Why dont you women want to go to the gym.
Imagine wearing such big underpants with the name girdle like you are in some prison.

EAT SENSIBLY AND WORK OUT

As for the nigerian OGA's with their big bellies - huge turn off.

It took me 8 months to have my pre-pregnancy stomach back after my second pregnancy. For my first pregnancy the weight went almost immediately.
I do have to say though that through both pregnancies I ate carefully - snacked on vegetables, ate adequate but did not overeat (this business of saying you are eating for two so you have to stuff your face or eat chocolate at 3am in the morning is utter nonsense). Plus after the babies I started exercising immediately (and not after 5 years as is the case with many overweight mothers I see)

I never tied my stomach or the other nonsense I hear. I just ate sensibly and worked out 3 times a week.
That included running (20 mins on the treadmill) weights alternate between upper body and lower body and sit ups, lunges, scissors etc,
I am a svelte size TWO. And NO this is not a body I was born with as I hear many women try to explain away my good shape but i WORK at it. I am very careful with my portion size, I eat what I want but in small portions.

PS. I live in America were there is so much processed food - I try and stay away from processed foods, eat fresh home cooked meals and drink lot's of water. I still look as good as I did before I got married (my kids are 9 and 6)

A girlfriend of mine lost all her pregnancy weight 6 months after each consecutive baby she has 3 (5,3 and 6 months) however, she was ghetto with her exercise regimen. Pregnancy is a natural process and you should get back to prebaby weight within the year if you are eating sensibly and working out.

Third this business of sleeping in bed for 3 months after a baby is utter nonsense.

He travels a lot - so yes I do not know what he is doing out there - although I have not seen any emails / calls / etc that suggest he is having an affair.
At one point we were having many disagreements - and that is when the sex stopped.

I have tried so many times to broach the subject but he does not want to discuss it at all.
At this point I have no romantic feelings towards him nor am I in love with him
I care about him as the father to my children (he is a very good father) and that is about it

Again he does not want to discuss the matter

I have been married for 8 years - my husband has not had sex with me for 2 and a half years now.
When I talk to him about it he has said he has a problem, however, he has not told me which problem.
He has also cautioned me against cheating on him.

Now here is my dilema I am 20 years younger than him, we have two beautiful boys who he cares about.
I am currently focused on my business which I am trying to build up (we live in the US) and in graduate school.
However, i feel a part of me is missing with no sex in the marriage, I have stopped bringing up the issue because it would cause arguments.

He has moved out of the marital bedroom about 2 years ago when the sex stopped he said this was because he snored a lot and did not want to disturb me (and yes he does snore a lot).

What should I do after 2 and a half years of no sex and someone not wanting to discuss it.
Please I have tried all the fasting praying wishing begging crying pleading so don't tell me to do that here.
Just give me advice on the way forward.

I have gotten to a point where i am not romantically interested in him any more. It is more like I am living in the same house as a friend.
I feel like I want to finish school and just leave him - am I being selfish. Should I stay on in this marriage or what should I do.

Thank you for your kind responses which I hope will be thought through - what would you do in a similar position?