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Wow, this post is really hot and a lot of people are gradually picking offences. There's a few people who feel it's because the person who started the thread wasn't Man Enough, but lol Narcissistic behaviors are not only in relationships alone, it happens in workplaces and even between friends thesame gender. By default Narcissists are usually nice, very nice people I must say; but all they do is because they need you to be their slave, a narcissist will try to offer you help but if you end up finding a solution to what they're trying to help you with by yourself they get offended, a Narcissist doesn't really want you to be happy, they want you to be happy they're able to help you, a Narcissist doesn't want you to free instead the want you to be happy they're allowing you to breathe, a Narcissist wouldn't apologize if there's a problem and they did something wrong because it's actually your fault that they misbehaved, a Narcissist would tell everyone of how they're trying to help you and how many people they've helped but guess what they literally need help too and it's only you their victim or previous victims that knows that, a Narcissist would become friends with all those you love if you ever try to be free from their cage but for some reasons you're around them, and if you are not careful you might soon begin to question your sanity because they all see you as a problem but no one can see this is what you actually did wrong, Narcissists hate proofs they'll delete everything possible that can implicate them but Trust me they'll keep every possible bit that can make you feel less of a human so far it makes them feel like your messiah. Gaslighting is a trait peculiar to Narcissists. ...there's so much on this topic but the bottom line is we all need to love ourselves well enough so we don't become the vulnerable one that should be exploited, and making money too is important because in today's world you'll need it to be independent and less vulnerable to the wolves we now have around us. 7 Likes 2 Shares |
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Ebubu: Uncle, please forget that lady. She'll keep wasting your precious time, there's always going to be someone who would love and respect you, if she doesn't respect you and she can't apologize when she's wrong then I'm sorry it's not something you should stay in or expect a positive outcome from; I understand you might have truly loved her at some point but the sad truth is she's not worth your precious attention, find someone new who would truly love you regardless of what ever might be and at all times, in the end your happiness too should be a priority, if they're happy and you're not, what is the point? Mind you, some people don't love you; they ONLY love what you can do for them. 8 Likes 1 Share |
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LandMann:Lol, I knew the Article was going to lead to this. Well here's the reality, Money is good as it does stop nonsense but many at times it doesn't really bring about Joy, mind you Joy is different from Happiness; let's put the word Narcissist aside, if you must have to put people in their place by the virtue of what you can afford then you'll always have to do that, if you must always have to give someone a gift when they're wrong and they've refused to admit their wrongs and apologize you'll always have to do that. There's no two ways to it, Narcissism isn't just a word, it's a lot on it's own and it's not just a situation that can happen between Lovers it does happen in Work environments, let's be frank for a minute everyone can't be Rich at the same time and everyone can't be the boss at the same time, there's always going to be the need for someone to be in a position where they have a Boss and in such situations Narcissistic behaviors can play out, now let's talk about relationships a Man shouldn't always lord it over his wife but the sad part is if you truly love someone who has narcissistic traits you'll regret being in love, they'll do everything possible to make sure they keep using you, I really don't know much about love but it shouldn't be a case where one person is a slave to the other, a woman should not be a slave to her husband and a man should also not become a slave to his wife, and long story short anyone who can't apologize when wrong shouldn't be in any relationship. PS: Buying someone a gift when you're wrong with saying you're sorry in a sincere manner isn't an apology, the problem remains and would pop up at a later date. 3 Likes 1 Share |
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Starboytwo: Lol, that's a better way to deal with Narcissist but somehow you might end up becoming a Narcissist. |
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steeltrust: One key characteristics of a Narcissist is that they Love using People, be it in a relationship or work environment a Narcissist has just one goal, to use people meanwhile they tend to create that picture of them being the best person you can ever find on earth, even when you say you don't need help a narcissist will tell you they just want to help you but it's mainly so that you can feel attached, indebted and become a slave to them, being in a relationship with one can be dangerous as they would always need you to feel guilty, unfortunately if you ask what you've done wrong they really can't tell. PS: The world shouldn't be a though place to live for anyone but over the years I've learnt that, if you're too Sweet they'll lick you Finish and if you want Peace they'll break you into Pieces; that being said there should always be a balance and Dialogue should always be a way to resolve difference hopefully the other party understands, because an Eye for an Eye might soon make everyone Blind. 8 Likes |
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Lol, I could only but laugh reading this; imagine working for someone that is a Narcissist and quitting at a point when the disrespect and humiliation was at it's peak, mind you she sacked you but didn't expect you'll truly walk away; then that Narcissist happens to get close to someone you love who happens to be a Feminist, y'know people who use pronouns on their social media profile e.t.c... Just imagine the Trauma and Drama, that's one you don't want to experience; it's best imagined. 2 Likes |
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[quote author=youngrichnigga post=126950888] As seen on Twitter, she appears to care about you. You need to take it easy, life's full of ups and downs, tides and currents. Reach out to her please 👇 ---------------------------- The said post in question has been on Twitter since March, unfortunately I had no idea it was there; she literally posted all that without my consent and she did to suit her narrative. Before the incident, she could tell I am not someone who likes seeking help and she would even go ahead to claim I'm staying in a shell; however all that is because of the too many negative experiences I've had with people, someone offered free accommodation and I did accept but that was like the greatest mistake I made this year, her attitude and character was one that many of those who had worked with her can testify about, extremely temperamental and short fused although she acts nice; however that I slept on the streets does not mean I'm less of a human, at least I can't go robbing people so I can live large, the best I can do is to work and do the best I can till things get better, at least there's always going to be hope as long as there is life, all the help she went seeking was to make me more vulnerable and susceptible, especially after the accommodation issue but at the peak of it I had no options than to just walk away and maintain my sanity, she literally ordered that I leave but would go about telling people I resigned and was owing her money despite the fact that she was the one who sacked me, and she did so well with that narrative that everyone would say she's responsible for my success, someone even told me I go ripping people and leaving them to regret the help they do, it literally became a case of Gaslighting, unfortunately it's even more sad that I did apologize two different times and I wouldn't have made this a public post to address the issue if she had deleted it this morning. |
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youngrichnigga: She literally called me a Bastard this morning, although i politely asked that she delete the Post. Attached is a screenshot.
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youngrichnigga: It's sad that this has to keep escalating but the best that can happen is that she delete the post. ...with time the Trauma will fade away, unfortunately the internet never forgets. https://twitter.com/Beckyehi/status/1635183849499148289?t=opJVG6t91Yrr_b8dIjt-SQ&s=19 |
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I feel compelled to share a recent experience that has been quite Challenging and Traumatizing for me. I've been unfairly targeted with false accusations and defamation by someone I used to work with, Beckianah Obehi. All I wanted was a Job, to Work and Get paid to survive but she kept on asking for so much personal information, although I don't like the idea of asking people for help and I did make it known to her she would continuously claim I'm staying in a shell and it's wrong; however she would take to Social Media (Twitter now known as X). https://twitter.com/Beckyehi/status/1635183849499148289?t=opJVG6t91Yrr_b8dIjt-SQ&s=19 Literally to seek help on my behalf and she did so in a manner that suits her narrative and intentions to exploit, painting the picture that I am mentally not fit and in need of help, whatever help was sought was basically so she could exploit my vulnerabilities and hold me hostage with the same, the sad part of it all was that her actions were responsible for me being in a situation where I'll need help, I literally got Robbed on the 3rd of March 2023 because she made me to wait at work till about 9:45pm, she literally had a male visitor she didn't trust that much and needed someone to be around, she would even offer that I get something to eat while waiting and I couldn't just leave in a disrespectful manner, apart from waiting because I respected her, her safety was also part of the reasons I had to wait, should my elder sister be in such a situation would I have walked away in a disrespectful manner knowing that the said visitor was already within the estate. I want to bring attention to this situation to shed light on the truth. I have documented evidence disproving accusations that spiralled after the whole incident, including photographs of work done and the records as she would at some point claim I'm owing her money for work not done, unknown to me as at when she went seeking for help she did put up a lot of personal information about me on Twitter without my consent, I didn't even know she posted it on Twitter until a series of Traumatic events unfolded afterwards, she literally went posting personal information about me in a manner that does make me look like a very unfortunate person, with lies added to suit her narrative and asking for all the help she can get for me, however I'm someone who finds it difficult asking people for help, a few people did offer to help but that was just the beginning of a series of Traumatic experiences and I saw the red flags when she said people are trying to help and it'll come through her, I used to live on the streets and someone did offer accommodation which was free but somehow she claims the said accommodation was paid for and I made her waste money for it. She literally felt it was a perfect avenue to exploit me more, I admit I made a mistake to have stayed in the same building after I stopped working with her but there was never an agreement either oral or written showing it was offered because I worked for her instead the narrative was (he was led by the Holy spirit) I already left the building because a bit of traumatic experiences unfolded afterwards. She literally sacked me but claimed I resigned, I don't know what she was expecting; probably that I come beginning her because my life depends on the Job but I'll rather sleep on the streets or starve to death than accept disrespect and humiliation from someone I'm working for, being a staff shouldn't mean being a slave or being less of a Human, but it's unfortunate that the world today has these realities and it's the reason many are into fraud and illegal activities, however my own Conscience does tickle me and I still do believe hard work pays but then I'm human and I being poor does not mean I'm useless, when I work I do so with the best of my abilities regardless of how much I'm paid. What makes this whole thing depressing and Traumatizing is the fact that I do believe there is dignity in labor unfortunately the reality is the opposite, I did ask that she delete the post she made on Twitter but she has refused to, instead she's calling me a Bastard meanwhile telling me to go get mental help. My aim is to create awareness about the misinformation being spread. False narratives can be damaging, and I believe in transparency. If anyone has questions or wants more information, feel free to reach out. Thank you for taking the time to read this. Best regards, Oreoluwa O. Olaleye. |
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Music seems to be an escape, but regardless It's a lot. |
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It's not news that over 60% of Children in Nigeria do not have access to Free Education, In some parts of the Country (North), there's an Ideology/Religious Belief that justifies Illiteracy of which the call "Almajiri" a situation where some are from Poor background and have to remain Poor because it's their Fate It's not news that over 60% of Children in Nigeria do not have access to Free Education, In some parts of the Country (North), there's an Ideology/Religious Belief that justifies Illiteracy of which the call "Almajiri" a situation where some are from Poor background and have to remain Poor because it's their Fate. |
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