Tellemall:


How I wish I were that husband of hers. I would gently take her back and then make sure I have her running out when I'm done recounting her begging to return, as well as her past sins and punishing her for each and everyone of them.

Some women lack spines. He's showed you his ace and you remain a jack (a**).

Smh.

You aint God. Many men see themselves as demigods, many women treat men better than they treat the God dey serve. Its such a messed up world

Tellemall:


True enough. She knows the marriage is toxic, but by all means she wants to remain in it. Religiously, she has good grounds for divorce. And sensibly, she should, too. If she wasn't so obsessed with him.


He clearly isn't interested and never will be. She's been plastering herself on him the whole time. And she still coming out for opinions. Well, opinion flows towards her being desperate and senseless.

@ bolded defines, Self destructive, low self esteem, and fear of the societal opinion of ur personal life. She needs to tke charge of.her life and aspire for hapiness. Hapiness is the only TRUTH!

Dirkcoyt:


Oooh what I posited there is not straight,it was a logical composition. The bottomline was you were being sarcastic with your post about the thread.

Anyway its great meeting you right?

I dnt like insultive comments. so i decisively refuse to take part in it. i understood your comment. Yea, d lady didnt get my sacarsm. Fyi... a slowpoke is physically slow not mentally as u might have suggested.

girlfriendsnatc:


I'm having a hard time believing you're an adult because you reason like a naive child. She tells one side of the story and you're already crucifying the husband without knowing his side of the story. And the fact is, from her side of the story it's obvious she's responsible for her predicament and very likely the most culpable between the two; that's why she's not the one pushing for a divorce but the husband is. She's probably holding back on some crucial information that possibly would indict her in this case, so why not ask her to tell you the whole truth, because women are known in cases like this to only tell the part of the story that makes her look innocent and the victim, even though she might be the aggressor. I mean what kind of a woman sublty threatens to kill her husband openly to his face and calls that a joke? He would be stupid to ignore her threats. Wake up, this is the real world and some women have killed their husbands simply based on their insecurity whims or unsubstantiated fabrications. For the fact that she's apologetic further proves she knows she did things wrong and, I think it's a good sign she remorseful — if genuine. But you didn't consider things from every perspective but were so quick to take on her side just because the complainant is a female, thus acting like the typical Nigerian male that is a toadying sycophantic obsessed bootlicker to girls that don't even give the least flying fu©k about you. Maybe you should buy a skirt and wear it around, so people can easily differentiate between us real men and you b!tch pûssy niggas that always suck up to women

Wait. Are you a misogynist? How come thus long comment became increasingly foul simply because someone took compassion based on the information provided?

It suddenly became a material for feminine hate.
Oh well... honestly, i also believe there are two sides to every story

Dirkcoyt:


Sorry you couldn't get my usage of word

If that were the case, i could have easily consulted the online dictionary. Ur comment makes a null point.

Tellemall:


Self destructive people don't come online. They quietly destroy themselves. She's not self destructive. She wants opinions.

Sometimes you arr not evn conscious of your destructive actions. Your choices and the things you think u want are clearly not even good for u yet u keep trying hard and taking actions like coming online to seek help.

Tellemall:


No offense, but you sound like he could make you shoot yourself, if only he will take your corpse as his for a moment.

And so he wants to go. Are you so dependent on his provisions that you can't let go? You should know that marriage is simply the meeting of two strangers. Your spouse is just a stranger who can stab you in the back at any moment. If he decides to take you back, you'll have ish forever. He will always bring this up, reminding you how you begged him. How I wish I were him. I would take you back to teach you a lesson, in fact you'll be the one begging for a divorce.

Saw your modified post. You've had issues with him for a while, he flaunts that other person and you still want in?

Op really seems self destructive. Im very worried about her.

Wait op. Is this the same guy that was reluctant to marry you after u gave him your masters money and lied to ur dad?

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Those I mentioned and for to all who commented. I didnt want to state my reason for saying such in the first page so that people won't accuse me of giving so much info. I wanted to also see people's comment and advice without sentinment or pity for me and then make my decision.

I have weighed the options made my decison.

MY REASON for saying such to my husband

Reasons I talked about magun was because on our first year wedding anniversary. My husband wasn't home from Thursday till Monday. He spent the whole days with his mistress. He even told me to my face. Then thats when I said he should be grateful I still have a heart. That if not I 'll do magun and tie them both then snap the lady and put up her pix since she won't leave my husband alone. But I quikly told him but I can't do that. That no matter how badly he treats me I will never go the diabolic ways

No one knew my husband wasn't home. I still put up our pix on BBM and pple wished me HWA. But deep down I wasn't celebrating it. I faked all the smiles and told them my husband and I would go out in the night. He didn't even come home at all

I didn't even tell my sisters of any close friends. Up till today. It was only his mum I called to tell her son to return home and his cousin that was with us at the time it happened. It was later I got to know why he was angry and decided to spend our wedding anniversary with his mistress was because I called his mistress to leave us alone for me and my husband to solve our issues. She and my husband kept talking about our home.

Everything said here is nothing but the truth. I didn't add and I didn't subtract.

Thank you all for the advice. Decison made. So I will stand by it. So help me God

Madam... pls are you legally married to your husband? If you arr... the law helps save a marriage. Divorce is usually tye last resort they give in to. So if u want to save.ur marriage... pray and take legal actions. Its also dangerous that u are away frm home for so long. This mistress might b pregnant already. Act fast. Seek legal advice. Stop begging. Unless u dont want that marriage, the law can still help u force him to sit tight.

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Dirkcoyt:


Sarcasm is a good tool, when a slowpoke still play along after the sarcasm, then one wonders if he/she feign ignorance or he/she is just playing dumb.

Meaning?

Reading comments here.reminds me of why marriages are so dysfunctional these days. People are mire devoted to tye idea than marriage itself. People lose tuemselves to make a fantasy.that is pleasing to the.society.



all you wicked men mistreating ur.wives, and bad women likewuse...Your punishment is doing press up in hell.

All you commentators subduing a woman to misery. Devil is fanning your passports in hell

All all you women subjecting your children to dysfunctional homes. I leave you with this harsh reality. Hell on earth, and still cant make heave because if what you did to your kids. Better be playing with fire now to.get used to ur future abode.

Lie. Fake statistics. I hate all these statistical insults. Without carrying out questioning... u will b making statistics.

Isnt this the baby she had yesterday? wow. And the bigger one is looking chubby o. Cant body shame a kid but hmmmmmmn

aspirebig:


I don advice her naa, which one you no dey sef? Should I encourage her to file divorce? Sorry, I won't do that.

Pls the woman that prayed and fasted for 30yrs is just a summary you gave.

Prayer works for me very well.

I mean advice the old woman who spent her whole life on her knees and watching movies like war room. Its also not christianly to b satisfied as long as you are okay. I never said prayer doesnt work. But its not the only way. It should be accompanied by other efforts.

I never mentioned divorce either. Im completely against it.

bedspread:
I Declare to you on this last night of the month of march 2016 "I cancel any form of divorce btw you and your Hubby in the Name of Jesus. I also Decree and Declare that The GOD of Heaven, The Ocean divider turns your husband against his mistress and also turn the mistress against him in the Name of Jesus. Btw the 1st of April and the 14th of April 2016, your husband must come back to you.
pls forgive him when he comes, improve on your skills and be the best wife to him.
Remember to give All the Glory to God wen he comes, because he MUST COME.
LET THE Angels of heaven carry out my declarations immediately.
Ure Blessed

Thus is how a woman goes thru life thinking shr hasnt done well or tried hard enough. If he doesnt come, she keeps doubting herself.
Her husband turned on her because he was scared. Cionon seems like a gentle woman. Her husband was shocked that she mentioned such a thing and he decided to make a move first and threthen her with a divorce. Im also sure its based on the mistresses advuce. Prayer is good. But this woman needs to see a lawyer that will help her secure her home fast. It isnt xompulsory it ends in duvorce. As long as dey are legally married, there are ways she can make him sit tight whether he likes it or not. She shd also pray as you said. Im not against prayers o. But heaven helps those who help themselves

aspirebig:
Op,are you a believer? If yes, then go on your kneels.

Dem never born that mistress well, just do few prayer points on her head with few midnight vigils, your hubby will be back.

Use the PUSH strategy. Pray Until Something Happens. Prayer is the key.

Na my 2kobo be that o, as I no get cent.

I know a woman who prayed and fasted for 30years. She is still miserable. And shes already too old to start over. All her children are dysfunctional in one way or another. Advice her pls

Dear cionon, please take heed. Get as much proof as you can of your husbands cheating. He has no proof against you except hear say. Be very careful. People get tricky in cases like this. He has mistreated you, and even rubbed it in your face.

So i had this awesome meal of oats and apples, and my friends were complainning, weird they called it. But tell you what? its
one of the best kinds of meals you could have, esp if you're tired of regular rice, beans bread, routine meal we take in Nigeria.

First, you must know that Oat sustains you a whole lot longer than most meals, and Apples have been found to be good replacements for coffee
so what are we talking about here?

janykute:

simply because you know them, you call them crooks. what do u know about the others? this is the major nigerian problem. abe go siddon. think about how you'll get to make your own money,

are you asking me?

...

well, not like ladies aint tech freaks, some of us just read all d time, n forget to post something. I'm always here, but I aint biddin

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signed,,
Doc. Tossen,
truested for mony making antics of all kinds

She knew how jealous her husband could get. But, after all the bad things she'd gone through in her life, he was her only hope. The only true joy in loving that she's always had.
''Do I tell him, or not?'' She wondered. He would definitely not forgive her,
But what if, she kept wondering, while Biodun looked deeply, and questioningly into her eyes.
''What are you thinking? You look so worried'' he said.
''Oh nothing,'' she said quickly.
''Imagine, I had a heart attack? '' She blurted, rying to make a joke.
''yes, yes. To think that you are a doctor, I'll say you did a bad job of it. imagine, '' his voice traile off, and she kept wondering, Do I tell him, or not? I have to keep him.
''Iknow tht look on your face, '' he said, and smiled. She tried to feign ignorance, and ask him what he meant, but he cut her short.
''I saw it.'' he said, and she felt another heart attack impending.
''don't worry, I saw everything, from the supermarket, and how you defended yourself with that guy''

She woke up, to find her husband and her little daughter staring worriedly at her. He stroked her palms lovingly, and gently adjusted her head
''Good morning,''he said smiling.
Simbi was devastated. She remembered vividly, those horrid pictures. How could a person be so wicked? She searched his eyes, wondering if he'd seen the photos. Oh God! what do I do? she though

bad joke, from a bad dude. but its all true anyway

angels aren't really always good

who are u looking for

Ralvy:

Where is she?

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