Ehinjuola:
My husband is not the same man I fell in love with.

My husband changed totally after wedding day, in fact, it started on the wedding night and its giving me a lot of concern.

It's not that he is not talking to me or we are fighting, but he is not the cheerful happy person anymore.

After months of trying to get what the problem is, he finally opened up to me and I don't know what my fault is, I think he is overreacting.

My husband works in an insurance company and he is just a junior staff, he earns 150k per month, so he is not doing that bad.

When we wanted to get married, my dad wrote the wedding list and everything he would bring, when he saw them, he fumed that they were too much and they should reduce it but my dad insisted that he won't collect it twice, I also told him if he really loves me, he would provide them, he could get help from his family too, it is called bride price and other things, and it is once.

We had little issue then but he later resolved it.

He brought everything they ask him for

During the wedding, my parents told him to buy a cow, rent a hall and decorate it then they'll take care of other things. He said he didn't have money for a big hall and he would prefer a field ground but my dad insisted that rain could disrupt things and he has many people coming.

That almost cause issues too, I had to support him with 50k to get the hall because I know who my dad is, he won't back out.

I didn't know how he did it, he took the hall and designed it, he bought cow too.

His family brought food and everything went fine and that was it.

I don't know what was keeping him moody until he spoke up.

He said I couldn't fight for him, I was there supporting my parents and watch them extorting him, did I even know he had to collect loan to pay for those things?

I got angry because he used the word 'extorting'.

He was the one that wanted to have my hand in marriage and if he cherish me, he should do all they wanted since he is not paying twice.

After I said this, he stopped talking in the house, he comes home, eat and go to bed.

I tried talking to him but he would listen but not talk, he is cold to himself and prefer his privacy.

Have I said something wrong?

I don't like whats happening. My marriage is too young to be going through all these.

I am tired, I don't know what to do.

even me sef I go vex. Which rubbish talk is “if he loves me he should pay all they ask” . You don use this sentence more than once. Don’t you know the financial capacity of the person you want to marry? Can’t you mitigate for him? I know of a later, that when they presented the list to the guy, the guy said it was much but they still insisted on him paying it. The guy said he was not interested again, the lady left her family to follow the man immediately. She sef no gree before them finally agree. Abi him don pay finish, na only you Dey face the issue now and not your parents. See u need to Dey use your head

dlawsamesq:
So I am very confused right now because of all this red flag I am seeing.

I lost my wife early last year when she was birthing my third child and only son, I have had my family taking care of the boy since then and now there is need to move on.

There is this lady I am currently seeing, we are both serious with the relationship, infact I have met her family to disclose my intentions and we are planning to get married this December.

Now, this is the issue, this lady is very stingy to herself. She is an entrepreneur, she runs her own business and is doing averagely well, she can afford to cater for need without anyone's support. She has been complaining of body pains and body weakness for almost 2 months but she refused to take herself to the hospital and when I complaint she told me that I should give her money, I am not trying to say it is bad if I give her money to do that but she is quite aware that things are not very rosy for me now.

I am really confused now because I don't plan to wife a liability, I think I will opt out of this relationship.

things are not rosy and na marriage Dey hungry you now. Oga you have kids already, relax. What’s the hurry

Dcass:
I have tried everything to buy my sewing machine but nothing work am only able to raise 10k out of 90k plus but no problem I believe I will do anything to feed my baby and myself but only God know why he took my husband and left me with the whole responsible.

God knows I have worked begged and even done things just to be able to raise money for my sewing machine but I still didn't work and I don't have anybody.
I hope am not committing a sin because am doing this for my child and after doing it if I can raise 90k I will stop and start working.

If any can borrow me I will be greatful and it will save me



Matured mind please.

do it. You no be the first

Ayomide11111:
Medical practitioners in the house should please help me ooo.
I discovered blood was coming out with my stool few days ago and I was surprised how it happened. I am not a gay that I will say maybe one idiot has furk out my anuus, I no dey do menstruation when I'm not a woman. How come blood has it way with my stool
Some people said it is hermroid(piles), although I do feel like my intestine want to come out of my anus if I touch my anus during the time when I'm deficating.
Some people said it is infection ( not STDs oo)
Some people said Na Jedi-Jedi.
One of the surprising things about this issue I'm facing is that I will not feel any pain when I'm deficating and blood will be dropping out enough to wet my stool.
I have never experienced this in my life.
I have used different infection medicine and different Hermroid(piles) medicine but this thing is still persisting.
This issue has been so tough for me that some pharmacists gave me some terms and conditions on my food Intake that if Na 4 Akpu I dey take before make I reduce ham to 2 Akpu or if possible I should not even take any swallow food for this period because my stool is always HARD when I'm about to deficate. Haaa!! Which kind of whala-whala-whala be this ......
Help me. I beg both English and Native medical practitioners In the House, and probably merciful people that knows the way out of this, should please drop comment for me on how I can come out of this mess and have my full health back Blood is life, I don't want to lose any of my blood inside the toilet again Help me please for quick medical or native solutions. I will be grateful to you all. I LOVE NAIRALANDERS

Comments for solutions plss.

u might need a CT scan. Something could be going on I. Your colon

Ghidey:

Genotype match not marriage compatibility.
Genotype doesn't make marriage

“ God wanted you to be with the person he would ve matched your genotype” In your words. That means God wants AA to be with anyone Abi?

EthanSly:
So I grew up thinking I am AA cos all my brothers are AA except for my sister who happens to be AS..

So on Wednesday I decided to just be sure since I haven't done the test officially only for the result to come out as AS.

Now the lady I love and want to get married to is AS.. I'm so sad and depressed at the moment.

Please I need advice on how to go about this issue with her cos Omo..




Admin pls help move to front page biko

welcome to the club brother

Ghidey:

Because you are lucky doesn't mean he will be as lucky as you are.
I doubt all the children are yours. I would go for DNA if I was you.
Don't be too spiritual when it comes to genotype. If God wanted you to be with the person he would ve matched your genotype.
You might be lucky and the chance of not being lucky is 50%. Better use your brain than being spiritual. Same God created different genotypes for you to find your match and not to challenge his works.

if God created different genotypes to match, the. Why do two AA’s divorce?

VirgoG:


Abeg she's special. To treat malaria on a monthly basis no be beans😜

so to treat malaria regularly makes you special? Una funny

Jovialjune1:



I hate this, when people feel they can use the name of God as an excuse for stupidity

The bible says "prayer without works is dead", the fact that God said prayer is the key doesn't mean we shouldn't use our common sense, that is why he gave us "free will"

And at bolded, what exactly is the the correlation between marrying AA and not having a child? give detailed explanation because you might have discovered a new medical breakthrough that no one knows yet , and if you brought up your sister's story to drive home your useless point then something is not right in your brain, ko follow rara.

And at your own story, I see that you conveniently omitted the part where one or two of your children are SS, so as to decieve Op to join in your ignorance abi? Don't bother coming back to prove your lies by telling us they are all AS cos that's obviously what people like you will say, oniyeye.

Op ignore this quoted comment with every fiber of your being.

what if they did d needful

Jennyclay:
I’m AA but do have money to take good care of me?

Are you millionaire or billionaire? Biko nobody wants to settle for less not to talk of settling with AS .

Double wahala for dead body if you’re broke

God forbid!!

look at this one. You feel you are special cus u r AA. Mtcheew

madridguy:
Children are blessing from God Almighty.

Congratulations to the family.

stop this rubbish talk

UyaiIncomparabl:


I don't ask about a man's financial capacity. I have eyes and can see. It is always visible to the eyes no matter how modestly he plays his card. JUST provide my needs and wants (sometimes) if you can afford it, and we are good.

so a man should provide your wants and needs but you feel it’s odd for him to know ur past. But you want a secure future. You ladies just want to eat your cake and have it back

UyaiIncomparabl:
Why should you ask me such questions? Do you have no manners or what? That's an infringement of privacy. Well, I have never answered such questions even though my body count is less than two. What else must you know? Must you know everything?

You either believe or you swerve to the bush.

then you should not ask about my financial capacity. It’s an infringement of my privacy. Make we just date blindly.

antidisestablis:

The only mistake you made was to accept her back. Never forgive a cheating woman except you are already married to her. The lady is already damaged, pls break up with her and never look back.

even if I am married, I won’t still forgive my wife if she cheats

Coolis:
I have been reading about entitlement mentality by ladies but I have not given it a thought. I really didn't know there are ladies that actually believes men owe them anything.
I started seeing a lady recently in my neighborhood, over two weeks now. I have been the only one doing the calling and sending the text messages so as to show I care about her. It didn't bother me that she never called me or replied any of my messages since the l'm just getting to know her and also, the friendship is still very fresh.
Here is the issue. I got home last Friday night, as usual, I called to check up on her and to know how her day went. She said she was at a lab trying to run typhoid/malaria test, that she was not feeling too well. I told her to let me know when she got to her place so I could come see how she was feeling. She said she didn't have airtime that I could call about an hour later.
An hour later, I was at her gate, called and she said she was strolling down from the highway to her place. The journey from the highway to her place is a bit far, hence l assumed she didn't have money to engage one of the okada riders.
On Saturday morning, I went to her place and gave her the 2500 I had with me, to assist her in going for the injections. she said she was asked to come for. She said the people at the lab ask her to come for three injections between Friday and Saturday.
I deliberately didn't call or gets in touch since I gave her the money since last Saturday morning to see how or what she would do. Up till now, I have not heard anything from her, no any kind of calls from her, no beep or actual call, no message to say thank you. Not that I'm saying what I gave her was huge but, I'm of the opinion that she should have at least show a little appreciation to show she's serious about me and our friendship. I couldn't stop thinking since last Friday, did l owe her any money before then? Even if l owed her, a debtor that came to your place to pay what he's owing deserves to be shown a bit of appreciation.

what is the entitlement mentality here? So na the 2500 make you write this one?

Supremedrizzy:
Hi everyone, I have a little issue that I would appreciate your input. With the economic situation on the ground presently in the country it looks rather unnecessary to bother you guys with such a trivial matter but I still implore you to read through and give me your kind submissions. It's going to be a long read, please kindly bear with me.

I've been dating my girlfriend for over a year and six months now and while it has not been a smooth sailing we've manages to always sort our issues. I lost my major source of income about two months ago and even though I had our little side gig it was tough for me because the job constitutes about 80% of my income.

My girlfriend was staying with me while she was working on her project but my job loss affected the relationship because I was broke and to a slight extent extended the aggression to her. I stopped caring about her or giving her any attention because I channeled all my time into getting another job. This resulted in us having lots of fights now and then and to make matters worse she discovered she was pregnant.

With the situation of things breeding a child was a no-go area for both parties but then things were so difficult that I couldn't even afford an abortion then. During one of our arguments, she angrily told me that my nonchalant attitude toward her was making her seek attention from guys outside because she wants to be happy.

I took her statement with a pinch of salt because relationship-related matters were the last thing on my mind then. We later made up as usual, the next day she asked me if I wasn't eager to know the guy she was talking to, and I told her that I didn't care.

She kept mentioning it till I had to inquire about it, she narrated how the guy was someone she normally talks to online about our problems, they met once in a restaurant and the guy asked her out and she was contemplating accepting him because of how I was treating her blah blah but asked him to wait a bit while she sorted out things with me. He would only call her only when she flashes him and she always delete their chats she continued.

I waved away the matter because I had just gotten a new job though with much lesser pay than the previous one but I still channeled all my focus on my new job so I didn't want any distractions. A week later we had a serious fight that led to me asking her to leave, and even flung her things outside. She insisted on staying till I took care of the pregnancy. I reached out to a friend that owned a pharmacy store and he promised to come around and take care of the stuff.

While we were waiting for my friend she kept exchanging voice notes with the guy telling him how he was free to call her anytime he wants now because she has broken up with her guy. The guy on the other hand was apparently excited and couldn't hold his joy, he kept repeating how that day was the best day of his life because he had been waiting for her to break up with me. He immediately sent her money when she requested for tp and later offered to come pick her up from my place.

I think it's worth mentioning that I found out that the guy was a banker and was relatively more well-to-do than me. He allegedly drives an RX 350 while all I had was my leggediz Benz.

I ignored her initially but she kept rubbing her nonsense on my face in a bid to pepper me including telling the guy that she loved him after she got his alert. I deliberately made a few calls to other ladies telling one of them whom she knows that I was ready to be with her now and concentrate on her. She flared up and started screaming on top of her voice to the girls hearing that she was pregnant and all. She later started dragging my phone to know who the caller was, she found out it was someone she knew.

She chatted the girl up and began to slander me through voice notes. It was resulting to insults so I had to leave the house for her because she was beginning to get on my nerves. An elderly neighbor came and spoke to her while I was away so she called me and started apologizing blaming her actions on pregnancy hormones. I went back home and forgave her after asking her to end anything she has with the guy.

We didn't have any form of intimacy the following week because my libido was zero. During that period she was still in communication with the guy, answering his calls discreatly and deleting chats. I complained about her fishy attitude and she said it's because she didn't know how to tell the guy that we were back together and I also threatened her that I would reciprocate what she did to the lady that I called if I get hold of the guys contact. She decided to go home for a week to attend a relative's wedding and while she was packing I noticed she was packing almost everything. I remarked on it and she mumbled an inaudible response. While she was packing I farted while rushing to the toilet and she started scolding with loud voice. I got angry and told her that I couldn't wait for her to leave so I could have peace. She fired back that she would never come to my house again. I gave her tp and she left. We both knew it was breakup. Just before she left she got a call from someone the guy referred her to for a job. She called the guy thanking him and promised to see her that evening.


Just three days after she left, she chatted me up that she still loves me and wants us to get back together. She revealed that she couldn't develop feelings for the guy no matter how much she tried. The guy had been at her beck and call, buying shawarma and pizza for the whole house and using his car to run errands for her but somehow she still wants me. I asked her what she intends to do with the guy and she said she would open up and tell him everything that evening. I said okay.

She later called me that evening to narrate how she opened up to the guy and the guy was furious at her for leading him on and trying to get back to a guy she said treated her like shit. He ended up smashing his Samsung S2somthing on the wall and left angrily. So that was how we made up again.

She came back to the house days later so we could take care of our unfinished business, but I discovered she still had a soft spot for the guy. She always gets upset each time I use the guy to catch cruise the way she does to my female friends. She claims the guy was just a nice person to her and didn't deserve the things I said about him.

She missed his call one morning and was restless, said she was inquisitive to know why he called because he hadn't been online probably due to his bad phone. He chatted her up once night and they chatted for hours with the excuse that I was working on my laptop and was ignoring her. I worked throughout the night and slept around past 5 in the morning only to wake up around 8am to her talking to the guy in the kitchen. I gave her a stern warning to stop whatever rubbish she was up to with the guy again.

Her birthday is next week and I gave her 20k manage it anyhow that she can, I initially promised her 25k but had to reduce it because I had to send and urgent money to my mom. She later told me that this same guy was offering to bake a cake for her birthday. I told her that she likes complicating issues for herself since she would be celebrating the birthday in my house how is the guy supposed to give her the cake or is he going to bring it to my house? Of course she had no answers.

I told her to put the guy in his place and explain things to him, let him know that she's spending the day with me but if he's okay with bringing the cake to the house then fine. I saw her list this evening and noticed cake there so I asked her what was the outcome of her discussion with the guy, her mood changed instantly and she said that after explaining everything to the guy, he was upset and said I should handle everything myself and started ignoring her. She made a comment that the guy always responds to her online, but he's ignoring her now. It was obvious she was hurt because the guy has withdrawn the attention he was giving her.

I've asked her several times why she came back to me if she had feelings for the guy but she doesn't give me a concrete answer. How do you guys think I should navigate through this?

Please I am sorry for the lengthy post and any typos, I wanted to add most details for better understanding.

you Dey tolerate rubbish ooo. She comot your house go Dey with guy, the guy go don smash am, she begged you and you still accepted her back into your house. Na under ur nose them go Dey knack now

ConfusePoint:
Ranting. Ranting. Ranting.

I have decided to rant out my predicaments on this forum today.

What is the way out of poverty for me?

One inlaw is even living with us, making it 8 in number, all in one room.

This thing don come big pass me.

I know most of you here would blame me for impregnating a woman to give birth to that number of children but then, life is life. It happens like that sometimes.

They say a poor man's prayer is "e go better" but instead of things to get better in Nigeria, everyday things get worse.

Truth is, except I drive myself out of this mess to a better life for me and my children, this poverty that is so stricken will likely be extended to my children, which I really don't want.

No two ways about it except ...

But like a car without tyres, can it move even if it has fuel? Definitely no.

For 4 days now, I sleep outside in an abandoned car because of financial war at home. I can't go back home and I even feel like never to go back there but should I abandon them like that and run away? To where?

When I went to the market the other day with 5k to buy food items for the house, I was crying and talking to myself on my way back because I came back with almost nothing.

Nigeria have succeed to plug life out of poor Nigerians. The poor cannot breathe again. Let's die and go.

Advice: never give birth when you are not financially strong. Unfortunately, I've learned my lesson the hard way.

Life happens.

How do I help this family better than I am trying?

Wishing you the best in all you do.

mtcheww I no Dey pity pple wey born pass three. Una be rich kids. Best of luck bro

Samantha124:
What's waec?

na brand of semovita

Absuchat:
So we've been in a relationship for a year now but along the line, I needed some time out to get some stuff off my head..... Work became so stressful that I reduced the way I call and chat with her.
Meanwhile, she usually call and will most times complain of my attitudinal changes et Al which I always try to explain.
However, two months ago I was done with work and because I plan on settling down later this year, I became serious with her once again and things got back to normalcy.. just last week, she came over to spend her holidays in my place.
First I started noticing the strange calls she answers and anytime I ask she always have an excuse or two to give and I will let the matter slide even though I used to be convinced that she is not telling me the truth.
However, yesterday... I was using her phone to see some movies and coincidentally, her data was on so a Facebook message came in... The notification was "I enjoyed it too" so I was tempted to know what the discussion was all about... So I opened her Facebook... Lo and behold, my supposed girlfriend/wife-to-be was telling the guy how she loves and enjoys his big gbola and can't wait to give him another BJ ( exactly same thing she tells me)... And the guy was like " you are not always romantic, you always leave me to do the whole work"... Mehn I couldn't hold it again, I woke her up and demanded explanation to all that... But to my greatest surprise, she hurriedly deleted the chat, not knowing that I have screenshot and forwarded it to my WhatsApp... Then she started denying... And when she saw that I had her in a bad spot, she started blaming me that I caused it, during those periods that I wasn't always there for her, that this guy has always been there etc Al. Apologies, No ...

I was forced to tell her it's over between us and she agreed ( but has been crying since last night). It's almost 10am today, I've been expecting her to start parking her stuff to leave, but this bitch is even more relaxed than never before, as I'm typing this, she is glued to the TV. I'm tempted to tell her to leave my house, but I don't want to be seen as a bad person as she came from afar. Please how do I handle this?

if you forgive am na we’re we go get problem

Dexy4yah:
Since you are ready to settle down....just get rid of her ASAP....bitches like that can never change....and they will always have an excuse to justify there nonsense act.

If all men can go thru there girlfriends' Facebook and WhatsApp dm....Omo some guys go faint.

Trust naija girl at your own peril.

exactly

Absuchat:
So we've been in a relationship for a year now but along the line, I needed some time out to get some stuff off my head..... Work became so stressful that I reduced the way I call and chat with her.
Meanwhile, she usually call and will most times complain of my attitudinal changes et Al which I always try to explain.
However, two months ago I was done with work and because I plan on settling down later this year, I became serious with her once again and things got back to normalcy.. just last week, she came over to spend her holidays in my place.
First I started noticing the strange calls she answers and anytime I ask she always have an excuse or two to give and I will let the matter slide even though I used to be convinced that she is not telling me the truth.
However, yesterday... I was using her phone to see some movies and coincidentally, her data was on so a Facebook message came in... The notification was "I enjoyed it too" so I was tempted to know what the discussion was all about... So I opened her Facebook... Lo and behold, my supposed girlfriend/wife-to-be was telling the guy how she loves and enjoys his big gbola and can't wait to give him another BJ ( exactly same thing she tells me)... And the guy was like " you are not always romantic, you always leave me to do the whole work"... Mehn I couldn't hold it again, I woke her up and demanded explanation to all that... But to my greatest surprise, she hurriedly deleted the chat, not knowing that I have screenshot and forwarded it to my WhatsApp... Then she started denying... And when she saw that I had her in a bad spot, she started blaming me that I caused it, during those periods that I wasn't always there for her, that this guy has always been there etc Al. Apologies, No ...

I was forced to tell her it's over between us and she agreed ( but has been crying since last night). It's almost 10am today, I've been expecting her to start parking her stuff to leave, but this bitch is even more relaxed than never before, as I'm typing this, she is glued to the TV. I'm tempted to tell her to leave my house, but I don't want to be seen as a bad person as she came from afar. Please how do I handle this?

oga give am tp make she Dey go. They always find who to blame

Samantha124:
But I was only stating facts... Why support an illegal act that could come with long term consequences?

swear that you have never don anything illegal in your life before. Remember say if you do expo for waec, it’s illegal oooo

Puss360:

Lol... Oya advice him and rest...

would do

Samantha124:
You're free to advice him..

just did. Next time just read the post and move on if you can’t advise. Na so una go Dey do like una holy pass

Agozskey:
Hi guys, I know u guys will banter me... I accept any form of insult tnx...
My girlfriend and I have been together for a year now and the relationship has been great, so we usually have unprotected sex buh I make sure I don't release inside her buh as God may have it, we found out she was pregnant and I wanted to keep the bby buh she didn't want to keep the pregnancy, so we decided to abort it, which we did with the help of one of our friends (girl). The first week wasn't okay, because she was experiencing pains everyday, due to the abortion, the second week seemed perfect no issues, she wasn't feeling anything at all.
This week now all of a sudden she's exhibiting symptoms again... And she has not seen her period, meanwhile we've not had sex since... I don't understand again, I'm not really ready financially yet, buh I'm a bit okay buh the problem is her family, She's just 19 and I'm 22, pls any advice... Thank you

bro, you don Bleep up be say you don Bleep up. That child might not na complete, you might have to opt for dc. The problem now is, as e Dey illegal for nigeria, na quack go fit run am for you. And different complications fit arise as a result. Just do your research and try to locate a good place to do it, no be all this back yard nurses so she doesn’t have issues

Puss360:
Lol... At 22 years, u already know much to choose between wearing condom and "Not pouring Inside"....
If at this age, self wellbeing and how to become a man isn't your priority, you prefer everyday sex, then well it's obvious you like the sex, the girl, and also anything that comes with it....
Whether she is pregnant or not, just get a house, marry the girl, then you both become couples... So u can have the complete freedom of sex, and have the kids if u desire...

But well, I hear say when the rod big and sweet, the gal dey forget CD... But when e small dem go remember CD 🙈🙈🙈..

every time blame. Person come seek advise. If you dnt have, why not just read and pass. The deed has been done. This person no be pikin for Christ sake. Hypocrites everywhere

Samantha124:
Yes, I am.

But you need to understand that a person with HIV can still get married to a HIV negative spouse and have HIV negative kids.

But we can't say the same with a girl who did illegal abortions and has a damaged womb.

Will you marry a woman with a damaged womb from doing illegal abortions?

person come here for advise, una don Dey bring blame forget advice. If you can’t advise, just ready and ignore

sotherefore:
This is the girl i have been dating for almost a year plus but we are not living in the same location cuz her place is just one hour drive from my place. .

I didn't usually have problem with her until she started lying, disrespecting and Even demanding that I send her transport to come over to my place.

When she started showing all these abnormal behaviour, as a redpiller i just know within me that the relationship is over. But I couldn't just break up with her since I didn't have any evidence to present , but my mind was totally out of the relationship. I don't call her and most of the time she's the one that does the calls and when her airtime finish na there I go called and we talked not more than 5minutes.

Recently I invited her over again and she still request that I sent her transport before she turns up . I told her if she can't used her transport to come then she shouldn't bothers calling me cuz I no go send her anything.

Well she later agreed to pay her way to my place. Now this is where the real problems Start.
Omo this girl don lock everything on her phone including radio. I mean a very tight security that you can't even check the last person she calls without putting a security code.

When I saw this I know she was upto something. This is the girl i always used her phone freely without issues.

At this point I collected her phone and asked her to tell me her password. Just immediately a text message entered but I couldn't see what the text was all about because of her tight security settings.

I asked her to tell me her password. She said she can't tell me. Ok I then asked her to unlock it by herself she said no that I can't see when she unlock the phone.
She later said I should give her the phone to clear every password and hand over to me and that I shouldn't sit with her during this time until she's done.

I said no, that I must see what she is doing. She didn't still accept me sitting down with her to unlock the phone.

Since she didn't want to unlock the phone I dropped the phone on the bed, I told her If she's not ready to unlock the phone the way I wanted that she can take her phone and leave my place and not to call me ever

We stayed silently for almost an hour, during this time I quickly login to her messenger on my phone cuz I know the password (she told me a long time ago) only to discover that all the chat she had with guys were all deleted. I took the phone, call her number with my phone only to discover that she has changed my name as "myworld" she used to saved as and was saving it with my real name.

At last She later pick her phone and went home that day without unlocking the phone the way i wanted.

I have to block her everywhere. I value my peace of mind more than anything else. I can never beg a girl to be faithful. That's her choice to make. If she can't stay faithful then she belongs to the street.

the moment they start doing this one, person do. Dey knack dem. E go pain me if u take dis girl back cus she will beg u, but she will plan better

Battlefield2:
We met at an event and we exchanged contacts, we have been talking for a while, she brought up the idea of seeing each other, I agreed and gave her 3k yesterday for tfare(my place to her side is 3k)
We still chatted this morning and she said she will come around this afternoon
Called her number and discovered I have been blocked
Checked my WhatsApp and discovered I have been blocked there too
If she had told me it's 3k she need,I would have given her wholeheartedly
The fact that I have invested my time and feelings is what pained me most.....not the money
I wholeheartedly love and admire the girl and I sincerely want to date her seriously
She just fumbled herself because of 3k
SMH!

talk true na the 3k pain u. You just meet am and u want make she come your house. U no talk eatery. Una funny

Andyblaze:
I know I am supposed to mind my business but then I think this girl is too good to be suffering this. Should I tell her what her boyfriend is doing every day or should I just ignore

anonymously text her. One by one we must curb this cheating

Worriedguy6699:
Please what does this mean?

My girl has a low sex drive. But we still do the do from time to time. She told me that when she goes to school, and I can’t hold the Konji, that I should have sex but only on the condition that I’ll use a condom.

them Dey bang am there

Pinkdimples:
OMG! I just can't imagine the stress and pain the said lady will definitely go through. She thinks it's easy because probably she has not been pregnant before. The joy of having a baby,the first trimester sickness,vomit etc for most women,then boom just when you wu start to enjoy the pregnancy and glow, loving the seed growing inside you,you will be ask to abort and start all over again! I'm still in shock a woman will want to go through all that,it's shocking and at the same time makes me shudder.

but you talk like it’s not this same abortion women do all the time. For even rubbish reasons. Some women will even do it cus of their career