On this topic there seems to be a lot of childish responses, perhaps because most of them are very young and inexperience.  Whatever happen you have to try & love them equally, because they have come to be your life wire.  The only condition where you can make a choice is when the birth of your new baby threatens the life of your wife, then the child can go and leave your wife for you.  Another one will always come but you will never find another deary wife like the one you are about to loose.

@Blackgirl   You are at reality.com.  But if you are really faced with such situation, please don't quit if despite all odds he's responsible.  But if in the first place he's irresponsible & no iota of love from him, then open the door into new life.  U r OK!

@eveseh.      If you ever get to love for real like any other woman you'll forgive 1 million times. Like you will always forgive you husband when you are married.  But if you try the same thing once you are history. REALITY!

I'll just tell you about the irony of life.  Women in most cases forgive all the time but men don't even like to forgive even if they have been found guilty of the same offense committed against the same forgiving lady.

I'm not an exception. You cheat on me you are history once I'm aware of it.

I guess it's MEN'S WORLD & it's kind of selfish! But what can we do? It's  reality.com!

The story is good & the approach is not bad! Kudos!

You are alright man!

She's a foreigner. We married 1989. We have a son. I live in Naija. She lives in her country. She visited me once. Each time I say come home she says she'll come and visit and I hate to hear that. For the sake of our son in 1996 I tried making a living in her country to show how much I care for them. I came back home briefly on my return to them I was deported. Ever since she had never made attempt to move to Niaja or do anything about my re-entry. Advice me honestly what to do. I'm what u can call a married single for 17 years! Don't ask me how I'm surviving! I'm fine & not doing badly in life, I av what it takes to live.