thanks for all your contributions,it has really done a greaat good to me,am an engineer,my family are aware of the problem,all i said is the truth,what do i have to hide when i need help?Im 30yrs old,am an mfm child from birth,it was a holy marriage with church wedding.Im not afraid of being a spinster,just that i want 2 knw other people's opinion outside of people i knw around me.Once again i appreciate your honest responds.As for the people that want to flog me,i beg una o.

and as for what i want,i need an advice cos im confused.thanks

@Ifyalways,im 31,i funded the shop because i was in position financially to do so since i have a better job.Since i threatened to leave before xmas,he went to his family and since then he has been there.I work and live in lag.

@All,thanks.My attitude never changed towards him,and as for my family,everyone is aware at d moment,and even my spiritual directors.Im finding it hard being a divorcee,due to my belief.But he is not even helping matters.He is scared of his mum and cant take a decision without her.Im just confused.

@All,thanks for ur contributions.ya i hv been praying and still doing so.At d moment i cnt talk with him alone because he is with d mum and family in d east & im in west,and he doesnt even pick my calls when his mum is around.He is so scared of her and She is wealthy too.As for d shop,it just went down d drain and now i hv re stocked it and put someone to manage it.As for d erectile dysfunction,it doesnt get up or get hard,and we hv seen many specialist,yet to no avail.It doesnt seem to bother him that much.He doesnt appreciate or show me love.Both families are now aware of the whole thing,and my family isnt happy about it,but his family is adamant.Im just confused.he is 35yrs.

Fellow nairalanders,im new here,but i have a serious problem i will like to share with us,and hopefully find a solution via ur advice and contributions.I got married last year.After my marriage,my hubby decided not do anything to contribute financially to the family.He was trading before we met and married,but after the marriage,i noticed that he wasnt going for his business anymore,and when i enquired from him,he said things aint going well.I tried getting jobs for him and even stocked a shop with goods for him,yet he didnt make anything out of it and it went down the drain.He lost hope and decided to stay at home all day.I started getting agitated about it.Secondly he never told me about his erectile dysfunction,and since we never made love before marriage due to my spiritual life and belief i didnt know about it until after marriage.We have tried medically,but it aint working.I threatened to walkout of the marriage,and to my suprise,the mum took him in,and he has been with the family since xmas,and now the mum is helping him get out of the country so that we dont reconcile.Please what do i do?I need ur honest and sincere advice.

Fellow nairalanders,im new here,but i have a serious problem i will like to share with us,and hopefully find a solution via ur advice and contributions.I got married last year.After my marriage,my hubby decided not do anything to contribute financially to the family.He was trading before we met and married,but after the marriage,i noticed that he wasnt going for his business anymore,and when i enquired from him,he said things aint going well.I tried getting jobs for him and even stocked a shop with goods for him,yet he didnt make anything out of it and it went down the drain.He lost hope and decided to stay at home all day.I started getting agitated about it.Secondly he never told me about his erectile dysfunction,and since we never made love before marriage due to my spiritual life and belief i didnt know about it until after marriage.We have tried medically,but it aint working.I threatened to walkout of the marriage,and to my suprise,the mum took him in,and he has been with the family since xmas,and now the mum is helping him get out of the country so that we dont reconcile.Please what do i do?I need ur honest and sincere advice.