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Good day mamas, pls can I start giving my baby of 5months 3weeks NAN2....thanks

What I learnt from the death of Alhaji Abubakar Audu yesterday... Just when his family were about to start jubilating, they were thrown into mourning. Just when the wife was thinking about being a first lady, she became a widow. Just when the children were about to become the children of the number one citizen of their state, they became orphan. Just when the world was about to rejoice with them, they were thrown into aw. Life is not a bed of roses, never feel too comfortable, be prayerful.........

I've come to realize that there are different types of people on Facebook: 1. THE UNHEALTHY: They always have stomach ache, headache, back ache etc. Facebook is not a clinic. 2. THE LIARS: Lie about their ages, marital status and use ridiculous names like, Baby Minaj, Bootlicious, Miss pee, swaggalicious, Juju Man, general piro, baby oku, most prettiest, her royal highness, fine man, plenty moni, Success Lotto blah blah!! 3. THE WITCHES: They always like updating about death, bad news and sickness. 4. THE TRAVELERS: Today in Ghana, tomorrow heading to Italy or South Africa,next All over The country! Are you a minister for tourism? 5. WEATHER FORECASTERS: They update mostly when it is raining, cold or hot e.g 'I'm freezing', I'm so cold, etc 6. PREACHERS: This are mostly single men/ ladies who are looking for a spouse. They act holy and write Bible verses only on Sundays and Fridays. 7. THE CONFUSED: They are married today, engaged tomorrow, next day in an open relationship, in a complicated relationship, single or divorced etc. 8. THE FIGHTERS: All they do is to seek trouble on people's posts, they comment awkwardly in order to start a fight 9. THE I.T.K (I Too Know): They will always complain that you're always online, they will say; are you jobless?Sometimes you can't stop wondering what they are doing online themselves. Seriously, man, get a life and stop facebooking. 10. THE DESPERATE. They are always posting pictures of them in different cars claiming car owners and always updating themselves in different hotels and eateries...damn ...are they car dealers or Hotel room attendants? 11. THE PEACE MAKERS: These people are very friendly and they appreciate peoples effort, they say thank you if they read your post and smile. Note: These people are usually very rare to find. 12.HATERS: They will never like or comment on your posts except when they have something negative to say about you or your posts. Or you,put up an update which says you are "sad, heartbroken or in Pain". I mean they won't even Like this post... 13,the tatafo's They monitor ur wall once u updated a post they concluded ure reffering to so so pple or dats exactly wats happening in ur life sekesajo WHICH TYPE ARE YOU?

most of the guys are guilty of this

This may not be the best time for me to
write on this because of misinterpretati
ons, but I can no longer resist the push.
"Husband Scarcity" has become one of the
challenges faced by many young girls
today. If you go to prayer houses,
majority of the intentions are prayer for a
life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our
mothers and grandmothers, was there
really much of a
"Husband Scarcity" problem?
Or, maybe there were more men than
women then, or there was an adequate
corresponding numbers of both genders.
I don't think so. Maybe then, the women
had values and were prepared to build a
home and not park into a built home.
Then, once a young man comes of age
and can at least feed himself and his
wife, he goes out in
search of a wife and the woman really
appreciates him and helps him to build a
future. What am I really trying to say?
We created what we now see as
"Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Today,
the reverse is the case. Ask an average
girl to define her dream husband; you get
things like "he has to be tall, handsome,
fair, and rich, own a house at least, and
be presentable" and then she adds "God
fearing" in order not to sound so worldly.
Then, check the number of girls around
you and the number of men that meet that
standard, and you will see the
problem.
You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my
father's house and then go and start
suffering with a man." What a wonderful
dream! What if from the beginning, you
have everything you want and there is no
suffering, and later in the marriage, the
table turns around, then comes
suffering? Will you run away? No one
prays for suffering, but it is good to start
small and end big, than start big and end
small. The problem is that the description
majority of
girls give of their ideal man is virtually the
same. When 50 girls want the same kind
of man and the man that fits what they
want is just 1 man, and the man can only
pick one.
Then, what becomes of 49 others? They
simply start lamenting of "Husband
Scarcity".
Another irony of our time is that it is hard,
due to the face of our economy to find a
man who is of marriage age who
possesses all those things these ladies
want, legally (except those involved in
Internet fraud); even the number of those
in Internet fraud is not enough to match
all those searching for already made
husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies
of substance, of good value and virtue,
who are ready to build a home with a
man who has prospects, are married and
not complaining of husband scarcity. The
easiest way to find a husband now, is to
change your view of who a husband is.
A husband is that man God made and
then saw that it may be hard for him to
really actualize his purpose for
making him, without a help mate and then
made the
woman and gave to him, and he felt
complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY
ALLEVIATION PROGRAMME, It is A
mission of building the family here on
earth. For those who see marriage as
a way out of poverty, it is a way into
bondage. Women are
HOME BUILDERS, not HOME
WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S
PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is
today, may only be A route to where
ALLAH has
destined him to be tomorrow. Another
truth IS that
YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS
TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in
ALLEVIATING "husband scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES. I am not
saying that you should pick anyone that's
comes your way and talks of
marriage, not all men are husband
materials. What I am saying is that you
should stop
setting your standard on material
acquisitions or physical appearances.
Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A Man WHO HE IS, Is
NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW He LOOKS,
IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that which he is made of is, most
times, not seen with the physical eyes,
only it's effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever
is seen is temporal and that which is not
seen is permanent.

What could have caused dis unfortunate act? I pray the Almighty reliefs the loss of those concerned.

Offa,kwara state

22 TIPS FOR MUSLIM WIVES
To Win Hearts of Their
Husbands...
Every Girl sees dream to
have a good husband with
whom she can live happily
with love. If Women wants
their husbands to treat
them with love and care
they should also have to
behave in good way for a
successful life after
marriage. Following we are
presenting some tips for
Muslim Wives To Win
Hearts of Their Husbands.
1 You should behave like a
female with your husband.
2 Dress good for your
husband.
3 Try to look attractive to
your husband.
4 Smell Good for him.
5 When your husband
comes back tired from
work in evening don't
share your problems with
him that time.
6 Stop complaining about
everything.
7 Treat your mother in law
like your real mother.
8 Meet him in good when
he comes home.
9 Try to keep your house
clean.
10 Appreciate him like
calling him good husband.
11 When he is angry keep
silence.
12 Thank him for different
things.
13 If your husband not
likes something stop doing
that.
14 Don't talk bad about
your husband with other
people.
15 Show your love.
16 Make Good foods.
17 Don't leave your house
without his permission.
18 Give him gifts
sometimes.
19 Take interest in his
hobbies.
20 Your Skin should look
attractive.
21 Learn to compromise on
little things.
22 Give him all the rights
that Islam gives to
husband.
By following these 22 tips
In sha Allah you can live
happily with your husband.

THE STATUS OF WOMAN IN ISLAM
"Why is it that so many women who have been born and brought in Europe and America are willing to reject their 'liberty' and 'independence' to embrace a religion that supposedly oppresses them and is widely assumed to be prejudicial to them?" This is a question that I found on one of the sites while surfing around, and I found it an interesting question and which I'd like to draw this article around.

Can Islam be prejudiced to women, and yet appeal to women? Can Islam lower the status of a woman and still have more women embracing it as their way of life than men? According to an article written by Lucy Berrington in the Times Magazine (London) dated 9th Nov. 1993: "It is even more ironic that most British converts should be women, given the widespread view in the west that Islam treats women poorly. In the United States, women converts outnumber men by four to one, and in Britain make up the bulk of the estimated 10, 000 to 20, 000 converts, forming part of a Muslim community of 1 to 1.5 million "

How can the case of those women be explained?! Well, I could say that there are only one of two choices that one can decide upon. Either all those women who choose Islam don't know what they are doing or that they discovered Islam is not prejudice to them as others have yet to discover. New convert to Islam since September 11, US Navy petty officer, Heather Ramaha. "Islam gives us Elevation; not Degradation"

In the Noble Quran Allah (Arabic word for God) says:
"Mankind! We have created you from a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know one another. Verily, the most honorable of you in the Sight of Allah is the believer who has Taqwa (i.e. piety and righteousness)and loves Allah most. Verily, Allah is All-Knowing, All-Aware." The Holy Qur'an(49:13)

"I shall not lose sight of the labor of any of you who labors in My way, be it man or woman; each of you is equal to the other. The Holy Qur'an(3:195)"

On the light of those verses, Islam declares that it has not come to disadvantage women, but in fact has been revealed to elevate women ever since 1400 years ago, when women in many parts of the world and especially in the western societies were considered objects that are owned and with little to no rights in the society they live in.

Before any other religion or system in the world Islam gave a woman the right to inherit, the right to vote and voice her opinion, the right to trade invest and improve herself financially, the right to own - buy and sell, the right to seek knowledge and have a good education, the right to work and has even gone further to oblige the males in every stage of her life, whether it was a father, brother or husband ... It's their duty before God to take care of her, to spend on her, to provide her with the food , clothing and shelter that she needs, to provide her with a good education, to protect her from anything that can harm her and to never hesitate to put their lives in stake for her if the need calls them to do so. "As a modern westerner with a career, of course I had to look into Islam's attitude to women - I couldn't be oppressed all of a sudden. But I discovered that it is pro-women and pro-men; in Islam, women had the right to vote in the year 600. Men dress modestly, women dress modestly; neither should flirt with the eyes, but rather they should lower their gaze. I think it's unhealthy to flaunt your sexuality - it attracts the wrong energy back." (MTV Presenter Kristiane Backer after being a Muslim) "Since I called myself a feminist, my early reading centered around women in Islam. I thought Islam oppressed women. In my Women's Studies courses I had read about Muslim women who were not allowed to leave their homes and were forced to cover their heads. Of course I saw hijab as an oppressive tool imposed by men rather than as an expression of self-respect and dignity. What I discovered in my readings surprised me. Islam not only does not oppress women, but actually liberates them, having given them rights in the 6th century that we have only gained in this century in this country: the right to own property and wealth and to maintain that in her name after marriage; the right to vote; and the right to divorce." (Karima Slack, an American feminist from secular humanism to Islam)

Some Muslim societies today lack those values. Some people may rightly ask then, why do we see some Muslim societies lacking those values? There is a beautiful and very true example I heard from a lecture by an American Muslim called Khaled Yaseen, who said that every person can be a father; but if a father does not turn out to be a good father then it's not fatherhood that we would blame. Similarly, Islam is a rule and order. A Muslim who does not act according to that rule and order then by all means its not Islam that should carry the blame.

Karla, a young Blonde haired Blue eyed young American from Washington DC who is a recent convert to Islam said in an interview made with her: The main question people seem to ask, is "How could you, an educated American woman convert to Islam--a religion that oppresses women?" They are quick to try and equate the rights of women in Afghanistan with the rights of Muslim women everywhere. Basically, what I tell them, is that the Qur'an gives women more rights than the Bible does--in print. That was one of the things that first drew me to Islam. Unfortunately today, Islam is no longer the leader in women's rights. I had a choice--deny what I believe (i.e. that There is only one God, and that Muhammed is a Prophet of God)...or accept what I believe, but work to change the problems that exist within the Muslim community. I chose the latter.

In the world today, one could say that the Taliban government in Afghanistan have been considered as the top example of Women Oppression in Islam. But what's ironic is that even when a woman falls captive in the hands of those supposedly most hateful men in the world, Islam does not fail to win her heart.

Yvonne Ridley is an award-winning journalist of more than 25 years standing and author of two books, In The Hands of the Taliban and Ticket to Paradise. She has spent the last 10 years working for several prestigious Fleet Street newspapers including The Sunday Times, The Observer, The Independent on Sunday and The Sunday Express. She has also expanded into television and radio producing several documentaries from Iraq and Afghanistan. Yvonne hit the headlines in September 2001 when while working for the Daily Express she crossed illegally into Afghanistan and was subsequently held captive by the Taliban for 11 days. Following her release, she read the Qur'an as she had agreed to during her captivity, and converted to Islam in the summer of 2003.

Last but not least I would like to conclude by the blessed sayings of Prophet Muhammad peace be upon him:
"It is the generous (in character) who is good to women, and it is the wicked who insults them."
"The most perfect believers are the best in conduct and best of you are those who are best to their wives."
"Treat your women well and be kind to them for they are your partners and committed helpers."