good day all, production of soap is something very common here in this forum, pls kindly share with us how you overcome the struggle between your fragrance and the smell of the pko, i discover that no matter how you add the fragrance, the smell of the pko still contexts with that of the fragrance, tell us how you treat the matter

this is my problem, i want to marry a tall lady, that is fair in complexion, with a moderate poise and also godly, she has to be less than thirty years, preferably a new graduate, will like her to work in my establishment etc, pls no offence, i am just being sincere. now look at my dilema, the few i have seen that fit closely(not completely) into this my paradigm, all said a capital no, lol, its not funny sha, and then the ones i do not like that much are ....lol, so do i now go and manage any person just because .... pls the people with experience should give me a strong and empowering counsel. i am airing my whole mind here because nobody here knows me. hint: my major problem is lack of good cash flow for now, my establishment wl take like two more years to break even and i am 35years now, and i do not want to continue to wait for obvious reasons. thanks for your anticipated contributions

...but i feel for her cos she may not have much say after our marriage, though i wl try my best not to hurt her. BUT AS FOR CHEATING ON HER WHEN I ARRIVE, AS SOME PEOPLE HAD OPINED, ITS NOT AN OPTION AT ALL AT ALL, THAT IS WHY I AM TAKING MY TIME TO AVOID ANYTHING THAT MAY TRIGGER THAT TEMPTATION, YES AND I MEAN WHAT I SAID, CHEATING ON HER IS A SIN AGAINST MY OWN SOUL NOT EVEN AGAINST HER PER SE, YES COS I AM SERVING GOD IN ORDER TO BE WITH HIM IN ETERNITY, THANKS TO ALL

to say i'm elated will make me a blatant liar, also to say i'm overwhelmed will still not suffice, i am so so grateful for all the contributions, like i said earlier, the probability that we will settle is very high, since she is willing to learn...

@ toksbisola i am speechless, the wisdom in your post cannot be quantified with words, fantastic, classical, excellent etc are all grossly understatement should they be used to quantify your words, i am deeply grateful for the time taken to pour those gems, thanks a lot, the point is i just have to pray more and seek divine direction, she is not my 'girl friend' though as no pre-marital affair of any kind had occurred, we are just members of the same congregation, but the church is supervising our marriage program though they are not aware of this, we will report back after two months and the outcome determines the next step, whether to continue or discontinue, yea, thanks to all, so far so great

Lionessza:




I like the fact that you are saying it yourself that when you finally reach your financial goals , you "might" not want her ( yes not in so many words) but you said it. So basically she is good enough to have now that things aren't that rosy but when they are , another woman " might replace her" again not in so many words but sure sounds like it. My advice to you was not to waste this girl's time knowing very well you don't value her that much, she will be heartbroken yes but the truth is always better atleast she will pick herself up and look for a guy who will see all he wants from her and accept the negatives fully. Am not attacking you , am simple saying by settling you are also harming yourself in the process, sooner or later the truth always comes out Sir.

she had also refused to say yes to other men that are coming for her(as she said). but wait, are u married or just speaking from everyday experiences cos u just said exactly what's in my mind

Lionessza:




I like the fact that you are saying it yourself that when you finally reach your financial goals , you "might" not want her ( yes not in so many words) but you said it. So basically she is good enough to have now that things aren't that rosy but when they are , another woman " might replace her" again not in so many words but sure sounds like it. My advice to you was not to waste this girl's time knowing very well you don't value her that much, she will be heartbroken yes but the truth is always better atleast she will pick herself up and look for a guy who will see all he wants from her and accept the negatives fully. Am not attacking you , am simple saying by settling you are also harming yourself in the process, sooner or later the truth always comes out Sir.

EXCELLENT, i have tried to tell her this, but she is optimistic that all wl end well later in our married life, the lady had just refused to walk away despite all my efforts to induce her...

PresVA:
You have talked so much about when you become rich... can't you brush her up then? or she isn't teachable? I really don't understand.. or better still, wait, get rich, then marry your choice of girl

meanyl, you're marrying her because she's a humble lady that's willing to settle with you despite your financial position? You have stated severally how you may lose interest when you become more financially stable, how you'll desire a more 'classy' chic..
you're one of the reasons many ladies wouldn't want to struggle with a guy.. I don't blame those that want already made...

I wish you the best. .

speaking in igbo: nna ihe eshiele ikee ooo, ka ana eje na ubi ka oka na kaa

@lionessza you just added salt to injury, i'm almost drawing my conclusion to move on, only for you to come up with this salient point which i had discussed over and over with my friends, yes, i even said it here that when i finally hit my financial goal, i may no longer celebrate her as envisaged and like you rightly said, it wl affect both of us, in that i am no longer excited about her and she too feels depressed for not being adorned by her husband, infact, you just scratched a wound, so pls more light on this, beloved sekundo come say something, hmmm, when one comes close to the age of marrying, you will know that its not easy especially for some of us who have poor inclination vis a vis relationship with the opposite sex

sekundosekundo:



I found Myself in this type of situation years back. I hate huge ladies but my wife to be is huge, o boy! so many things came to my mind, I was wondering how she will look like after given births. Her characters are superb but her hugeness pisses me off. One mind was telling me to dump her and I have every reason to do so more especially I am yet to make love to her so if I dump her she won't cry me a river. But there's this strong urge in me to continue with her irrespective of her hugeness. To cut the whole story short, today she is my wife and her shape intoxicates me now. Hmmm, good things sometimes comes in disguise form.

OKAY, THAT'S NICE

sekundosekundo:


Seems you prefer a lady that has good command of English without good character abi?. The truth is that you can't find a perfect person in marriage even you, are not perfect. Don't be deceived, the lady is not from England so English language was forced on all of us by British colony pls take note of this. Mr man, if the lady has the quality of one who will respect and love you unconditionally, pls go ahead with her. May be I should share my experience with my wife when I first met her.

YOUR POINTS ARE CLASSICAL, VERY ENCOURAGING, something deep within me tells me that i wl definitely marry her, its just that sometimes along the line, you will see me beginning to get cold hearted towards her again and that feeling will torment me for some time and all through that period, our relationship wl turn sour until that feeling dies, and on and on and on, we have experienced a lot of ups and downs in the whole stuff, some assert that i'll love her later....

thorpido:
So you've been in this relationship long enough,made her,her family and your church realise you want to marry her and you are still asking this kind of question?

Marry her and do everything you can to brush her up.

Peace in marriage is very important.You will understand later.

MY BROTHER, that is the problem, as i am talking to you now, we are about to start the formal church courtship this sunday, to be supervised by the church, this is why i had to come this far to nairaland and all i have heard from all the posts i read corresponds with what my good friends and family members have told me

dingbang:
it depends on you.. As for me , it won't take me a second to come to a conclusion.. But be that as it may, I think you should just carry on with the marriage preparations.., Jonathan had a reason for marrying Patience, you know.. So sometimes its not just about what people will say.. Yes your friends will laugh behind you saying ur woman ain't good with English buh you are happy that she doesn't give you sleepless nights.. So if you ask me, I think you should just put all that behind and continue the love you both have established.

YES, you made a point there again when you talked about ...sleepless night, that is the only driving force behind my hanging on but my greatest fear is won't i disdain her tomorrow especially as i hit my financial goal and feel that she's not my class? i am being this careful cos i know i cannot commit immorality, thats why i am troubled cos i do not want to enter into a lifetime of prison, loving other ladies more than my wife ...

dingbang:
Never marry out of pity

yea, i also considered this, but on the contrary, the case here is more of self pity, that is pity for myself cos of lack of savvy account balance, my business capital presently is two milion, i live in a moderately furnished three bedroom flat, have no car now etc and so going for those 'psychedelic ladies' may cause me a lot of headache, infact one of them, a graduate from a university in india, when i proposed to her, she said i don't have enough cash, lol, infact more contributions pls, should i then marry this one cos she accepts me the way i am, when i know that i wl soon get rich? remember i do not hate her just that the grammar .....

Atakata:

guy forget that enlish,grammar is not the most important thing in marriage oooo. who English don help for marriage.u can help brush her English, stop thinking abt wat ur friends would say if she makes blunder. if u truly love her go ahead and marry her ok. what u should be thinking about is if i marry this lady will I ve peace in my marriage not grammar. go for her character not her English. u self u just dey worry for nothing.

THANKS BRO, exactly the same question i do ask myself, that is: will i have peace? and the answer is YES. my problem is my mind, the thing plagues me a lot, something that no person wl find fault with, you will see that my mind wl see all the errors in that thing, i have prayed about this thing but to no avail, if not i would have long married this lady, but i know i am still optimistic that the marriage will take place

sisisioge:




I think you two are a good match! Remember how you mentioned that when your babe is asked to correct herself she couldn't? Well...you see how you two are a good match now? Biko, marry that babe and leave English language alone. God will gift you Children that would be at par with Queen Elizabeth

LOL

poshestmina:
Your use of English is not very sound too so what are you saying? ...World people and oversabi!

i am not offended oo, but pls just point out the blunder, so i can take correction. thanks, meanwhile, more contributions pls, i am already feeling a surge of attraction for her courtesy of your posts

AnaCheks:
Teach her English if you know you speak fluently.

my dear, that is what i am doing now but sometimes i ask myself some discouraging questions like can't i just find someone else to marry etc and since then i have also never seen someone that is compatible wt me, yes that is the dilema i found myself into,

KAI, this thread helped me: www.nairaland.com/2775519 but your contributions are still needed to cement my decisions

sekundosekundo:



You have found a wife, pls go ahead with your plans. With time, you'll enjoy her. I am speaking from experience.

hmmmm, really? deep down in my spirit i have that calmness but the problem is my ability to be proud of her, that her poor command of grammar hurts me a lot, do you think i wl not feel embittered tomorrow?

pbethel:
U can transform her. Enrol her in any education learning center.
Make her who u want her to b.

Build one another up

she is in her final year

sekundosekundo:


Your mind is not completely settled with her, this can only happen when one has the spirit of lust. This spirit will make you to love almost every girl you see. I think you are the problem here not the lady. It seems something attracted you to her in the first place may be material things, isn't it?.

yes, you are very correct in the first aspect, any fair lady attracts me but not to immorality though cos i fear our creator, so once i see this fair one, i wl say she is good etc but for her, what attracted me to her is that she is humble, not material things at all, they are not rich, she has good behavior but she cannot speak fluently, i am just imagining how i wl feel if she speaks blunder in front of my friends etc, she is even in final year in a college of education, that is what pains me more, if she were to be just a school leaver, it wl be understandable but to be a graduate and yet incompetent is very annoying, pls more solid and reas advise needed

gsmphoneseller:
Guy continue with your marriage arrangement and don't look back....

She lovely qualities that the girls That speak fluently doesn't have......

Dont forget to invite me.

your statements are not clear to me, edit it pls, thanks for showing care and concern, pls more contributions

sekundosekundo:


Pls do you really love her from the depth of your heart?. Pls be sincere to yourself.

that is the problem, i can't even say whether i love her because if i see some other person, it will be as if that is the person i love and in that order, all i know is that we are compatible. my greatest problem now is that i have told her, the family and the church about my intention to marry her, right now we are in courtship and if i withdraw, it will break her heart because of all the things i have made her to go through, and i can not see the exact lady i have in mind, pls somebody help wt your advise, solid one pls

pls i need your pieces of advise, especially from experienced persons and if possible with examples, thanks. this is my problem:i am having a double mind about the lady i want to marry, she is not ugly but not too beautiful or at least not as beautiful as i desired, her character is okay by me but she cannot speak FLUENTLY, she speaks hardly for ten minutes without making one or two mistakes, the bad thing about it is that if you ask her to correct herself, she cannot, because it wasn't a slip of tongue, it was as a result of her incapacitation or incompetency. now my spirit accepts her but my EGO(pride) doesn't accept her and i am seriously confused. pls your ADVISE

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barcanista:
Ramadan Kareem Mr President and to all Muslim faithfuls




But Sir, remember that over 500 of your Muslim brethren in Borno, Adamawa and Yobe states have been killed by Boko-Terrorists since you took over. They had also wished to observe this Ramadan. We are not asking you to bring back the dead, but we are calling on you to protect the living from these terrorists.


Once Again, Ramadan Kareem

WHEN WILL BE SALLAH