@sagamite no easy anything.y should he generalize and insult yorubas?

no intimacy? u sure?
anyhow there are a lot of places depending on what she likes
1.try ibeche beach, its at satelite town in lagos ijegun area, u go across with a speed boat about 10 mins ride, no agbeross to disturb u unneccesarily. its a quiet place to have fun with your food items your phone with songs and drinks(no intimacy sha oo )
2. cinemas for a movie (numetro/silver bird:galleria)
3. a lot of eateries to grab a bite
st elmos/debonaires(not sure of i got d spelling) for pizza both on adeola odeku VI
ocean view for some nice chinese food its on the island too(can't remember the address)
white house at yaba to grab some correct african dishes
4.u could take her to shoprite to go get some stuffs and walk around a bit
5. hmmmmmmm would get back to you can't remember much again

but men 20-30k might not just be enough and convinient especially if u aint mobile (car). with a car u can cover all d this places so as long as it aint a week day o.haven't bin to lagos in a while so dnt know if the road networks are as good as abujas

come abuja guy plenty places dey
sure other folks would be able to give u more and better options

yeah long overdue
but what about the state of roads leading to the place? what about other bridges and roads nationwide?
a lot needs to be rehabilitated.
well lets see ho far this goes

well thats one guy out of the setting for now.
are we ever going to grow out of all these?
impeach-install saga.
i feel it slows down processes at times. but if it has to happen to get the bad ones out let it be

dude really can't say but if i were u, i would take the second option.
starting all over again is another 4/5years? (what if u dnt make a ''good'' grade again?)
going for a masters total plus the year you would wait is like 3yrs max.
with a masters u'd probably have a better chance at work (sufficient but not a neccesary  condition)
at the process of waiting for a year to elapse, u cn enroll in any short time programme at least to keep abreast of information and enrich yourself the more.
whichever is cool, but left to me enrolling for a Bsc all over is a waste
at the end u have Bsc Maths and Bsc ?? after (8/9 years)
or Bsc Maths and Msc ?? after(7/8 years)
the choice is urs.
cheers bro

like thats the only infrastructure that needs rehabilitation in the country?Even the reps themselves need one

Analytical:

This is not about self-righteousness. My point of view is because these two are christians who are in courtship, engaged to be married. The guy backslided and betrayed the Lord and his fiancee. He went to confess to his fiancee, which is good. But I expected him to reconcile with his Saviour and Lord, first and foremost. Maybe that was done but we were not told.
So, if the lady is disappointed in what he did, I don't think it's out of place. Don't forget she is also human. That doesn't mean she hasn't forgiven him. If the guy reconciles with God and shows true repentance he can win back the love and trust of his fiancee.
Cheers.

Respect ur point
and even if he cant win her back at least he would know he has been forgiven, he tried but things couldnt just get back to how they were. But a least he would be free of any guilt.
@poster tell ur friend, as much as he loves her if she has said things cant go back to the way they were, then he should hold his head up high and walk away. painful it might be but better than staying back hurting himself the more.
if eventually they ever come back, the thoughts would always be with her and the trust might never be there. if she really loves him (human as she may be) it wont take a long time for her to forgive an allow them move on (trust me it happened to me)

manmustwac:

am being impregnated by my stepfather so he's still in the process of impreganting u but your not actually pregnant yet?

u go fear continous process of impregnating

and a prophesy came to me that i should not abort because na the prophesy be d papa abi?

LOL na after show prophecy come land

Its so obvious that your lieing thats why you can't come here to answer the questions and defend yourself. I know your hiding by your P C  and reading our replies but your obviously to ashamed to come and defend yourself everything na lie

abeg help me tell am oo, people and gist sha

@coolier i think the poster needs help, all her posts have been hilarious

sayhi2ay:

they went to see a prophetess on your behalf? did you send them? and they had to wait for midnight call to tell you something that important?

u go fear EXTRA COOL

@poster like sayhi rightly stated, if u believe in such then dnt go into it, but if u are a christain, on your own then enquire from the Lord and He would direct u on what to do.

they couldnt have just gone to a prophetress all of a sudden if they never had an original thingking about it could they?
if i were in your shoes, as much as i take people's word and what they have to say, i dnt believe all people tell me.
Get on your knees, and ask from Him(God).
He is faithful and just and would not let you walk into fire if you ask Him for direction.
All good and perfect gifts comes from the LORD
if he is a good and perfect gift then God would tell u, if not then He will tell u.
either way u go to Him first and take His word far and above any others ok?
cheers

lawyerchap:

@Poster
Now you've told us the truth. It was your first time at the cinemas and you didn't understand how the technology worked. and neither did your friend. People crossing the beam of the projector behind you will have their shadows cast on the screen. That's how those heads appear in the alaba dvds you're obviously more used to. If someone had been taping that movie, he would have captured those heads you saw and when it appears on the street, voila, pirated movie.

@ poster uve been busted!!!!

dewaledeyi:

It is really important that I jopin this discussion because I am presently going through some "experience" at the moment.
Broken homes are bad especially for ladies and that means we guys have to shine our eyes very well.
I am about to break up a relationship of long years because she behaves combative which I see is a spillover from her broken home. Saying "sorry" is an issue, she has never consoled me actively on any issue, she flares up at me in public e.t.c
My heart is really broken because I wasnt seeing sb else but she displayed her attitude to my parents and they are not in support of us getting married.
I'm still in Love but my future matters,

feel for u dude and wish ya d best in subsequent one(s).
thats probably one case out of many that made a choice as regards how such issues(broken homes) would affect their relationships.
i believe it all comes down to what one would allow to hold in ones relationship and future. like u rightly said ur future matters over and above present love.

CH3COO:

Well it contradicts what you said about the individuals getting to make the decisions themselves. Even as adults it is not always the case. Do arranged marriages ring a bell to you? It could fly with you but not always with others. We all stem from different parts of the world and experience separate customs. The evidence is there that it tells on the future home. It can go either way . . . your argument is logical and I agree that for the purpose of healthy living it shouldn't be allowed to tell on your future home. As is the case currently and has always been, it tells on the home and the impact may be positive or negative, or even both. Logic isn't always enough to cure mental damage.

yeah arranged marriages happens in most nations, even here.
i guess ine just has to decide on which part would creep up in ones home, logic may not be a sufficient but at least a neccessary condition in curing the mental damages.
like u rightly said and seun it can go either way, its all up to d individual(s) at the end of it.

CH3COO:

Unless you're a martian you should know that people do the oddest things when in love --- not all people of course.
We don't always make the choices that affect our future.  sometimes our parents make these choices for us before we ever have a chance to say "no this isn't what I want".
The hidden effects of a broken home are nothing to laugh about. It's never always as easy as "it's their choice."

yeah parents do when one was much younger,
now i dnt think my parents would make a choice on an issue am not comfortable with and i would accept. the older one gets the more wiser one should be as well(exceptions exist)
the hidden effects are there alright, but it shouldnt tell on ones future home.
i come from a home where we never really had a rapor with our dad(career person and quiet person) growing up till of late. but i promised myself that i would be involved as much as possible by God's grace in my kids growing up days.
of course like tboy said i can always justify my not being involved with my kids cos such was my case can't i?

There 's this girl i was dating early this year and after few months, we started having some little, little hiccups

hiccups like what?

i had plans for this girl

did she know about them or u just felt to manly to let her know?

Later on, she started acting funny

did u care to find out why she started acting funny?

She called back few days ago to apologise for calling me names and all that

all that including the break up?

The funniest thing is that up till now, she's still angry with me and i can see the pains in her eyes whenever i see her

if after apologising, then why is she still angry at you? did u do something else or she just needed a reason to break up with you?

What i just want to know is that should i just let her be 'because i have not been myself all along. What do i do because i still love this girl and am not what she thinks i am.

well dude if you still love hr as u claim u do, and u've told her and apologised and she still doesnt want u back, then there is nothing u can do about that. Thats what she wants (for now/forever).
I would advice you to get a grip of your life and move. Like lemar sang ''its time to grow" u can't control her feelings if she won't return then be a man and move on.make life better than it was before
hurt it might, but better than crying and waiting. if ever she loves you and feels she wants to be with you then she'd let you know.
If she has forgiven u, forgive urself and move on dude.
U know who u are,  didnt want it to get that far, it almost did and u can't correct it.
so move one with your life.

CH3COO:

You do know how strong and invasive human emotions can be right? Take the example of love, people know how stupid they get when they fall in love but have arguably no way to avoid the stupidity. When strong emotions become your thoughts they are all you can think about. you will live and breathe their curse. Unless you find a way to get out of it by figuring ways to seek help, or if you're fortunate enough to be surrounded by the right people you may succeed. If not it will be a tough battle to win alone. It's in your control to a certain extent I admit that.

who says people get stupid when they fall in love?
back to topic
its definitely in ones control, we make the choices that affects our future, so coming from a broken home means your romantic life would be affected? i dnt think so.
its all a matter of what i consider ok or not

tboy1:

A guy can start whoopin his babe's ass and when you later ask him why, the punk could always come up wit some stuffs like: " I grew up in a home where my father was very abusive " or the other way round " I grew up in a home where my mother did not respect my and and was very abusive "

A girl could be in so many relationships and very promiscuous and why you ask her, she could be like " i always wanted a father figure, cus i never had one" or some shit like that - i have heard a girl say this

u sure right dude, excuses just to justify actions

LOL damn the grammar hurts

if she wants to leave based on that reason, then she should be allowed to, because if she can, based on that then she would definitely leave sometime in the future based on another smaller/insignificant reason
e.g he can't light the gas cooker

i dont think it should,
ure a product of your past but shouldnt let that affect the future.

no problem gamine i would send my driver to pick u up
LOL rain later
no let the members nab u oo

itsolajide:

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dnt worry would bring Gamine there abi Gamine?

Nautillus:

Its as good as marrying your friends EX HUSBAND . . .afterall, she left him 3 years ago.

dnt think so love, Ex-boyfriend (dating= break-up) and Ex-Husband (marriage= divorce) are two different terms.
how many people do u know that have many EX-husbands compared to Ex-boyfriends?
there is no correlation between the two terms. i stand to be corrected though

it aint wrong girl as long as u didn't cause the break up and u love him.
someones Ex today would be anothers Present one day, so what the heck
if you love him and he does you. go ahead.but u have to be careful how u talk (love stuffs;we did this and that stuffs)about him when ur friend is there cos such affects friendship

well it does happen at times, u aint just feeling church and all.
is happened to me a few times as well.

@gamine love take it easy ok?
the poster just wants to be sure about it.

eminemkayc:

BUT MOST MEN UNFORTUNATELY DONT THINK IN THIS DIRECTION!! THE ACCUSING FINGERS ARE ALWAYS POINTING AT THE WOMEN FOLK!

 
which is totally wrong an unfair on the feminine gender

eminemkayc:

Most men argue that they are not sure of the lady they are about taking into their homes, so the litmus test must first be carried out on her so ensure her fertility

have u considered the fact that the man could be infertile? so then what happens?
for me its wrong

and do what with it
dude if you like her go straight to the point with her and cut all the corner runs.
be BOLD

point of correction u don't dump people, they ain't trash.

pmond:

Un-rape her!

hahahahhah my ribs o

@poster like gabrywyl rightly said u cant undo it ok? the best is be with her to pull her through it, cos at such monents she would have fears of men generally (including u probably) so u'd need to counsel her (or get older ones to do that),pray with and for her,
and do everything u can to take her mind of it.

dnt know what the posters definition of real men is.
but haven't cried in 11 years and have been in die situations
that should have warranted it.

sistawoman:

We never had sex until our wedding night, i think that was the most beautiful thing of our relationship. We hung out, we went out ,we talked, we watched TV together, we read together, we acted like love sick teenagers together, we chased each other around the house, we really got to know each other. It seems as if everyday my love for him grows deeper and deeper.
So it took all that garbage to find my treasure. Without the garbarge in my life that i had to clean out i would have never been able to realize what a true precious stone he is.

it seems?? with all this beautiful testimony above it should be growing gal, happy for you.How many folks can have such a beautiful testimony to tell?
It boils down to one thing, know what u want and ask Him(God) for it. As long as its His will then u have it. There's no use putting ur hands into what you know would hurt u, but well something happen to help shape and mould one

Without the, Word!!!

@chat2Me yeah one must please oneself but always remember we dont live in isolation of people.
in trying to please oneself one should always consider how the other feels.