Greetings!

Some months back I made a post seeking for advice on what to do

https://www.nairaland.com/7221827/getting-married-man-hates-mom#114618527

Some persons attacked and insulted me. The anger is justified but like I said, I didn't go into full details of what happened, I only summarized everything but to put the records straight.

I didn't leave my guy, I never would have done that. Like I said, he moved on when the embarrassment was too much. I begged, pleaded, was willing to relocate to a neighboring state or even take in for him but he didn't want that.

I didn't know when and how he left, it was a big heartbreak for me to discover that he left and was unreachable. Since then my relationship with my mom has been bitter.

I got into another relationship after more than 2yrs of self torture just to move on with life and in less than 6months into it, he resurfaced again and I ended my relationship with the present guy for him.

I just said I should put the records straight.

Reason for this post is to appreciate everyone that took time to advised on what to do.

Goodnews is that peace has returned. My mom has apologized, my guy has never had issues with my siblings or dad, so he has always been in good terms with them because nobody supported what my mom did.

I know he still holds grudges with my mom and things can never go back to being the same but I am cool with that, my mother deserves whatever treatment he gets from us.

We have resolved the issue. Like I said he is cool headed and avoids embarrassment like a plague.

His mother and siblings are also very OK with me, I have always been close to them since time memorial and I was surprised they never knew what happened cos he didn't tell them.

Jidenna is the most handsome

He destroyed the work of Awo and elevated thuggery, drug abuse and Hooliganism is South West.

Growing up we used to hear talks about yorubas being lover of education. Their English was impeccable. Lagos, Oyo, Ekiti used to top waec and jamb charts but since Baba came in and elevated Agberos, a great percentage of south west youths have become agberos and conductors. They no longer champion education like before.

The epidemic in Lagos has spread to other south western states and even some creeping into south east and south south.

When I see them hail this man, I am like what has he done for them? Is it because he gave them license to behave anyhow and stand under sun, smelling and extorting people?

You see many of them after using their youth to work as agbero, they get to 40yrs and are too weak to continue with nothing to show forth, you see their teeth rotten and their health pale, they start living by begging and seeking pity. Before 45yrs many of them are too weak to survive.

Go-to Oshodi, Mushin, Mile 2, etc you see many of them sleeping under and on top bridges, you see them begging and hailing people to get money so they can eat or drink.

Yorubas who work or own legitimate businesses and are well educated, you will find only few supporting this man because they understand the rot this man has brought upon their people. They know how fast their youths are decaying.

He stole their future and gave them a temporal hustle which amounts to nothing.

Indeed he is a maker of men. Awo will be disgusted

Good morning everyone ! My head is filled with thoughts and I am very confused on which path to follow that is why I am making this post.

It's a long read but I will try to shorten it.

I met my guy after my waec. He was a struggling young man with a lot of aspirations. Meeting him improved me because he pushed me to the limit to become a better person. This is a guy with soft heart and was willing to share his little with me, not only me but everyone around him. He is someone that is willing to go hungry for that man on the street to eat.

My parents knew him, everyone was OK with him. Three years into the relationship I gained admission which he played a key role at some point he was like my sole sponsor because things were rough at home and my uncles were disappointing. He took it upon himself and was sharing his salary into three and one portion comes to me. At home was a nightmare for my parents because my parents as civil servants were being owed. If you know how osun state was under Aregbe's govt.

This guy was our hope, not yet my husband, not rich but was coming through for us. Sometimes with foodstuffs and money to my siblings most especially my mom.

During my NYSC in 2018, suitors started coming, some with cars and my mom tired of suffering was mounting pressure on me to accept one of them. My fiance on the other hand was ready but waiting for me to be ready because we agreed that marriage and maybe child bearing will distract my studies.

My mom became so desperate to the extent of not wanting me and my guy to continue with our relationship. She wanted one of the rich suitors to have me (she forgot so soon). When the pressure and embarrassment was too much the relationship collapsed.

God knows I wanted to continue but he wasnt willing to fight. Our relationship ended and he left, I heard he relocated to Portharcout to stay with a friend and soon after travelled.

We lost all forms of communication only for him to resurface December last year. Dude looks good and we got talking and reconnected again. While he was away I was in a relationship with one of the suitors.

When my first love called that he was back I didn't think twice before rushing to the hotel to meet with him. We had the best sex that day and I couldn't help but cry all through, everything was like a movie to me.

I ended my relationship with that guy and we started again, he is OK (not that rich) but I am willing to marry him even in poverty.

He went back after some months and we have been talking on phone , he asks about my siblings but doesn't even ask after my mom. Whenever we are having a discussion and my mom is mentioned, he changes the topic, if I ask he will say he doesn't want to talk about my mom.

Like the hatred is much, he has this anger towards her and I am worried.

He plans to come ask for my hand when he returns, then we become man and wife but I am worried.

I love him, but how do I cope with a husband who hates my mom and sees her as a personal enemy. He doesn't hide this hatred, at a point he told me that his biggest challenge will be stepping foot inside my house for the marriage rites. And if he marries me that will be the last time he comes to my house.

He is still cool with my siblings and dad but mom is his enemy