Schprobs:




She is a cheating wife looking for all means to break out of the relationship.
If she doesn't kill u she will kill herself

I’ve even thought about killing myself. I just want out of the relationship now. She’s bad for my health.

I need someone to help with the details of a good divorce lawyer

NemoDatQuod:

Have a sit down with your wife.

This was August 11.

It's a funny story. After trying to calm her down the whole night as evidenced in the chat.

The next morning while we lay in bed, they brought the light. So I jumped off the bed to do laundry, ps: I always do the laundry in the house. While I was picking the clothes she mentioned that I should do the laundry later but I replied that I needed to do it now because the electricity wasn't stable.

By the time I left the bedroom, finished loading the clothes into the machine, she had sent me those messages.

I do not support gender violence.

I do not support dometice violence.

I don't even spank kids.

We can and should all be better human beings.

Justkatty:
You both need to visit a counsellor.

Your both parents shouldn't be involved for now,
You just need need a bed time discussion with your spouse when you're back from counseling
Ask for forgiveness and she should also do likewise.
I see this as lack of understanding.
I pray for a peaceful home for you both.

I never wanted to involve parents or friends. But she brought them in, in a spate of anger in December last year. When I saw some incriminating things on her phone and left the house. She called all my family, my friends, her family. Reporting me for leaving the house.

When my family tried to get involved then, I told them to stay out of it as it was my family issue. So my own family has never been involved. They're involvement now is because we've been paying a visit here for about a week now and she decided to act up in the presence of my mum.

Other times she waits to get into the room before shouting, but yesterday was really a shock to me. Shouting at me in the presence of my mum.

Ironically, she's going about telling people that I was the one shouting at her, which is a big fat lie, I swear on it. I respect my mother too much to shout in front of her. Heck even in the middle of the night. My mother still told me to apologize to her and I did. She made me apologize thrice.

Sucre6:
There is a friction between you both, a negative energy at that, you both may not be compatible after all.


I can really understand the fact that you have endured alot from her, but the best way to tame a woman is,


Whenever she is angry about something and talking, talking, talking, she wants you to talk back, so that she uses your comment as a fuel to engage you in further and unnecessary talks, you will eventually break and make a mistake out of anger and say something u weren't suppose to, then she capitalizes on the mistake and that's more reasons for her to talk some more, that's a circle that never ends ,
The best way to deal with a woman is, whenver she's ranting don't say sh!t, just carry your phone and start pressing it, or start doing stuff but don't u ever respond to her, she will eventually tire her self out and walk away or sleep off ,


After sometimes, with a smile on your face call her, say this to her, oga food never ready abi we no go chop today?? huge her from the back and never bring up the topic that lead to you both nagging like co wives, do this and be consistent about it, women don't like men that talks as much as u do, you talk too much bro, imagine you nagging and settling issues always between you and two other women, your mum and wife, grow some hairy balls bro

Hmmm. I read all the comments. I deserve all the bashing and more. I do not excuse hitting her, I just called her father now to apologize and confess for hitting her but I told the whole story. Everyone is aware of her aggressive nature. Everytjme he talks to her, its always to tell her to take it easy. I'm also vindicated in the fact that I called her close friend about 3 days to report her. I'm not proud of it but this lady makes my life hell.

Ironically. She doesn't have big boobs or breasts. I decided to marry her because I heard her story and like me she'd been through a lot. I thought that would make use both mature, understand how life works and know how to manage situations but that hasn't been the case.

I walked away, I left. I stayed elsewhere. I gave her space. She came to meet me where I was repeatedly. It was the middle of the night. I couldn't leave the house. I gave as much space as I can. She kept pushing. But that's no excuse. I Bleep up I know.

She left rhis morning. Continued insulting us.

So this night. I did a horrible thing. I stuck my wife thrice on her back. Yes, I know it's horrible and I should be burnt at the stake. And I am truly sorry for it but... There's always s back story.

I went through university without ever getting into a fight. I swore of physical violence since 2005. I havent raised my hands at anyone ever. Not to defend myself. Not to fight. In those years. I don't even let people fight aroujd me. I am known everywhere as the peace keeper. Which is why I feel very horrible about my action tonight.

Since we got married. I have noticed this trait of aggression in the person I married. Always quick to anger and insults everytime. In the last couple of days. We've had course to stay with my mum.

Earlier in the day. We were arguing about something (not so important to be honest) and my mum remarked that we should do better that were a new couple and we shouldn't be arguing like this all the time. She even joked that she was going to buy a cane for both of us.

Barely 2 mins later another discussion came up and this lady started raising her voice again. This time in full view of my mum. I just kept telling her please take it easy, take it easy. I even mentioned to her that this was what mummy was just telling us about. She would not bulge. Eventually my mum chipped in and said to me to keep quiet. So I did. When she finished shouting she stood up and left for the room.

After a while , my mother went into the room to talk to her. Even asked her not to be annoyed. Invited her to eat. She brought the food to me but I was too annoyed to eat. How is my wife shouting at me in front of my mum ? So I walked away, went out for a stroll. When I came back. She was in the room, she I stayed back in the living room. She came to me, started telling me that I should not let her be angry at me, changing the story that I was shouting at her earlier and she didn't say a word, I was livid but this didn't tip me. I just told her off and went back to do my work. She came back again started off another tirade in the middle of the night btw and ended it with saying "your mother is responsible for this"

Now, that's what made me mad. From the start I have warned my family not to interfere in mine. Not my dad or my mum have ever told me or directed me on how to do in my marriage to her. I imagine that because her display was in public today that's why my mum commented. Even on Wednesday she was talking to me harshly in the car and my mum was there and she never talked.

So anyway I stood up from where I was went to meet her and struck her about 3 times in the back warning her never to involve My mother in our talk again.

Then she shouted screaming at 2 am. Cursing me. Mt mum came out to even try to calm her down. She turned to my mum as well. Saying she knows what she'll say. That she supports me etc. Even when the poor woman didnt say anything. She's gone off now. Milking it. Saying I beat her. Should I add that she came back slapped me square on the face, hit my chest. Even dragged my mother to the floor

But everyone is on me. I'm the woman beater. Domestic violence.

Honestly, I'm just tired of this marriage. I married for peace this woman gives me trouble everyday. I chose to stay in the living room for peace tonight. She brought her madness to meet me.

I agree I messed up. I perhaps shouldn't have hit her. I regret it. It's going to go with me. But I was too pushed. She continues to do this knowing I wouldn't talk and st the time I believed that's the only thing she'd respond too. I know this could probably get me a lot of hate but I'm also hoping someone could see reason in what's happening

Im sorry it's so long. I didn't think about it. I just created this account and started writing. Apologies for likely typos too

TroubledMan