere.

Hi Nairalanders,Dangote Group Has started sendin text msgs to dose dat applied for the graduate trainee drivers job,if u got the sms it means u have bin shortlisted for the interview wic will take place from Oct 2nd to oct 14th in d six geo political zones of the country.

Good luck

Interestin Thread, ma preferences are:
Indoors: bumshots with singlet like tops without puttin on a bra, I love wen dose pointers are intimidatin, and the bumshots aidin dat God made shape and nice legs and thighs to be expressly revealed.

Outdoors: any well fitted responsible clothin dat makes her to be appreciated and pple to appreciate God's creation and give me a hand shake for gettin and keepin a well structured woman by ma side.

joeydozzy: can someone give a summary pls?

There's no shortcut to greatness, take the pain and go through it, am lookin forward to u guys add to it in terms of recommendations.

According to the Cambridge International Dictionary “Love means strong feelings of attraction towards and affection for another adult, or great affection for a friend or family member". Love is one of the oldest traditions mankind has come to know, right from the beginning of the world to date, love has been preached, expressed and appreciated by those that believe in its pure nature.


In my opinion, love has no specific or particular definition, it’s an expression of how a particular individual, partners or group of people show their feelings from deep inside, others see as a desire, as an act of affection, funny enough others believe it does not exist, some feel it’s an unquantifiable expression of care, concern and passion for a particular thing, person or place.


Trust on the other hand is to have belief or confidence in the honesty, goodness, skill or safety of (a person, organization or thing). From what has been said it can be implied that trusting someone, an organization or thing is more or less giving your life to be kept securely, based on the perceived attributes of the personality you have your trust in. Trust is very essential in a relationship because you can't build a serious relationship without it; it’s like cooking your favourite soup without salt in it.


Maturity (in the perspective of the mind) is a process in which someone or an individual behave in a responsible way and are more completely developed mentally and emotionally than other people of their age. An individual's decisions are a product of his or her maturity, because such decisions have been subjected to careful thought before execution, maturity of the mind is a major ingredient in relationships today, the level of one's exposure helps in handling the ups and downs associated with modern day relationships.


Surveys have been conducted, opinions have been given, that age is basically numerical and has no empirical evidence as to its relationship with the maturity of the mind, research has shown that a lot of people go into relationships for the wrong reasons, without a reason and probably due to peer influences etc, I have witnessed an issue where a guy gave an instance where and why his girlfriend now ex break up with him, simply because she fell head over heels for a guy on Burberry timberland boots, this is just one of the many examples of acts of immaturity.


Immaturity betrays the love and subsequently the trust in relationships, I always have a constant argument with close friends and associates about relationships not meant for kids (mentally), cause my stand always remains that the issues involved in a relationship are serious test for matured minds to handle, but it will amaze you that this arguments always ends inconclusive, so much for different backgrounds and views or opinions of others.


Popsi will always tell us " be quick to love but be slow to trust" I never understood this saying until my mind became matured enough to understand what he has been saying all this while, the above saying is very simple to understand, when you love quickly, in the event that something goes wrong with the relationship, out of love you can have a forgiving heart and if all said and done things are still not working for both parties in the relationship, they can both call it quits but with love.


But in the other case where you love and trust quickly, when the relationship faces its issues you find it very difficult to forgive cause you feel used and betrayed, it takes divine undying love to overcome such hurt.


Statistics taken from analysis of forums, whether in the magazines or the internet, has shown the rapid increase in the quest for older women, from guys soliciting for "sugar mummy’s" or "matured babes" giving age ranges that must be adhered to, a close friend of mine told me of his relationship experience with his girlfriend that happens to be three years older than him, his words exactly " she is so matured, she has taken her time out to study and know me including my weaknesses and strengths, she makes me go to bed like a baby and wakes me up like a man" the male folks are gradually becoming comfortable dating older women and even going as far as marrying them, all because of one component "maturity" which in turn yields the love and trust this men seek in their relationships.


Men are like babies inwardly, they want to be appreciated, loved and given all the assurance they can get out of a relationship, findings has shown that it’s the nature of man to constantly seek or search for a comfort zone, and when he does not get it he continues with the search until he finds it (comfort), hence you find men always striving for the best, also research has shown that men respond a great deal to stimulus thrown at them.


A lot has been said, about love and trust and whether it is a function of maturity or not, well with every write up, article, research etc it is only normal that recommendations are included, cause the essence of any write up is to add to existing knowledge or create new ones all aimed at improving the character and behaviour of all sundry, to both parties in a relationship, the following steps will be of help to improving the maturity in your relationship which in turn will have a multiplier effect on your love and trust levels (though not exhaustive) :

*communicate as often as possible.

*improve yourself, read wide basically everything that has to do with your existence, love, relationships etc.

*have at least a relationship custodian that is someone that is more experienced in the matters of the heart or love, examples could be an elderly uncle or aunty, anyone in the clergy etc.

*learn to have a forgiving heart or spirit.

*define who you are and always keep or stand by your rules.

*define the limit of your relationships with other friends in relation to your relationship with your partner.

*Both parties should create time for each other and stick to the schedule unless circumstances change.

*always strive to be truthful no matter how hard it is.

*both parties should have an order of priority it helps in avoiding unwanted distractions.

Be Inspired.

Greetins Nairalanders,
Hmmm,interestin Thread well if u are still and only usin ur BB for The BBM and orda social media platforms,am sori to say dis dat u are grossly under utilizin ur BB device and ur subscription.

The BB device is a device designed and made for very matured and business minded pple,cos it takes a very matured and business minded person to discipline his/her self not to be carried away with d BBM feature,cos if u are time conscious u will not say d BB device is a complete waste of ur time.

Take me for example,I am into research,my BB device has really aided me in d use of some of ma statistical tools I apply on ma collected data,it runs d analysis faster dan a PC,and does it on d go,ma BB device has also aided me in writin some of ma research articles dat I am yet to publish but have deir abstracts on ma blog,using the Words to go and PDF to go Apps on ma BB device.

So ma dear nairalanders I can go on and on about d BB device, but I think its best u guys discover more for urselves.

Hapi Sunday Y'all Nairalanders

@poster ma dear,I was abt to have lunch wen I decided to go tru ma favourite forum,and ma dear I could not help but laff at ur post,its true dis tins happen.

Well ma honest opinion,b4 settin out to love sumone up to d extent of wantin to marry d person,u as an individual shud and will always have ur standards and criterias to wantin to be wit someone or beta still marry d person,cos love is not enuff to marry or be wit someone likewise intimacy.

Ma dear,ma advice is end d relationship amicably and be friends,he is not wat u want in a man cos of d complains and observations u have put b4 us,leave him for his type,yea I say for his type because every man or woman has his or her type,der are so many gals lookin for his type.

*winks @poster I have all it takes to be ur man,I don't bleaf in swag but I have got class...

Gudday House,I have gone tru every touchin comment here on dis forum concernin dis particular thread,its sad and unfortunate dat cynthia's case turned out to be like dis,pls we shud not throw careless words at each orda or blame dis or dat,d deed has been done,wat next is wat are d lessons do we learn from all dis,especially d ladies,d social media was designed for one purpose to connect and reach out to a vast number of people,and it was not intended to serve as a base for luring innocent pple to be killed,but its rather unfortunate dat d reverse is d case,I will not say I am not guilt of meetin pple I chat wit on social medias,but I do dem wit wisdom,cos u neva can tell dat new contact on fbook or on ur bbm mite be d breaktru u nid to establish ursef in life,we can't stop connectin wit pple,but our intentions wit connectin wit such pple shud guide us,no one knws cynthia's intentions for wantin to connect wit dose guys,ma honest advice to d ladies is dis,if u must meet wit some one u meet on a social media,let dat meetin be on ur own terms and not d orda person's terms and restrict such meetins to open places,dear cynthia God bless ur soul.

berem: How far can I go ke? Na lagos I dey nau! Pata pata I go go my village for imo state.I no send any murrafucker!!

*speakin wit an igbotic tone: chai Nne in short u are worth savin,cos I am lookin for a gal dat me and her will trek from lagos to our home town imo state too...pls bebe will u marry me so dat we can save ourselves d stress of savin relationship cos in marriage dere is notin to save,I am waitin for ur response to ma spare parts offer,much love ur hubby to be,with kisses and hug,chai love is sweet.

Richiy: then i just love yu joh! 4 me. These things u mentioned are quite romantic!

nice in dat case do u care for a chat,would love to explore ur romantic side in combination to mine,
And for d poster,seriously its rare for an average Nigerian man to be romantic,but our gals are oooo,dats if u have dated a real Nigerian lady,dey suggest and bring up a lot of tins dat u are suppose to do while in a relationship wit dem,well u just have to comply cos dat mite just be her love language,so does dis make me romantic?

Creamychic: lolz

I can never take an oath, turn away from christ(become a muslim) or take it from behind.

*day dreamin of ur behind lolz

Eyaaaaah if dis happens der will no more be nairaland,each zone will want to have deir own currencies and country forums,#justanobservation

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My own Idowu? [/quote]
Haba honey are u denyin me already on nairaland,please stop it if its a joke oooo,I don't want d kids thinkin we are irresponsible,ehen ma love wat happened to d last roll of igbo I kept under ma pillow,hope its not wat am tinkin,anyways u knw I and d kids love sha

anitank:

Uhmmmm ok #eyes rolling# So who first?

Aunty I

anitank: I have a THING for tall, slim guys I go gaga wen I see one wit a cute face and charming eyes

Dats Nice,am ur guy any day any time check out ma profile and hook me up let's fix a date,hope to hear from u cheers.

Hmmmm....Man Don Suffer Sha,and na d same women put us for dis wahala oooo,boiz una remember wetin happen for garden of eden,na afta woman give us apple finish naim God come say we dat is us men go dey toil for dem dat is women, but na dem quick come here dey talk God forbid, am I possessed etc,chai we don suffer,but seriously a job is important b4 marriage no mata hw small d pay is.

Single but married to Idowu with four kids

Beautiful day it is in nairaland,i enjoy and appreciate all at nairaland,for all their comments and posts,i have taken out time to read what everyone has said concerning a guy that has requested our advice on what he feels is confusing for him now at his age and time,but i am amazed that the so called older ones and parents here on nairaland have chosen to tongue lash this fellow,its a pity that all of u have forgotten how your growing up was,now everyone is playing the saint and screaming this is disgusting, what is this doing on the front page and all sorts of trash,attitudes like this is what makes the young ones make mistakes cause they are so afraid to express themselves because the older generation will insult the living day lite out of them,whether we like it or not we will all be parents someday so how would u feel if your son meets you up with such question,i have a younger brother who is a teenager and i encourage him to do stuffs that comes with his age, u know why cause i want him to be very free with me in order for me to have an opportunity in his life to influence his decisions and today there is nothing we don't talk about, God has a reason for making us all be older than certain people,so that we can carry out d responsibility assigned to us that are older,please lets all stop this pretense on nairaland like we have never been in such situation and create a platform in which to advice the younger ones, Seun and all the moderators i appreciate you guys a whole lot please keep the threads flowing as they come i believe we all have one or two things to learn from them no matter how disgusting,i love you all at nairaland have a blissful weekend.[color=#000099][/color]

Heheheheheeheh,nature is one wondaful tin,well for all the lesbos in da house a new life toy is in da house

Idowuogbo: Oh lawd my ribs eeee...

Corn buyer and assignment boyfriend in d block y'all

D next we go hia,na driver boyfriend.

Lmfaoooo!!!!

Na wa ohhh for dis woman abi na gal abi na lady abi na u are one hmmmm i no talk again ooooo, all the same ma abeg kip it up guess na u go win nairaland gold medal for the most posts.