Double0h7:


Obviously Religion is important to you and your family. If you have an unspoken understanding about religion in your home then you should honour that.

I’m Muslim and I would never bring home a man from another religion because I don’t want to compromise my relationship with my family. They probably wouldn’t fight me but I would definitely be breaking an unspoken agreement.

Forget what others say, religion is an important part of life for many people. Above all things follow your heart (you want to end the relationship it seems) and then let your parents have the last say.

I can honestly tell you from the many years I’ve walked this planet, going against the grain never ends happily. It’s better to follow the path well trodden than to try and create a new path.

Life is hard as it is and if you can find as many things in common with your husband as you can then it will make things so much easier.

Thank you very much.
I really appreciate

Double0h7:


Our parents are more human than we give them credit for. Now if you have a problem with the things you listed then that’s a different story! How do you feel about the things you’ve listed? Can you live with them? Can you accept him as he is without ever changing?

For his tribe, I do not have any issue.

On his stance on religion, I would've preferred we were on the same footing though. But since he has no issues with me practicing my religion, it's fine.

And for his father, I don't have any issue with this too. It's just my parents could be a hard nut to crack when it comes to religion.

Double0h7:
The only mature thing to do in this situation is to see it through to the end. Talk to your mother first and express your love for the man. Stand your ground like an adult and explain to her the relationship you have and what you want.

Tell her your fears and that you would respect her wish but that she should also gives you the same mercy. Then hear your mum out and work from there.

Sometimes we live in our heads and reality is often different from our thoughts and feelings. Play it out to the end. Don’t end things on a hypothetical scenario that you concocted in your head.

Thank you very much

ZIMDRILL:



The way his father treat his mother will
give you a hint how he might treat you, their are from
different religions and seems like they have a common grounds due to the fact that their are still married now then

As for your parents up now you must know their views on inter marriages of tribes, you know them better than us

When you say he was a christian and stop practising are you saying he changed religion or stopped going to regulare services?

For your parents, if parents of boyfriend are functioning well in their marriage then your parents should also learn from it and give you a chance

He stopped believing and he prefers not to get involved in any religion

Stevenbright:


For the good of both of you, tell him your fears and if possible, put an end to the relationship now because if he insists on waiting for you, you are likely to disappoint him. And it won't be easy for him to bear it as a result of the waiting period and the invested resources.

Thank you.

Stevenbright:


On this, you are not ready for serious relationship and you feel you can't give him assurance to wait for you because you don't know if you will find someone better than him later.

Yeah, about being in a serious relationship?
I never envisaged that. I wanted to finish school, get something doing before entertaining any man.

Anyway, he came along and made his intention known. He is even willing to wait for me.

It's just the issues I highlighted that appear to be a stumbling block as my parents may be very difficult to deal with.

advanceDNA:


Ohhhh...I see........ So u are not ready for marriage anytime soon......

well that shouldn't stop you from introducing him to your parents once u graduate, since u said its soon........ if they say NO, then he doesn't have to wait for u for long..


Anyways ....U go dey alright shaaa....weda in ur husband's house or otherwise....

Thank you

advanceDNA:


.......wait....so u have someone that wants to marry and u claim u love each other ....yet, you are not even going to try and see if it would work out??

Are u sure ur folks is the problem or you ?? Cos it appears to me like u are not totally down with this guy....mayb u just love the way he cares for you but you are not totally into him...

It's like u already have this secret notion that u have time... and u can get something more perfect, or perhaps u even have a back up ...

Anyways...u can dump him if u have sure backup.... .remember that while women can boast of hundreds of toasters.

Na fvckboys dey plenty pass....

Of course, I love him and I have no one else apart from him. I am just worried about having to wait for me till I'm ready and my parents refuse to give consent.

Good afternoon, house. Mature advice is needed, preferably from married persons.

I'm in a relationship with a man who really loves me and is ready to settle down with me. I'll be rounding up my studies soon and he is willing to wait for me.
I am not much of a religious person but I'm a believer. He, on the other hand, was a Christian but stopped practicing. For now, he does not involve himself in any religion and he does not have issues with me practicing my religion.
For the purpose of brevity, I will quickly highlight my dilemma;

a) we are not from the same tribe ( he is Yoruba, I am Idoma) and I doubt if my parents would consent.
b. The religion aspect highlighted above.
c. His father is a Muslim even though his mum is a Christian.I think my parents will have issue with this.

Above all, he really loves, respects, understands and adores me. His love seems genuine and sincere. I love him too but I'm afraid the whole exercise may turn out to be futile for the both of us because of the points listed above. Should I call it off now?