landers,

sometime ago as i was surfing the net, i came across a dating site (perfspot.com) so i decided to sign up, then as i was browsing through the male pics i saw on the site, i saw my step-father's pics, i read through his profile, , I was shocked and ashamed at the same time at what i saw, but i just had to be sure he was the very one so i requested for his friendship with a models picture and he fail for me, he keeps admiring my pics and voice when we speak on phone.

we exchanged yahoomail IDs and started chating.

To cut the long story short, we ve been chating for like 2 months now, i made him believe am a student in University of Porthacourt and he has been sending me money through my account, (he sent me money to get a phone because i told him my phone was stolen, he has sent me not less than N60k all together)

I think my mother deserve to know this if only she will listen to me but i don't know how to tell her about it, my brother and i never liked that man one bit.

Please what can i do, should i tell mum about this or how do i go about it?

I'm a cancerian too,

@poster,
all u said is true but just the parting thing (I'm not the parting type)

I don't know of other gurls but as for me, what attracts me is 1: Neatness 2: Goodlooks 3: Manner of approach, then comes other petipeti things which i can't mention here.

@ blackgucci

You have said it all

@Handell,

I guess you have to travel to the states where it is acceptable and seen as a normal part of life, it is unacceptable here, i can never support what you are trying to accept as ur fate because it sounds crazy but I will assure you of my prayers someday God will change that which you have seen as unchangeable.

God frowns at some certain things we do think or say, so if you have the fear of God i believe you will seek His face and ignore the devil

YOU WERE NEVER MADE A HOMOSEXUAL! take it or you leave it.

Why is it that guys always think the ladies are out for their money and not their love? It hurts so much because most guys of nowadays can no longer believe women have true feelings for their guys.

Guy, pls sit that girl down and have a serious word with her, if you are wise enough u will find out what it is she really wants (whether you or your money).

Its true they said “mechanics no allow us know mad men again” but there are still good girls out their who come for true love and not money as u guys always claim.

@Poster,

ONLY YOU CAN GIVE YOURSELF THE BEST AND WISEST ADVISE, so put ur brain at work.

These translations are for all of you wonderful women out there, so that you will know what men really mean when they say,

"CAN I HELP WITH DINNER?"

Translated:* "Why isn't it already on the table?"

"UH HUH," "SURE, HONEY," OR "YES, DEAR"

Translated:* Absolutely nothing. It's a conditioned response.

"IT WOULD TAKE TOO LONG TO EXPLAIN"

Translated:* "I have no idea how it works."

"TAKE A BREAK, HONEY. YOU'RE WORKING TOO HARD."

Translated:* "I can't hear the game over the vacuum cleaner."

"THAT'S INTERESTING, DEAR."

Translated:* "Are you still talking?"

"YOU KNOW HOW BAD MY MEMORY IS."

Translated:* "I remember the theme song to 'F Troop,' the address of the first girl I ever kissed and the vehicle identification numbers of every car I've ever owned, but I forgot your birthday."

"OH, DON'T FUSS, I JUST CUT MYSELF. IT'S NO BIG DEAL."

Translated:* "I have actually severed a limb but will bleed to death before I admit that I'm hurt."

"HEY, I'VE GOT MY REASONS FOR WHAT I'M DOING."

Translated:* "And I sure hope I think of some pretty soon."

"I CAN'T FIND IT."

Translated:* "It didn't fall into my outstretched hands, so I'm completely clueless."

"WHAT DID I DO THIS TIME?"

Translated:* "What did you catch me at?"

"I'M NOT LOST. I KNOW EXACTLY WHERE WE ARE."

Translated:* "No one will ever see us alive again."

"WE SHARE THE HOUSEWORK."

Translated:* "I make the messes; she cleans them up."

WOMEN'S LANGUAGE TRANSLATED

Yes = No

No = Yes

Maybe = No

I'm sorry. = You'll be sorry.

We need, = I want

It's your decision = The correct decision should be obvious by now. Do what you want, = You'll pay for this later. We need to talk, = I need to complain Sure, go ahead = I don't want you to.

I'm not upset = Of course I'm upset, you slowpoke! You're so manly = You need a shave and you sweat a lot. You're certainly attentive tonight = Is sex all you ever think about? Be romantic, turn out the lights = I have flabby thighs. This kitchen is so inconvenient = I want a new house. I want new curtains = , and carpeting, and furniture, and wallpaper, Hang the picture there = NO, I mean hang it there! I heard a noise = I noticed you were almost asleep. Do you love me? = I'm going to ask for something expensive. How much do you love me? = I did something today you?re really not going to like.

I'll be ready in a minute = Kick off your shoes and find a good game on TV.

Am I fat? = Tell me I'm beautiful.

You have to learn to communicate. = Just agree with me.

Are you listening to me!? = Too late, you're dead.

Was that the baby? = Why don't you get out of bed and walk him until he goes to sleep.

I'm not yelling! = Yes I am yelling because I think this is important.

In response to What's wrong?:

The same old thing = Nothing

Nothing = Everything

Nothing, really = It's just that you're such an idiot!

Dictionary for women

Argument (ar*gyou*ment) n. A discussion that occurs when you're right, but he just hasn't realized it yet.

Airhead (er*hed) n. What a woman intentionally becomes when pulled over by a policeman.

Bar-be-que (bar*bi*q) n. You bought the groceries, washed the lettuce, chopped the tomatoes, diced the onions, marinated the meat and cleaned everything up, but, he, "made the dinner."

Blonde jokes (blond joks) n. Jokes that are short so men can understand them.

Cantaloupe (kant*e*lope) n. Gotta get married in a church.

Clothes dryer (kloze dri*yer) n. An appliance designed to eat socks.

Diet Soda (dy*it so*da) n. A drink you buy at a convenience store to go with a half pound bag of peanut M&Ms.

Eternity (e*ter*ni*tee) n. The last two minutes of a football game.

Exercise (ex*er*siz) v. To walk up and down a mall, occasionally resting to make a purchase.

Grocery List (grow*ser*ee list) n. What you spend half an hour writing, then forget to take with you to the store.

Hair Dresser (hare dres*er) n. Someone who is able to create a style you will never be able to duplicate again. See "Magician."

Hardware Store (hard*war stor) n. Similar to a black hole in space-if he goes in, he isn't coming out anytime soon.

Childbirth (child*brth) n. You get to go through 36 hours of contractions; he gets to hold your hand and say "focus,, breath, push, "

Lipstick (lip*stik) n. On your lips, coloring to enhance the beauty of your mouth. On his collar, coloring only a tramp would wear, !

Park (park) v./n. Before children, a verb meaning, "to go somewhere and neck." After children, a noun meaning a place with a swing set and slide.

Patience (pa*shens) n. The most important ingredient for dating, marriage and children. See also "tranquilizers."

Waterproof Mascara (wah*tr*pruf mas*kar*ah) n. Comes off if you cry, shower, or swim, but will not come off if you try to remove it.

Valentine's Day (val*en*tinez dae) n. A day when you have dreams of a candlelight dinner, diamonds, and romance, but consider yourself lucky to get a card

A little boy, at a wedding looks at his mom and says, "Mommy, why does the girl wear white?"

His mom replies, "The bride is in white because she's happy and this is the happiest day of her life."

The boy thinks about this, and then says, "Well then, why is the boy wearing black?"

my xmas gift to nairaland members

Mary was having a tough day and had stretched herself out on the couch to do a bit of what she thought to be well-deserved complaining and self- pitying.
She moaned to her mom and brother, "Nobody loves me , the whole world hates me!"
Her brother, busily occupied playing a game, hardly looked up at her and passed on this encouraging word: "That's not true, Mary. Some people don't even know you."


After hearing that one of the patients in a mental hospital had saved another from a suicide attempt by pulling him out of a bathtub, the hospital director reviewed the rescuer's file and called him into his office.
"Mr. Haroldson, your records and your heroic behavior indicate that you're ready to go home. I'm only sorry that the man you saved later killed himself with a rope around the neck." "Oh, he didn't kill himself," Mr. Haroldson replied. "I hung him up to dry."



The Taco Bell Chihuahua, a Doberman and a Bulldog are in a bar having adrink when a great-looking female Collie comes up to them and says, "Whoever can say liver and cheese in a sentence can have me."
So the Doberman says, "I love liver and cheese." The Collie replies, "That's not good enough."
The Bulldog says, "I hate liver and cheese." She says, "That's not creative enough."
Finally, the Chihuahua says, "Liver alone . . . cheese mine."

@Jezzy,

Nne isi na ibu onye ozuakoli? abukwam onye Isuikwuato LGA, iga lotakwa ekeresimesi?

umu nnem obi atogbue mooooooooooooooooo,

@ify
i na tapia okwu igbo dika ezigbo nwafo, biko ibu onye ebe?

unu nile ndi ga la ulo maka ekeresimesi, ka Chukwu gba unu ume, unu kwa nu bu ndi n'agaghi ala ulo, ka Chukwu nonye kwara unu.

OTU IFUNANYA

Paul bro thanks alot

@holythog,

I never told u am barren and would never be in Jesus name. (amen), just asking on behalf of people with such problems.

cheers

nna men i just tire for una ooo

Guys wen/where is the meeting taking place?

But e be like say una dey do patial small o

Make una adjust o because i no fit shout

The way people talk about single girls who live alone as if they ve committed an unforgivable crime, it just keeps me wondering, besides i think i need my privacy now but my parents bark @ me each time i bring the topic up.

Don't know what to do i guess I'll just chill and play the good girl's role

I love this site alot, infact am getting addicted to it, I don't feel like leaving my PC each time i log into this site.

I love the post they keep me going honestly.

So gr8 nairalanders what do you love most about this nairaland.com and which is your favourite forum here?

thanks alot iice

@ almondjoy,

my sister u are a great teacher indeed, I ve learnt alot from your reply so far thanks so much

My boy friend is the busy type that hardly have time for me, we see each other once in a while but we ve been dating for like 2yrs now and I love him so much.

All of a sudden, he started acting strange, calling me twice a day, even coming to visit me at home most weekends (unlike him).

2 months ago he asked me to resign where i was working to help him with his business and I did, he just told me 2 weeks ago that he is planning to travel abroad, and that he would be leaving the country by February next year.

He called me for a talk the other day, he sat me down and we talked like we've never done b4, he told me he would love to hand his business over to me b4 he travels, he begged me to help him so his business doesn't fall because according to him he doesn't trust any of his family members and no one else can manage it better than me. He also told me that if I don't manage the business it will definitely collapse as soon as he leaves the country.

I think he really wants me to work with/for him because he got impressed with the way I worked in my former place of work (that was even where we mate each other b4 he asked me out and I accepted)

Does this guy really love me or is he just trying to use me (to keep/grow his business)? its been giving me sleepless nights.

I managed to ask him if he really loves me or his just trying to use me but he got mad at me, but called me back 2 days later to tell me that the business has nothing to do with our relationship, he is handing it over to me because knows i can handle it.

What do I do please, should I just play along or what?

I know this question am about to ask may seem funny and senseless to u but am serious about it.

Do you day dream lol? if yes, what do you always day dream about?

I day dream alot, does it mean something is wrong with me and what is another name for daydreaming?

I think when a girl caught her guy cheating on her with another girl her anger should be on her guy not the innocent girl she caught him with because the guy must have lied to that other girl that he doesn't have any other relationship b4 she agrees to date him, it just upsets me when i see girls attacking their fellow girls just because they found out their guy is cheating on them with her.

Ladies, if you ever happened to catch your guy with another girl, which of them will you deal with? Your guy or the girl

Please I really want to find out what is wrong in a single lady living alone?

I don't know if every other person is really noticing what I've been noticing

I think the rate of barrenness is highly increasing by day, I've come across so many cases of childless marriages raging from 5yrs of childless marriage, 12yrs childless marriage and so on, e.g. my boss has been married for 16yrs now with no child of his own, 2 of my neighbours too one is 6yrs and the other 9yrs of childless marriages respectively.

The most painful part of this problem is that most men of God now specializes on "making barren women & men parents" and yet, this problem keeps increasing.

A friend said its because we are approaching the end time, is this really so or what is causing this problem of childlessness in marriages

Is church sunday offering a compulsory act?

I thought it is a thing of the heart, as in you offering wholeheartedly when u have? why are some churches making it compulsory for their members now. Imagine my cousin borrowing money for offertory and just last sunday she didn't go to church because she didn't have money for to offer, I don't think it is right for one to borrow money for sunday collection abi what do you people think about this?

I don't know if this topic has been posed b4 ooo, so make una no badmouth me abeg, just comment on it or ignore it 'otan!,

Just wondering what I can give my friends as XMAS GIFT this xmas, please what would you love to recieve as an christmas gift this season?

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