I have an almost 8 months old daughter with my ex girlfriend. My daughter was sick for 2 weeks and she was admitted to the hospital for a week and 3 days my family were very supportive as usual.

My daughter is doing so much better and she got discharged last week friday I give God all the glory.

The problem on ground is because my ex girlfriend leaves alone with her younger ones she doesn't have an adult who will help her to monitor the baby health so my parents asked her if she can come and stay with them for a week or two so they will be monitoring ans helping her with the baby she can go back to her place when she us fully recovered.
They've told her to bring her last born with her too but she refused saying she can't leave all her siblings alone but her 23 years old younger brother who just returned home from a different state can look after her other siblings in her absent.

I don't live with my parents I live alone and I wanted her to stay with my parents so we can all share the responsibility of taking care of our daughter but she declined.

My parents and I are not so happy with but we can't force her .

What do you guys think about this. Is she right or wrong for declining my parents request ?

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What type of job are u into?

I am a computer and phone technician


Is your wife working?

Yes she is a fruit seller




The siblings are they working too?


No. they are underage

jaeyking:
So before impregnating her and planning on getting married

Who were the sisters staying with

Next is all the years of courtship, what was your discussion, I believed she would have given you a notice about what is too come but den love is blind, reality of the economy has opened your eyes


But then
Did you marry her and the sisters??
And what is the age group of the sisters??

If you are capable, get an accomodation for the sisters else where.

Who were the sisters staying with

Two were staying with her and the youngest two with her aunty. At the moment they are all staying together.


And what is the age group of the sisters??

They are underage 17,15, 13 and 11 years old.

I have a 7 months old daughter her mother is an orphan, she is the eldest of 7.

We broke up when she was pregnant because we had a disagreement about her siblings living arrangements.

She wanted her 4 sisters to stay with us after the wedding and I only two of them to stay with us. The problem is seeing my daughter growing in a bad environment away from me makes me feel so bad.

Whenever I visit her I feel so bad leaving her behind that I don't sleep well thinking about her all night.

I also doesn't like the idea of having kids with different mothers.

For my daughter's sake I want to get back with her mother for us to raise her together in the same house. But getting back with her means that I should also allow her 4 siblings to stay with us after the wedding.

I am doing this for my daughter's sake but I don't know if I am making a wise decision.

What do you guys think should I get back with her or forget about her and concentrate only on my daughter.

Please help

James289:
Do you have proof it is your child?

I have every reason to believe it is.

chinchum:
She is ill charactered with a sense of entitlement. That you offered that 2 of her siblings stay with you is a privilège. I dont know what you promised her in the past but be careful with such entitled individual. Entitled individuals are almost incapable of gratitude. Show me an ingratitude individual, i will tell you that is a self centered individual.

You have to be self centred now and prioritise your peace. Keep sending the money and if she likes she may keep sending it back. Keep the bank statements for trail purposes.

Thanks for the advice. I will try that.

Hey guys, my ex girlfriend is 7 months pregnant. She doesn't want to have anything to do with me cos I didn't want to carry the responsibility of her four sisters.

She is 24 orphen and the oldest of seven children. She is a fruit seller and the pregnancy wasn't plan she took in 6 months into the relationship but I have accepted the responsibility and I wanted to make her my wife.

First of all I wanted us to discussed about her sisters living arrangements after the wedding and she said she wanted to bring all four who are under 18 to live with us after the wedding and I rejected.

I suggested that the youngest two can live with us while the other two can stay with the aunty but she refused.

She said the relationship was over and she doesn't need me in her life that she will take care of the baby alone.

I've told her even if she doesn't want me in her life anymore she should not stop me from helping her financially because I want our baby to be born in good condition but she refused.

Last week I sent 30k to her account for baby stuffs and she sent the money back to me saying she doesn't need a kobo from me she will take care of the baby alone.

I want to leave her alone but it is hard for me to do so cos she is carrying my child. It will not be easy for me to give up easily I just want to be a part of my daughter life. What do you guys think please?