AgentGoat:
Menh, i never knew the series packs alot of fun bro. I just started too and am loving it

FreeConCiencE:
My advice
Firstly, do DNA test for your children to confirm the paternity. Always do it for every child you have.
Secondly, your wife may have the tendency for extramarital affairs and she is looking for a kind of job that will give her that opportunity. Be very vigilant. Only unreasonable or mentally deranged person will have passion for stressful job when you have a less stressful job with better income and security. Don't ever trust the current women we have. And hear this, if your children are lacking good care, hire someone to care for them. If you too are not getting good care ( in terms of food, gist partner etc), marry the second wife. Remember, you only have one life to live..

pongwa:
don't let some people see this. That said, I believe you have married a career lady and its gonna be hard to convince her. Moreover, I also want you to know that your case is not a peculiar one. It just calls for more deliberations, so I suggest you sit her down and devise plans on taking care of the kids. Whatever arrangements or strategy to be employed should be agreed upon. Lastly if your wife has feminist tendencies, please don't portray yourself as head of the house o.

pongwa:
you have to allow her follow her dreams. Why don't you stay home and take care of the kids instead since they are also yours and you care about them.

phemy36:


Please don't blame her. She's sensitive enough to see great potential. Let her utilize it. Who no like better things

Grennpastures:
Poster please if you don't mind. I am a married woman with two kids..I am very intelligent, people oriented and very open mind .please can I be trained.
Contact me on crownofglory1202@gmail.com

EkelediliBuhari:
Let’s agree this is my story...

I agree this is your story.

Pardon my long write up but I needed to get a perspective from a fresh eye/mind. I’m married for 3 years now with 2infants.

I'm married for 3 years with a kid. Am I qualify to chip in some advice? Yes.

Am I overthinking or does my wife have other plans?

You might be overthinking things. Also, your wife must have reason(s) best known to her for attempting or applying for job(s). You know your family best.

My dad is an established accountant with over 3 decades of experience at the highest level of his occupation in 2 multinationals. He is now retired and consults. Presently, he lives a day at a times cos he barely has plans for his firm (he is over 70 and doesn’t have anybody he’s training his my mom).

I have a good career earning almost a million monthly with side gigs that keeps me liquid (meeting all my family’s basic needs). Monthly upkeep of 200k mainly for feeding while I pay utilities and still bring out cash (no fixed amount) from time to time. Presently am setting up a firm for contracting and consultancy.

My wife is a caterer (she loves cooking and baking) whom I have supported over the years. She has gotten much better and I have invested in her business. Presently she has all the basic requirements for her work and she works from home. We live in a 4 bed and converted one to her studio (fully furnished - AC tables shelves etc).

If what you said is true, sir. You have done well. People are looking for just a quarter of this gesture. I'm not trying to compare, it's just the reality around me


Over the years I have encouraged her to focus on entrepreneurship. This will give her total control of her time. This way the kids get her attention while she handles business which I hope to one day retire into. I make sure she doesn’t contribute her personal funds to the home as I advise her to save for rain days. I have encouraged her to work closely with my dad to earn experience as they share same profession hopefully take over the firm in time while I groom mine for which she is the major shareholder (I’m not even a shareholder).

The bolded part. You have a good intention as a man (head of the family). Your family well being is a priority as seen in your post

Overall, do not look for a 9-5 like me, let’s grow a business.

However, she applies for jobs here and there. Just this morning she woke up as early as 4:30am applying for a customer service position and had to wake me up to correct her cover note.

As for the reason she is applying for jobs. Maybe you should talk more on that. It's kinda strange after all you stated above.

At this point I feel like giving up on her. I feel she just wants to have a paying Job for whatever reason. But I know know the downsides; no time for the kids, 40-80% of income goes on expenses, work stress, regrets - now you can’t quit because you have to prove you can do it.

Am I being unreasonable telling her not to work and focus on developing her business skills?

NB: I have never discouraged her in her business rather encouraged/ advised and funded.

Modified: for those insisting I let her be, how do we plan our future if we share separate visions?? When has working ever made anyone rich??

If she gets an IOC opportunity I’ll definitely support tho, but these are not the toes she’s applying for 100k -300k

Hargbo:
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Sheamus007:
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Versitee:
Good evening all.

Please my husband wants to covert some of the rooms in our hose to self con and rent it out.

We have just 1 tank of 3k litres. Bringing in tenants means we have to buy another tank but we don't have enough money for the renovations and the extra tank.

We either renovate, and rent out without connecting water. Tenants will have to fetch using the backyard tap. In that case rent will be 120.

Or we get a loan and buy a tank and connect. Then rent will be 180k.


What do we do?

N/B. my husband wants to collect the rent monthly and not yearly.

GloriousGbola:


Anyone asking you to start with immediate effect is a red flag and a trap. They are trying to make you leave your employer on a bad note and close the door.

Your story also has k leg.

No way a company that gives you an official car pays you 110k. I suspect you are deliberately lying about the allowances


He said net not gross salary

winnah:
Good morning family, I never felt the need to do this, it's not like I don't know what else to do. I just need your opinion.
Am currently a Branch manager of one of the biggest indigenous retail company (supermarket) in the country. Some group of Indian investor bought over my company... And I was transferred to Abakaliki to open our new branch. my relationship with the new owners I won't lie, is great..
My net monthly salary now is 110k, I have an official car and I live in the company's quarters.
There's no hope for salary increment. In the next 10 years am not sure of getting to 200k. My fiancee is in pH, and we are hoping to get married by next year.. this places a lot of demand to increase my income so I can afford to take care of my family.

However, I have an offer with another retail company in pH with salary of 200k. The company has promised and increment upon my confirmation. I went for the interview yesterday.. when they saw my experience and everything in my CV they became anxious to bring me in... So they asked how much am expecting I told them 200-250k and they settle at 200k. Right they, the chairman asked HR to give me offer letter and that I should start with immediate effect. My pain now is that,
First ; according to the HR their budget for the position was 300k.. now I've short change my self.. I feel so bad.

Secondly; I don't know how to present this to my MD, how do I tell them am leaving.. and the notice seems short. As I met him yesterday with a lot of expectations and target from me, just don't know how to communicate it to him. How I wish they can offer me this amount. Is two weeks enough to do handing over...