lawanson44:


You are a contaminated specie of Igbo! Carry your smelly roots back to yaribaland

My bros u need to work on your language; I mean ur choice of words. It will not help u at all, both now and in the future.

I observed there were no tribal bashing or exchange of unreasonable and irresponsible abusive words by my IGBO and yoruba folks on this thread. This couple had just demonstrated to us all on Nairaland that we may be different in our tribal origins but we are all one big family called Nigeria. We have all come a long way and so have we gone deep into one other for us to start hating and fighting each other.
My fellow Nairalanders, lets shun ethnic and tribal sentiments and lets all work together that Nigeria may become 'that nation we so much dream about'.

Denmark makes so much renewable energy, every other country should be embarrassed.

Denmark's wind farms produced 140% of what it needed to power the country, so it exported the extra to Norway, German, and Sweden, making it the most bad ass country ever in terms of renewable energy.
In 2014, Denmark announced their plans to end burning fossil fuels altogether by 2050. An inspiration to hopefuls around the globe, Denmark shows it isn't impossible to vastly reduce our
dependence on oil.
“It shows that a world powered 100% by renewable energy is no fantasy,” Oliver Joy of the European Wind Energy Association told .
“Wind energy and renewables can be a solution to decarbonization—and also security of supply at
times of high demand.”

There was once this erroneous belief. in some culture or society that once u had a child outside wedlock or u are a single parent that u should 'forget marriage' because no body wants a second hand as partner in marriage. Some folks would go to the extend of denying the pregnancy because they feel society would mock them. In some families, the inoncent child would not be accorded same respect with other children from legitimate home.
I am a single parent. When I got my ex pregnant, I did just as any other guys would always do; I denied the pregnancy. Both families were like, sort yourselves out because she was yoruba and I was Ibo. it was a really a challenging period for me: challenging because, I never planned or ready for my new status as ' father'. I was now like a black sheep in the family; dragging the name of the family in the mud by putting a girl in the family way outside wedlock.
In other not to bore u with my stories, I took up the challenge, went thru the pains with the lady and today we are both happy for having our beautiful daughter. Although she has moved on by getting married to someone else, we both communicate and liase as if we are both together for the good of our daughter.

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[quote author=johnson157 post=35652163]please do u have any $2000 u are not using?[/qu
it is well.

#GIVING IS LIVING.

Tony Robbins has accumulated a fortune with his best- selling books and popular self-help seminars. WealthX estimates that he's worth at least $440 million.

But if you asked the motivational speaker and author to pinpoint when he truly made it, he would tell you about a day when he was living in a 400-square-foot bachelor apartment, deeply in debt, down to his last $21 or $22 dollars, and pondering how he was going to feed .

Robbins described the day he became "a wealthy man," which
started with him walking three miles to an all-you-can- eat restaurant called El Torito so he could "load up for the winter" off of five dollars.

Here's his story.

I'm sitting there stuffing my face ...
And then the door opens, and this very attractive woman walks in. I looked to see who her suitor was, and he was about four feet tall — this little boy, probably eight years old. It's obviously her son. He's in a three piece suit, and
he opens the door for her and pulls out the chair for her ...

He was so loving — so present — with his mother. Something about it just touched me.
I went and paid for my meal, and took whatever was left —probably $13 or $14 — stuck it in my pocket, and walked over to this little boy.

I say to him, "Listen, I just want to tell you, you're a class act. I saw you hold the door for your lady, and how you pulled up the chair."
And he goes, "Well she's my Mom!" I say, "That's even more cool! And it's pretty cool you're taking her to lunch like this." And he says, "Well i'm not taking her to lunch, because I'm only
eight. I don't have a job." And I say, "Well, you are taking her to lunch," and I reached in my pocket, took every penny I had, and I dropped it on the table in front of him.

The look on his face was worth it. His eyes got as big as garbage can covers ...
And he laughed, and I laughed, and I didn't even look at her; I just walked out the door — no car, no money. I don't know where my next meal is going to come from. I should have been freaking out ... but it was the most free I had ever felt in
my life.

The next day Robbins received a check in the mail for $1,200 from someone he had previously loaned money to.
It brought him to tears, and then to a revelation. As he was contemplating the why behind this check showing up on his doorstep the day after giving away his last penny, he realized that he had become "a wealthy man" the previous day in El Torito.

Robbins defines wealth as freedom — "It's freedom from your fear, it's freedom from money controlling you, it's freedom to do, share, and give" — and he achieved complete freedom of fear when he gave away his last nickels and dimes.
"It wasn't cute. It wasn't a strategy," he explained to Torabi of the transaction. "I didn't do it because I thought I should. I gave because it was the right thing to do. I gave because I wanted to. And that's the day I became a wealthy man. "

#GIVING IS LIVING.

Tony Robbins has accumulated a fortune with his best- selling books and popular self-help seminars. WealthX estimates that he's worth at least $440 million.

But if you asked the motivational speaker and author to pinpoint when he truly made it, he would tell you about a day when he was living in a 400-square-foot bachelor apartment, deeply in debt, down to his last $21 or $22 dollars, and pondering how he was going to feed .

Robbins described the day he became "a wealthy man," which
started with him walking three miles to an all-you-can- eat restaurant called El Torito so he could "load up for the winter" off of five dollars.

Here's his story.

I'm sitting there stuffing my face ...
And then the door opens, and this very attractive woman walks in. I looked to see who her suitor was, and he was about four feet tall — this little boy, probably eight years old. It's obviously her son. He's in a three piece suit, and
he opens the door for her and pulls out the chair for her ...

He was so loving — so present — with his mother. Something about it just touched me.
I went and paid for my meal, and took whatever was left —probably $13 or $14 — stuck it in my pocket, and walked over to this little boy.

I say to him, "Listen, I just want to tell you, you're a class act. I saw you hold the door for your lady, and how you pulled up the chair."
And he goes, "Well she's my Mom!" I say, "That's even more cool! And it's pretty cool you're taking her to lunch like this." And he says, "Well i'm not taking her to lunch, because I'm only
eight. I don't have a job." And I say, "Well, you are taking her to lunch," and I reached in my pocket, took every penny I had, and I dropped it on the table in front of him.

The look on his face was worth it. His eyes got as big as garbage can covers ...
And he laughed, and I laughed, and I didn't even look at her; I just walked out the door — no car, no money. I don't know where my next meal is going to come from. I should have been freaking out ... but it was the most free I had ever felt in
my life.

The next day Robbins received a check in the mail for
$1,200 from someone he had previously loaned money to.
It brought him to tears, and then to a revelation. As he
was contemplating the why behind this check showing
up on his doorstep the day after giving away his last penny, he realized that he had become "a wealthy man" the previous day in El Torito.

Robbins defines wealth as freedom — "It's freedom
from your fear, it's freedom from money controlling
you, it's freedom to do, share, and give" — and he achieved complete freedom of fear when he gave away
his last nickels and dimes.
"It wasn't cute. It wasn't a strategy," he explained to Torabi of the transaction. "I didn't do it because I
thought I should. I gave because it was the right thing to do. I gave because I wanted to. And that's the day I became a wealthy man. "

I will suggest u forgive her and move on with life. But have it at the back of your mind that this incident will always be coming up in ur mind like a horror movie you just watched. You should think up of ways to deal with the memory when they creep in. If I may ask, have u bothered finding out what led her to such behaviour? because its better you know so that you can come up with a lasting solution in other to avoid a recurrence.

......Yet d husband supports this?

CHANGE YOUR WORDS, CHANGE YOUR WORLD


In 1 Peter 3:10, the Scriptures say, “If you want to
enjoy life and see many happy days, keep your tongue
from speaking evil and your lips from telling lies”. Wars
begin because of words. Love begins because of words.
Peace begins because of words. Peace comes when
great men get together, negotiate and dialogue. Words
created the world (Genesis 1) and words create your
world.

Are you living in the realm of peace, joy and victory?
The Bible says that the kind of world you live in is
determined by the words of your mouth. Why is it
important? Because of the result! What are you saying?

Your words will either justify you or condemn you. Take
note: There will be an account given of the words
spoken by your mouth. If they are not according to the
truth of God’s Word, they will be idle, meaningless and
oftentimes destructive. The words a man speaks create
the blessings or the curses that come his way in life. It
is never a neutral force. It is either you are speaking
the words of life or the words of death. God stressed
the importance of our confession in Numbers 14:28
when He said, “As truly as I live, whatever you ask in my
name, that I will do”. In other words, whatever you
receive from God is a function of your confession.

PRAYER: Lord, Jesus Christ, set a guard over my mouth;
keep watch over the door of my lips. Help me to change
the Words I speak and thereby change my world.
-culled from Tb Joshua ministries

The problems or obstacles to success begin with words.

Say the wrong thing and clients head for the door.

Relationships blow up. Production declines. Tensions escalate.
Employees lose motivation. All these happens because of the wrong use of words in our quest for success.

Words are the most powerful tool of leadership. Words are also the most powerful tool in the pursuit of life and success.

The secret successful people and real leaders know is every word matters.

Wise words create. Foolish words destroy.

Power:

The power of words to create is only exceeded by their
power to destroy. Sticks and stones may break your
bones, but words will never hurt you, is an evil lie.

Negative words are 5x stronger than good .
Think of a creative word as one stick of dynamite and
destructive word as five sticks of dynamite.

The power of success and failure is in the tongue. The
life you hate was created by the words you spoke,
either to yourself or others.

Everything successful people or leaders do begins with words.

Rules to observe when talking:

1. When in doubt, stop talking.

2. Death wins when you talk carelessly: It is easier to kill with words than give life. A friend of mine asked some clients, “What’s the most encouraging conversation you’ve had with a
boss?” One person had to go back 16 years to think
of one.

3. Speak purposefully: Know why you are talking
before you talk. A few foolish words cause a world
of trouble, heart-ache, and pain.

4. Correct sparingly: Every time you say, “I meant no
harm,” you caused harm.

5. Affirm persistently: Stupid affirmations do less
damage than stupid corrections.

6. Listen more: Trouble awaits when you use your
mouth more than your ears.

7. Think out loud in small groups.

8. People who love to talk have more problems
than those who don’t.

Believe in the power of your words. Words make or
break.

Minet16:

very funny.

Jaymima:
The pastor has started it. Let him cure all the mad (wo)men roaming the streets of Lagos, after which he should proceed to either Yaba Left or Uselu Psychiatric

He didn't heal the mad man by his own power, the Holy Spirlt led him and empowered him to pray for the man so he can recover sanity.
My point is, he can not walk into Yaba Left or Uselu Psychiatric if God didn't send him.
How I pray we should be able to draw the line between when to crack jokes and when to be serious over issues.

Thinking about the crucifixion of Christ? Here's a thought from
He Chose the Nails:

Jesus was a backwater peasant. He never wrote
a book, never held an office.

He never journeyed more than two hundred miles from
his hometown.

Friends left him. One betrayed him.
Those he helped forgot him.

Prior to his death they abandoned him. But after his death
they couldn't resist him.

What made the difference?

The answer: His death and resurrection.
For when he died, so did your sin.
And when he rose, so did your hope.
For when he rose, your grave was changed
from a final residence to temporary housing.

The verdict after two millenniums?

Herod was right: there is room for only one King.

just like a book, a marriage is full of words. What words
are included will determine if it is a book of love.
It’s not only the words the couple uses that make a
difference, friends, family and a good few others will
throw theirs into the ring, as well.

When I entered marriage I had what amounted to a well
thumbed ‘complaint thesaurus’ tucked firmly under my
arm.
I also brought along: teenage hormones, self-obsession,
insecurity, impatience, a good helping of rage, some
very broken dreams and a baby in my tummy. (Not to
mention parents -mine, as well as his- who clearly didn’t
think I was good enough for him and let me know as
often as their heart saw fit).
My husband provided quite a few words of his own:
‘beautiful’, ‘clever’, ‘funny’, ‘amazing’, ‘caring’, ‘honest’
and so many more.
It was his words that gave me back my self-respect,
belief in myself, the support I needed to make crazy
leaps of faith, and it was his words that provided the
calming balm that restored me when I landed on the
ground – which I still do with startling regularity.
With his words he built a true home, a safe place that
has grown into a marriage so happy that 35 years later
we can still hardly bear to be apart. Through the years
he certainly has been writing a book of love. You can
hear a TEDx talk I gave about the power of words in our
marriage here – be warned there is some colorful
language – I am probably never going to be a ‘good
girl’!

Here are 10 things I’ve learned about the power of
words:

1. Life and death are in the power of words. I can
help bring out the best in people or I can help to
destroy them, just with my words. A power I don’t want
to misuse, though sometimes do.

2. Words change our behavior. In the UK
documentary series ‘The Young Ones’ researchers
exposed one group of university students to words
about aging (i.e., old, infirm, hobble, wizened,
geriatric), and another group to words around youth
(i.e., skip, joy, jump, fun, young, energy) for just 10
minutes. Those exposed to the aged related words
ambled from the room more slowly than when they had
arrived, some were stooped and sad. Meanwhile those
exposed to the youth related words walked faster or ran
from the room, one even skipped and most were
smiling.

3. Words affect our intelligence. Science is
uncovering some very interesting understandings about
words, for instance: exposure to a word can affect our
actions, our feelings, our thinking and even our
intelligence! Research has shown that concentrating on
the word ‘professor’ will make you smarter, while
mulling over the words ‘soccer hooligan’ will decrease
your intelligence.

4. The words I say to my husband will influence
who he becomes. If exposure to one little word
influences people then I have to keep in mind
constantly just what influence my words have on who
my husband becomes. Some days I have to choose my
words carefully!

5. The words I say to others about my husband will
influence who he becomes – especially if I say
those words in front of him. What he hears me say
about him builds his picture of himself. I was fortunate
enough to learn this little gem very early in my marriage
and I believe it stopped me from destroying a lovely,
lovely man.

6. Complaint mushes your brain. According to
Trevor Blake, author of 3 Simple Steps - even listening to
words of complaint for as little as 30 minutes strips
away neurons in the hippocampus area of our brains
and turns your brain to ‘mush’. Complaint is a fall back
position for me and one I best avoid if I want my
husband and friends to have any brain cells left – the
fact I have a few remaining ones is nothing short of a
miracle.

7. Every single day I am influencing myself with
the words I tell myself about myself. All those nasty
little things I say to myself gain a foothold and bear sour
fruit. Learning to speak nicely to myself grows much
tastier fruit and everyone benefits.

8. Every single day I influence others with my
words. This is often hard for me to remember. I am
quick to point out faults and much slower to find the
good in others. I send myself daily reminders to speak
kindly!

9. Words come with emotions attached. I, like
anyone else, have a stack of oft used words that
regularly appear in my speech and reveal my issues. I
have struggled with fear and anxiety so my speech
tends to be littered with words like “afraid”, “fear”, “Oh
no!”, “Oh dear!”, and “That’s terrible”. Most situations
don’t call for such emotionally laden words.

10. I can see a situation very differently just by
changing the words I use. It isn’t what happens to us
that matters, it is how we think and speak about what
happens that gives it power over us or us over it.
Words are powerful little things, aren’t they? Our
thoughts, actions, emotions, and even our brains can be
affected by them. In marriage it is important that we
remember the ‘power’ of words, and chose them wisely.
We want to write a book of love, remember?

*My father used to talk negative about people so much
that I grew up disliking most of them for what I was
taught to be true even though they did nothing wrong
to me personally. I was under his influence only to later
learn for myself that many of those people were not as
bad as he said. What child doesn’t want to believe his
parents?

I once had an employee who was a mediocre
performer, but I was forced to place her in a leadership
role according of our Facilities Management contractual
obligations. I had a mixed staff – black and white. It
was in a Midwest town before diversity became a big
workplace initiative, and where whites were lukewarm
to blacks in authority. As a matter of fact there were at
least two whites who quit rather than adjust to my
management style. The blacks got it and we worked
together well. The person that I selected for leadership
needed polishing, so in working to help her develop she
took it that I was being harder on her than the others.
She called our main office to complain that I “favored
all the ‘coloreds’.” When I was told about it I was
amazed that this young woman, in the 1990’s, was
using a word that was so outdated socially. She wasn’t
even born when they’d stopped using that word. We’d
transitioned to negro, then black, then African
American, and she went all the way back! Where did she
get it? No doubt from her parents – her environment.

Law enforcement believes he acted alone, but where
did young 21 year old Dylann Roof who is the primary
suspect in the church massacre in Charleston, S.C., get
the notion that [quote] “You rape our women and
you’re taking over our country…and you have to go.”?
From his environment – from being within earshot of
those negative, ill-intended words spoken in the dark,
behind closed doors that his parents and others (we
assume) never thought would come to light. Well they
did and they’ve come back to haunt them.

The Bible tells of life and death being in the power of
the tongue (Proverbs 18:21), and that the tongue, a
small member of the body is like a small fire that can
set a great forest ablaze (James 3:5). Think your words
don’t matter? Think again!

How many times have you heard your child repeat
something you said when you thought they weren’t
even listening? What are you filling their head with? This
goes for us all. We should get to a place where how we
conduct ourselves in public, in the workplace, we do
the same at home behind closed doors. They say the
true character of a man is how he conducts himself
when no one else is around. To all the yoruba, igbo or hausa. who get offended if a person from another tribe uses a negative term to describe your tribe, why do you get 'provocked? Because it is NOT a term of endearment. Why does
each race or ethnic tribe seemingly have its own derogatory slang towards another race or ethnic tribe? It’s just a satanic ploy to keep us at odds against one another.

So if we’re serious about improving race or ethnic relations let’s
watch what we say especially around young
impressionable children who may be within earshot, and
who may put your words into action just as young Dylann Roof did.

We live in a precarious time.

We love to talk about God’s word. We
love to argue about what it really
means. We love to pontificate on it
and analyze it and break it down to
pieces.

But when push comes to shove, there
are 4 things we must be careful
never to do with God’s word:

#1 We Must not Bend it to Suit our
Will
I confess. I’ve done it before. When
necessary, in order to make God fit
into my little life, I’ve picked verses
out of context and twisted other
verses to suit what is best for me in
that moment. We must be careful to
always align our lives to God’s word
and not the other way around.

#2 We Should not Ignore it and
Expect it to Work

This one is so obvious but so common.
We barely open God’s word. We refuse
to obey His word, yet when He doesn’t
jump when we say jump, we doubt
Him and question His goodness. If
God’s word is going to have power in
your life and mine, let’s start by
paying attention to it.

#3 We Ought Not Equate it with
our Spiritual Experience
I read a very popular author write a
very popular article recently on the
power of her spiritual experience. She
spoke about how God speaks to us,
and never once mentioned God’s
word. This is dangerous and deadly.
While God might use your personal
experience to draw you closer to him
and make you aware of His presence,
it is His word that speaks loudest,
clearest and best. It trumps any
spiritual experience you’re still
seeking.

#4 We Can Never Use it to Earn
God’s Favor
God doesn’t want us to read His word
daily in order to appease Him. He isn’t
impressed when we can recite whole
books of the Bible. The point of
reading and knowing His word is
that it is the means to know Him.
His word reveals to us who He is. It
gives us the security we need to run to
Him and know His thoughts. It is
powerful, but no matter how much (or
how little) time you spent reading the
word today, God’s favor is yours in
Christ not because of anything you’re
doing but because of who He is. If
you’re a reader of God’s word, then
you already know this!

Here’s the thing about God’s word,
the Bible: you can believe it and
choose to obey it or you can reject it.
So what are you doing with it?

Life and death is in the power of the tongue .

The way you speak has a lot
to do with your success and
mind set;

if you are always
saying you are broke – you
will always be broke.

If you stay positive and. often say Money
comes to me, you will be surprised that easy and often
you will attract money faster
then being negative.

But you got to keep hard work and
positive thinking behind that attitude
and money will flow to you .

How do I know?

Because I have done it myself.

Do have a blessed day!

Words truly do have power. Have you ever noticed the
response or reaction you receive when you say certain
things? That's because the words we use affect the
outcome of the situation. They enrich us or they can
cut us to the bone as if we were cut with a knife.

Our words are just one way of how we communicate
with others. When we speak we want others to listen.
What we say is important to how the message is
received. Just as with the presentation the words are
vital to the message.

Even though we communicate in many different ways,
through a look or a touch, a smile, or even the way we
stand, our words are even more important. They not
only express our views on the subject we’re presenting
they also represent who we are as an individual.

Our brain processes words in a certain way. In some
cases our brain may not be able to formulate the true
meaning of what someone is saying. That’s when we
ask questions. We seek clarity and understanding of
what the words are meant to represent.

If we’re angry our words can be forceful, rude,
demeaning and hurtful. If we are happy our words can
be joyful, happy, loving, and peaceful.
It has been said that our eyes are windows to our soul
and I believe that our words are also an indication of
who and what we are inside.

When we speak we use words to describe things, our
mind creates the picture. When we hear the words of a
song we do the same thing. Those words can either
build us up or tear us down. They help create positive
self esteem or break down our self esteem. Words
encourage us to be our best or they rip away our self
worth and trust in our abilities to reach goals and life’s
ambitions.

Words either give us hope or they bring despair. They
are key to how we learn. From birth we are taught to
communicate not only through touch, sight, and
sound but through words.

Almost every emotion we feel as a human being is
affected or created by the words we hear or say.
Proverbs 13 verse 3 says that whoever guards his
mouth preserves his life and he who opens his lips
wide comes to ruin. So even in silence our words are
powerful.

The very words we utter every day create the world we
live in. They have to power to crush countries and the
power to build nations anew.

Just for one day think about the words you use, think
about the affect they have on you and the people
around you. Use positive words instead of negative
and see if the results you receive are different. I can
bet you will be amazed.

Just a thought to think upon……………….

I am sure you have heard someone say, “You are going
to eat those words.” It may sound like a mere phrase to
us, but in reality we do eat our words. What we say not
only affects others, but it also affects us.

Words are wonderful when used in a proper way.
They can encourage, edify and give confidence to
the hearer. A right word spoken at the right time
can actually be life-changing. ( See Proverbs
15:23. )

We can literally increase our own joy by speaking
right words. We can also upset ourselves by talking
unnecessarily about our problems or things that
have hurt us in relationships.
Not too long ago I had a disappointing situation take
place with someone I considered to be a close
friend. I noticed that each time I talked about it, I
would have a difficult time getting it off of my mind for
the remainder of the day. I finally realized that if I
wanted to get over it, I was going to have to stop
mentally and verbally going over it again and again.
People kept asking me about the situation out of
genuine concern, but I ultimately realized that I had to
answer, “It is better for me if I just don’t talk about it.”

What Happens When We Speak?

The words that come out of our mouth go into our own
ears as well as other people’s, and then they drop down
into our soul where they give us either joy or sadness,
peace or upset, depending on the types of words we
have spoken.
God desires that our spirit be light and free so it can
function properly, not heavy and oppressed. We can
learn to choose our thoughts, to resist wrong ones and
think on good, healthy, and right ones. I have often
said, “Where the mind goes, the man follows.” And it
could also be said that where the mind goes, the mouth
follows!
When we understand the power of words and realize
that we can choose what we think and speak, our lives
can be transformed.

Plan to Say Something Positive

God has given His children a new nature, and we are
taught to daily renew our mind and attitude. Having a
positive outlook on life and speaking positive words
based on God’s Word is one of the most wholesome
things we can do.
When you get up in the morning, if there is something
you need to attend to that day that you’re not looking
forward to, you can say, “I dread this day,” or you can
say, “God will give me strength today to do whatever I
need to do and to do it with joy.” Which of these two
statements do you think would better prepare you for
the day?

As we have seen, we eat our words, and we can
rightfully say that they are food for our souls. Anyone
who wants to be healthy is careful to choose quality
food that will provide good nutrition. If we want to be
healthy in our soul and spirit, we should also choose to
take in words that will build us up and increase our
peace and joy.

Draw Attention to the Positive

I believe there are many good things happening in the
world and probably there is more good than bad. But
the evil is magnified in a way that often seems
overwhelming. Turn on any news station or buy any
newspaper or news magazine and you will find it filled
with reports of murder, theft, wars, famine and all kinds
of horribly tragic events.
We want to be well informed of what is going on, but to
talk about world problems excessively or with no
purpose merely creates a gloomy atmosphere that
nobody will enjoy.
I recently walked into a room and heard a group of
people talking about several businesses that had
recently filed bankruptcy. Then they mentioned two
others that they had heard were going to file
bankruptcy. I felt a gloom hanging in the atmosphere so
I said, “Well, God is not bankrupt and He is on our
side.” Everyone agreed with me and immediately, the
atmosphere changed.
I am not suggesting at all that we deny reality, but we
can choose what we talk about. Instead of feeding
ourselves a steady diet of “bad news,” we should choose
to read, watch and talk about good things.

What Are You Talking About?

We talk a lot and quite often pay no attention to what
we are saying, let alone think seriously about the impact
of our words.
If we are honest with ourselves, we may find that some
of our bad moods are directly linked to our
conversation. Even some of our problems can be linked
to bad choices we make about what we say.
I want to encourage you to take some time and think
about the types of things you usually talk about. What
kind of conversation do you enjoy and participate in?

How to Get More Joy Out of Life

Your words may not be the cause all of your problems,
but they can cause a lot of them and they should be
given a good deal of consideration when we are looking
for answers to the problems we encounter in life.
We all have challenges in life, but we can make them
better or worse by the way we talk about them. I don’t
believe we can change all of our circumstances into
pleasant ones by making positive confessions, but I do
believe many of them will change according to God’s
will. I simply want to teach you to be in agreement with
God and learn to say what He says.

One thing is for sure, speaking negatively could hurt
you and speaking positively never will, so why not go
with the positive and see what kind of results you get?
-Joyce Meyer.

In every home, it's easy to sling around words without
thinking. The thing is, words can have long lasting
effects, especially on your children. The words you use
with your children can either build them up or
destroy their self esteem. It's especially important
that you think about the words you use when you
discipline your children so you help them to move on
and truly learn from their mistakes. While you've heard
the old saying about sticks and stones, words really can
be hurtful, especially to kids. Here is a closer look at the
how words affect your children and how you can
change the things you say to your children to help
empower your child.

Why What You Say is So Important

You may be asking yourself, "why is what I say to my
children so important?" Well, there are a variety of
reasons that what you say becomes very important to
your children. First of all, you are an influence on your
children. The things you say are the things they are
going to grow up saying. Think about the words and
phrases you use each day. Are these really things that
you want your kids saying? If not, it's time for you to
change the words your using.

Another reason that what you say to your kids is
important is because your kids look up to you. Your
approval or disapproval really means something to
them. Your words have the ability to easily hurt your
children, even if you don't realize it. Those words that
you fling at them in frustration may be words that they
remember for the rest of their lives. Do you really want
your children remembering the harsh and negative
words you used with them for the rest of their lives? If
not, it's time to make a change in the way you're
speaking to your child and the words you are using.
Using the Right Words When Disciplining Your Child
Often it's when you discipline your children where
some of the wrong words slip out. Sure, proper
discipline is important to your child's behavior, and it's
also important to their self esteem as well. A child that
is allowed to get away with anything does not feel
loved. Your children do need boundaries and they need
to be corrected when they do something that is not
acceptable. It's just HOW you do it that is so important.
When you do discipline your child, you need to
communicate to them with your words that you are not
upset with them, but that you do not like what they did.
Instead of labeling your child as "bad," you can instead
talk to them about the behavior and how it is
inappropriate. Don't tell your child that they are a bad
child for their actions, but do let them know that what
they did is not acceptable. It's also important that you
let them know how much you love them when you
discipline them.

Use positive words when you discipline your child as
well. Instead of using words that make them feel like a
failure, use words that let them know you know that
they can do better. Instead of saying "you know you
shouldn't torment your little sister," say something like
"I know you can treat your sister better because usually
you get along great." This way you let them know that
what they did was wrong, but you also give them the
idea that they can do better, which is a positive
message to give to your children.

Praising Your Child with Positive Words

Another thing to consider when it comes to the words
we use with our children is the words you use when
praising your child. Praise is just as important as
discipline is for your child. Praise is a great way that
you can help to build up the self esteem of your child.
However, you don't want to praise your child in a way
that makes them dependent on you and your praise for
their self esteem.

Avoid praising your child with evaluations. When you
praise your child by evaluating what they are doing,
you can easily make them dependent upon having your
approval. You need to praise your children in ways that
helps them to see their own strengths. Instead of
evaluating what they do, give praise that is descriptive,
describing the great thing that they have done. Instead
of saying "that is a beautiful picture you colored,"
which can make them feel embarrassed and may even
make them deny the praise, you can say, "Wow, you
colored that picture, stayed in the lines, and used a lot
of beautiful colors." More than likely this will bring your
child to the realization that they did a good job and
your child will end up praising himself.
Positive Words and Phrases that Will Empower Your
Child

All through your child's life, it is important that you use
positive words and phrases that are going to build up
and empower your child. Wondering which words you
should start saying to your children to help build them
up? Here is a look at several great words and phrases
you can use instead of their negative counter parts.
- Instead of saying "You should" say "You can"
- Instead of saying "try" say "do your best"
- Instead of saying "do not forget" say "please
remember"
- Instead of saying "I'm no good" say "I can do
better"
- Instead of saying "you're irritable" say "you're
sensitive"
- Instead of saying "you're being selfish" say "you
can share more"
- Instead of saying you are naughty" say "You can
behave in a better way"

We can actually affect our daily pursuits positively or negatively by our choice of words.

Words truly do have power. Have you ever noticed the
response or reaction you receive when you say certain
things? That's because the words we use affect the
outcome of the situation. They enrich us or they can
cut us to the bone as if we were cut with a knife.
Our words are just one way of how we communicate
with others. When we speak we want others to listen.
What we say is important to how the message is
received. Just as with the presentation the words are
vital to the message.
Even though we communicate in many different ways,
through a look or a touch, a smile, or even the way we
stand, our words are even more important. They not
only express our views on the subject we’re presenting
they also represent who we are as an individual.

Our brain processes words in a certain way. In some
cases our brain may not be able to formulate the true
meaning of what someone is saying. That’s when we
ask questions. We seek clarity and understanding of
what the words are meant to represent.
If we’re angry our words can be forceful, rude,
demeaning and hurtful. If we are happy our words can
be joyful, happy, loving, and peaceful.
It has been said that our eyes are windows to our soul
and I believe that our words are also an indication of
who and what we are inside.

When we speak we use words to describe things, our
mind creates the picture. When we hear the words of a
song we do the same thing. Those words can either
build us up or tear us down. They help create positive
self esteem or break down our self esteem. Words
encourage us to be our best or they rip away our self
worth and trust in our abilities to reach goals and life’s
ambitions.

Words either give us hope or they bring despair. They
are key to how we learn. From birth we are taught to
communicate not only through touch, sight, and
sound but through words.

Almost every emotion we feel as a human being is
affected or created by the words we hear or say.
Proverbs 13 verse 3 says that whoever guards his
mouth preserves his life and he who opens his lips
wide comes to ruin. So even in silence our words are
powerful.

The very words we utter every day create the world we
live in. They have to power to crush countries and the
power to build nations anew.

Just for one day think about the words you use, think
about the affect they have on you and the people
around you. Use positive words instead of negative
and see if the results you receive are different. I can
bet you will be amazed.
Just a thought to think upon……………….

Your words have immense power.

Your words, and more importantly the body language
and tone of voice that accompanies them, can
completely destroy your marriage. Or you can use the
power of your words to breathe new life into you
relationship.

Here are some of the most powerful words you can use
in your marriage today:

Positive Words

“I love you.” Simple, but powerful, and it needs to
be said daily.
“I’m sorry.” Don’t be afraid to own up to your
mistakes, and don’t refuse to say these words just
because you think you’re right and your spouse is
wrong.
“I really appreciate…” Gratitude does a lot to put
both you and yourself in a great mood. And ladies,
it’s does a much better job of motivating your
husband than nagging.
“Thank you.” Almost as good as the previous one.
“What can I do to help you?” Building a successful
marriage is about serving your partner. What better
way to do that than find out exactly what s/he need
right now?
“How are we?” Use these words to do a quick
marriage check up. Or maybe not so quick if your
spouse feels like venting.
“Let’s pray [about that].” You know the saying:
Couples that pray together stay together. (Note
from Peacefulwife – if your husband is far from
God, it may be wise to follow I Peter 3:1-6 and not
mention spiritual things to him, but definitely pray
humbly for him on your own!)
“Do you want a back rub/foot massage/etc.?”
Men, pay attention. I almost believe this last one is
more powerful than all the others put together….
These words can can work wonders for even the most
strained marriage. Encouraging, love filled words
offered genuinely build your spouse up and build trust,
love and respect in your relationship.

But as powerful as these words are for building your
marriage, you can really wreak some havoc if you are
not careful. In fact, harmful words have much greater
impact than positive words.

According to studies, it takes at least two positive
statements to offset one negative one. John Gottman of
the University of Washington goes even further to
suggest 5 positive things for every negative for married
couples.

Here some are some of the most powerful negative
words you should avoid like the plague:

Negative Words

“You always…” or “you never…” These absolutes
are rarely accurate and can put your spouse’s
defenses up.
“ Why did you do that?!” The tone of voice is
important here. It can quickly turn from a simple
question to an accusation of gross stupidity with the
wrong tone.
Sarcasm. (the cutting/insulting kind) You might
think it’s all fun and games but your spouse might
have a very different opinion about that.
Patronization. You know, those words that by
themselves are positive but spoken with a certain
tone make it into an insult. “Wow. You took out the
trash. I’m so proud of you.” It’s hard to get this
across in writing. Something you would say to your
kids when they accomplish something simple for the
first time.
Insults. There are more of them than I care to
name. They can really demoralize your spouse and
destroy trust in your relationship faster than a stick
of dynamite.
Nagging . This is something you really need to
work on if you want a healthy marriage. See my
note above about how gratitude is a much better
motivator.

As you can see, I didn’t give too many specific examples
because almost anything can become negative given the
wrong tone of voice.
What words have you found to be powerful in your
marriage?

There is power and potency in the spoken word.
The things we see were made and are as a result
of the spoken word that came from God before
they came into being. Our lives are therefore
shaped by the words we speak and what we
believe. The words we speak have the power to
create the kind of world we desire because we
end up possessing what we confess by our
mouth.
This being so, we must be cautious and careful
about the words that come forth from our lips.
And much as we quote the word of God, we
must first believe and be convinced about the
promises found in the Bible. Believing is seeing
things from God’s perspective. It is aligning
yourself with the word of God and what it
proclaims about your life. It is being totally
persuaded and convinced of the reliability,
potency and the power that what God has said
is irreversible. It is also putting your faith in
God.

The potency of what you are saying is locked
up in what you believe. That is where the
power to breakthrough lies. You are only able
to walk in victory when you believe in the word
of God. It is what you choose to believe in
when the doctor, the lawyer or the banker
gives you a bad report. Jesus said in Mark
9:23, “All things are possible to him who
believes.” The key word is in ALL things
because when you put the word IMPOSSIBLE in
its right perspective, and in the light of God’s
word, the word becomes I-A-M-POSSIBLE!
The word believing is a Greek word ‘PISTIS’
which is a connotation of a person who is
believing. It isn’t a passive activity. It is,
rather, a paradigm shift from the things we
have been conditioned to from birth,
experience or education. Believing is allowing
God to change our belief system into a lifestyle
that entirely depends on God in faith. Believing
is coming into agreement with God and what
He has said in His Word. It is being actively
engaged in trusting in the word of God. Faith
is a NOW thing because as far as God is
concerned, it is already done.

When God called Abraham and asked him to
leave for a far-away land where God was going
to turn Abraham’s descendants into a great
nation, Abraham did not have a child neither
did he have the land God promised him. Yet
Abraham stepped out of his comfort zone in
faith. (As it is written, “I have made you a
father of many nations.” He is our father in the
sight of God, in whom he believed – the God
who gives life to the dead and calls things that
are not as though they were. Romans 4:17)
As human beings, we are confined and limited
by time. When you are looking at time, God
isn’t confined by such boundaries and
limitations. Our tomorrow and the future is
already in His past and He knows the end from
the beginning. May you go out into the coming
the week and month, knowing that God has
already handed you victory. Grow and develop
your faith, keep believing, confess the
promises of the word of God and may you
possess it in Jesus name!

I usually wonder at the funny criteria people have in deciding a life partner.
We have heard of so many. cases of failed marriages, broken relationship as a result of these criterias. Its high time we reconsider our criteria for marriage if we really want to experience a happy, enjoyable and lasting relationship or married life.
Here are some of those criteria I consider funny or irrelevant;

1. Making a choice based on looks. So many folks have fallen victim of these. I have a friend that ran away with a guy just because he looks very handsome compared to the guy she was presently with. But today, she is regretting that move because she had never been happy in the 'hurriedly arranged marriage' with the so called handsome bobo because she discovered so many terrible behaviors in the husband the handsome looks covered.

2. Settling with a guy or lady because she is rich or financially balanced. That marriage is only existing as long as the money is there. When money go, of course marriage will also go. Aside these, genuine love( not artificial), does not exist in such marriage or relationship.

3. Going into marriage because he or she is well educated. Its okay to settle for someone whose sense of reasoning is of the same level with you. But, experienceces has shown that it does not work like that in all cases. I know a friend who dropped out while he was in JSS class, but he is happily married to a professor. When he stands to talk, you'd think he has his masters. I also have a friend who is so much happily married to a senior lecturer in a university here in lagos, yet he is not well educated. But by virtue of the relationship with the lecturer he is now well groomed and has gone back to school.

People will keep experiencing late marriages untill we set our priorities right, and amongst those priorities are what I have mentioned.

I usually wonder at the funny criteria people have in deciding a life partner.
We have heard of so many. cases of failed marriages, broken relationship as a result of these criterias. Its high time we reconsider our criteria for marriage if we really want to experience a happy, enjoyable and lasting relationship or married life.
Here are some of those criteria I consider funny or irrelevant;

1. Making a choice based on looks. So many folks have fallen victim of these. I have a friend that ran away with a guy just because he looks very handsome compared to the guy she was presently with. But today, she is regretting that move because she had never been happy in the 'hurriedly arranged marriage' with the so called handsome bobo because she discovered so many terrible behaviors in the husband the handsome looks covered.

2. Settling with a guy or lady because she is rich or financially balanced. That marriage is only existing as long as the money is there. When money go, of course marriage will also go. Aside these, genuine love( not artificial), does not exist in such marriage or relationship.

3. Going into marriage because he or she is well educated. Its okay to settle for someone whose sense of reasoning is of the same level with you. But, experienceces has shown that it does not work like that in all cases. I know a friend who dropped out while he was in JSS class, but he is happily married to a professor. When he stands to talk, you'd think he has his masters. I also have a friend who is so much happily married to a senior lecturer in a university here in lagos, yet he is not well educated. But by virtue of the relationship with the lecturer he is now well groomed and has gone back to school.

People will keep experiencing late marriages untill we set our priorities right, and amongst those priorities are what I have mentioned.

DO YOU KNOW THAT YOUR WORDS ARE SPIRITS…?

The words you are constantly exposed to or speak
determines the spiritual atmosphere that will hang
around your life because words are spirit being.
Jesus says “the WORDS that I speak are SPIRIT…”
The words you constantly speak, you’d attract the
spirit behind the word.

Testimony

A friend told me an experience he had some years
back. He was going through some challenges that
lasted for years, and while he was in that challenge
that looked impossible to overcome, he began wishing
and confessing that he’d prefer to die. This went on
for years and he was always confessing that he just
want die to escape the problems he was into. As he
was confessing death, the spirit of death went to
work.
Years later, after the storm had ceased, he observed
he always find himself in the graveyard in the dream.
This nightmare lasted for about two years, and as he
fasted and prayed about it; asking God to extend his
life span, the Holy spirit reminded him of his
confessions in the past. He repented, got relevant
scripture that speaks of long life and began meditating
and confessing them. Not long the nightmare ceased!
Today, he goes about telling people who cared to
listen, to be cautious of what they say with their
mouth.

Also, take note of the sounds you listen to, they could
be entry points to unclean spirits or the Holy Spirit of
God.
Prophet Ezekiel said, “as he SPOKE to me the SPIRIT
entered me.”
Perhaps its time you give priority attention to what
you say, the books you read and what manner of
sound you listen to.

copied from; #1000 facts you didn’t know about words.

NaLaugh:
Which of them is fast and reliable for use with a laptop or tablet? I visited Naija in 2011 and used an Airtel USB stick with a laptop in Abuja.
I nearly committed suicide.

I heard there are faster options now, so what are they?

My dear u will not "nearly commit suicide" plz

Homosexuals are possessed with devils.

This oyibos have lost their mind completely. No homosexual practice will ever be tolerated in naija.