This not only common in Nigeria now but the rate of divorce everywhere and the number of single parents are so high, and even more common now within the Nigeria community abroad like never before all due to Marital Love Depreciation.

Love is like a flame that needs to be kept burning, if not, the fire will die down and turn into cold ashes.

Married couples need to appreciate each other often and date each other constantly, go on vacations, creative activities that would take all the stress off, marriage seminars and other things that can help the relations (invest time in your marriage basically, spend quality time together as a family). When you just sit back, relax and take each other for granted anything can happen.

Communication is equally very important, before you will go and start telling some so called friend about your family problems it's better to call the spouse and solve that problem immediately before it get out of hands and both parties start keeping diaries of bad deeds which would eventually climax into divorce due to irreconcilable differences, Lord have MERCY!

Well, you don't have to feel strange for being a lady developer or designer in a man's world (so to speak.) Just have confidence in yourself with shoulder up that what a man can do a woman can also do and even better, don't be intimidated at all,

Like me, I am a now a senior developer with over 13 years of experience, currently working with MS .net tech (c# and vb.net) in the US with a top tech company and fed contracts and also my own company. I started in Nigeria and I told myself there is no looking back, I don't care if I am the only woman doing it and I thank God for where I am today with very big bucks in $$$,$$$ I tell you, I am never intimidated, It takes a lot of study and training which I don't mind and my husband and children are very supportive and I am only in my 30s.

So way to go sisters. I just which to encourage someone out there. Please don't look back. Peace!

Yah right! Monitor election indeed!! Well I hope so with fingers crossed!!!

But wait a minute my brother, come to think of it o. Why in heavens name would they have to purchase JEEPS and then sell to the Public (their family members or themselves?) after election. You can imagine their low level of thinking due to lack of relevant years of experiences before assuming their various positions, even a high school student can decide better.

In my opinion, they would have used that money for 1000 JEEPS to buy 2x or 3x number of smaller cars to monitor elections as they said and let the Nigerian Police Force continue to use them for their security duties, Nigeria government is rich enough to be a role model in the area of national security in Africa at least, in which they have failed woefully below expectations for many years after the so called independence and we keep saying we don't want to compare ourselves to US or UK but at least we can start somewhere.

Anyway, never mind - I don't think they are ready to listen until they all fall victims due to lack of security then they will wake up individually by then it would be too late for them! Very SAD.

I thank you all o for the warm welcome. I am feeling at home already,

Thank you all for your input.

tlops, I think we are now saying the same thing - Thanks.

It's just a pity that these so called politician are so crazy about position and fame that they can't even remember the "sons of whom they are", their family name and generations yet unborn, all they can think about is their throats and fill their pockets, it's all about win, win and some would even go to the extend of killing innocent soul all in the name of politics (like Fayose former Ekiti Governor and other). I think it's high time Naija politicians awake from this slumber and turn on a new leave - Not a DO OR DIE AFFAIR - like Baba Sege Obasanjo said, what a shame! That type of statement from somebody that suppose to be a role model to other after his years of experience in Naija politics,  Like father like sons.

Can you all even imagine those kind of terrible acts going on for years at Iju a few km from the sit of power and Governor Agagu pretends as if he's not aware and call these PDP area fathers and area boys to order?

tlops, Please if you don't have anything positive to say keep quite because this is a serious problem and this is a free forum to share.
So please take note and stop making a nuisance of yourself, your reply doesn't speak well of you. Thanks.

PLEASE READ AND COMMENT!

IJU-CLUB USA

United States of America


OPEN LETTER TO ONDO STATE GOVERNOR ON THE POLITICAL PROBLEMS AT IJU - ONDO STATE NIGERIA

The Executive Governor
Dr. Segun Agagu
Ondo State Governor
Government House, Akure
Ondo State Nigeria.


We the indigenes if Iju Ondo State living in the United States of America (USA) hereby write you this open letter to express our concern and displeasure to the recent and recurrent political terror besieging our people at home by some group of thugs and terrorists loyal to your Government. Our people at Iju Ondo State Nigeria continued to be victims of political terrorism due to rivalry between one of your appointed officials and one elected official.

We heard the following reports of how:
• Young innocent men are been killed with different weapons, including guns, by these thugs (usually non-indigenes) sponsored by your politicians
• Young girls are been raped and humiliated in the town by these thugs
• People are been victimized and harassed by these thugs 
• The King, Our Royal Highness continues to be harassed and chased out of his domain by these thugs. He now seeks refuge around neighboring towns and cities. This is an abomination and a disgrace to our fundamental African culture and values we grew to know in this once peaceful town
• Citizens of our town continue to live under fear and oppression and flee  in droves to neighboring towns and cities for their safety
• Our brothers and sisters living outside the town around the country could not come to visit home because of fear caused by these thugs
• Above all, the Nigerian Police could not come to Iju town to arrest any of these evil perpetrators simply because of their connections and protection by the incumbent government. 
• These events are of big concern to us as it has eroded our heritage and is threatening to pull us further back into the dark ages we have long forgotten.

Sir, we as a body is holding you accountable and responsible for all of these problems. As a democratically elected Governor, the Chief Executive, Chief Security Officer of our State, your primary duties are the security and protection of lives and property of the entire citizens of Ondo State. Iju town is less than 10km to your seat of power. You are a democratically elected Governor democracy simply means government of the people, by the people and for the people in which the supreme power is vested in the people and exercised directly by them or by their elected officials. Your promise during your campaign for this seat was that you will protect and improve the lives of the people. This period has been the most traumatic for the people of Iju because their lives were neither protected nor improved.  You need to put something in place for a lasting peace in Iju.  We would like to see Iju people back to their peaceful life.  This is the only thing that will make us and the people of Iju happy. Of course little or no development has take place in the town with enormous resources being committed to terrorism and brazen lawlessness.

We live in a time when the call for freedom and democracy echoes across the globe, the right to equality before the law, or equal protection under the law, is fundamental to any just and democratic society, whether rich or poor, ethnic majority or religious minority. Regrettably, this fundamental right of security and protection of our citizens have been denied the people of Iju by your government. Our people at Iju continue to live under fear and oppression while young men, women and children are been victimized, harassed, killed or raped by these thugs groomed and unbleached on our people by selfish, crude, wicked and shortsighted politicians. Surely, your government can call your political associates to order.

Please Mr. Governor, we hereby plead with to you to find a lasting peaceful solution to these problems of terror your politicians brought to our Town.

Sincerely
Iju-Club USA

Signed by:

Mr. Wale Akinwale
Mr. Funso Omoloju
Mr. James Ogunbuyide
Mr. Tayo Oladimeji
Mr. Kayode Falaye
Mr. Femi Ogunduyile
Mr. Femi Aboloye
Mr. Ibukun Olowomeye
Mr. Tony Adebusola
Mr. Femi Owoeje
Mr. Sola Akinleye
Mr. Dayo Fanami
Mr. Tope Akinwunmi
Mr. Dimeji Jogbodo
Mr. Boye Omoniyi
Mr. Tope Oluwadare
Mr. Femi Fagbuyiro
Ms. Titi Oyebode
Ms. Funke Adeyooye
Ms. Funke Jayeola
Ms. Dupe Gbademosi
Ms. Kemi Ogunsuyi
Ms. Olayinka Oni
Ms Ruth Adeyeye
Ms. Yemi Oyewo

All others that may not have appeared on this list are hereby represented.


SOURCE: http://www.e-punch.com/default.aspx#
or The Punch for 4/11/2007
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Me no get pix o.
I be lady, as in ladies on TOP any day!

Anyway, a little about myself - I am a Senior App Programmer (web solutions: .Net etc) with a Fed agency in town. Will tell you more later,
Peace out  

It's GREAT to finally register on this Forum. Great Job Seun, Way to go, Thumbs up!

PLEASE READ AND COMMENT!

IJU-CLUB USA

United States of America

OPEN LETTER TO ONDO STATE GOVERNOR ON THE POLITICAL PROBLEMS AT IJU - ONDO STATE NIGERIA

The Executive Governor

Dr. Segun Agagu

Ondo State Governor

Government House, Akure

Ondo State Nigeria.

We the indigenes if Iju Ondo State living in the United States of America (USA) hereby write you this open letter to express our concern and displeasure to the recent and recurrent political terror besieging our people at home by some group of thugs and terrorists loyal to your Government. Our people at Iju Ondo State Nigeria continued to be victims of political terrorism due to rivalry between one of your appointed officials and one elected official.

We heard the following reports of how:

[list]
[li]Young innocent men are been killed with different weapons, including guns, by these thugs (usually non-indigenes) sponsored by your politicians[/li]
[li]Young girls are been raped and humiliated in the town by these thugs[/li]
[li]People are been victimized and harassed by these thugs[/li] 
[li]The King, Our Royal Highness continues to be harassed and chased out of his domain by these thugs. He now seeks refuge around neighboring towns and cities[/li][li]This is an abomination and a disgrace to our fundamental African culture and values we grew to know in this once peaceful town[/li]
[li]Citizens of our town continue to live under fear and oppression and flee in droves to neighboring towns and cities for their safety[/li]
[li]Our brothers and sisters living outside the town around the country could not come to visit home because of fear caused by these thugs[/li]
[li]Above all, the Nigerian Police could not come to Iju town to arrest any of these evil perpetrators simply because of their connections and protection by the incumbent government[/li]
[/list] 
These events are of big concern to us as it has eroded our heritage and is threatening to pull us further back into the dark ages we have long forgotten.
Sir, we as a body is holding you accountable and responsible for all of these problems. As a democratically elected Governor, the Chief Executive, Chief Security Officer of our State, your primary duties are the security and protection of lives and property of the entire citizens of Ondo State. Iju town is less than 10km to your seat of power. You are a democratically elected Governor democracy simply means government of the people, by the people and for the people in which the supreme power is vested in the people and exercised directly by them or by their elected officials. Your promise during your campaign for this seat was that you will protect and improve the lives of the people. This period has been the most traumatic for the people of Iju because their lives were neither protected nor improved. You need to put something in place for a lasting peace in Iju. We would like to see Iju people back to their peaceful life. This is the only thing that will make us and the people of Iju happy. Of course little or no development has take place in the town with enormous resources being committed to terrorism and brazen lawlessness.

We live in a time when the call for freedom and democracy echoes across the globe, the right to equality before the law, or equal protection under the law, is fundamental to any just and democratic society, whether rich or poor, ethnic majority or religious minority. Regrettably, this fundamental right of security and protection of our citizens have been denied the people of Iju by your government. Our people at Iju continue to live under fear and oppression while young men, women and children are been victimized, harassed, killed or raped by these thugs groomed and unbleached on our people by selfish, crude, wicked and shortsighted politicians. Surely, your government can call your political associates to order.

Please Mr. Governor, we hereby plead with to you to find a lasting peaceful solution to these problems of terror your politicians brought to our Town.

Sincerely

Iju-Club USA

Signed by:

Mr. Wale Akinwale

Mr. Funso Omoloju

Mr. James Ogunbuyide

Mr. Tayo Oladimeji

Mr. Kayode Falaye

Mr. Femi Ogunduyile

Mr. Femi Aboloye

Mr. Ibukun Olowomeye

Mr. Tony Adebusola

Mr. Femi Owoeje

Mr. Sola Akinleye

Mr. Dayo Fanami

Mr. Tope Akinwunmi

Mr. Dimeji Jogbodo

Mr. Boye Omoniyi

Mr. Tope Oluwadare

Mr. Femi Fagbuyiro

Ms. Titi Oyebode

Ms. Funke Adeyooye

Ms. Funke Jayeola

Ms. Dupe Gbademosi

Ms. Kemi Ogunsuyi

Ms. Olayinka Oni

Ms Ruth Adeyeye

Ms. Yemi Oyewo

All others that may not have appeared on this list.


Source:   http://www.e-punch.com/default.aspx#
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