Thanks again! Firstly, I will be worried about the ex-convict tag and will like to know the actual crime and all details. But if it is Nigerian concept, I will not mind as long as my sister is happy. We know that you can become a convict for anything in this country, if we all are not already. Secondly, am very sure about the kid, because I was made aware by one of her respected Uncle. She didn't know that I am aware. Thirdly, the marriages were not legally constructed according to traditions and laws of the land. You know those cohabit matter. Fourth, I was the second reason, she left the second time. I advise her to because the man was abusive and injuring her at any slight quarrel. am not judging, he smokes all kind of cigars, drinks and womanize. I got to know her from the hospital after she came for treatments. So that is the story! I told my parents everything because I learnt from experience that marriage does not only involve the 2 individuals but the whole families. I need their guidance and support. I tell them everything about me and always got them with me (either positive or negative). I will go to them for their insight, wisdom and support always. I have learnt to say the issue as it is to them because at the time, I may not like or accept their decisions but it saves life most times. I will not withhold information from them that is important for easy victory when later it may or not come hunting and hurting with all its consequences.
I will have to breakup and continue with my life. I believe this marriage thing is not for everyone apart from catholic priests and nuns (that made their decisions). Such a life! Thanks again.

EfemenaXY:
Not too long ago, we had a thread here in this section about a lady who forestalled telling her man about her past (marriage) until eleven months into the relationship.

What happened next? The man quickly dropped her like a hot piece of coal citing she was "deceptive not to have bared it all sooner". The reaction from most males on that thread was that her secrecy was her undoing.

Now we've got a similar scenario, difference being the lady here open up from the beginning. And how does @op handle the truth? He runs off to mummy and daddy shooting off his mouth, knowing fully well they'll be against the union.

Now he comes on here creating a thread seeking "advice".

Sigh. Boys trying to act like men.

@op: word of advice - you aren't ready for marriage. Wait till you mature a bit more.

thanks for your advice but u forget that marriage is an issue of a much higher act that needs caution because it is for eternity. I will not try to explain why giving my parents the full gist because one day, it will be known. better now than that time, because it will be a family problem. I didn't expect my parents to react in the way, they did! I know they are right but still confused to accept. their reasons are cultural, traditional and morally based!
more importantly, we are just recovering from another shocking experience (story for another day) involving marriage, and also last male child among 3 women. I don't blame them!
i know what to do but just looking for different opinion on this issue.

5minsmadness:

She is not a piece of rag.
She is the most beautiful thing he ever set his eyes upon. He remembers the lovely fragrance of her hair days after she has left his company and that alone makes him smile. He stays up at night and watches her sleep, not believing how lucky he is to have found such a gem. She can do no wrong in his eyes, no wrong at all. Her kiss has more meaning than all the other kisses he has ever experienced, heck, he is blind to any other woman around him. She is all that he sees. She is everything to him.
She is his queen, and he has known her even before they met.

But life is not perfect. People, tribe, the past keep bearing down day after day, night after night. Family and friends fight him and those he holds close to heart offer him no help, no help at all. And the worst if it all is, she begins to crack. She isn't strong enough. Her flaws begin to show. He tries to be strong for the both of them but her mother wont let her see road. His parents are already against him. His blood are already against him.
Love has a surprising way of quickly turning sour. Love alone, sadly, is not enough. And when she begins to act insecure and he realizes those men didnt leave her, she left them because she is fickle...then the sacrifices are all for nothing. Nothing at all.

are u prophesying?

I have being a guest of this great forum for a long time. I have seen problems being solved here just by first sharing it here in addition with the advices. Not to talk more, straight to the issue that necessitated the creation of this page.

A brother needs advice and help. A little background for easy understanding. A hardworking and enterprising youngman from Edo state (Benin) decides to settle down. While the lady is from the East (Imo). Her story is that she had a kid for a man, the kid passed away @ infancy and cohabited with another man much later. She claimed that she was forced into the marriage by her mom (for her selfish reasons). Which she left because she didn't love the man.
Now it gets interesting, these 2 individuals met and fell in love. The young man does not mind her past because he finds out that she possess all the right attributes of a wife. He takes the lady to meet his parents as the norm. Here, the problem starts, after hearing their son and his request. They refuse to support the union and categorically stated that "it will be over their dead bodies and will disown him if he try to disobey them".
The young man is confused and doesn't know what to do.
Should he obey his parents and leave the lady? Or risk everything and marry the lady?

Any suggestion or help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance.