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hrhmuyi11:
It’s not a secret that communication is a very important aspect of any relationship, but we have noticed that what people do not know is how to be a good communicator and the benefits of building good communication habits into your relationship
Although there is no easy solution because every relationship is unique in its own way and poses different challenges. That’s why we would be sharing a few communication tips that can help both with difficult conversations and good communication on a day to day basis.
1. Don’t sweep things under the carpet
It can be really tempting to avoid certain discussions to “keep peace” but the risk is that you keep on holding things inwards, you keep on having resentments towards your partner, and it keeps piling up till you can’t take it no more. It’s better to get little things out in the open early and as regularly as possible instead of keeping things to yourself and having one big fight which could be damaging emotionally or could shake the foundation of the relationship. Although it’s better to let little thing go, but if there is any issue you just can’t take your mind off, it’s very important you let your partner know.

2. Don’t put your partners on the defensive
It’s easy to react to a disagreement with your partner by telling them everything you think they are doing wrong and making lots of accusations. But the problem with this is that it’s likely to make your partner more defensive, instead of listening to your genuine concerns, they would get interested in defending themselves, spend more time in proving you wrong
We recommend that you talk to your partner calmly and tell them how you feel. For example a woman wants to address her husband’s late night activities, instead of saying “why are you so inconsiderate and self-centered, don’t you know you coming home late makes me worried?” she could say, “babe, whenever you stay out late, I get worried, sometimes I can’t sleep, I can’t even eat anything because I am worried, I would really appreciate it if you reduce the number of hours you spend outside with your friends, it would make me happy, thanks”
It shifts the tone of a disagreement and makes it less likely to spin out of control.

3. Pick a place and time
Most times it’s not just about what you say and how you say it but also when and where. Partners are advised to plan to have discussions at specific times and places. Be sensitive about your environment, don’t just bring up discussions just anywhere, be emotionally intelligent enough to not embarrass your partner publicly, even if that was not your intention, at this stage intentions don’t matter, it’s your actions that speaks.

4. Make time to talk and listen
Many people assume that communication is just about being heard, but that only half of it. The other half is getting feedback from your partner, that is, hearing each other.
Lots of the time when we are having a discussion, we are just waiting for our turn to talk back, we are hearing what they are saying but we are simply concentrating on our response. In your

mind you would be like ‘that’s not true, I didn’t do that’ we begin to get defensive, which is understandable because no one loves to hear something they didn’t do or they disagree with. But in order to truly understand your partners’ perspective, you really have to pay attention and have the endurance to take in whatever they are saying while it’s their turn to talk. It isn’t necessarily about agreeing with each other, it’s more about understanding one another and acknowledging your differences so you can move towards finding a solution.

5. Practice
The final tip on this topic is to remember that communication is a skill and you can only get better at it by practicing. If you want to develop your ability to communicate as a couple, it’s important that you build positive habits in the way you talk and make genuine efforts to always stick to them.
Some days you would be better, some days you won’t be able to cope at all. But if you persevere you will find out overtime that your ability to state your disagreements calmly and your ability to listen while your partner speaks would have improved greatly.

If you are interested in chatting and meeting people from all over Nigeria and some parts of Africa, you could try out this app, it’s called SHUGA. It’s a free dating app. I have tried it and I love it, you should too

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.dating.shuga&referrer=utm_source%3DNairaland

hrhmuyi11:


lol i support Arsenal but Messi is my GOAT

awwwww pele, some days are like that, my brother almost cried last night, i was just laughing LMAO

hrhmuyi11:


sadly, i did smh

are you a barca fan?

hrhmuyi11:
See, I am really tired and depressed. To get woman in this country na war o, they say na money Nigerian girls like, but even if you have the money, do you have the time? For instance someone like me who resumes work by 8am and closes by 6pm, even if I have the cash to throw around here and there, by the time I close from work after spending about 2 hours inside Lagos traffic, lol do you think I would have time to call any woman on the street and say I want to ‘toast’? All that is on my mind is to get home, shower, take a bottle of beer, eat then sleep. I have met some girls on popular dating apps in Nigeria but I noticed they are not free, you would eventually need to pay #1500 here and #3000 there! lol just to meet woman online o, the Nigerian in me won’t let me pay even if I can afford it.

[/color]Then I stumbled upon a dating app on Google play store, what I normally do before I download any app on play store id to check the reviews first, wow I noticed it has gotten good reviews generally, as a matter of fact one female user said “I met the love of my life on this app. Shuga is really sweet” as soon as I saw it in had only one thing in mind, if this lady can meet good people here and find love, I can too. The name of the dating app is SHUGA, they call it the Top free dating app in AFRICA but right now they are majorly starting off in Nigeria. With one mind I said let me try it, it wasn’t even more than 6mb, I downloaded it, it has a friendly interface, beautiful design, best of all, I could sign up with my facebook account, so the sign up process was very smooth, I just had to upload some good looking pictures, within 3 minutes I was done and ready to meet beautiful ladies.

All I had to do was swipe left and right, swipe left for women I don’t think I want right now and swipe right for women I want lol, within minutes I got notifications that I have been matched with 6 ladies because I found out that you can’t chat with someone unless you both like each other, which is totally cool by me. I just love the app, there are beautiful girls and cool guys on the app.

This is the download link for those interested

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.dating.shuga

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ShugaOfficial-861838097493290/

Instagram: @Shuga_officially

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who watched Barcas match yesterday??

hrhmuyi11:


nice! i am glad you like it. thanks

you are welcome.

hrhmuyi11:
See, I am really tired and depressed. To get woman in this country na war o, they say na money Nigerian girls like, but even if you have the money, do you have the time? For instance someone like me who resumes work by 8am and closes by 6pm, even if I have the cash to throw around here and there, by the time I close from work after spending about 2 hours inside Lagos traffic, lol do you think I would have time to call any woman on the street and say I want to ‘toast’? All that is on my mind is to get home, shower, take a bottle of beer, eat then sleep. I have met some girls on popular dating apps in Nigeria but I noticed they are not free, you would eventually need to pay #1500 here and #3000 there! lol just to meet woman online o, the Nigerian in me won’t let me pay even if I can afford it.

[/color]Then I stumbled upon a dating app on Google play store, what I normally do before I download any app on play store id to check the reviews first, wow I noticed it has gotten good reviews generally, as a matter of fact one female user said “I met the love of my life on this app. Shuga is really sweet” as soon as I saw it in had only one thing in mind, if this lady can meet good people here and find love, I can too. The name of the dating app is SHUGA, they call it the Top free dating app in AFRICA but right now they are majorly starting off in Nigeria. With one mind I said let me try it, it wasn’t even more than 6mb, I downloaded it, it has a friendly interface, beautiful design, best of all, I could sign up with my facebook account, so the sign up process was very smooth, I just had to upload some good looking pictures, within 3 minutes I was done and ready to meet beautiful ladies.

All I had to do was swipe left and right, swipe left for women I don’t think I want right now and swipe right for women I want lol, within minutes I got notifications that I have been matched with 6 ladies because I found out that you can’t chat with someone unless you both like each other, which is totally cool by me. I just love the app, there are beautiful girls and cool guys on the app.

This is the download link for those interested

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.dating.shuga

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ShugaOfficial-861838097493290/

Instagram: @Shuga_officially

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Great app, i have been on it since last night! thanks!

hrhmuyi11:
See, I am really tired and depressed. To get woman in this country na war o, they say na money Nigerian girls like, but even if you have the money, do you have the time? For instance someone like me who resumes work by 8am and closes by 6pm, even if I have the cash to throw around here and there, by the time I close from work after spending about 2 hours inside Lagos traffic, lol do you think I would have time to call any woman on the street and say I want to ‘toast’? All that is on my mind is to get home, shower, take a bottle of beer, eat then sleep. I have met some girls on popular dating apps in Nigeria but I noticed they are not free, you would eventually need to pay #1500 here and #3000 there! lol just to meet woman online o, the Nigerian in me won’t let me pay even if I can afford it.

[/color]Then I stumbled upon a dating app on Google play store, what I normally do before I download any app on play store id to check the reviews first, wow I noticed it has gotten good reviews generally, as a matter of fact one female user said “I met the love of my life on this app. Shuga is really sweet” as soon as I saw it in had only one thing in mind, if this lady can meet good people here and find love, I can too. The name of the dating app is SHUGA, they call it the Top free dating app in AFRICA but right now they are majorly starting off in Nigeria. With one mind I said let me try it, it wasn’t even more than 6mb, I downloaded it, it has a friendly interface, beautiful design, best of all, I could sign up with my facebook account, so the sign up process was very smooth, I just had to upload some good looking pictures, within 3 minutes I was done and ready to meet beautiful ladies.

All I had to do was swipe left and right, swipe left for women I don’t think I want right now and swipe right for women I want lol, within minutes I got notifications that I have been matched with 6 ladies because I found out that you can’t chat with someone unless you both like each other, which is totally cool by me. I just love the app, there are beautiful girls and cool guys on the app.

This is the download link for those interested

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.dating.shuga

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ShugaOfficial-861838097493290/

Instagram: @Shuga_officially

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Really cool, I don't want anything serious, just hangouts, if I download the app will I meet guys who I can just hang out with?