Hum! some have all the luck in the world and yet mess it all up. If am to go by Poster's words, he is indeed a good man. I can imagine him living up that the family man that he is yet this woman spoils things with her anger, too bad. Not all men will tolerate a lady hitting them.

That said, I think Poster you separate with wife for a little time, Good family is involved now but they shouldn't dictate to you  your course of action. Whatever you decide to do should be solely your decision. After a period of separation, I suggest both of you sit down and outline things that you do that always upset each other and if there is truly love agree on making amends where necessary and changing where it is required. This should be premised on the ground that both of you value your union and want to keep it.

If after this and change does not come especially as regards physical abuse, may be you should cut out. My Pastor always says that it is better to divorce than to get yourself killed in an abusive marriage.

Cuddlemii:

@everyone

Look closely, the babes writing that they are in the same shoes as Op all have 2 or 3 posts, hmmm something fishy. Did a group of 30 something women come to look for hubbies here. They also don't comment more than once. Where is the op since she started this thread. Please observe.

please man don't be cynical. I posted mine because majority of the advise here says go out, change ur friends and all that and am wondering if there is any other thing in going out apart from attending events. I must say that to me it is absurd for someone to wake up, dress up and start roaming around events or street as the advises are suggesting for the sole purpose of meeting a guy.

Hope you understand that.

Cuddlemii:

@udohkpa

At least you were able to tell us your mistake. You were looking for man of God.

That is the problem with women. I don't know who brain washed you people that SU like brothers are the best.

Instead of u to have gone for who loves you and who is straight forward, you will be looking for deception & lies

Well I pray you meet the right man sha.

Also as a calabar chick, I advice you to go for prayers. R u sure u r not a mermaid or queen of the coast. My cuzin is one and they have refused to let her go. Cos eastern babes r always involved in water sturvs with d long hair, light complexion et all.

May be your right but I wasn't actually looking for a man of God but one who says am a christian and lives basically on its tenets. I guess I kept believing that man was gona come and didn't really border myself about it until recently.

Thanks for your comment and suggestion but then am no mammy water oo or spirit husband stuff, lol! I live above such.

Just came around and saw this. You know am kinda in this situation although not up to 32 and I look quite younger than my age anyway but I discovered recently that all the men asking me out are married men and I was asking a friend what I have to do with married men and how that trend started.

Most advise here says go out and meet pple while others say change ur circle of friendship. Where does one really go to meet these people and how does one go out asking pple for friendship.

For those of you who will blast me about breaking many guys heart, I didn't break anybody's heart. I have only heard one long relationship which I though was made in heaven and had high hope but alas the guy broke up reasons which I seem to understand from his point of view even though it was very painful.

One of my impediments perhaps might be that I have been looking out for a true child of God as am one and most of the guys coming my way don't seem to love God that much. I keep asking myself if am the only one who loves God and wants things done the right way or should I change my standard and do some things that I consider "Gambling"

Any advise for me too is acceptable but please constructive ones.