Ezendimmuo:
Good day guys...
I am a Corper serving in Rivers state...
My girlfriend has been asking me when we would get paid as of last month...
Well
We got paid on Thursday..
She was asking me when I was going to give her her share...
Mind you..
This Rivers state government doesn't pay corpers..
Even my PPA doesn't pay...
I have to manage 33k in a strange land...which I why I actually ventured into side hustles...
Just this week alone...
I have sent her like 3k...
She became upset when I told her we'll discuss how much I'd give her later...
She said she didn't wanna talk tor and started giving me cold answers...
I respectfully hung up..

Am I selfish

na all ds instagram influencers don dey tell dem Mke dem no pity their bf. Say if u pity am, him dey give another girl.

Cause I don’t understand this her share something

Phargbemmy:
My wife picked up teaching job at a school where my three children attends and of recent I noticed something between herself and a male teacher there.

I accosted and accused her while she denied anything between them. I approached the said male teacher on Whatsapp after I noticed my wive spending more than extra time most night chatting with this same guy, he even called her some few minutes to 12midnight one day whilst we were on the bed together.

I told the guy to please stay away from my wife as I do not want issues, my heart did not "approve" of their friendship. Went ahead to let him know I will inform my father in-law if such continues and the guy had the audacity to tell me to go ahead and report her.

I warned my wife and she promised not to chat with him again.

Just 5 days ago I saw their chats again where the guy was asking her what my wife is doing now and she replied "chatting with you and playing with my phone'.


People help me as I have been wanting to divorce my wife as this isn't her first time but the dad will always plead for us not to agree to a broken home.

What do I do here?

If she has cheated on you before, she is still doing it

Charlex23:
Good Evening Nairalanders. So this would be my first time posting anything about my personal life here. I'll try to be declamatory and concise in my write up.
So I happened to have known her since 2018 and we started off as being friends,met her on Facebook, finally got a chance to meet her in person and luckily for me she stays very close to me in Lagos. To be honest we really have this bond and connection whenever we have a conversation, and I'll say she's a very lovely person with a good heart. Hardly a day or two passes by without the both of us keeping in touch. She's everything I would ever desire in a woman.
Even though she's just my friend, there's this uniqueness about her that just sweeps me off my feet, the thing is that she isn't a materialistic type of girl, she's down to earth, supportive,loyal and always cares about me so much tho we are not dating.
Despite the fact that we've been real close and I loved her since I set my eyes on her, I intentionally never wanted to display my love for her, most at times I have this urge to open up to her and express my feelings, but I don't want to be seen as being a weak man. I wanted to be sure if the love she had for me is mutual before I think of expressing mine. I actually withheld this feelings in me for about 3 years or thereabout. So the thing is i study in a federal university in Nigeria. Owerri to be precise, and I'm currently in my final year, but due to the strike I've been at home for some months.
So last week I was having a conversation with her on what's app and she was like professing her love for me and how she really started developing feelings for me for some time now, deep down I was so excited, it was like a dream come true for me because I've always wanted her to say this. She asked me if we could start up something and see where it leads us to, but I just had to tell her I'll have a thought about it. Now the problem is that she'll be travelling to Canada by August for her studies,and I'm really scared I might eventually lose her when she get there, obviously she'll meet guys who are better than me and might eventually succumb to one of those niggas over there, because I know girls are vunerable. you know I had to discuss my insecurities with her, but she promised me she won't succumb to any of them and that she loves me and can't do that to me. Mind you she's still a virgin and I'll be her first boyfriend, besides she's too beautiful and I know that guys won't let her rest, she always tells me how guys always pester her and all that, but because she loves me that's the reason she dosen't want to give in to any of their request. She's just so beautiful that even my mind won't even be at rest when she's not around me. She has been all around me since yesterday and promising me she'll be mine alone and everything, but the truth of the matter is I'm scared. I so much love her, but I just want to be sure I don't have any regrets.
I know she loves me too, because there have been difficult situations I've been through in the past but she salvaged it.
I have good intentions for her and I want to make her my wife if possible, probably when I'm done with studies. if I was still a play boy like I was previously,I would just want a taste of the cookie and run away, but ever since this girl came into my life as an important figure, all these bad boy traits in me just vanished, I can't really tell how . Before now, I don't even have time for love, I just do my normal hookup and please myself.But I'm just scared of her leaving me if she eventually gets there, besides the long distance relationship is stressful but I believe she's a good girl and it's worth fighting for. Do u guys feel I should give this a chance and just see how things would go? Please I need your advice?

the truth is, she will leave you. Especially when she dey find permanent stay for the country, then one fine guy wey get paper go just wyne am. If na you, you no go follow d guy?

Zaheertyler:

Lol ajebo
At 27 your papa never Dey give you your respect even if you Dey him house lol
You know say na lie you no fit clear am say why him go Dey lie against you ..why him go even sieze phone way you buy self
You suppose Dey clear the man with respect
Him go Dey give you your way
But you be ajebo sha

omo I tire ooo. At 27 dem no born anyone for my house to touch my fone, even if I thief am

Cyntie55:
There is this guy, we dated for 2 years before he traveled abroad (Italy) 2019. Our relationship was going on well even when he traveled out, we were always calling each other on video calls everyday. I was so faithful to him.

Suddenly (last year March), he started avoiding me. He could go for months before he replies my calls or chats.
Atleast no matter how busy you are, you can always spare 1 minutes of your time with the person you claim you love.

Please note, he's always online, We do video calls mostly on WhatsApp and anytime I try to reach him on video call or send him a message.... it always ring and deliver but he won't pick or reply.

Here are my reasons why I'm so confused whether to move on with my life or not.

1) Although before he started avoiding my calls, he told me he was busy... that he was working on something (but he never disclosed the particular "thing" to me)

2) We were supposed to get married as planned last year August. But this is May 2022 and absolutely nothing is in progress about it.

3)I discussed with his friend about it and he told me he's in a relationships over there. (I don't know if to believe him or not, because he didn't show me prove)

Now, it been a year I'm enduring his character. I feel like I'm stuck alone in this relationship. Heaven knows I haven't offended him in any way. I wish he could open up to me and tell me what I was doing wrong so that I could adjust. OR he should just tell me he's in a relationship so that I could move on.

I plan visiting his elder sister this weekend and explain to her the issue on ground but on a second thought I think I'm too forward. I'm jst confused and I feel hurt.

I am very sure you are knocking someone now. Just move on with the person, y distrbin urself

Danyyyyyyyyyyy:


I was waiting for this one
Yes oh in the front of my face sef
I was dating this guy for just a week oh , I called him to ask him if we could meet , I called when I was close to his usual hangout so I assumed he was there and I was just calling to inform him so he's not too surprised coz I don't like looking like I'm monitoring someone
He picked the call and said he wasn't there and just as he said that I spotted him backing me but I knew him , even with the eyesighg of an albino I can make out a person (his stature , his shirt , his hair , his friend )
I walked closer and asked again, he repeated himself " I'm just coming out of my house now " his house was quite far from where I saw him and then I saw her
She was dressed like them girls who do too much , worse part was she was ugly at least respect me and cheat with someone that's fine ( I'm joking )
She wore a silver bra under a see through shirt and then I approached him , he nearly choked
I was smiling like I didn't what was going on , I'm actually a very happy person and I don't know how to express sadness face to face with a person , I prefer to cry over the phone than in front of you , I always wanna look my best , I hugged him and just looked at her a bit , she just came closer to sit next to him , like she was marking her territory , I Sha dragged him to where I was going and I asked why he liked , was he already tired of me in a week , he said I didn't hear him correctly , I went home and replayed our convo, Truecaller records all my calls , and I heard it correctly, I left him around 9:50pm and I called around 10:30pm coz I wanted to confirm he was at home alone and not out fucking that girl , he didn't pick any of my calls and the next morning he said he slept off
Like did you sleep on the road ? At a point his line was busy I stayed up that night , playing detector, calling every hour to just know that he was alone

The next week he did the same thing , this time he said he was meeting a friend and he can't hangout with me , he forgot to mention his friend was a woman because I saw him with a lady again,the guy was a sloppy one

He was always receiving calls whenever I was with him and my sharp memory, I memorized the numbers , checked them on Truecaller then checked his friend list for the ones I saw on Truecaller , I just wanted to know if they were fine girls , at least to know if I'm with someone that other people wanted , it was barely 3 weeks and I was ready to break up , I was just irritated , broke up before a month Sha , he was the funniest cheat I'd ever encountered, the other ones were smarter ,
He was going around begging girls , even my close friends and my cousin , shamelessly shameless
I ghosted him , he wasn't worth a breakup nor was he worth my explanation , I had hardcore evidence against him , it wasn't assumptions or suspicions
He reappeared to confront me , I don't know how dumb he is to not know that I knew what he was doing in the short time we spent together ,
The worst thing I've ever been attracted to

I was just happy that I never had sex with him , I planned to because it was a really long time since I had sex with anyone but I still held my rule on unnecessarily wasting my bodycount on any and anyhow people
He brought it up 3 days after I said yes , I knew that was a big red flag �
I was just avoiding it stylishly

be like na you start this thread. You just use that account camouflage

oldienavie:
So I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and she is perfect, actually she is a virgin, well behaved and very respectful. The relationship is going very fine but I am starting to really think deeply and I may just break up.
Why ? I have lived abroad for a while and do have a very serious phobia for travelling on Nigerian roads, her parents are a journey of 4 hours from where I am and I understand the area is rife with kidnapping and robbery of all sorts.

I find myself obsessing over having to make that trip to her parents place and also have my family embark on that journey and I always shudder at the thought of it.

I am seriously considering breaking up with her and looking for a lady whoose parents are here in the same city I reside, cos one of the things that gives me serious head ache is travelling on Nigerian roads.

Since I got back to Nigeria I have not travelled outside of the city that I am and it is because of how serious that phobia is.

But how do I tell her I am breaking up with her for this reason, it sounds very trivial but its a serious issue for me.

lol, you no serious. Tell us the real reason. Talk say you don tire

Cutehector:
swears.. We guys sometimes are the ones bringing problems to ourselves and we need to call our fellow gender to order when they err.

Wrong behavior is wrong and we should call a spade a spade. Anyone, be it Male or female that thinks carrying condom around is stupid, i detach myself completely from that person because from that moment, i see that person as a carrier of wicked infections.

carrier of infection but Carries a cd to protect from infection. The way u guys reason sef

Skyfornia:
She came prepared...didn't speak good of her carrying condom around. She would have insisted you go out and get one yourself.

speak good how? So na only men suppose they carry? The way u guys think sef

HandsomeGuyman:
I still can't forget my experience with this Abuja girl I've been chatting with for a long time.
I have been inviting her to come to my house since December and she has been giving me excuses.
On Sunday, she finally decided to come and what happened next shocked me to the bone.
I bought her food from a Fast food and after eating, something led to another and it was time to have sex; this girl asked me if i have a condom.
I had a pack of condom but i didn't want her to think otherwise or call me a womanizer for storing condoms in my house and so.
The moment i told her that i don't have, she said she has
This Abuja babe brought out condom from her bag and gave to me ooo
For me, i have removed her from my list of girlfriend ooo.
Which reasonable/responsible girl will be moving around with packets of condom if not a prostitute?
What do you think?
Cc Lalasticlala
Seun
ishilove

Bro, if I get that type of girl, I go hold am tight. Them dey rare. This girls of nowadays are careless. Just small wyning dem go let u blow dem raw

Tonero5200:
minimum a day I get 2 calls from different male voice wanting to speak with the owner of the phone, my girlfriend. offcus it's my phone, but she's the one giving them my contact, the whatsapp messages I get some times it's alarming, have warned her several times for her to stop, she thinks doing that will earn her my trust instead it's making me to have several doubts about our relationship status.
we quarreled some time ago can you imagine she' told me it's like am using charm on her, can't I see the number of guys thats asking her out. yes she's pretty, sometimes I wonder, it's More like she's trying to prove something to me but I need her to stop giving my number out to guys, how do I do that?

lalasticlala
ishilove
Seun
mynd44

na d guys wey she no like she dey give your number.

GeneralKoko:
I am contemplating leaving but I really want to know. What age did you leave your parents house and why??

Lalasticlala Mynd44 Dominique Roctation farano please front page

26 ooooo, when I was fully ready. No pressure

femijay8271:
Hello everyone, truly na today i believe say the future is truly female.

Now, let me start from here...This my new neighbor just moved in last week Sunday with his wife and daughter. So as a newly rented apartment, the husband called me yesterday that he wanted to check how my generator wire was been connected because each apartment has its own Changeover.

I showed him but i advised him to call an electrician to come and do it for them.

Then today, the electrician came, though its was the same electrician that helped them to run and changed some wire before they packed in.

Note, this my neighbor husband have went out since early morning so its was his wife that was at home and his daughter.

My apartment window was closed since yesterday night so i haven't open it before the electrician came and do the wiring work.

And you know this types of glass wey b say u go dey see people wey dey outside for daytime but they won't see person wey dey inside.... And when night come, na person wey dey outside go dey see u and u wont b able to see dem... Na dat one dey each apartment.

Hmmmm, naso i get the shock of my life when the electrician finish doing his job and he's about going when he started caressing this my new neighbor's wife body, touching her breast and bumbum in our compound right directly my window.

I was like what!

The funniest thing is that this same neighbor of mine was seriously praying in the middle of the night at day before yesterday.

Well.... None of my business as i will never talk anything or do like i see anything.

I have d video on my phone for confirmation.

When i told my wife, she couldn't believe it until i showed her the video and she was haaaaaa.

Pls make una share na experience with such neighbor either male or female

anonymously send d video to d man wit a fake account.

yemobrown:
It's about #40k for complete Semen profiling and ANALYSIS. scrotum check is inclusive in the #40k.

thanks

hearttoheart001:
I have been away for some months now. I and my fiancee always do video calls every day. So we keep each other company.
Yesterday, my girl insist I should order a intimacy gadget for her or she will get it herself. I stand my ground and told her this will amount to cheating. She says that she should use a intimacy gadget than another man sleeping with her
Folks, should I allow her to get the toy? How will it affect our relationship? Am I not competing with sex machines like this?
No bashing, I need informative advice.
I feel like I am been intimidated in my territory.

the gadget thing na just camouflage. She is already straffin someone

RealityKings:
distant relationship is a scam. she is just taking you for a ride, she is already straffing other available dicks

i swear

Hi
Does anyone have an idea how much it would cost to check your sperm in lagos?

Verysmart101:
I am currently in a fix my people.I have a girl who is in the university currently.Shes 21 already.I Live at Abuja while she lives at Owerri.Late last year I disvirgined her but I never knew my nightmare would start from there.Ever since I did that act,she totally changed and I made some observations and discovered she cheated on me with her male friend.I confronted her with facts and she apologized promising it would repeat itself again.Out of love I agreed and we continued again.To my greatest shock her behaviour never changed.I still inquired and I discovered she is sleeping with a guy in her lodge regularly.She denied several times until I got serious evidence and this time she admitted and was blaming me for deflowering her.She said she can't withstand the temptation of guys in her school.This is the girl I intend to marry.Now she says she wanna quit and I don't deserve her because of her promcious ways.She has been nice to me all along until she changed recently.I need solid advice my people.i don't wanna act out of anger.Pls should I kick her out or reconsider? I do help her financially for 2yrs of dating.Am 28 and ready to settle down.Help my people.

oga she is for d street

Peace081:
My dear get married n u will see ur life turn around for good, some women are door opener

what if e turn worst? Abeg stop this rubbish talk

Igoni1stson:
A man came from Canada 2018 November and got married to me both court and traditional. Left back to Canada after 2 days of our marriage. For four years i have been waiting for him. Only for him to marry another woman over there in Canada on the 22nd of this April. We have not divorced. We had no issue only that he stopped taking care of me since August 2021.
Please I need advice on what to do legally
Thanks

swear say you never cheat in those years. Abeggi, move on

Leebliss13:
Hello Great people....

I really need your help deciding what gift I'll present to my fiancee on a successful completion of her NYSC duty (Date :28th)

She has been wonderful and supportive and I want to use this opportunity to show her gratitude...

Note: she's not the materialistic type

Thanks bosses....God bless

Comments and attacks are welcome!

If it was a long distance relationship, no waste your money. Some one would av been helping you there

questionanswer:
I have a lady whom I want to settle down with. The lady is respectful and behavior well. But I'm being bordered by suitations surrendered her. I'm really rethinking the possiblity of proceeding with the marriage plan. And the reason is:

1. I'm being bordered because the lady doesn't really have a work or a skill. And she's not making an effort to empower herself. I told her to go learn work but she refused and keep giving excuses.

I don't really want to marry a liability who cannot assist the family.

2. Her family is very poor and broke. And I don't really have plans to take care of my wife and her entire family.

Please I need a mature advise on this.

Thank you.

bro please set standard for your self. These ladies are quick to set theirs. I no fit Marry woman who go behind liability. The truth is even if u threaten to leave her because of this and she changes, it would be temporary. She go turn back in marriage. How can a full grown adult choose not to hustle? How you wan eat? Abi dem send men as slaves?

telim:
The best way to revenge is to control + Del the person from your mind and work hard to be successful in life.
Also 2019 is taken like forever to show up, the evil party "APC" might have conspired with the devil to slow down Nigerian time.

this is 2022 lol

janejjjjj5000:
Please, I don't want to be judged. My husband is a good man. We have been married for 14 years. I am 33 years old. He is 39 years old. We have 4 kids - 3 girls and 1 boy. He has never cheated on me. Right from day 1, he has been very open. He is not the type of husband that locks phone and all of that. But I am tired. He has the habit of flaring up around the children and I don't like it. I don't want my kids to be damaged. I know some will say no marriage is perfect but at this point, I don't even want marriage again. I just want to be free and single and look after my kids. I am tired.

Anytime we have an argument, he always talks about how he did this and that for me. In front of the children. I don't want this kind of life. He hardly gets angry, maybe twice or thrice in a year but when he does, he does not have the sense to know he should not be doing it in front of the kids. He apologizes to them and to me but I am done.

He has no other issue apart from this. He has never beaten me or anything but I am tired. Overall he is a good husband to be fair and honest but I can no longer deal with this. I prefer to be single and free than deal with this rubbish.

I feel like pouring out my heart.

Just talk say single life dey hungry you again. You wan dey free Cus I don’t see a serious issue her

tammyf:

It's possible bro.mine changed from AS to AA after a 3 days fast indoors....I mean total dry fast .no pastor involved ..its in us all to do the impossible but we never harness it based on ignorance and laziness....this is a personal experience bro.i took the challenge when I understood my ex fiancee then was AS and I didn't want to lose her.we r all gods but we know not.

yinmu. U wer never AS

Djriri:



LORD HAVE MERCY,, am catholic I cannot proceed with such horrific thing

so why did you come to sick advice?

Djriri:
My partner and I are aware of our genotype situation both of us carry AS gene we both have a child together my first daughter who is AS genotype PRAISE THE LORD. After finding out that I am also AS my partner after the birth of my daughter has told me he didn’t want to continue having children with me and would rather we both raise the child and get new partners. we want to let that connection go and 1 year later currently I’m pregnant with a baby boy who is now carrying the SS gene. My partner has moved out of house ,, Paid me money to abort the baby and he went to start a new life far from me and the baby. I’m not sure if I should use the money abort the child and start my life or keep the child and pray for Gods forgiveness!!!!

HELPPPP ME

go to YouTube and watch what sickle cell parents go through and also what the patients go through, then make your decision. No be from my mouth you go hear am. But make d decision fast

Baitullah:
I understand your perspective (from the laws of power).

That technic can only serve you better if you don't plan on entering matrimony with her.

exactly.

Studentdelta2:
I have too many problems at this moment to even bother myself about this girl but it's very hard to let her go. I am a student and being the sole bread winner of myself she has been very supportive...

She lives with me and so money always comes from her side. Only few will relate to this, I have no one, absolutely no one to get money from so I hustle online and money comes but it's not frequent.

Though when we met things were a bit better with more than 500k with me but now, i don't even know how to say it. I can't even pay my current final year school fees which is even giving me BP.

So this lady has been very supportive, but she sleeps with everything in this life. She lies without thinking twice as if it's normal. She sees sex as a normal thing. I can boldly attest to several times I caught her with her always claiming to change. I can't let her go cos when I did, I nearly starved. Things are not working well for me at all and she knows this.

So, an ex boyfriend of hers, a limping Cripple(married) called recently and I found out they have been banging even after my preaching about self worth. The girl will get me into trouble but oh well, i am just confused.

I know more than 50 names she has slept with and very certain she has done more than 500 people....

My life is just a sad irony. A cruel one.

hope you dey use cd sha

Abfinest007:
Both parties are wrong

I no understand

WinterDreary:

Can you provide me the email you used? They are not responding to my several emails to their chancery@XXXXX.ca email

generalinquiries@nigeriahcottawa.ca

HeliotJ:
Canada has proven to be a rewarding immigration center for people who dream of better Life. People that beg on the street are richer in Canada than politicians in Nigeria. Little wonder our senators are now hustling Canadian visa.

On Canadian soil, you're guaranteed a better security, even without working. Beggars take home more than $100k per month by begging on the street. And they're guaranteed free housing and health benefits which isn't possible in Nigeria.

na so una go dey talk rubbish