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Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 9:43am On May 17, 2016 |
byvan03: Yes. I have decided to deny his proposal. But NOT that I never loved him enough. He wasn't in support of me continuing my project. All what I offered as alternative for us he rejected them so it's his loss not mine. |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 9:41am On May 17, 2016 |
He wasn't on board with whatever it is I offered as a walk around. As such, I have decided to deny his proposal today and follow my career in full. |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 10:28am On May 14, 2016 |
Oluwapresley: Sir, you are taking his side here not considering the position at which I stand. My boss won't relocate to Abuja. He would return to Lagos after a few days. It is I, and my IT team that would permanently relocate as the company would be transferring us. So I don't know how I'm selfish here. |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 8:46am On May 14, 2016 |
Oluwapresley: I'm not selfish sir. The issue is my bf work. He works in Lagos. Even if I accept his proposal, when I migrate to Abuja, what about him? When I wanted to relocate back to the east last year. I asked him to come with me he said no. That I should stay with him instead. So it's not about planning or being selfish |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 8:16am On May 14, 2016 |
nonjebose: Thanks |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 2:02am On May 14, 2016 |
obongitiad: I think I would consider the optimistic/hopeful part. I would suggest those to him |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 1:58am On May 14, 2016 |
Justdulla: Sir, i started the project 3 years ago and I have been running it together with my team including my boss up until last year when we ran out of money. So finishing it this year won't be a problem for me. But how do you mean by "one chance"? |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 1:44am On May 14, 2016 |
obongitiad: It would become my permanent Base since I would be transferred to the Abuja branch. My job would then be there. Sir, I actually had a long session of thinking before coming to nairaland but I couldn't come up with anything. My boyfriend works in a Lagos company. If I proceed with the project then I'd be transferred to Abuja permanently as my new branch of our company where I work. |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 1:36am On May 14, 2016 |
obongitiad: It's not like that. The 6 months would change years of my future for better. But I think I'll explain to my bf if he could reason with me |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 1:30am On May 14, 2016 |
obongitiad: Modify your post. I said last summer when the new government(Buhari) came in. |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 1:29am On May 14, 2016 |
DharmyYinks: It's not some weeks. The project is located in Abuja. And that is where I will be for the next 6 months for its final deployment and execution. The south Africa trip itself is just 4 days. And I'll be back. But once I'm back and all goes well, I'd be moving to Abuja with my boss the next week. I'm in a tight spot. |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 1:16am On May 14, 2016 |
jayfrank085: I understand. But I didn't know what to say that's why I told him I'd think about it. And for the past 8 months I was free so if start becoming distant now due to work he may think otherwise. Thanks all the same. |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 12:50am On May 14, 2016 |
BoiledHead: Thanks again sir |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 12:48am On May 14, 2016 |
BoiledHead: Thank you. I really didn't want to break his heart by saying No instantly yesterday or saying no on Tuesday. Perhaps I'd find a way to explain. Thanks sir |
Romance / Re: My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 12:46am On May 14, 2016 |
KashyBaby: I fear my talking to him would send him away 1 Like |
Romance / My Boss Or My Boyfriend -- Who Do I Choose ? by Skrim: 12:37am On May 14, 2016 |
Modified: I have made my decision. After engaging him in a lengthy conversation, I have decided to discontinue any future Plans and deny his proposal. Thanks for your support. Thread Closed. ------------------------- My apologies for the disposable account. This is quite sensitive for my actual nairaland account to be used. I'm sorry. It's quite lengthy but please try to read so you'd understand my position here. There is this guy I have been dating for 5 years. We are so much in love with each other. And due to our young age (I mean very young), we didn't consider marriage at all. He proposed to me yesterday. It was the biggest moment of my life when he did as it's what I've always fantasised about but there is a problem. My boss called me to his office yesterday morning at the start of business to surprise me with the good news. 3 years ago, my boss and I started a project. This project is also one that would change my life forever shall it become a success. I and my boss have both sacrificed so many things in our lives just to keep the project going. Last Summer, the project ushered itself into the final stage before deployment and execution. But our company was short on funds. The government agency that was sponsoring us stopped ever since the new government started the TSA (Treasury Single Account). So we lost government support and even support from banks. And our personal funds cannot foot it. So we let it slide and suspended the 3 years long project. It has been about 8 months since the project file was even touched by anyone. So I technically forgot about it completely. So my boyfriend and I have been spending some quality time together and I spoke to him once about marriage last Christmas. So I don't know if that is what drove him to propose yesterday. Yesterday, my boss surprised me with the good news. The good news is, we found a new sponsor based in south Africa. Who agreed to foot 75% of the project while we cover the 25% left. It was great news and I was so happy. But my boss told me that we both have to visit the sponsor and provide them with more info on the project and also a presentation to convince them more. Nairaland, if I go with my boss to south Africa for the sake of this project(My career) I would loose my boyfriend and won't get married to him because the final stage of the project requires 24/7 attention and I won't even be in Lagos where my bf is. I'd be in Abuja. But, if I go on to say yes to my boyfriend, my career and dream is finished. What I spent 3 years building would end. My boss needs me to present the project to the sponsor. He can't do it alone and no other staff member is as qualified as me in this case because I started the project. If you are in my shoes, who would you choose? Please advise. P.s I told my boyfriend I'd think of his proposal and promised him a decision (Yes or No) by Tuesday(His birthday). So I have about 3 days to make a choice. Help me. |
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