Good day all, i've been following this thread for quite a while now.
Im a petroleum engineering graduate,and about to build a career in the oil and gas industry. @dr. Ferile and other drillers here, do you have ladies working as drilling engineers? What is the working condition like?

@ Topic,yes there is a perfect wedding but no perfect marriage.

@ OP, i understand your situation perfectly. I've been there too but mine was even more painful because i lost my mum. Just like you,i only felt happy when im with my books or listening to music. One thing i always desired then, was leaving home even with all its luxury. All my life,i learnt to bottle up things inside of me,i was going throug hell. When i left home,things were not any different because i had already built a wall around me,i became so emotionless.Till date, i still have problems relating with my siblings and my dad even though i love them. What you need is healing,both emotional and spiritual. Try and get closer to God,there's something called JOY and that you can only find in him. And please,dont allow anyone stop you from leaving that house to get a job outside and live your life cos after all is said and done, its your life not anyone else's. Wish you all the best

Love does exist,yes it does. God is Love. Oftentimes,people misuse the word love. Im still trying to figure out where people got the idea that people should be in a relationship,or get married because of love,when they dont even understand its concept. When it comes to marriages, Love should not even be the basis because you are not supposed to love just one person in your entire life. Love is a natural thing that should flow from our hearts to everybody around us,whether spouse,neighbours,friends,enemies,rivals,e.t.c. The bitter truth is that most people dont even love themselves,and of course,you cant show what you dont have. Untill you realise this fact,you will continue live in a delusion that Love doesnt exist.

Inspiration Fm all the way,

abinibi:

Sorry it took me some time to come up with my piece,I am most interested in advising you because of your background in Economics.I studied Mech Engr but I was appalled with outcomes especially concerning job prospects just before I continue there was an experience I had when I was at a point stagnated,I switched into a deep meditation mode alone in my privacy for days and I reached some level of peace within myself on what I need to do to move forward.This experience changed who I am and I have never had such opportunity again but the outcome was far reaching.

It was an opportunity to know who I am,what do people call me especially when I was young and what is my talent based on what initiative I have exhibited amongst my mates when I was at the best in my teen,this is a soul searching exercise which gave me an opportunity to know what I want and what my calling in life and purpose is in life,there is the saying that if you do not understand the purpose of a thing there is every possibility of an an abuse,that is as far as I would share this rare experience of mine with you.This is the purpose behind what I do on Nairaland.

The formula @syenite was what I had and was taught before I came to what I have above,not only did that formula failed me but at a point I was almost feeling like some NRC were on my back because I had everything there in that formula yet nothing was forthcoming.

Though I didnt really have that particular interest in Oil & Gas but I had this strong conviction after my experience that I was born to lead, it is not a far fetched knowledge everyone is born to lead, i.e innate in us is that power to be a leader,its up to you to awaken that giant in you or not.Also that my degree is really not a license to hunt for jobs,also relating this with what I was amongst my colleagues when in secondary school I realised I already had what I needed to succeed even before proceeding to the university.There and then I made up my mind to venture into the business discipline and anything related to the business discipline for that matter.

Back to Oil & Gas, I had strong interest in physics,maths hence engineering,so I had someone who is working in the industry so he helped with a contract based job,to further stress my love for anything in engineering career at the expense of a permanent job as an executive trainee with First Bank but there and then I hit my opportunity in reaching my desired career vision,I was introduced to supply chain management but disguised in the form of a clerical position,I therefore pursued strong career development in SCM pouring all my resource into this and many times sacrificing my ego and comfort,in two years I became the supervisor of my team.The rest is history,you can follow me on the SCM thread.

About two years back I also helped a schoolmate,this I did when I was resourcing for a contract involving quayside support,this is sort of a labour work for a graduate but no interviews,my guy was actually laughed at when he reported to work in suit but I encouraged him that it was just an entry for him into the industry hence I pushed him into HSE training,he actually had agriculture background hence he is a good fit for that career path,within a year with his HSE training and  O & G experience he got an HSE supervisor job with an industry contractor through his network,the rest is history.

The Lesson for you is that there is an alternate formula for entry into any industry through your network,former colleague,relatives,classmates, other form of networking is joining professional organizations of interest or those with interest in oil & gas and attending events,either training or others,there are also industry events in Lagos,Abuja etc,

Secondly,focus is key even when you are a step ahead and please dont forget to drop your ego O & G actually pays well notwithstanding if its labour or manpower, I started with 150k but for five years I ddnt own anything called a car while my colleagues & subordinates drive,the obvious being that my resources were all going into my career development(, focus) or I kind of practiced delayed gratification,I earned PMP 2008,MCIPS 2010, my expenses on training & certification was going up to 1 million as at 2010.


My motivation really was not related to yours,that is why I had to share mine with you, whatever it is that motivates you is what will get you further in your adventure,I hope I have not bored you with my story,from here it is all up to you.

If you have interest in SCM,you have a great background for a  career in SCM and its often one of the ignored career path which now earns great in the Oil & Gas industry.

Inspiring, More Grace

@Dis guy and Ajanlekoko,tnx very much for ur advice. Will try that and see how it works.
@Oyb,everything you said is true,im working seriously and praying hard to get a good job,then i can take my leave in peace. Thanks a lot for ur time and advice

Hello house, i really need your help on this. I completed my NYSC february this year,and after many failed attempts of securing a good job,i decided to take up a job as a supervisor in a filling station,so i can take care of my basic needs and also avoid being idle at home. I am the youngest of them all,the only graduate amongst them,and the only non-yoruba(im not being tribalistic) The problem im having in this work place is that i find it very difficult to handle the attendants,they prefer to do things at will,they all come late,and they never take instructions,murmur at d slightest instruction. My boss puts the blame on me,and even when i try to explain things to him,he'll say that im not doing my job well. All these is making the job frustrating to me. I really need your advice on what to do and how to handle the attendants. Thanks for taking your time to read. Im sorry if i bored you with my long story.

Where is ur ofis address in ikeja,will be there 2mao

I have a compaq laptop,1gb RAM, 160HDD,webcam,w/lan,bluetooth, its less than a year old,still have the receipt with me.Im offering it for sale because i want to upgrade it to a new one. Cn we deal?

Hello house,i just got a *verizone* blackberry tour but i cnt connect to the internet. I have tried glo,zain,mtn,etisalat on it bt it wont work bt i cn make and receive calls. Anytime i launch the browser,i get a notification that says 'your device does not have any browser configuration,please contact your service provider' please,what can i do about this? I need assistance. Thanks